How do you feel emotionally?

[oneblueye]

hey...

I think it all depends. Sometimes a good cigar is just a good cigar.

Yeah--, sometimes.
But then ALL cigars taste like shit except those honey and rum dipped Havana's...
and this ain't no bump for Cubano women but they are sooooo tasty as well.

 

[Misshotndeep]

Peaceful for a change. All the tension just melted away in my sleep. Answers are good.

 

[jaF0]

Kinda' sez it:

https://www.songlyrics.com/pj-bond/i-m-in-a-bad-way-lyrics/

 

[MatureChattyMann]

Very mixed, up and down.

 

[yukonnights]

I have to have romantic attachment before I have sex with someone. I honestly am very confused as to how you all do it the other way around. I don't understand. I am not chastising or being mean either. I just don't get it.

I too didn't "get it" for a long time. Casual sex is just something I could never wrap my head around. Then I read an interesting article about 'Demisexuality'. In short, what this defines are people who simply must have a higher level of emotional connection before the sexual attraction kicks in.

Like most other human traits, our sexuality resides on a continuum from asexual to hyper-sexual. Demi refers to "in-between", and thus the degree of demisexuality has a range of levels too. I consider it to be a very normal sexuality. There's plenty of info online if anyone wants to learn more.

 

[NickCarraway12]

I've never had sex with anyone except my wife since I've been married (25 years) and honestly, I don't want to. The idea is intriguing and hot sometimes if I see a sexy woman but I don't want to be that vulnerable and intimate with another person besides her. I'm not trying to sound judgy or 'holier than thou' but it is the way I feel.

I also get attached to people easily sometimes. I would be afraid of having sex with someone and mistaking the emotional response for love or actually falling in love with them and not being able to be with them unless I destroy families, mine and theirs.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Kinda' sez it:

https://www.songlyrics.com/pj-bond/i-m-in-a-bad-way-lyrics/

What We Got,

A passing glance across a crowded room,
on the verge of passions scream.
Baby we on our way to Paradise,
your loving even haunts my dreams.

What we got ain't love--, girl you know what I'm thinking of!!!
What we got ain't love--! But its close enough for me.
Yeah its close for me!

(excerpt from "What We Got--," Spooks on the 3rd Floor)

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

I've never had sex with anyone except my wife since I've been married (25 years) and honestly, I don't want to. The idea is intriguing and hot sometimes if I see a sexy woman but I don't want to be that vulnerable and intimate with another person besides her. I'm not trying to sound judgy or 'holier than thou' but it is the way I feel.

I also get attached to people easily sometimes. I would be afraid of having sex with someone and mistaking the emotional response for love or actually falling in love with them and not being able to be with them unless I destroy families, mine and theirs.

I used to be the guy you describe here...
Until one day when I was sitting alone with my fidelity and we were drinking our bourbon and smoking our sinsi, alone, down by the river. And I started to examine all the women and girls who had wandered into and out of my life.

They ALL without exception asked of me to be a certain way with them and to them; and in return they would be a certain way. And in theory its all good...like we used to say on the street, "Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face." I was one of those people who got tired of taking it on the chin.

 

[KaitlynW1993]

Good question. My trainer got me to have sex and give BJs with blind folds on. This went in for some time so I got used to the male body and cock to not let emotions control my ability. Then i was told to serve and worship cock, not him. So when i have sex i look and focus on his cock. or others fucking, or if in group sex i focus on the other cocks.

He also had me have sex with a wide variety of men. Even obese ugly guys, so i eventually become desensitised to what the guy looked like. Ir was about me serving his cock. I think when I started I thought all the men would have 6 packs and be in the 20s and 30s.. But reality many men have dad bods or fatter or skinny etc. It was a process to train my mind to look past that. However the up side is I have had some really interesting and great sex sessions with men I would have never thought on ever having sex with.

One thing I did notice was the average or below average looking guys tried harder and really appreciated me. So I had a great time. The better looking ones, im more something reg they can get. So wasnt as good.

Naturally I have my fav guys who I look forward more when having sex. But im there to have sex. I enjoy being fucked.

 

[magicalmoments]

An interesting question.
I used to have casual sex fairly frequently.
Back in the day, pre internet, I ran advertisements in swingers contact magazines seeking people for casual sexual encounters. I met many men, women,and couples over a 20 year period. They met me knowing that the "relationship" was a casual one and was all about sex. I never deceived anyone over my intent.
A very small handful of these turned into longer term FWB relationships that lasted a few years, a few ran hot for maybe a couple of months or so then petered out. By far the majority were one just night stands.
How did I feel emotionally towards these people, well... for all of them, grateful that they chose to share such intimacy with me. That was it really.
For the few that turned into longer term arrangements, I would say we developed an affection towards each other, in a friendship sort of way, as opposed to a romantic way. It would be fair to say I cared about them, but that was it.
None of them ever developed beyond that. Except maybe one of the longer term women, after I told her that I wanted to end our arrangement she said that she had hoped we could take it further. I think subconsciously I could feel that and I wasn't interested which is why I ended it.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

If you're talking about M/M sex, then I been in 2 different scenarios.

When I was young, I had a close friend who was my personal Cocksucker - he was my father's age. While we were close friends, I never felt a romantic attachment to him. He was married and I know that he and his wife were otherwise happy so he wasn't looking to get into a living together situation, but I think that he felt a romantic attraction to me. I also think that he was OK with a simply sexual relationship. He loved sucking cock and swallowing my cum. My emotion with him was one of friendship with benefits.

After I married, I still craved the feeling of a cum hungry mouth "making love" to my cock, and visited a lot of ABSs over the years. Guys there are so cum hungry and always swallowed, which my wife won't do. It's just so exciting to me when someone swallows. Never had a regular, so never even developed a friendship with my ABS cocksuckers. I just appreciate them as good guys.

 

[KatieDoes]

I am someone’s ‘everything’ and it’s absolutely fucking exhausting.

I don’t need to be his everything. Or for him to be mine. But I also have exactly zero interest in fucking with or being vulnerable with anyone who I don’t know, like, trust, enjoy, and hold great affection for.