How many men have had your wife?

[Islander55]

I don't think the number is all that important. The key is did I have some fun and enjoy myself. Basically I don't think we are monogamous creatures and it is nice to get something different now and then. Mostly I have never set out to hook up with another man but sometimes the stars align and it is just something I needed.

 

[Islander55]

Not trying to be flippant or mean but it depends on what you look like. If you look like Quasimodo I’m sure getting laid is harder. If you take care of your body, dress well and are reasonably attractive then it’s not so hard.

I think the key for a man is to be interesting and interested in the woman. Find some common ground and get to know her. Obviously hygiene is important but as I am older, looks are not the primary issue. In my 40's, I had an affair with a professor who was balding and somewhat overweight but he was interesting and fun and the sex was good.

 

[ssremember129]

If we are smart, we don't. I know some guys here really get off on that thought. But a lot of guys in the real world get all weird if your number is "too high" -- and that's just such a subjective outlook.

The fact is, if you're in your late 20s, or 30s or 40s, that number is going to be more than 2. But finding a guy who is confident and comfortable enough to really be truthful about it is difficult.

Oh, and one more thing -- it's not how many men have had me. It's how many men I have had A girl has to own her sexuality!

Being a bit older, I would say the longer the relationship lasts, then the idea of an experienced partner willing to share her past can be extremely exciting. True, you have to be able to handle the thoughts and emotions, but if someone is asking, and they keep asking, then it is from my experience that they are accepting who you are...true, it is not about who has had you, it is about you and not them as a number.

 

[ssremember129]

Sometimes clothed, or partially so, but other than highlights memory does fade a lot of times. It's best to get the details while they're fresh.

The details can make it a huge turn on for the husband as the wife fills him in on the events...

 

[Chippyminton]

One!

Like a few others, my wife and I have only had full sex with each other and no-one else.

 

[TandT69]

The number makes no difference to either of us. Why on earth should it? Its not even a topic unless we're talking about past lovers

 

[wondering00]

experiences

As many as she needs to enjoy life.

 

[magicalmoments]

I agree, the numbers are meaningless in terms of your commitment to each other. But having said that I find that knowing the number, of any woman an incredible turn on. Can't really explain why, I'm just more attracted to "experienced women" than I am to inexperienced.

For my lady, well it depends if you count the guys she fucked for money durng her time as a hooker or just the guys she had for love and fun. The love and fun number is 28, the hooker number, well... let's just say she's experienced.

 

[privateman]

It seems like most guys are not other bothered about our wives past, quite right too

 

[lucky_guy_49]

We were each other’s first when we were 19. We had a long distance relationship in college and when she found out I’d been with another woman (once) she went out to get some of her own. As far as I know it was just one guy, and she’s never talked about it. That was 43 years ago, I wonder if she’d give me any details now?

 

[privateman]

We were each other’s first when we were 19. We had a long distance relationship in college and when she found out I’d been with another woman (once) she went out to get some of her own. As far as I know it was just one guy, and she’s never talked about it. That was 43 years ago, I wonder if she’d give me any details now?

Ask her..nicely

 

[StudlyCowboy]

Back when my wife and I actually had sex, I encouraged her to tell me about her past sexual encounters. It was hot as fuck when she told me about fucking several of her first husband's friends to get back at him when he left her. I also encouraged her to have partners of her own. As far as I know , she never took me up on it. If she did, I hoped they fucked her good.

 

[Rockymtnman]

I think the key for a man is to be interesting and interested in the woman. Find some common ground and get to know her. Obviously hygiene is important but as I am older, looks are not the primary issue. In my 40's, I had an affair with a professor who was balding and somewhat overweight but he was interesting and fun and the sex was good.

You are correct. But I was talking more about a go out with some friends, meet a stranger and hook up sort of thing.

When you spend time with someone, feelings can grow that may not have been there to start based upon mutual interests. I’ve had that happen before, with women I had no initial attraction to or they me but eventually we ended up knocking boots. An old client of mine “T” comes to mind. I worked with her for years before one day we ended up fucking at her house when her husband was out of town. It was fun and we did it a few more times before the shine wore off. She continued as my client for a few more years but we’re still friends to this day and speak on holidays and birthdays.

 

[privateman]

I remember asking my ex wife and she said at least 20 but probably more!

 

[screwher]

I remember asking my ex wife and she said at least 20 but probably more!

How many of these men were during your marriage?

 

[Lateagain71]

My wife was married before, then single for a few years. She's told me of 3 men she had sex with during that period, but I've never pressed her on it. I know she always carried condoms, had sex on first dates, did online dating. She has a high sex drive so, I imagine the number is higher.

She knows that I'm quite happy for her to add to that number if she wishes. She loves the fantasy, but hasn't taken me up on the idea yet.

 

[privateman]

How many of these men were during your marriage?

She said none, but I’m pretty sure there were some...

 

[Just2Kinky]

Gents, I'm sure this has been asked before but I cant find a thread.
Mine says 10 before me....so that will probably be 30

Not as many as I wish... love hot creampies!

 

[Justfantasies]

Not as many as I wish... love hot creampies!

Just how many would you like it to be -- I think 30 is a nice number

 

[privateman]

Just how many would you like it to be -- I think 30 is a nice number

30 seems about right....

 

[conquen]

Married 30 years

When i asked her years ago, she figured about 30. She didn't keep count. The thought of her fucking all of those guys is a tremendous turn on for me. When she tired of telling me her stories stating that she told me all she could remember, I suggested she might need to make some new memories. There is a possibility that she took me up on it but she hasn't totally admitted to it, only in a fantasy context. I often think it realy happened.
I hope she tells me about it in detail some day. He was about 12 years younger than her.

 

[Carling229]

She only had one before meeting me as she was quite shy sexual wise, she was happy to open up when we got together. After having kids her appetite for sex went down, but now she has regained her appetite even more than before. In the last couple of years she has more than made up for the time that she didn't wat to bother with sex. She has had a lot of guys since.

 

[jjlc74]

Plenty, although she still says not enough

 

[privateman]

Plenty, although she still says not enough

Have you asked the actual number?

 

[rrnew]

She had one before me. Then we started swinging. Now it's way over a hundred, maybe two hundred.