How much does size matter?

[JaneNatural]

In my opinion (and let's be honest here it's the only one that really matters right) the bigger issue isn't size threads. It's the fear that keeps being perpetuated. Men with average or slightly under average read enough threads or see enough media bombardment and sooner or later they may start to think that they are not man enough and then what happens? ED. I'd guess a large percentage of ED issues is as much a lack of confidence as it is health. So I wish that topic would go away for good. If the woman you are with does not appreciate who you are and what you do for her.......IF she ridicules you for not having enough between your legs then it's your own fault for putting up with her. Move on. We outnumber you. Find one of us that simply wants it hard and wants it to cum inside of us and wants to be made to feel needed and attractive. We're out here. All over the place. IF you are settling for someone that makes you feel inferior..........go read Eleanor Roosevelt.

Lol southern is on the same page all day. I like that. Size really boils down to a men's issue. Very few women are ever going to say get that tiny prick away from me. I need something 10 inches or bigger. So the insistence on "well do they long long or thick? How long or thick" is completely for other men. Lol. I love meeting size queens on Lit but they don't really exist that often in real life. And the reason so many exist on here is because they are perverts looking for a place to be perverted lol. Just like me. But the size of your penis is similar to the size of your biceps. Women don't care for your measurements. That's for you and other boys

 

[LincolnDuncan]

OK but whose standards? The guys with the really big ones? Maybe they are doing the ridiculing. I'm not so sure that women are dividing men up by penis size. If men do that, I cannot help much there. Buy a shiny red convertible maybe?

Certainly big cock guys will ridicule tiny but that is expected. It's very common for women to argue that guns and hot cars are compensation for a small penis. Small breasted women are not open to the same ridicule.

 

[southern_gal]

I admire your stance and agree that the world would be a better place if everyone were just comfortable with what their genetics gave them.

The only difference I have with what you have written is that you almost make it sound easy to go out and find another woman. Yes there may be more of you, but going out an finding someone is a hell of a lot easier for women than for men. I'm amazed that any woman found me attractive enough to sleep with me.

Certainly big cock guys will ridicule tiny but that is expected. It's very common for women to argue that guns and hot cars are compensation for a small penis. Small breasted women are not open to the same ridicule.

I envy some of my friends that are my age and still wear a b cup. Why? Cause they still have a tiny waist without working that hard and the cutest butt. Me, I drink two margarita's and eat dinner late and just like that I have to reach for the jeans that I swore I'd never put back on. dammit

 

[rhod101]

I envy some of my friends that are my age and still wear a b cup. Why? Cause they still have a tiny waist without working that hard and the cutest butt. Me, I drink two margarita's and eat dinner late and just like that I have to reach for the jeans that I swore I'd never put back on. dammit

I'd bet that you still look great in those jeans though. And there's nothing wrong with curvy. Or drinking margaritas.

 

[southern_gal]

I'd bet that you still look great in those jeans though. And there's nothing wrong with curvy. Or drinking margaritas.

ummm what do I owe you? Do you take beads as payment? Got LOTS of those. Getting more in a couple of hours.

 

[rhod101]

ummm what do I owe you? Do you take beads as payment? Got LOTS of those. Getting more in a couple of hours.

What kind of beads? Is it wrong that my mind immediately went to anal?

Just calling it as I see it anyway.

 

[southern_gal]

What kind of beads? Is it wrong that my mind immediately went to anal?

Just calling it as I see it anyway.

Mardi Gras beads ding dong.

 

[rhod101]

Mardi Gras beads ding dong.

Oh wow. That sounds awesome. Have seen it in films and stuff, but never experienced anything like that. Hope you enjoy!

 

[Resurgam101]

Over many years of not worrying too much about it, I think the most important thing is letting her know that in that moment she desired totally and that you prove it by your actions and what you say.

 

[SlutAddicted]

I appreciate the perspective of the ladies on here and I understand the frustration with the degree to which guys obsess over this topic.

However, two things don't make sense to me.

Firstly, it is an area of insecurity for us and probably always will be. Perhaps it is irrational or competitive or juvenile but there it is. Women have their share of topics upon which they obsess as well. Just saying ignore it or vilifying people for talking about it doesn't. This is a site for this type of conversation - it's not like the OP is hijacking an otherwise enjoyable cocktail party conversation.

Secondly, the OP if anything assumed cock size mattered to some degree. There is nothing in the original posting indicating he assumed it was the most important aspect of what women want. Even if it isn't what women look for or is even a priority presumably all other things being equal there might be a preference. I think most women could tell you what they find attractive in a man, physical or otherwise. And it makes little sense that they wouldn't notice his cock at all.

 

[Eilan]

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There is nothing in the original posting indicating he assumed it was the most important aspect of what women want.
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Perhaps not, but the OP asked women for their opinions and then dismissed those opinions when they didn't validate whatever preconceived notions that he brought to the discussion.

 

[southern_gal]

Perhaps not, but the OP asked women for their opinions and then dismissed those opinions when they didn't validate whatever preconceived notions that he brought to the discussion.

Who knew men were hung up on the size of their stuff? Think maybe he was just kidding us all? Men don't obsess over something as silly as that do they? Do they?

 

[Eilan]

Who knew men were hung up on the size of their stuff? Think maybe he was just kidding us all? Men don't obsess over something as silly as that do they? Do they?

Unpossible!!

 

[southern_gal]

Unpossible!!

There are sooooooo many other important things to worry over. My hair and what it will let me do with it today. My belly and my butt. uggggh Does this match that and what about my shoes? I could go on. I'm glad I don't have a penis to obsess about. I'd never be able to find enough time to worry about everything I need to worry about.

 

[rhod101]

Who knew men were hung up on the size of their stuff? Think maybe he was just kidding us all? Men don't obsess over something as silly as that do they? Do they?

Sorry, but I'm unsure if this is a genuine question or sarcasm? I suspect the latter, but this is the problem with text only. No context or tone!

 

[southern_gal]

Sorry, but I'm unsure if this is a genuine question or sarcasm? I suspect the latter, but this is the problem with text only. No context or tone!

I am pretty much full of myself when I'm on here. I cannot say or do anything in my real world like I can on here so yeah I let Lit be my playground. Sorry. There are times when I am serious but this thread sure isn't one of them.

 

[GingerGurl66]

I am well below average size. I have had a woman (not unkindly) ask me if it was in. So, I live with what I have and enjoy it. Being submissive, I enjoy a little small dick humiliation. To each his own. This is my own and I own it.

 

[rhod101]

I am pretty much full of myself when I'm on here. I cannot say or do anything in my real world like I can on here so yeah I let Lit be my playground. Sorry. There are times when I am serious but this thread sure isn't one of them.

Hey, fair enough. No need to apologise. That is if it was even a genuine apology in the first place. I don't know. Anyway, more power to you.

And yeah, it is a cross that we men bear. Do I wish I had a bigger dick? Yeah, I do. I'd have more confidence in it if I did. But the one that I have works fine and I've been told I know how to use it, so I'm relatively happy.

 

[SlutAddicted]

Perhaps not, but the OP asked women for their opinions and then dismissed those opinions when they didn't validate whatever preconceived notions that he brought to the discussion.

I understand your point. However, in reading the posts it seems to me that the opinions that he pushed back against were the ones saying the question was irrelevant or shouldn't be asked..... as opposed to ones that addressed the question but didn't tell him what he wanted to hear.

Frankly I think men know deep down that we have made it very difficult for women to be honest with us in sexual matters. As a result anything that sounds like dismissal or avoidance of the question becomes confirmation of our bias.

 

[Mira_Whitfield]

It has probably already been mentioned but to me size doesn't matter. My preference is average or slightly above. For me it is more how the man uses it.

 

[dee88]

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[MissJW]

My husband is on the bigger side and I love every inch of him, but I can't say it was pleasurable from the first second. It took us time to get comfy with it and it really genuinely f*cking hurt at the start! I've always loved my kegel balls and therefore am quite tight down there, combine that with his package and you get cramped muscles and awkward moments.

Now, after years of being together, we've progressed to the point that if I'm _desperate_ to have him inside and we got lube at hand I can take him with one plunge. Somehow my muscles have learned to "suck" him in and he knows the correct angle depending on our position. Yet most of times I need his fingers first and preferably an orgasm too. During penetration I can take him balls deep if I'm mega-super-over-the-top aroused, but it still happens that sometimes he just ends up beating my cervix in a not-too-pleasurable way.

So yes, we've learned to combine our physical attributes and it's earth-shattering at best, but at the start I really hoped he was smaller. I still could do with him being shorter, but the girth is something I've learned to crave more than anything else ever. I love being so completely filled with him that it burns my hips.... It's like he impales me. And yet sometimes when I feel like a quickie would be nice but couldn't be bothered with foreplay, I end up getting frustrated because for us fucking isn't possible just like that.

Sooooo... Each girl is different as is each boy. Different sizes work best in different positions and some don't work at all. I'd say all guys should learn to trust their dick, have plenty of practise with their partner and eventually they'll find a way to be happy together no matter of the inches - or the lack of them!

 

[paul466]

All the women I've been with have told me that thicker is better....one woman that I dated after my divorce had been with ALOT of men told me that several of her partners had very long cocks but not much girth....she said she preferred the girth. I asked her was she just telling me that because I'm not long( 6" ) but I am very thick. She insisted that she was being truthful. Just my experience

 

[SandraMustard]

I understand your point. However, in reading the posts it seems to me that the opinions that he pushed back against were the ones saying the question was irrelevant or shouldn't be asked..... as opposed to ones that addressed the question but didn't tell him what he wanted to hear.

Frankly I think men know deep down that we have made it very difficult for women to be honest with us in sexual matters. As a result anything that sounds like dismissal or avoidance of the question becomes confirmation of our bias.

I don't see that it happened as you describe. Your defense of the OP is a bit ... weak. The OP made the mistake of not making the topic about big cocks, the kind that only other men and size queens follow. The Does Size Matter question brought mostly No answers which elicited no discussions. When a couple of us made snarky remarks about what did he really want to discuss if not No, he pushed back on that. That's not the same as you suggest. Another man jumped on us for rudeness. Eventually, women rushed in to support their sisters and took over.

Your last statement is one of the most honest points made. Kudos there.

 

[IIithyia]

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