How old were you....?

[TwistaFate]

17

i actually had my first experience being a bottom and she was very good, as far as i knew. We grew ffrom there and still remain good friends

 

[GeronimosGirl]

further thought

mostly I believe that if you don't have some mental maturity..... you might not ever experience the ultimate joy.

But that is just my opinion.

I dread what my sister would say on this note though.

 

[Mr Blonde]

Any further votes or comments?

 

[Krinaia]

I've had fantasies for years, found out about the lifestyle at 20 but didn't have my first experience til this past summer (age 21)and I will say that my first kiss was even to my first master. I don't regret it. I still get glassy eyed and smile thinking of him that day ... placing a collar around my neck and then using it to pull me into a deep kiss and not letting me escape. It was what I needed, what I wanted. It felt right.

 

[D's mariposa]

Optional reply: Would you have started younger or waited until you were older? Why?

Several of my friends in college were into bdsm, and if I had been old enough to mess with, it probably would hve been then, when I was 16. No one would experiment with me until I was 18, and by then I'd decided I wasn't a kinkster. 14 years later I knew what I was, and sought out the community and met D. The rest is history.

 

[Mysteryjj]

Wowee

Very young indeed, I always enjoyed being tied up as a kid, I always volunteered to be the bad girl who had to be tied to the tree when I was pre-teen.

I pleaded with the older boys to make it more real and bind me tighter, hurt me even.

At 11 I began to tell them they could pretend I was victim with all the associated sexual innuendo's including non-penetration mock rape.

I had the first real BDSM at 13, a 16 yr old bound me tight and beat me with a whippy stick, I pleaded with him to keep doing it even though I felt sick with the pain. After about half hour of abuse I had a massive orgasm, it scared me when juices flooded down my legs, I thought it was blood at first until I saw it was clear fluid.

I've been at it ever since, sick in the head?? maybe but who gives a shit, you asked, you got the truth.

Mystery

 

[Lady Emerald]

I had feelings and fantasies for years before I ever heard of BDSM. I tried to get my husband to tie me to the bed--I wanted to submit to him, but he thinks its all too weird! Over the years those feelings have not gone away and as my husband lost interest even in vanilla sex I feel the need to truly experience a BDSM relationship.....

 

[KestralWolfe]

15, and I'd have waited longer, given the chance, but only if I could have found a teacher as good. I would elucidate, but I'm at the library computer...grrr 1 min left.

 

[dragonhearted]

38 (a year ago in December)

 

[fsumusic1981]

I think the average age for losing virginity is something like 16.2 for guys and 16.8 for girls. Just thought I'd throw that in.

 

[Prof Bill]

Starting when?

I would have started earlier except for a couple of things:

A "sort-of" mistress once told me she enjoyed being spanked, and I was more than happy to explore this with her, but we broke up before I had the opportunity.

Second, I had this belief that a true gentleman never hurt a lady. I also had the belief that a true lady never wished to be hurt. Well, that's wrong.

So I started very late--in my 50's--and I wish it had been in my 20's.

I must say, however, that I sometimes wonder if people in their 20's really know and/or are comfortable enough in their sexuality to be comfortable and fulfilled and wise with D/s and BDSM.

Bill

 

[landiek]

Well GG here is that thought's answer

I suppose it happened when I lost my virginity. Both virginities actually.

My Uncle forced me into anal play at a younger age. I was more of a toy to him but never questioned why he was doing what he did but accepted it. Later he felt I was old enough to lose my vaginal virginity. Once again I was willing to do anything that he wished because I had a misconception of love.

My Uncle passed away and I am in some recalling moments but I never blamed him for what happened or why me. I chalk it to experience and see that it makes me open to the kinky lifestyle that is available to me. So here's to you Uncle D....

On the other side of the coin, I've had great sex since then and have considered taking on a Dom...

Sorry sis I don't have the right stuff to be a Dom. Good luck on the road and your new book

 

[Bachlum Chaam]

Though elements of the lifestyle always interested me it was when I was 32. I was feeling under the weather and didn't feel up to sexual intercourse. I had her masterbate for me while I held her hand in my hands. I kept her eyes directly on me. I controlled the lenght of time and intensity of her orgasmn. She had never had anyone watch her masterbate before and at first was a struggle till I kept her eyes focused on me. I allowed her to release and not feel ashamed. I'll never forget that look of satifaction she had afterward.

Sir may I say what a great and perfect picture you did paint with words, it doesn't get any better than that

 

[willowthwisp]

You sound like a strong person Landiek, many are not be able to find such acceptance you seem to have.

I started having BDSM fantasies before I started having a sexlife, it took me a long long time to act on them, lucky I have a good imagination! I still had alot to learn about trust in my own feelings as well as in others, needed to know more about who I really was and going for what I really wanted.
It would have been nice to have started younger, but we all have our right time. I'm so glad I eventually found mine!

GeronimosGirl, you said - "Of course now that I am really older I don't think I could really be the Sub.' - I don't understand that, I don't think age comes into it. Maybe I misunderstood you......

 

[Bikewer]

Yeah, what do you mean by "experience"? I'm rather with James G5, I had "stirrings" of being interested in bondage and domination at a very early age, and began experimenting with self-bondage and such prior to puberty.

 

[Pelagie]

I would say I had my first experience at 17, but I was interested in it way before that.

I wouldn't change anything.

 

[esclave_PP]

This girl started in the lifestyle at 18. She's loved it ever since. 18 seemed just right looking back. Over the years she's had some great Masters and Mistresses and some lousy ones as well, but overall this girl would be lost without it. It balances her life.

 

[Mr Blonde]

BUMP

Average age of first BDSM experience is still hovering around 23-24 years old.

Other votes or comments?

 

[Hajar]

I've always wanted to be dominated, I remeber being 14-15 my fantasies were of being taken, however after being date raped, I lost all taste for it.
Until I was 21 and having sex with my then b/f now husband, and he spanked me, nearly four years later we are now working thru these feelings.
With us switching more often, but I still loved being spanked

I think that if I had experimented at a earlier age, chances are that there is no way that I would be living this life right now.

 

[MastrJ]

I've thought about it/had fantasies for a long time. However I didn't actually do anything until I was around 22-24. I might have had some hotter sex if I had started earlier with other partners, but I don't think I started late and am fine with when I did.

 

[AttentionWhore]

The "seed" was put into my mind when I was about 16, my bf at that time was 23 I think.

At 26 I met someone who's idea of BDSM scared the hell out of me; in his world it was all spankings and swinging and threesomes. No thank you.

At 28/29 (the age I am now), I'm finally experiencing the whole experience, even tho he is a beginner too. He doesn't have any preconceived notions that all it takes to turn me on is a pair of handcuffs and a swat on the ass. We've done some real intense scenes, the communication between us is open, and he truly completes me.


Oh God, that is sappy.

 

[landiek]

After talking with my sister (GeronimosGirl)

I am admitting to three facts
Yes I was inducted to the anal lusts at 7
Yes I lost my virginity at 11
and NO I wouldn't hate it if I had a DOM/MASTER that wanted to make me replay my life with him... stick that in your craw..

Love, Landi

( note I said him )

 

[anytime1949]

Optional reply: Would you have started younger or waited until you were older? Why?

I was 38 newly divorced and met a lady who liked having her wrists tied to bed posts during sex. Evolved to spanking and then dom position in relationship. She liked to be ordered around and told what to do in a commanding way. I got to the point where I enjoyed it alot. I preferred spanking with my hand though not with anything as it seemed a more personal touch. I think I would have liked to started a bit earlier.

 

[EroticLust]

My first experience was in my early 30's, I think the timing was right because of the person I was with - I don't think I could have seen myself participating with any of my prior partners. He was the one who introduced me to it and explained a lot of it to me, and made me really think about the lifestyle.

I look forward to my next experiences, but still waiting for the "right" partner for me!

 

[wildthang]

although i was only 13 when i had my first experiences with BDSM(mostly through the computer but i had 2 real relationships) i still wish i was younger, i lost my virginity at the age of 12 and if i would have known of the power i could have had over things and how i could be "worshiped" as i am sometimes today, things would have gone differently and much better, now 18 and legal LOL i am finding that i enjoy to be a switch now and then and my passed experience and what i am learning now is making a huge difference in my life and in the relationships i have (BDSM related or not)i have learned i have much more control then i thought i did and that has made me a better person overall i think