How old were you....?

[Ms_Lilith]

I was 18, but I didn't know that it was BDSM at the time.. just thought my bf at the time had a penchant for rough, kinda kinky sex. He bound my wrists behind me, and threw me on the floor and fucked me silly, then left me there for an hour to 'contemplate it'.

(I should mention that he had THOROUGLY worked me up before coyly bringing out the cuffs, so I was ready and VERY willing!)

 

[Netzach]

Nascent stirrings.

Being a very compliant patient during my friend Elisha's playing doctor. But being very in command when deciding that every other kid in my class was going to be the sheep and I was going to be the shepherd and my teacher came over to 10 kids baaaaa ing during recess. This was the 4-6 phase.

Making my entire family sit still while I danced around the living room to the nutcracker at about 6-7. If they talked during the performance I got really pissed as all hell. They shushed. This was nightly.

Tying myself up in my mother's grey cashmere sweater and with my jump rope feeling all kinds of funny stirrings. I was 8.

The first time I saw a photo of a Dominatrix in all the traditional regailia of the 80's. Thigh boots, pvc shorts, shiny pvc cover and low plunging leotard....

I thought to myself "I want to be that" the way other girls might want to be a ballerina or an actress or a doctor.

I was about 11 then. I began fantasizing about slapping men in the face and then kissing them, because I knew that women dressed like that did that, I think I'd seen it in a film somewhere.

Now I know the kissing is only for the special ones, and I'm a fucking ballerina.

 

[Smoothie64]

It was a little after my 21st birthday.
At the time all I cared about was getting laid; I didn't treat women with much respect.
I met two women in college, who lived together. We were just partying buddies or so I thought. One day they gave me an attitude adjustment and I enjoyed it very much indeed

It shaped who I am today. It was perfect timing.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Now I know the kissing is only for the special ones, and I'm a fucking ballerina.

May I put that in my sigline? That is just brilliant.. completely quote-worthy.

 

[Netzach]

Feel free.

 

[shelleb4]

'correct me if im wrong'

Well, Mr Blonde,

never one to miss an opportunity to correct someone, i should just like to add the following:

72% of all statistics are made up on the spot!

 

[tn_greeneyez]

I was 43...........always a late bloomer, but what a blossom!!!

 

[Mr Blonde]

Re: 'correct me if im wrong'

Well, Mr Blonde,

never one to miss an opportunity to correct someone, i should just like to add the following:

72% of all statistics are made up on the spot!

LOL

Okay, there are some new people running around so let me bump this thread back to the front page. Sorry, too tired to recalculate the average right now!

 

[Kaldaka]

I'm in the category of liking to play the D/s games as a kid and not really having an idea of what you were doing. A loss of power to a Dominant female has always seemed to make my heart skip a beat, to make me suddenly a little more excited than I should be.

Had my first experience with it online when I was 15, first r/l experience with a gf at 17 when she tied me to a bed.

*slinks back to his lurking*

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Played sex-slave games (with me as slave) with an older girl when I was obscenely young. Had no clue!

 

[Xelebes]

Since I have no experience as of yet, I will give the best that I can give right now.

1-2 Always wanting to beside my mother, hanging on to the limb. My dad made a pun out of Yogi Bear and gave me the nickname, Huggybear. Probably first signs of being submssive or something.

4-5 Fantasies of being hit begin. I have no fricken clue where they came from and what they were about. Still don't, but I believe this was the first kindling of desires, or preparation for something.

7-8 The bullying begins. From Grade 2 to Grade 8 I considered my worst years. From the beginning antics where the bullies would gang up on me and trip me on the firmly packed snow of the ashphalt on the scoolgrounds to the terrifying swarmings in grade 7. I honestly hated those years. Unpleasant as it may have been, I think it may have started some of the fantasies....

12-13 First thoughts of being bound, like a cocoon or other forms, either alone or with someone who could release me.

15-16 First time froshed. Taped to a chair with my mouth taped shut in the middle of Communications and Technology class when the teacher wasn't looking. First time "bullying me" was fun.

17-18 Realised my sexual fantasies were more on the weird side and by 18 I realised what that weirdness was.

 

[landiek]

for me it was too young because of incest.. but looking back

it had a great impact on my thoughts and feelings about sex.

Only prudes label sex... kinksters improve on it

 

[tythisredheadup]

I am 32, and tonight was my first time...

 

[bluenymph]

congrats ty, hope your experience was a good one, i know mine was.

 

[Technodivinitas]

I should qualify that...

My first BDsM experience with another person was in my mid-teens. I was having those fantasies since before I knew how babies were made...

 

[DarkLadyOfDeath]

17

I was 17 when I had my first real bondage experiance.. it was with another female friend of mine who first started by borrowing an amused mall security guy's handcuffs.. and cuffing me and tossing me in the back of his truck in a skirt.. She pushed me half-way threw the open window and let me just dangle there with a giggle and a slap or two on my ass. A few monthes later she and another female friend took me downstairs and threw me on the bed.. one pinned me down while the other pulled out at the time one of the most thrilling and scary things I'de ever seen. well least to say.. I never said no... And they took turns enjoying my body and my whimpers and groans...

I wish I would have waited.. but.. I'm glad I got to experience something so.. satisfying. After that night my virginity, my conceptions of sex, and my soul where reworked...

Soon after I heard about "Boystown" in Chicago... And haven't looked back.

But It started long before that online when I was 13 I started experimenting with.. sexual ideas.. with other people online.. and I grew to like the more domminateing or more submissive types..

 

[devoted lilgirl]

My first BDsM experience with another person was in my mid-teens. I was having those fantasies since before I knew how babies were made...

This could have been written by me. My first experience with this was when I was about 16, having my boyfriend spank me. I thought all BDSM was people in shiny leather outfits with long whips, and that wasn't what I had been fantasizing about. I had fantasies about being "mistreated" even before I knew about masturbation (which was quite early) and would daydream out the window on long car rides about these scences.

 

[lne_iii]

Well, it all depends on if you count cybering/phone/writing stories/actual acts...but they all fall in the 15-19 range

I've had unrestricted internet access since about age 11...take from that what you will

 

[MissJennifer]

How old were you...

I was 17, although I was not aware that it had a name. I've been involved with BDSM ever since in some form or another. I started as a sub, and a terrible one, I may add! (Im a great actress, not a true submissive )

I think the one thing I would have changed is being convinced that I was actually a submissive. I do have a more passive personality, but I am not a sub. Luckily, I have realized that, worked through My issues and am very happily involved with My pet.

 

[DVS]

Optional reply: Would you have started younger or waited until you were older? Why?

I was 12. I pulled the dress up and the white panties down of a cute little 10 year old and spanked her behind. She got over my lap on her own...like a good submissive should.

I would have gladly started sooner, if I knew what the hell I was doing at the time. We both knew we liked it, but we had no idea why it was fun. Sexual urges and mental thought don't develop at equal rates, I guess.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

I was 43...........always a late bloomer, but what a blossom!!!

I too was enlightened late in life but in away I am thankful for that. I no longer have the raging hormones that would have definately gotten me in lots of hot water if I recall my youth correctly.

I have had but a small taste and hunger for a banquet but have the good sense to be cautious and to ask questions of those more experienced than I.

 

[LostSpirit]

i was 31 when i first experienced the delights of being a submissive slave and have only had two Masters from that time until now sadly my Master has released me

 

[Kajira Callista]

i was 31 when i first experienced the delights of being a submissive slave and have only had two Masters from that time until now sadly my Master has released me

 

[chriskchambers]

I was around 19-20 years old then I had my first Dom/Sub relationship in the bedroom. I think that I wound have done it a bit later as I didn't know what I was doing at the time.

 

[chriskchambers]

PS.

during my time as being a Dom. I have encounted a lot of "Play Subs" who only when to be tied up a bit or spanked on the bum.

reading through the postings, it looks like a few people have also encounter this. so, if I may add a appendix to the first question. How do you feel about "plays" in the world of BDSM.