How old were you....?

[pinkstarfish]

in 2nd grade i chained myself to a fire hydrant on the play ground.

 

[sigsauerprinces]

i had my first thoughts and fantasies about it at age 11 or so. i wrote out a bdsm fantasy story when i was 12-my mom found it. she never said anything, but i had gone into her closet to get something and found it there. i was mortified. i mean if anyone had read it they would have thought i was crazy. but the desires were there, very young.

first actually experience..hmm. well my first experience with it KNOWING that it was bdsm ect was a couple years ago. (im 32). but when i was 23 i asked a guy to slap my face (story is in another thread around here somewhere) and i loved it. nothing sexual happened but ill never forget the satisfaction and thrill and euphoria i felt as he slapped me.

 

[PumaSue]

Into Rough Sex


When I was around 5 years old, my brother,
who is 5 years older, would wrestle with me
and of course overpower me. He would enjoy
having his friends, also around 10 years old,
wrestle me too. I remember them laying on
me and pinning my arms down over my head.
I really enjoyed it and looked forward to
when my brother's friends would come over
and overpower me and pin me down again.

 

[Guest]

young start

I was 6 years old and in the hospital.

In 1963 they discovered I was Diabetic(age 6). My Dad normally came up to the hospital to visit me between 9pm and 11pm each night. One night he did not make it up by 11pm and I figured he would not be up till the next day because of his work.

About 12:30 that night my Dad showed up to find me, a 6 year old boy at that time, with a nurse tied to my hospital bed with a wash cloth in her mouth for a gag. The nurse had come in to keep me company and she had agreed to let me tie her up since I was not sleepy that night.

My Dad asked me, ok, now that you have her tied up, what are you going to do with her??? I told him I did not know, I enjoyed tying her up, but had no idea what to do with her now.

After convincing me to let her go and get back to work, he spent an hour with me talking about things. A few bits of advice I got that night have stuck with me since.

1. You cannot control someone else unless you have complete control of yourself.
2. You must check the extremities when you have someone in bondage to make sure you are not cutting off blood circulation.
3. Due to my diabetes, and the possibility of passing out from a low blood sugar, you need to make sure that your playmate has a way to get out of the bondage so that she can help you if you have a seizure

Over the years after that my father and I had many interesting talks and now in my mid 40's I realize that a lot of the things he taught me growing up have helped me to be a better Master/Dominant than I could have become with only learning on my own.

I did not have many more BDSM experiences other than the normal kid games of tying up girls playing cops and robbers or cowboys and Indians until I was in my teens. But I learned alot about rope work and bondage from my Dad as I grew up, but I also learned how to think and plan from him.

Thanks Pop.

 

[psiberzerker]

Nine.

 

[sigsauerprinces]

Re: young start

I was 6 years old and in the hospital.

In 1963 they discovered I was Diabetic(age 6). My Dad normally came up to the hospital to visit me between 9pm and 11pm each night. One night he did not make it up by 11pm and I figured he would not be up till the next day because of his work.

About 12:30 that night my Dad showed up to find me, a 6 year old boy at that time, with a nurse tied to my hospital bed with a wash cloth in her mouth for a gag. The nurse had come in to keep me company and she had agreed to let me tie her up since I was not sleepy that night.

My Dad asked me, ok, now that you have her tied up, what are you going to do with her??? I told him I did not know, I enjoyed tying her up, but had no idea what to do with her now.

After convincing me to let her go and get back to work, he spent an hour with me talking about things. A few bits of advice I got that night have stuck with me since.

1. You cannot control someone else unless you have complete control of yourself.
2. You must check the extremities when you have someone in bondage to make sure you are not cutting off blood circulation.
3. Due to my diabetes, and the possibility of passing out from a low blood sugar, you need to make sure that your playmate has a way to get out of the bondage so that she can help you if you have a seizure

Over the years after that my father and I had many interesting talks and now in my mid 40's I realize that a lot of the things he taught me growing up have helped me to be a better Master/Dominant than I could have become with only learning on my own.

I did not have many more BDSM experiences other than the normal kid games of tying up girls playing cops and robbers or cowboys and Indians until I was in my teens. But I learned alot about rope work and bondage from my Dad as I grew up, but I also learned how to think and plan from him.

Thanks Pop.

thats hella cool sounds like you had a great dad.

 

[SubByDesign]

I was 17... or did it start when I was 18?

I think it says something when I don't remember which, and I'm only 18 now. To me, it means that I've always been, in some way, a submissive.

I lost my virginity to my dom. And thanks to him, I encountered a beautiful world of sexuality. It didn't take us long to build up trust, enough to say yes or no in complete comfortability.

Did we start too early? No. If anything I wish we would have waited. Not because I don't enjoy it, but because I'm not sure I was, or even am, ready for the relationship we have. (It's complicated, to say the least. And this isn't the thread to explain it.)

Am I happy now? Of course. It's all those sleepless nights that he is away, and my wrists aren't bound, and my collar isn't around my neck which are troubling.

 

[19femslave]

I had a boyfriend tie me up when I was 15. It lead to more. By the time I was 17, I had moved in with my Master. He was in his 40s and married. They taught,trained and used me. It has been only a few months that I have been on my own again

Knowing what I know now, would I want to have started at a different time? NO. No later and earlier would have been a little weird.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I first got into spanking, belting and very rough sex at about age 24-25, but when I look back on relationships from before that time; I can clearly see that the intense ones all involved a lot of control, power imbalance and even the beginnings of humiliation play (forcing one of my college girlfriends to blow me on her knees on a dirty fraternity-house bathroom floor, etc). I distinctly got off on minfdfucking and placing women in subordinate positions from at least age 18, although I didn't start to hurt them until later.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Interestingly enough, my first ever orgasm, (dry), at about age 7, came during sex play/wrestling with my younger brother. I had pinned him down, had him in a headlock, and was lying on his back rubbing against him. I remember both the explosive pleasure of orgasm and the crucial feeling of triumph that I got from taking that pleasure while physically controlling him. This must have been the very roots of my psychosexuality.

 

[scooterbum]

how old????

i was 43, and my gal was 37.....

 

[Guest]

14 for me...

One aspect of BDSM that some overlook because of their twinge factor is Daddy/daughter. I find this is also very close to Master/slave. I have actually been collared to a Man that at any given time would say something like... Who is my slut... the answer You Master... then would turn right around and say... Who is Daddy's lil girl... and the answer to that would be You Daddy.

A friends father saw the submissive in me and I am eternally grateful to him for taking me when he did... if not... I would never have survived mentally the rape that happened 2 years later.

Always,
Elizabetht

 

[Mr Blonde]

Update

*gets out his calculator again*

Based on the 149 people with experience who voted, the average age for first experience is now about ~24.5 years old. There are 13 votes from people saying they have no experience.

Any other replies? This thread has made interesting reading.

 

[DisGirlisNutz]

13.... wish i waited....

DGN

 

[Jessalynvix]

I started thinking about it when I was 18-19 never did anything except online until I was 21 when I came to meet Dusty.

 

[Ziggy*stardust]

I have been having fantasies about these things for as long as I can remember. I must have been 5 when I started to tie myself up or lock myself into closets and such. My parents had to come and untie me at times when I wasn’t able to get myself out afterwards. My mother still tells people that I had this weird thing when I was younger and I always got myself stuck in some way. Hehe.
At about the same age (5 or 6) I started to slap my face or put my hand on my throat as if I was being taken by force and abused. I remember putting Lego-blocks in my pussy to make it hurt. When I was a little older, around 8 I think, I started to belt myself on my behind.

I had a very happy childhood but I was always very shy. I met my husband when I was in my late teens and he was the first person I had sexual and BDSM experiences with. I think I met him at the right age. By then I had found out and kind of accepted what I was and that there was a name for it as well as many other people having the same fantasies. I was very ready to submit and live my life as I had always fantasized.

stardust

 

[dreaming_lilith]

Optional reply: Would you have started younger or waited until you were older? Why?

I was 20 when I had my first "real" BDSM sex/session and for being the first time I think it went very well.

Had the first power exchange related sexual fantasies when I was maybe 12-13. Realized what BDSM was when I was maybe 17, and that I wanted it when I was 19.

 

[the Royal wench]

Optional reply: Would you have started younger or waited until you were older? Why?

It took what I went through when I was younger to become who I am today so there is nothing I would do different.

 

[the Royal wench]

Reading through this thread reminded me of first grade when the boys would chase the girls and force them to kiss them. There was a thrill in being wanted that way.

I guess there are some things that started younger than I realized.

 

[bluenymph]

how old were you?

I definitley would have liked to start sooner. But, there is advantages to being a late bloomer. I'm more mature and open minded now than i would have been earlier.
blue

 

[Bandit58]

Re: how old were you?

I definitley would have liked to start sooner. But, there is advantages to being a late bloomer. I'm more mature and open minded now than i would have been earlier.
blue

In the 2 years since I left my husband I've really bloomed I've been exploring the parts of me that I hid from everyone, including myself.......and at 45 I had my first real BDSM experience. I've only just started training but I feel definitely that this is where I belong.....

 

[sugarpussy]

My first true experience (not counting open handed spanking cuz it seems soooo far from what I've felt now) was on Tuesday--- 2 days ago........... so I'm 28, and probably started late, but I don't mind. I've met a couple who are perfect for teaching me to explore my submissive side.
Rae

 

[Guest]

Optional reply: Would you have started younger or waited until you were older? Why?

i like when i started. so far its been one hell of a continuous experience. still looking for that special One though. The One that can own my body and soul completely.

 

[Esclava]

Oh my!

I voted 30-39, but after reading some of the responses, I've come to realize that I've "sensed" the pull of BDSM since I was 6 or 7. I, too, was a child that enjoyed tying myself to the dresser, bed, chairs - whatever and then fighting the urge to get free before someone came in and found me. I have to admit that I never had to have someone extricate me, but my mother always wondered what I was doing to keep breaking my tennis shoe laces...

Years later (around 16), I discovered that I liked being spanked during sex. Unfortunately a year or so later, I was raped at knifepoint and that triggered a whole different thought process in me. It was rape in that it was forced intercourse from someone I didn't know at knifepoint; but it left me feeling guilty because I didn't find it completely distasteful - and I had been taught that I should have. Add to that the really bad relationship with my former at 31 and I have spent much more time in BDSM than I realized.

I would not change anything. I believe as an inquisitive child I was able to innocently explore what made me feel "good." With the exception of the really bad relationships and incidents, I have enjoyed my life and look forward to one much more fulfilling than any I have experienced thus far.

Esclava

 

[trendyredhead]

I was in my late 20's when I started. I would like to have started earlier.

Same here, but I didn't really know what my tendencies were called until a friend suspected and tried something that blew my mind and finally all the pieces fell into place. Unfortunately, by then I was already married - to a very vanilla man - so I feel like I'm missing out on a lot.