How to be Real on Lit

[Wonderer67]

Males don't generally deal with what women deal with on Lit.

I think THAT is the main point. The male experience is likely quite different from what women probably experiences.

Just guessing. I am male.

I am sure there’s a lot more horseshit that women have to deal w than men.

 

[Crankbait88]

Just checking. Are we still real?

 

[XShadynzX]

It's not easy but if you can say to yourself "I'm not ashamed about posting that", then it's possible to stay true to yourself.

 

[XShadynzX]

Just checking. Are we still real?

Not to boast, but I've been told I'm as real as it gets.
I try to be the same person online as I am in RL

 

[Nightbird]

Not to boast, but I've been told I'm as real as it gets.
I try to be the same person online as I am in RL

*GLOMP* Shady!

 

[XShadynzX]

GLOMP ( again!) @Nightbird

 

[kathyisgr65]

Not sure how to respond to that.

No reason to respond..she said what she said...(Pls don't give me shit for giving my opinion)

 

[Lady2020]

No reason to respond..she said what she said...(Pls don't give me shit for giving my opinion)

I was saying I didn't understand the comment. I still don't. I don't see any reason for giving you shit.

 

[kathyisgr65]

I don't even remember my opinion..

 

[Lady2020]

I'm now 70. If you can't deal with that, it's not my problem. I have enough to deal with on my own without your bullshit.

 

[Noor]

I guess you just be real as you are in rl. Though some people are never real anywhere.
Being real can be messy but it’s the best way.
You don’t have to disclose your private details or activities but lying is never good. People see through lies, they may choose to not mention it but eventually lies are exposed.
Lies also hurt relationships.

 

[Lady2020]

I'm just thinking maybe I don't ask enough of the right questions .

 

[Treeview]

I'm just thinking maybe I don't ask enough of the right questions .

That is a very existential question.

Just keep asking questions...your answer will come along.

 

[Greylag]

I'm just thinking maybe I don't ask enough of the right questions .

Different questions for different people. You just need to ask lots until.you find the right one.

 

[SmokingFap]

Not to boast, but I've been told I'm as real as it gets.
I try to be the same person online as I am in RL

Dammit, I REALLY shouldn't stick my nose in here. But why do you have to TRY to be the same person online? Why aren't you naturally just the same person online?

And saying "Not to boast, but" right before you boast?

Nevermind. Couldn't help myself. Carry on.

 

[Lexie24]

I find it quite refreshing and a little freeing on lit so I try to be as honest as I can because at the end of the day who fucking cares

 

[JJ82490]

You can’t fake genuine, whether it’s here or IRL…why not just be yourself and be free?

 

[adlon]

I find it quite refreshing and a little freeing on lit so I try to be as honest as I can because at the end of the day who fucking cares

So true

 

[SmokingFap]

In the real world I’m a little bit introverted, hate eye contact and generally don’t start the conversation. Online it’s 100% opposite, I feel much more relaxed and can talk about anything. Always give honest answers to the questions you want to answer because it will come back to bite you if you don’t.

Thanks for resuscitating this thread. And I think you're very prototypical of the folks on here. That's what makes online chat so appealing to most people. And the best thing about lit is that you can always find someone who shares the same interests, no matter how unusual or rare or even controversial, and explore them without fear of judgment or repercussions.

Just my one cent.

 

[SmokingFap]

Very true about finding someone who shares the same interests. The problem is the amount of time it takes to locate said person.

It can be a quest and a bit of a tricky situation at times. But well worth it when you find the right person or people.

 

[Britva415]

if being genuine gets you nowhere then what's the point of being genuine?

If you have no expectations, what would the point of being fake be?

I mean, it doesn't sound like you expect that to get you anywhere either.

Do you? Does it?

 

[Hypnobitch01]

What is this thread? Is it advice? It seems neat!

 

[LadyLascivious1]

I'm not sure what I'm missing but I think I've been very real here and for the life of me I can't buy interaction. I'm not sure if women are really looking to connect with someone or if the number of women have reduced so dramatically here that no matter how genuine you are it's becoming mathematically impossible to find someone.

Sorry that may divert from the threads original intention a bit but I guess what I'm asking is if being genuine gets you nowhere then what's the point of being genuine?

I think being authentic is necessary to finding anything real here or offline, but it’s not a guarantee that you’ll make a strong connection with someone. And if you are fortunate enough to meet people you have the right chemistry with, there’s no way to predict when that happens.

That said, I do think it takes a while of being back on the forums before you start to get a lot of interaction. I’ve found that posting regularly in a few threads you find enjoyable is the best way to get to know people even if it takes a bit. And it can be a bit lonely until it feels like you’re getting regular engagement from your comments.