How to find an online romantic/erotic relationship?

[Bbl87]

And in addition to the response above, I'll just add that you're better off just endeavoring to get to know people.

The vast majority of people I've become close or close-ish with on here are people I've gotten to know through posting in the same threads. I don't go looking in personals or trying to find someone, but if someone piques my interest and we really get along in threads, I may send them a message just to say hi. It helps not coming into it with the pretense of, let's talk dirty. If you hit it off, that may come eventually.

Oh, and don't lead with a dick pic. From my conversations with friends on here, that seems to be unfortunately more common of a strategy than you'd think.

And, be open about what you're looking for and what you're doing. I've done the Lit-lationship thing. She was a wonderful, beautiful person, but things got complicated and too "real" and after that things just kind of faded and she's not around that I see anymore.

Any more, I'm just really looking for friends to talk to, maybe share some of our sexual interests and some online "play" if there's mutual interest, but if not that's cool. But I'm also very open about the fact I'm not Lit-monogamous and I don't expect anyone else I'm talking with to be.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

This is probably the best advice I've seen.

I work in the public sector so I tend to be very careful with my anonymity.

But, the reality is if you want any kind of intimate relationship with someone you will definitely end up being open about certain parts of your life. But you can do that without sharing full on identifying information.

There is a grand total of one person on here that knows my actual complete name, and it's because we're now friends on social media outside of Lit. We know alot about each other's lives, more than some of our "IRL" friends probably do. She's also the person who I have probably stayed most consistently in contact with over my time here, much less ebb and flow.

But that is very much the exception to the rule.

I've never used a made up name, but that's just because I'd have a hard time keeping track of it.

My first made up name was so relevant to me, I wouldn't forget it..

Sadly, it was relevant to my ex, so when he was a very discreet bra pic, he recognized the bra and the name.