How to find other discreet Bi men?

[Locknuts]

So, how about the guy standing next to me at the urinals and he is checking out my package? Is he interested in me or is he just curious as to how well I'm hung compared to him?

 

[fitandfresh]

I want to give my first one but don't know my way around.

Know that feeling ......or rather wish I did lol

 

[J1biboi]

So, how about the guy standing next to me at the urinals and he is checking out my package? Is he interested in me or is he just curious as to how well I'm hung compared to him?

Just a guess but I would think he is interested.

 

[StartMeUp]

New to this, not sure where to look

I'm feel the same as you!

 

[DareDevilish]

If you work in a gym like me, you meet a LOT

 

[charterguy05]

If you work in a gym like me, you meet a LOT

Im going to the wrong gym if there are alot of biguys at yours

 

[meme62626]

If you work in a gym like me, you meet a LOT

And how do you know they're bi.?

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

So, how about the guy standing next to me at the urinals and he is checking out my package? Is he interested in me or is he just curious as to how well I'm hung compared to him?

Just my opinion here but if he doesn't make eye contact then he's just comparing.
If he does make eye contact, he's interested.

 

[shirleycd]

Back at the the local B & N cafe ogling the young men. Trying to make eye contact, but no takers. Not a total loss, I enjoy reading and then there is the young girls making me wish I could dress up in the tight fitting stretch pants and blouses they wear.

 

[fitandfresh]

Back at the the local B & N cafe ogling the young men. Trying to make eye contact, but no takers. Not a total loss, I enjoy reading and then there is the young girls making me wish I could dress up in the tight fitting stretch pants and blouses they wear.

This old guy would love to see you all dressed up in your girlie clothes......then taking you back somewhere quiet and slowly undressing you......kissing you all over as we prepared ourselves.

 

[DareDevilish]

And how do you know they're bi.?

They are usually guys I train with, I see them with their girlfriends sometimes, they talk about their girlfriends, but I find them checking me out while we train or while we shower. I have a good gaydar.

 

[bikurinpa]

Just my opinion here but if he doesn't make eye contact then he's just comparing.
If he does make eye contact, he's interested.

Eye contact can be tough to pick up on!

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

Eye contact can be tough to pick up on!

In the middle of a bar... I agree.

At a urinal when he looks down, then catches my eye that has been looking at his junk and smiles... Not tough to pick up on all.

 

[shirleycd]

This old guy would love to see you all dressed up in your girlie clothes......then taking you back somewhere quiet and slowly undressing you......kissing you all over as we prepared ourselves.

What are you waiting for?

 

[charterguy05]

This old guy would love to see you all dressed up in your girlie clothes......then taking you back somewhere quiet and slowly undressing you......kissing you all over as we prepared ourselves.

That sounds fun

 

[Kindude]

I found my first guy online. When we met he knew who I was because we hung out at the same place regularly. I had no idea who he was but I was definitely on his gaydar. If only we had known!

So...they're everywhere!

 

[bikurinpa]

I found my first guy online. When we met he knew who I was because we hung out at the same place regularly. I had no idea who he was but I was definitely on his gaydar. If only we had known!

So...they're everywhere!

That is the way it goes, I had 3 dumb luck instances that we knew eachother and had thoughts but did not know how to bring it up to eachother till after we moved away or found out and shortly after then they move away!
I bet we are around men in every day life who has same desires but they just dont know how to bring it about to eachother.

 

[Mqoi]

So, how about the guy standing next to me at the urinals and he is checking out my package? Is he interested in me or is he just curious as to how well I'm hung compared to him?

I was in a similar situation once and the guy commented about what a nice piece of meat I had. He got to examine it in more detail.

That is the way it goes, I had 3 dumb luck instances that we knew each other and had thoughts but did not know how to bring it up to each other till after we moved away or found out and shortly after then they move away!

Just happened to me. We'd helped each other out numerous times and were good friends. I'd have done anything for him. And if I'd known he's gay, I'd have done more. We're still friends, but he's move a few hours away. One of the few guys, I'd have more than gladly let him have me any way he wanted. We both had each other thinking we were straight.

 

[oneblueye]

hey

So, how about the guy standing next to me at the urinals and he is checking out my package? Is he interested in me or is he just curious as to how well I'm hung compared to him?

Sometimes it's both...

 

[tg56boy]

Good message

As reflected in many postings on Lit, on-line methods for meeting sex partners of any type usually result in either string-out games or very temporary encounters. So, if you have any desire for discreetness and/or safety, you would need to take measures to protect your anonymity and health, just as you would if you went to an adult book store with sex booths.

If you want to find a longer term thing, you need to actually build a more trusting relationship with someone. The main reason why men find it so difficult to actually listen and talk with other men about bi-sexuality is that men are not trained to be good communicators in many ways.

Just think about it-- many men are bi or bi curious, but they can't find each other because they are not willing or able to take the time to get to know each other and eventually talk in a meaningful way. If you have the willing part taken care of, then work on the commitment and the skills necessary to do the able part.

Good information. It took my wife and I (she was looking for a woman and I was looking for a guy) a lot time to find the right match. So glad we took the time. My wife could not be happer with her girlfriend and I couldn't be happier with my boyfriend.

 

[jackbird]

If you work in a gym like me, you meet a LOT

I have had some luck at the gym.

 

[james2346]

I would like to meet someone and have a fun experience . I meet my one and only hookup online but looking forward to doing again.

 

[leewestmidsuk]

I would like to meet someone and have a fun experience . I meet my one and only hookup online but looking forward to doing again.

yeah bi curious here in the uk looking for discrete fun

 

[sub2femdom]

To answer the OP, I was in the same boat 3 or 4 years ago. I had tried CL a few times, and found the same problem, all talkers, vanishers, and games.

I then found a site, whose acronym is SLS. It's a swinger site, they offer both free and paid accounts.

It's primarily geared towards swingers, which at first glance, seemed very mismatched to bi and other fetish types, but I was curious, and signed up for a free account.

I found it very difficult at first to navigate what a good profile is, starting conversations, and most of the direct messages I got seemed like more of the game players and magical vanishing jerkoff kings.

Then I discovered groups, some of which seemed active and others dead, but there's a LOT of fetish groups on there.

One group I joined sent out an email about a bi-party. I contacted the host, and asked a lot of questions.. He was a little standoffish, but gave me some basic answers, and encouraged me to sign up for the party.

Now understand, nearly ALL of these parties are held at high-end hotels, the kind where you get a kitchen, two bedrooms, two bathrooms, etc.. the kind that cost $500 or more for a night, so there's an admission charge to cover these costs.

The hosts also (in every party I've attended at least) provides basic drinks and mixers, snacks, water, etc.. Some of the snacks are very well done, like cheese crackers, grapes, sometimes even classier stuff.

All the people I've met are super-nice and friendly to newcomers. My first party was pretty spectacular in most regards. I got to suck a few different guys, and some women/wives came too. I got to lick a guys cum off a woman's tits while another guy was fucking her... how hot is that? Totally worth the $60 entry fee.

I'm a member of several different groups, some based on different kinks, and there's always party invites in my mailbox (5-10 a week usually), which is far more parties than I have time to attend !

I've also met two dominas (well, going by bdsm guides, one domina and one mistress), as well as one cuckoldress, and two 'boyfriends' I dated on the side.. or maybe they were FWB's.. not sure lol.

In any case, these people are generally clean, disease free, most always meet people who practice safe sex, and are generally easygoing.

What I can say is that I didn't achieve all this as a free member. Most paid members won't even talk to free members and don't allow free members to view their profiles or talk to them.. this is because most of the free members are likely the same people as the CL game-players.

I paid for a lifetime membership after that first party. I think it was $160 at the time, and totally worth it.

That being said, not ALL parties are guaranteed to be great. The last party I was at was supposed to be a cuckold party, and every single female that signed up had bailed at the last minute. Usually there's about an 80% turnout rate, so in this case, that 20% were all women. It's the first time I ever seen that happen, with exception that the hostess was female, but she didn't plan on playing. She was a good sport and played a little, and then a few of us guys also played with each other.

I was kind of the main attraction at that point, the pic in my avatar was taken by the hostess, so you might guess why I was popular. I sucked a few cocks that night and got felt up quite a bit..

So there's your answer. SLS. It's worth checking out. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions!

 

[bikurinpa]

To answer the OP, I was in the same boat 3 or 4 years ago. I had tried CL a few times, and found the same problem, all talkers, vanishers, and games.

I then found a site, whose acronym is SLS. It's a swinger site, they offer both free and paid accounts.

It's primarily geared towards swingers, which at first glance, seemed very mismatched to bi and other fetish types, but I was curious, and signed up for a free account.

I found it very difficult at first to navigate what a good profile is, starting conversations, and most of the direct messages I got seemed like more of the game players and magical vanishing jerkoff kings.

Then I discovered groups, some of which seemed active and others dead, but there's a LOT of fetish groups on there.

One group I joined sent out an email about a bi-party. I contacted the host, and asked a lot of questions.. He was a little standoffish, but gave me some basic answers, and encouraged me to sign up for the party.

Now understand, nearly ALL of these parties are held at high-end hotels, the kind where you get a kitchen, two bedrooms, two bathrooms, etc.. the kind that cost $500 or more for a night, so there's an admission charge to cover these costs.

The hosts also (in every party I've attended at least) provides basic drinks and mixers, snacks, water, etc.. Some of the snacks are very well done, like cheese crackers, grapes, sometimes even classier stuff.

All the people I've met are super-nice and friendly to newcomers. My first party was pretty spectacular in most regards. I got to suck a few different guys, and some women/wives came too. I got to lick a guys cum off a woman's tits while another guy was fucking her... how hot is that? Totally worth the $60 entry fee.

I'm a member of several different groups, some based on different kinks, and there's always party invites in my mailbox (5-10 a week usually), which is far more parties than I have time to attend !

I've also met two dominas (well, going by bdsm guides, one domina and one mistress), as well as one cuckoldress, and two 'boyfriends' I dated on the side.. or maybe they were FWB's.. not sure lol.

In any case, these people are generally clean, disease free, most always meet people who practice safe sex, and are generally easygoing.

What I can say is that I didn't achieve all this as a free member. Most paid members won't even talk to free members and don't allow free members to view their profiles or talk to them.. this is because most of the free members are likely the same people as the CL game-players.

I paid for a lifetime membership after that first party. I think it was $160 at the time, and totally worth it.

That being said, not ALL parties are guaranteed to be great. The last party I was at was supposed to be a cuckold party, and every single female that signed up had bailed at the last minute. Usually there's about an 80% turnout rate, so in this case, that 20% were all women. It's the first time I ever seen that happen, with exception that the hostess was female, but she didn't plan on playing. She was a good sport and played a little, and then a few of us guys also played with each other.

I was kind of the main attraction at that point, the pic in my avatar was taken by the hostess, so you might guess why I was popular. I sucked a few cocks that night and got felt up quite a bit..

So there's your answer. SLS. It's worth checking out. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions!

I had recently joined SLS again and now they started with that government BS that can not contact any other members at all with a free membership and if they email or IM you, you cant even read it! so now it is about totally worthless. I made a user name that hints off my email but no one has been smart enough to pick up on it nor is other members smart enough to use a username that can be linked to @yahoo.com or gmail. I did notice from this time and when I was on it before when you could contact members on a limited number, the users had diminished, lots of users havve abandoned their profiles.