I bet Dorthy was sooo hot and wet watching that show.
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I bet Dorthy was sooo hot and wet watching that show.
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In a threesome, MMF it has happened
Interesting. How did it happen and whose idea was it?
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Lynn, I was wondering given that this is a two year old thread, did you make any real progress in this area with your husband?
You really seem to enjoy the fantasy, but given that your recent replies have been questions instead of updates, it seems that it proves to be quite hard to realise this fantasy. Is that a correct observation?
If you don't mind me being curious, how do you look back over the past period? Has the intensity of your fantasy increased?
You really seem to enjoy the fantasy, but given that your recent replies have been questions instead of updates, it seems that it proves to be quite hard to realise this fantasy. Is that a correct observation?
If you don't mind me being curious, how do you look back over the past period? Has the intensity of your fantasy increased?
While I'm not bi, if a girlfriend really wants this and offers encouragement like this, I would probably be open to trying it. Though I would probably rather hear how hot it makes her (perhaps even seeing it if she pleasures herself) than hearing her calm me, since that latter would not make me feel very masculine I suppose.
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In my experience....
Alcohol and spur of the moment...
Alcohol and spur of the moment...
Lynn, I was wondering given that this is a two year old thread, did you make any real progress in this area with your husband?
You really seem to enjoy the fantasy, but given that your recent replies have been questions instead of updates, it seems that it proves to be quite hard to realise this fantasy. Is that a correct observation?
If you don't mind me being curious, how do you look back over the past period? Has the intensity of your fantasy increased?
While I'm not bi, if a girlfriend really wants this and offers encouragement like this, I would probably be open to trying it. Though I would probably rather hear how hot it makes her (perhaps even seeing it if she pleasures herself) than hearing her calm me, since that latter would not make me feel very masculine I suppose.
I have not made any progress, mostly because I have not really pursued it. So far it has been something I am ok to just think about. My husband is straight and I know this is not something he would want to do most likely. I dont want to upset him. But at the same time, it is that he is straight that makes the fantasy so sexy. I thank you for your response, because you sound like the kind of guy with the sort of response that would make this expereince so hot. I would want to coax and coerce and reassure husband thru it, making him know how hot it is, that no one will ever know, etc. Then afterwards, gethim and me alone so i could fuck him crazy and let him really know how turned on i was and how much i appreciated him doing that just to show his love for me.
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I am guilty
of the double standard.
But I never judge another persons sexuality or kinks. I cheer them on if it makes them happy. I have found that things I thought were absurd 20 yrs ago are now very erotic and exciting to me. I am proud that each day I continue to explore what excites me and my partner(s). SOOOO this is my double standard of the day. Recently I watched a video of mfm. And one M gave another a BJ while she watched. I was very erotic and exciting to me. But I don't want to give the BJ, Just receive. I know selfish right.... but I cant help what turns me on any more than you can. So try finding a video like the one I watched and get hubby to watch it unknowingly that you want this. When scene is on if he says turn this shit off, well girl your going to fantasizing about it for ever. But if he watches maybe you can ease into the conversation about how hot it made you.
Either way you have to try something... be a shame if he was wanting to do this but afraid of what you think.
of the double standard.
But I never judge another persons sexuality or kinks. I cheer them on if it makes them happy. I have found that things I thought were absurd 20 yrs ago are now very erotic and exciting to me. I am proud that each day I continue to explore what excites me and my partner(s). SOOOO this is my double standard of the day. Recently I watched a video of mfm. And one M gave another a BJ while she watched. I was very erotic and exciting to me. But I don't want to give the BJ, Just receive. I know selfish right.... but I cant help what turns me on any more than you can. So try finding a video like the one I watched and get hubby to watch it unknowingly that you want this. When scene is on if he says turn this shit off, well girl your going to fantasizing about it for ever. But if he watches maybe you can ease into the conversation about how hot it made you.
Either way you have to try something... be a shame if he was wanting to do this but afraid of what you think.
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lynn,
Both vg27 and milfmaster make some good points...i.e., doing what makes your partner happy.
As milfmaster suggests, pick out a video of bi male activity...maybe something basic like simple BJs. If your husband doesn't protest then cautiously progress as milfmaster suggests. A little at a time.
Your situation is somewhat similar as that with my friends Mike & Dorothy (above). There was a time when Mike wouldn't even consider touching another man. But as he began to watch videos depicting male interaction he became more and more curious. Years back when he discovered that I was bi his stereotype of bi men changed. He began to enjoy bi & gay videos, they fantasized about having another male join them, Mike having sex with this other man, etc., etc. It's almost like psychologicaly easing a person into a mindset. Dorothy slowly converted him. Having me over in the hopes of Mike and I interacing was a part of her plan. But only you know your husband's thoughts on the subject.
Feel free to pm me if you'd like to discuss things further.
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lucky bastard!
I agree with milfmaster. It would be a shame if he was wanting to try this, but was afraid of what you would think.
My last relationship was the one where my sexuality started to open up. We talked about lots of different fantasies, including me sucking another guy. The ex really liked that idea. Perhaps a lot of it had to do with me identifying as straight; same as your husband.
Part of the reason I was willing to try it was because, for the first time in my life, I found myself attracted to a male; a co-worker of mine. I totally wanted the guy for whatever reason. Luckily, I was able to talk with the ex about it and she approved. Of course, I couldn't figure out how to approach the guy, so it never happened.
I say to keep letting your husband know that it's not only okay, but also something you really want. He might someday find a guy he would want to try stuff with (like I found). And if he already knows you're up for it, well ...
I agree with milfmaster. It would be a shame if he was wanting to try this, but was afraid of what you would think.
My last relationship was the one where my sexuality started to open up. We talked about lots of different fantasies, including me sucking another guy. The ex really liked that idea. Perhaps a lot of it had to do with me identifying as straight; same as your husband.
Part of the reason I was willing to try it was because, for the first time in my life, I found myself attracted to a male; a co-worker of mine. I totally wanted the guy for whatever reason. Luckily, I was able to talk with the ex about it and she approved. Of course, I couldn't figure out how to approach the guy, so it never happened.
I say to keep letting your husband know that it's not only okay, but also something you really want. He might someday find a guy he would want to try stuff with (like I found). And if he already knows you're up for it, well ...
Thanks for the info Xillage. How did you bring up the subject with your ex? Was she shocked at first?
I agree with milfmaster. It would be a shame if he was wanting to try this, but was afraid of what you would think.
My last relationship was the one where my sexuality started to open up. We talked about lots of different fantasies, including me sucking another guy. The ex really liked that idea. Perhaps a lot of it had to do with me identifying as straight; same as your husband.
Part of the reason I was willing to try it was because, for the first time in my life, I found myself attracted to a male; a co-worker of mine. I totally wanted the guy for whatever reason. Luckily, I was able to talk with the ex about it and she approved. Of course, I couldn't figure out how to approach the guy, so it never happened.
I say to keep letting your husband know that it's not only okay, but also something you really want. He might someday find a guy he would want to try stuff with (like I found). And if he already knows you're up for it, well ...
Thanks for the info Xillage. How did you bring up the subject with your ex? Was she shocked at first? Even though it didnt happen was it something that you and her talked about and had fun wtih?
Well, it all started when I asked her about a threesome. Of course, I asked about what most guys do -- MFF. She jokingly asked why it couldn't be another guy instead. A few months later, I brought it up and asked if she was just joking or actually serious. She said serious and it went from there. She wasn't surprised. Amazingly, she's never been surprised or repulsed by anything we've talked about. I say that because she was raised a "good Southern girl". One who only had vanilla sex her whole life.
We're no longer together because I decided to move back to my home state. Along with leaving her, I left my former job. I no longer see the guy I was referring to. It's been about a year now and I can honestly say I don't look at any other guys in that way. It was only with him and I was totally infatuated. Part of me wonders if the attraction was more about finding him "acceptable" to fulfill the scenario we wanted to make happen. It doesn't matter what the real reason was I suppose. But I do think knowing she wanted to see me suck and get sucked by another guy helped with the attraction some way.
If I were in your situation, I would probably try to ease him into it. I would see if I could get him to let another guy suck him off. Just him getting sucked, nothing more. It seems a lot of guys secretly want to try that, so it might not be as hard to achieve.
And yes, it was something we talked about and had fun with a lot afterwards. It seems once you break the ice, things just grow/flow/evolve so easily. Things that were previously "scary" to talk about no longer are. Take, for instance, the subject of penis size. It's practically an unwritten rule to never make him think he's small and/or not enough. I was able to get her to talk about the fantasies she used when she was alone. When she told me about the big cock one ... damn. I was getting off 2-3 times a day from that one.
That's why I say to just keep the thought in his mind. A person's sexuality constantly changes and you never know what might appeal to them next week. The main thing is just to let him know he doesn't have to be afraid to let you know if he ever wants something. Fear is such a bad thing when it somes to sex.
Good idea, but it might also be a step to far to start with watching bi male BJs if Lynn's husband strongly identifies as being heterosexual.
What I think would also be worth trying, is that Lynn let herself be caught masturbating to bi male porn by her husband.
This will be less confronting for him (since he's not 'forced' to watch bi male activity). There will also be less pressure: if they watch bi male activity together, she undoubtedly wants to know how hot he think it is, while perhaps he has not even made up his mind yet. I suppose that guys who strongly identify themselves as heterosexual will need time to change their view slightly and consider the impact.
An additional benefit of letting her caught masturbating on bi male activity is that he can immediately see for himself how hot this makes her. She might communicate that she find bi male activity hot (but what is "hot" btw?
), but I suppose it is hard to motivate the husband unless he has an idea how hot she really thinks it is. This last aspect also plays into the idea that he might be more open to trying it if he knows how hot it makes her. I suppose that, in that situation, it is also easier to rationalise it for a heterosexual male ("I'm doing it for her pleasure" versus "I'm doing it because I'm bicurious").
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Of course, there's no physical reason why any guy can't suck-off any other guy. It's so easy and so pleasurable. The obstacle is the long-term social conditioning that creates all those frustrating barriers in the consciousness, all the ingrained conventions, loss of fragile self-identity… all that stuff is more problematic to get over. Maybe he'll never get to overcome his inhibitions and enjoy guy-on-guy oral sex. I'd suggest watching lots on online bi-Porn showing just how fantastic it can be to ignore gender barriers and just enjoy pure sex for its own sake. A little marijuana can loosen things up. Good luck. I like and respect your open attitude to blow-jobs...
Of course, there's no physical reason why any guy can't suck-off any other guy. It's so easy and so pleasurable. The obstacle is the long-term social conditioning that creates all those frustrating barriers in the consciousness, all the ingrained conventions, loss of fragile self-identity… all that stuff is more problematic to get over. Maybe he'll never get to overcome his inhibitions and enjoy guy-on-guy oral sex. I'd suggest watching lots on online bi-Porn showing just how fantastic it can be to ignore gender barriers and just enjoy pure sex for its own sake. A little marijuana can loosen things up. Good luck. I like and respect your open attitude to blow-jobs...
I was wondering if anyone had an update about their experiences with this topic since the last time it was active.
Did you translate the fantasy into practice? How was it? Or did you just got this fantasy? If so, what do you particularly like about it?
(I'm single, so I haven't done anything remotely related to this topic ).
Did you translate the fantasy into practice? How was it? Or did you just got this fantasy? If so, what do you particularly like about it?
(I'm single, so I haven't done anything remotely related to this topic
).
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Well, vg27, I can only reply with my experience on the subject...that being a male and the 3rd person in a 3-some.
A long time (bi) male friend had recently remarried. His new wife knew of his prior sexual activities with other males but had never witnessed him doing so.
As a wedding present to her he asked me if I would join him in revealing to her the erotic nature of 2 men having sex with one another.
The new bride obviously enjoyed watching her "husband sucking" my cock...as well as the other sexual activities us 2 men partook in. She presented me with an open invitation to join them at anytime.
A long time (bi) male friend had recently remarried. His new wife knew of his prior sexual activities with other males but had never witnessed him doing so.
As a wedding present to her he asked me if I would join him in revealing to her the erotic nature of 2 men having sex with one another.
The new bride obviously enjoyed watching her "husband sucking" my cock...as well as the other sexual activities us 2 men partook in. She presented me with an open invitation to join them at anytime.
I was wondering if anyone had an update about their experiences with this topic since the last time it was active.
Did you translate the fantasy into practice? How was it? Or did you just got this fantasy? If so, what do you particularly like about it?
(I'm single, so I haven't done anything remotely related to this topic
I havent had any progress. Just enjoying the fantasy occasionally is enough for now.
That is amazing. What bi expereince did you have before that time? I often wonder how a woman would feel when she finds out her bf or husband had had bi experiences in the past. Would she wwant to see it ? would she feel threatened? Obviously this new wife found it very erotic. What all did she want to see you guys do?
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I started having sex with a buddy when in high school. We stopped when he got married a 20. I started bi-sex again when 31 and recently divorced. The first time she watched her husband and myself it was a suprise so she didn't have time to think things over. I think she was in such a state of excitement that she just took it all in with enjoyment. We have gotten together several times since letting her choose what she wants us guys to do.
So far we've given each other BJs, masturbated ourselves and each other and rimmed and licked each other's balls.
A former coworker confided in me that she discovered her husband was getting together with a (male) neighbor. She was not upset because of bi-sex but because they had discussed him doing so, she found it exciting and wanted to watch she but she wasn't included in the activity. She and I eventually had an affair.
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I agree with you. I think in most cases the double standard is very prevalent in these situations. Many men would love to hear their wife had bi experiences. Most women would hate to hear their hubby had bi experiences.
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The other double standard is the men who want to see their wives with other women but these same men would never consider returning the favor.
As for your comment about wives hating to know about husbands...I guess I've
just been fortunate to have met those women who feel just the opposite. Probably 75% of the women I've been involved with have said that they would have enjoyed seeing their husband with another man.
