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vixenshe said:Thank you all..
One of my co-workers last night.. (the one I have a crush on)... he noticed it.. and he said "nice collar".... and he sort of waited. And then he said "you didn't correct me".
I was like grinning, because I had purposely not corrected him, to say it was a choker.
I grinned and he said.. "most women would say it's a choker"
And I said "but I'm not most women".
And he said... "well, by the looks of you in that COLLAR, I would say not.... nice to know that about you".
*GRIN*
yuppietowngirl said:Wow that is brilliant *s* What a wonderful way to start the weekend *s* This made me smile...it is nice to see someone happy.
woodcarver said:If you find some extra....would you send us some?
vixenshe said:it made me feel desired.. it made me want to submit right away, because he had such command in his voice... it's like he became larger than life, when he knew what it was, and said he liked it...
incredible.
woodcarver said:damn collar is choking me though....anyone know where I can buy a collar larger that then normal size. Guess that means that I have a fat neck? I dont think so. Muscled....hell no. Why do they always just make standard size stiff? Oops.....stuff. We cant even buy a harness for the wife so I had to make one.
Oops...too much coffee again.
FungiUg said:Well, I can't comment on the too much coffee, but you might consider making a collar for yourself. Sort of as a project. That way you can make it as large as need be, and as comfortable as need be.
I would have thought a collar would be easier to make than a harness... but perhaps I'm mistaken.
Here in New Zealand we only have small dogs... the cats tend to beat up on them all the time.Shadowsdream said:The pet store has large and very beautiful collars..as beautiful, ornamental and strong as any found in fetish stores if you need a large size.
bunny bondage said:dogs get the best stuff
...and i forget who was mentioning this, but a personalized dog-dish for a sub is also a neat idea.
RandomInk said:Vixen's idea, and awesome response from her friend, is insipring.
I don't think I could get away with wearing a collar all day
1) I'm a guy and it doesn't look as good outside of the lifestyle
2) I go to a prep-school with dress code
3) Of the many things my parents don't know... this is one they probably shouldn't
However, I think I'll purchase some nice leather strips and make myself some cuffs or something for my wrists. It'll remind me all day, it'll look good, and hopefully someone will notice.
Thumbs up to Vixen, gotta love sexual tension
bunny bondage said:
and i forget who was mentioning this, but a personalized dog-dish for a sub is also a neat idea.
vixenshe said:So not true. I wear it because it makes me feel submissive, it makes me feel sexy... it makes me feel like I have this sexy secret that only a priveliged few would pick up on.
catalina_francisco said:The sacredness of the collar has always been important to me, and as much as I longed for it to be something I could experience personally, I could not contemplate wearing something in the hope it would appear to another I was an active submissive and part of the lifestyle. This was more out of respect for the significance of the collar, more than fear of outing my lifestyle choices, as I have never sought to deny my inclusion in BDSM. Chokers and other such jewellry have been a part of my wardrobe as long as I remember, especially as I was a teen in the 70's when it was a fashion trend, but never as a pretend collar or source of attracting attention.
So on reading this thread I began to think perhaps I had missed something and misunderstood the collar totally. Being ever curious, I researched but did not find anything where it was seriously considered by lifestylers as a decoration to intrigue others, nor an invitation to approach. In fact for a Dominant to approach a collared submissive uninvited by their D is by most considered ill mannered at the very least, disrespectful by most. I can understand the longing, but feel this trivialises the purpose of a collar as a symbol of commitment between themselves and their Dominant and all it entails.
http://www.steel-door.com/Consideration_Collar.html
This article expresses and reflects my understanding and adherence to the tradition of being collared.
Catalina
vixenshe said:I don't wear my collar to attract attention.. I wear it because it is a reminder to ME that I am a submissive. I wear it because it makes me feel beautiful and sexy and submissive, and it makes me think of Sir. It is not his collar, and it is not the collar of any other Dom... it is MY collar, my own reminder. If Sir were ever to collar me, I would wear it with the respect you describe, but it is merely my own reminder. And yes, Sir knows of it, etc.
At the time that I began this thread, however, I was Sir-less. And I wore it for the same reasons.. it makes me feel beautiful and sexy, and it reminds me that submission is an integral part of me.
The man at work did not approach me.. he merely asked a question, and liked the response. There had been much flirting etc between he and I prior to that point, and there is still much attention given to each other. He now knows about my lifestyle, and only before he knew about Sir did he take a dominant tone with me... which made my knees weak.. but then I explained Sir and he immediately respected that.
And besides. Just because there is theory and 'dogma' as it were, on how a collar should be viewed and understood, does not mean that I will buy into it. I've spent the last 3 years of my life rejecting the dogma of the religion I was raised in... I am someone who lives my life to make ME feel comfortable and okay, and as such, I have very different understandings of some things than others do.