I have always wanted to ask the Dominants....

[AngelicAssassin]

Maybe another take?

What does it FEEL like?

Caress the lip of a well made glass with a fingertip wet from a wine that makes your mouth come alive.

When you say a word and your sub's lip begins to tremble, how does it really feel?

Remember that glass mentioned above?

You can actually press hard onto the lip of the glass to get that sound.

How much more elegant to barely caress the lip and get the same response ...

When you spank a lily white set of buttocks is (it) all about the erection and arousal or is there a "Domspace", a headspace that you float into?

If i made "the play" to win a national championship, won the Gold, etc. i would reply to the question "where are you going to go now that you've just (insert major accomplishment)" with "i'm going to the Magic Kingdom," and i'm not speaking of Disney World.

When you are both lying spent and exhausted and you are holding her close, bringing her out of subspace, what does it feel like?

Heaven on earth.

Are you a Dominant who enjoys your subs tears as part of your play?

Or, should your sub beginning weeping in frustration or pain, do you feel a need to comfort and perhaps feel a bit guilty?

How do tears play into your getting what you need from a scene?

Yes, i find no shame in dacryphylia. That doesn't mean a little guilt ain't present as well. As for "getting what you need?" Think dessert.

One can have vanilla ice cream with berries.

One can also have the same ice cream drenched in strawberries with Pernod, Gran Marnier, and a little pepper.

 

[snowy ciara]

Question.. WriterDom mentioned back on page one that he once pushed a sub past her limits, and said that it was due to a lack of communication.

When you're doing something edgy, how do you know when to stop if the sub doesn't safeword? Is it a feeling, an instinct? Just an arbitrary decision on your part? I mean, sometimes there reaches a point where you've pushed your body too far and really should safeword, but due to your headspace, you're incapable of safewording. So how does a Dom gauge when their sub has had enough?

 

[Learn Humility]

When you're doing something edgy, how do you know when to stop if the sub doesn't safeword? Is it a feeling, an instinct?.....how does a Dom gauge when their sub has had enough?

Feeling and instinct certainly play an important part. So does body language on the part of the submissive.

But as I seek to expand limits, I never try for "too much expansion" all at once. I go for small increments each time, as
1) It is easier for the submissive to handle, and
2) It leaves something for us both to think about, anticipate, and look forward to for the next time.