I have heard some women say there is such a thing as too big.. have you ever actually

[sphynx's dragon]

Ok, here's what confuses me. I'm not into cyber (I figure why bother with it when I can get laid anytime I want), but if I was what would the guys size matter? It's not like it's gonna get in me, no matter the size.

It's supposed to spark your imagination and get lustful thoughts running thru your head as you contemplate it! Of course I never really got into it either. Just seemed like a waste of time. I only did it really when I was seperated from my girlfriend for some reason, then I would with her.

 

[graceanne]

It's supposed to spark your imagination and get lustful thoughts running thru your head as you contemplate it! Of course I never really got into it either. Just seemed like a waste of time. I only did it really when I was seperated from my girlfriend for some reason, then I would with her.

If you're using your imagination anyway, why not just imagine it's whatever size you want it to be?

Hell, if I wanted I could tell people I was 5'10", 130 lbs, with 36D boobs and blonde hair.

 

[sphynx's dragon]

If you're using your imagination anyway, why not just imagine it's whatever size you want it to be?

Hell, if I wanted I could tell people I was 5'10", 130 lbs, with 36D boobs and blonde hair.

Hehehe...in that case I'm 6'4" 225 lbs of pure muscle...hehehehe Only minor changes here. I think.

 

[graceanne]

Hehehe...in that case I'm 6'4" 225 lbs of pure muscle...hehehehe Only minor changes here. I think.

lol Well mine were big whopping lies. To start out I'm only 5' tall. I'm not gonna go into my weight, but I'd KILL to be 130 lbs. My boobs are disgustingly big, and my hair is nearly black.

 

[h_i_s]

Ok, here's what confuses me. I'm not into cyber (I figure why bother with it when I can get laid anytime I want), but if I was what would the guys size matter? It's not like it's gonna get in me, no matter the size.

i share the sentiment .... plus why cyber in the first place??

i don't cyber. i can't type with one hand.

One hand becomes useless in the cyber scenario. It's occupied with typing.

i always figured, if i'm gonna have to masturbate to get off ....
(cause ya know, that's what cyber really comes down to: mutual masturbation)....
it's going to be *my* fantasy with no one else's input to muck it all up....
& damn certain it won't be while sitting in an uncompfortable computer chair...
& i can find better ways to put my typing hand to use.

 

[graceanne]

i share the sentiment .... plus why cyber in the first place??

i don't cyber. i can't type with one hand.

One hand becomes useless in the cyber scenario. It's occupied with typing.

i always figured, if i'm gonna have to masturbate to get off (cause that's what cyber really comes down to: mutual masturbation).... it's going to be *my* fantasy with no one else's input to muck it all up.... & damn certain it won't be while sitting in an uncompfortable computer chair... & i can find better ways to put my typing hand to use.

Well, their's that, too. If I'm gonna masturbate I'd rather do it in some comfort and privacy. I don't wanna have to be paying attention to the screne. And I need two hands to orgasm.

 

[Xelebes]

Why can't we just stick to steamy love letters if separated?

 

[CorsetLvr]

To tell the truth, I agree. I could care less about size (K's average). And both my friend, my sister, and my mom (all who are or have been promiscuous) say that guys who have a lot of inches are generally lazy lovers.

I hate to stereotype but in general I would have to agree with them on that one. My experience is they have this attitude like, "Here it is, isn't it huge, you can start having multiple orgasms anytime you like." I have been with a few big guys and I can't say it has been a really great experience for me. First off I'm not a very large woman. Second, having my cervix pounded is not enjoyable for me. Even if a woman is into pain play, having your cervix pounded on like a bass drum is not an enjoyable form of pain unless you are a total pain slut. About 8 - 8 1/2" is my limit for most positions. I can handle longer, but only if I'm on top and can control the depth. For vaginal sex I love a nice thick cock. Girth is something I prefer over length, within reason. Obviously, large girth can be a problem for anal or oral. So there are afavantages and disadvantages to everything.

But putting all this aside, cock size is not really that important to me. Guys, no matter how big you cock is, its not what makes you a good lover. Please get over it!!! Regardless of what you think it doesn't really matter to that many women either. There may be a few "size queens" out there, or maybe a woman that is curious about what it would be like, but its doesn't rule our sexual fantasies. What makes a man a good lover that will bring a woman back for more is sensitivity to her needs, consideration of her pleasure, and a desire by you to please her. This applies to both BDSM and vanilla sex. I'm sure there are other things that fit in here, but they will vary from woman to woman. Step 1: Just accept what you have and learn how to use it. If you do that you will be way ahead of a lot of other men out there, maybe even most of them, regardless of their endowment.

 

[shy slave]

I have cybered...once

It was in a vanilla chat room, I got bored it seemed to consist of:

'Oh yeah, oh yeah

'Thats good, real good'

Then silence before saying

'Oh wow you really do it for me'

I ended up surfing other sites, talking on the phone and wishing like hell the guy would cum so I could do something more interesting.

Because of doing other things at the same time, the silences were probably a bit too long.

Of course I did wonder if he was in front of his computer thinking 'Damn I bored, I wish she would cum'

LOL

I was married twice, if I wanted to fake it, I would have stayed in either marriage.

The advantage of R/l faking over net faking is that he doesn't last as long, so you get to wander off and do something fun within a couple of minutes

 

[FurryFury]

LMAO Shy!

Yeah they do seem to come faster in RL!

Except sometimes when you are trying to make them come with a strap on in your face. Ah well.

This is why when I did cyber I preferred to do it as role play. If he doesn't understand setting the tone and being VERY descriptive it doesn't work for me.

What you described doesn't sound like my kind of cybering.

When that is all they can manage I call it service in my own mind cause I'm not getting anything out of it.

Fury

 

[Rrrosyn]

I have heard some women say there is such a thing as too big.. have you ever actually ever experienced a cock that was too big ? What did you do ?

Cock, no. It's been a requirement that subs not be too large. Dildos, yes. Hate them. In fact anything over 6 inches bothers me. My sub is larger but I am overweight. I hope he isn't too big once I lose the cushion.

 

[marieR19]

I have nothing to add to the thread topic, since I have never had the experiance of a cock inside me, whether big, small, or medium sized.
However, the cyber thing... My gf and I cyber sometimes. I used to hate it and would never do it, mainly because I'm pretty shy and can't really get the words out.... Even in typing. (Wait, how can I be an erotica writer if I'm that shy?? lol) But for me, the one and only reason that I like cybering is because it helps me imagine us actually doing it. Being away from her so much so often for such long periods of time make me miss her a LOT, and when we cyber I can picture us doing exactly what we are saying, and it feels like sometimes it brings us closer together... damn that sounds so corny. But it's true.

Heather

 

[Succulent-one]

There was only one guy that I have actually sat back and said.....Oh my God, are you going to stick that thing in me. He is at least 8 1/2 inches, a girth I could hardly get my hand around, and it has a curve (that hits the g spot really nicely) Now when he went deep, I thought he was going to come out the top of my head. It took me awhile to get used to him, and we used some lube the first couple of times, and it still hurt.

I still don't care what size the guy is. It all comes down to, can they make me cum and cum and cum...

 

[Missingmeds]

I hate to stereotype but in general I would have to agree with them on that one. My experience is they have this attitude like, "Here it is, isn't it huge, you can start having multiple orgasms anytime you like." I have been with a few big guys and I can't say it has been a really great experience for me. First off I'm not a very large woman. Second, having my cervix pounded is not enjoyable for me. Even if a woman is into pain play, having your cervix pounded on like a bass drum is not an enjoyable form of pain unless you are a total pain slut. About 8 - 8 1/2" is my limit for most positions. I can handle longer, but only if I'm on top and can control the depth. For vaginal sex I love a nice thick cock. Girth is something I prefer over length, within reason. Obviously, large girth can be a problem for anal or oral. So there are afavantages and disadvantages to everything.

But putting all this aside, cock size is not really that important to me. Guys, no matter how big you cock is, its not what makes you a good lover. Please get over it!!! Regardless of what you think it doesn't really matter to that many women either. There may be a few "size queens" out there, or maybe a woman that is curious about what it would be like, but its doesn't rule our sexual fantasies. What makes a man a good lover that will bring a woman back for more is sensitivity to her needs, consideration of her pleasure, and a desire by you to please her. This applies to both BDSM and vanilla sex. I'm sure there are other things that fit in here, but they will vary from woman to woman. Step 1: Just accept what you have and learn how to use it. If you do that you will be way ahead of a lot of other men out there, maybe even most of them, regardless of their endowment.

One of the top ten posts ever posted on Lit. Not to mention that I happen to totally agree with you, CorsetLvr. I am a larger woman and still if a man is 9 or more inches and doesn't know what he is doing it can hurt. I keep saying to men, "It isn't the size of the ship, but the knowledge of the Captain that counts."

 

[Etoile]

I have never encountered anything - living or otherwise - that was bigger than I wanted to take in my pussy. I am a major size queen, I always want it bigger! Is it any wonder I'm such a fisting aficionado? What I have found, though, is that in addition to physical limitations (believe me, I've tried some huge stuff) there is also a practical limit. When playing with certain large toys - one was 10" length and 2.5" diameter - I have found I invariably get an infection afterward. This also happens during fisting sometimes - Daddy's hands are a bit larger than my wife's, although e doesn't fist me nearly as often as she does. So even though I want to take more, I know I'll pay the price for it later. Sometimes this keeps me from taking the big stuff, and sometimes I just want it so bad I don't care.

 

[sexslut]

Size

I had the opportunity to fuck a HUGE dick once...I said no thanks. Every other cock I've had the pleasure of fucking was about 8 inches. So as far as I can tell that's about average. I think there must be a whole lot of averaging going on to get that number (6 inches I think it was)to be as small as I hear is average...for a white guy.

 

[Etoile]

I had the opportunity to fuck a HUGE dick once...I said no thanks. Every other cock I've had the pleasure of fucking was about 8 inches. So as far as I can tell that's about average. I think there must be a whole lot of averaging going on to get that number (6 inches I think it was)to be as small as I hear is average...for a white guy.

Just a random note - ErectionPhotos.com has interesting information on average penises.

 

[Scandichck]

Never came across anyone too big. And I've seen some pretty big ones.
If women can give birth to a baby, a big cock shouldn't be a problem.

 

[CorsetLvr]

I had the opportunity to fuck a HUGE dick once...I said no thanks. Every other cock I've had the pleasure of fucking was about 8 inches. So as far as I can tell that's about average. I think there must be a whole lot of averaging going on to get that number (6 inches I think it was)to be as small as I hear is average...for a white guy.

I'm just wondering where you are finding these 8" "average" cocks. Perhaps I should ask where you buy your measuring tapes?

 

[graceanne]

Never came across anyone too big. And I've seen some pretty big ones.
If women can give birth to a baby, a big cock shouldn't be a problem.

It takes hours for a woman to dialate to have a baby. I'm not shoving something 10 cm's up inside me. (And actually my kids had 14 cm heads).

 

[Rrrosyn]

Never came across anyone too big. And I've seen some pretty big ones.
If women can give birth to a baby, a big cock shouldn't be a problem.

*writes this down as reason 372 not to have children*

 

[FurryFury]

I fucked a huge dildo the other day/night. The damn thing is 12 inches long, 1.75 inches wide, and 5 inches around.

Fury

 

[JupitersGirl]

I fucked a huge dildo the other day/night. The damn thing is 12 inches long, 1.75 inches wide, and 5 inches around.

Fury

Braggart!

 

[FurryFury]

Braggart!

I'm actually shocked I did that. It's not my style at all.

Fury

 

[jadefirefly]

I've not -quite- found 'too big', but I've come damned close.

I was with a guy once who once said (as part of a story, and not as a brag, and loooooooong before we ever slept together) that he was about 9 inches. I never measured, but upon closer inspection I'd have to say that's fairly accurate. And there were times when I almost wished he was smaller.

Almost.

I really doubt I'd be interested in anything (or anyone ) much bigger than that. I kind of get bitchy when it feels like someone's trying to shove my cervix into my throat, you know?