Ideas for non-physical punishment

[patchdog]

personally I like humiliation

 

[RJMasters]

Here is one that needs a bit of care, but...

Sleep deprivation.

Again advise care in the use of this and encourage some advance study in the technique of it in knowing the risks involved in it.

 

[RJMasters]

Lack of contact or refusal of any attention would be the most painful for me.
All those insecurities which, for the most part, lay dormant would surface quicker than he could finish telling me what would happen.
That would seriously mess with my psyche, perhaps it would be different if it was not an LDR, but whilst it is, it would have longer effects that perhaps he intended.

For many of the reasons you stated here, this is percisely why I do not like isolation as a form of punishement. Yes I recognise that it can be an effective form of punishment and it does have some serious sting to it, however its a double edged sword.

In one sense it does produce the consequences in which you describe here. In short order it turns the submissive's world on its head and has a tremendious shock value. Obvioulsy the value of this is to ensure a correct perspective is obtained. To be blunt about it, its says I am part of the foundation in which your world rest upon, let's see how good you do when I just rip that foundation away. Pretty fucking scary if you ask me.

But consider the other edge of that sword or the consequences of using it. It creates fear, causes confusion, and produces a loss of confidence. If used rarely it can be effective in shaking up a person's world, used as a matter of recourse, it can quickly destroy other valuable areas in which the rest of the relationship rests on.

When punishment must be brought, I feel an active role on the part of the dominant is important. It communicates that no matter how bad the punishment may be, they are still there. This gives a measure of hope and trust that the submissive can hold onto while facing the punishment, knowing that when it is over, their dominant will be there. In some ways this will even deepen the trust of the relationship as it teaches when things are bad, they are not abandoned.

Isolation produces feelings of abandonment and tares the fabric of trust. Even when the punishment is over, the submissive might subconsciously hold back a part of themselves out of fear of facing abandonment. Also, while feeling abandoned, it attacks a person's hope. If done enough or with a measure of success, that person can fall into dispair and lead to a downward spiral they cannot recover from.

Sometimes its kinda like winning an argument...You can win the arguement and still be wrong. You may get your point across, but what's left over is nothing to be proud of and can often be a hallow and empty victory.

 

[sweetandkinky]

Have her kneel in the corner, fully straight back and legs, and hold the tip of her nose against the wall for 5 minutes. Eventually, even the most fit sub will be out of breath from holding this position and it's gradual agony.

Oh yes