If BDSM wasn't taboo

[omniavincet]

This is a great question. I think one useful comparison would be to imagine what if being gay was all of a sudden socially accepted. Would people stop being gay? Hardly. For most people I know into BDSM, it's a part of their personality, their DNA, or whatever, and nothing would change because people stopped discriminating against them because they were different. But on the other hand, it is also true that bdsmers, like the gay community, have a "stance" or attitude toward mainstream culture and accepted behavior. I know that I personally have been a sub since before I was aware of society and social norms, but like a few others have mentioned, I get some weird special sauce out of knowing just how pervy I am compared to others. If society got more accepting new bdsmers probably wouldn't have that to work with, but I don't think it would change who they are (thank God).

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[VelvetDarkness]

As to why people want to share, to an extent, it is human nature. when you expreience something truly incredible, you want to talk about. Partially to experess your own pleasure at having been a part of it, and partly to organise your own thoughts about it internally through the mechanism of giving voice to it externally.

In short, by sharing what happened, you increase your own understanding and realisation of what has occurred.

Additionally, when you are involved in any activity, there is a tendency to want to congregate with those what share your interests. Again, human nature, as we are social animals. And when social animals get together, they chat. Nature.

Yeah, all of this applies to me. Also Master and I are relatively new to D/s so I glean a lot of useful practical information here besides anything else. It does mean a lot to be able to post and say 'X happened between Master and I and it was great/ it went wrong and I need advice.'

If someone gives you a flute and sends you to an orchestra, will you be able to play it? Of course not. You need 1 to 1 advice from somebody who has already learned to play the flute. That's one of the main functions of this forum for me.

To my knowledge, Master doesn't post here. He knows that I do and that I've made online acquaintances whose friendship and advice I value. I doubt he'd be unhappy with anything I've shared but I know I'd have to be more self conscious about posting if I knew he was a poster here with his own virtual reptation to uphold.