Inability to get off for Top

[Shankara20]

Double

ended

Nexus.

but yes, my attention span is finite, indeed. And this one's so totally bottomless once you get him going. Or if he's getting tired of it, he's not letting me know...hm.

train him - (easy for me to say - hee hee)

The ProDomme I lived with hated that sort of bottom for exactly the things you are saying...

 

[ownedsubgal]

to the OP:

some people just can't "get off" that way. i know when men have ordered me to masturbate in front of them, i've just mimicked the motions i've seen girls do in pornos...because 1. i'm not big on masturbation and 2. i've never even heard of another female masturbating in the particular way that i do, and 3. i don't masturbate to orgasm, since i don't care about orgasm. i have absolutely no idea how to make myself cum. so, if someone wants this...to watch me get myself off...they've got the wrong chick. it ain't gonna happen.

i also can't orgasm on command....or even arouse myself on command. just knowing that that's what someone wants will kill any hint of arousal that may have been stirring inside of me.

 

[myinnerslut]

i also can't orgasm on command....or even arouse myself on command. just knowing that that's what someone wants will kill any hint of arousal that may have been stirring inside of me.

cumming on command has been a bit of a problem for me.. ive explained to Sir that i cant unless i am very turned on. When i am close to cumming already or when i have been denied the ability to cum and would have already if he had let me, then all i have to do is stop myself from holding back. if im not that turned on already, then i just cant. it frustrates him a little, but hey, what can a girl do?

 

[Cherrysweetdeal]

As long as I'm having fun and I'm not in any sort of um.. bad pain?... Then I will not stop him, for the most part I'll stick to the can we switch position kind of question or just get him to stay still incase my leg cramps.

If it hurts and I can't take much more or I don't really feel like I HAVE to cum then I will tell him. There are times when he will Orgasm and at the end he goes for my clit I tend to say I don't want to be touched at the moment and we just curl up and cuddle.

Either way we will both ask to switch positions if we have no real affection(I think thats the right word) for it. Though I do sometimes like to orgasm it has never been a huge thing and it could be the last care in the world sometimes the long drawn out teasing and play is more fun then the orgasm itself.

 

[serijules]

Other than just starting in and stopping when I feel like it, I ask now the "I don't have to come, it just feels good" section of this thread - what kind of denouement or peak do you aim at? How do you and your top decide the "ok that was great, let's get waffles" point has been reached? I feel like I'm locked into the "orgasm is the point" thing or "catharsis and supspace is the point" thing with corporal (I'm kind of wired like a guy in some ways) that I don't have adequate sensitivity to how to "read" a person who's in it for other reasons, sexually. Any clues to make me less clueless?

Hrm, I've never thought about it as I have no say in the matter, and that's what I like best about it.

I'm not sure when SHE has reached the "lets get waffles" point. When she tires of torturing me I imagine.

 

[Netzach]

Hrm, I've never thought about it as I have no say in the matter, and that's what I like best about it.

I'm not sure when SHE has reached the "lets get waffles" point. When she tires of torturing me I imagine.

So basically, whenever she's through, she can just pull the plug as it were, grab you by the hand and say OK missy, that was fun.

Has a nice ring to it, actually.

 

[the captians wench]

Well said, and exactly how I feel as well.

I can play for hours, be teased and touched....and not orgasm and be fine with that. In fact, the extra frustration from either not being allowed or not being able to is just all that more fun for me. I've had partners that were very focused on my orgasms and it got to the point where it was just easier to fake it than deal with their "I don't turn you on, you are not into me" woebegones afterwards. I'm so thankful I don't feel that way with Ma'am.

I have to ask permission to orgasm when Ma'am is playing with me and while I like the control aspect of being made to ask, it adds pressure and makes it harder for me to come because I feel like I HAVE to right after I ask, even if it takes more play and time to get me there. So I end up feeling hurried and frustrated. I need to talk to her about this because I think if I know it's ok that I don't come immediately, I'll feel better about it as I really DO like having to ask.

I'm glad you mentioned feeling like you have to right after asking; I've felt that too. I think I must be pretty obvious when I'm close because I start being probed with questions at that time, no matter who is playing with me. "Humm wenchie?" "Do you want something?" "what is it wenchie?" that sort of thing. But sometimes I'm not done enjoying the ride yet, but when I'm asked, I feel like I have to ask to cum, and then I feel like I have to cum. But this problem is usually solved by the player hitting the "she cums on command" button. Damn it sometimes that feature is annoying! It's like I'm not finished enjoying the play yet, and I think I can hold off and make him play more and bam he whips out the "cum now" card and I'm sliding into home. But man do I love it!

 

[MasterPhoenix]

the vulnerability of it is what excites me. i love masturbating for Master while He's giving me orders or talking 'dirty' to me, calling me names or whatever, it's a huge turn on but i can see where for others it might be the oppisite. and as with every boundry or limit that is being pushed the Dom needs to be patient and realize it may not work on the first attempt, that's what i don't get about the Dom in this situation. many limits are not overcome the first try, some take time to break that barrier down. if at first you don't suceed, try, try again and again and again...just my two cents of course

Baby, you can cum on command.... so that isn't much pf a problem.

 

[serijules]

So basically, whenever she's through, she can just pull the plug as it were, grab you by the hand and say OK missy, that was fun.

Has a nice ring to it, actually.

Exactly.

And I know better than to do anything other than say "thank you Ma'am"

 

[Mamid]

an hour later, he still hasn't and I need an ice pack. my bits are going to be sore for days.

And I thought he took long before...