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[shy slave]

my posts are not intended to "jump" on anyone, my intention was to help move the convo past the word stupid and nothing more.

Many words like sane, safe, stupid & intelligent are all open to interpretation. Its easy to jump to conclusions, not all of us use the same words to describe the same thing. So now we have that all figured out

Can anyone name 101 alternative words for intelligence and stupid.

Any takers lol

 

[Kajira Callista]

Many words like sane, safe, stupid & intelligent are all open to interpretation. Its easy to jump to conclusions, not all of us use the same words to describe the same thing. So now we have that all figured out

Can anyone name 101 alternative words for intelligence and stupid.

Any takers lol

and who is jumping on whom darling?

 

[Netzach]

You know Net, I generally like the way your mind works - no, for the most part, I really enjoy the way your mind works.

I "felt good" about this post ... until the last line. IMO - and remember this is MY opinion - I'm not sure I could sub for someone who made me feel dumb AND awed.

Intelligence is what is atractive to my online M. He desires slaves he can talk to about more things than what their mouths are doing while wrapped around his cock.

I must admit - I am in awe of Master and I appreciate his patience when I am not thinking through an issue I have laid at his feet (a lot like Francisco's patience when I have a difference of opinion with him). However, if Master EVER made me feel dumb, I would very likely not remain in his company long.

Esclava

Fair enough, but that's what *I* needed.

The one submissive experience I revisit with relish most...was doing a dog scene with G, in public, he picked me up in his car and I was a dog the moment I got in the front seat. A really eager, big, STUPID dog, a 3 year old saluki. I retreated very happily comfortably and easily into being a pup. I often think about trying that out again with the right person, probably G again...I'd just probably freak out clients if they heard about it, but who really cares.

Being talked over, having my stupidity and naivete and cute but dumb antics the subject of the discussion while having to do nothing more complicated than gnaw on a nyla bone and let people admire my form and pet my ears....

it was kind of a welcome thing for someone who, her whole freaking life, has been "the smart one" it was really validating.

 

[dolf]

it was kind of a welcome thing for someone who, her whole freaking life, has been "the smart one" it was really validating.

Netzach, that is so true. i'm sure there are lots of people here who can understand how cruel it can feel to be labeled "the smart on" yet again. i just want to be small & squishy and curl up at his feet.
xx

 

[shy slave]

and who is jumping on whom darling?

Ahh but you called me Darling..does this mean its love?!

 

[h_i_s]

posie --


If you paid any attention in reading the following parts of my post:

1) (and yes i know 'i picked him' and he did a very good job of hiding this from many).

2) There were many areas of difficulty within that relationship and this is what convinced me that the issues were not capable of being resolved (communication means EVERYTHING.. without it... ALL is doomed).

You'd might have understood that:

1) i accept responsibility in having exercised poor judgement in not choosing a good partner for myself in the first place.

2) i DID mention that the relationship had many areas of difficulty, however i did not mention sex as an example. --Nothing wrong with sticking around for 5 years TRYING to make it work & it beats simply quitting and not trying at all. *smiles*

Although i can be capable of understanding any confusion you may have found in reading my post, your having resorted to name calling, 'flaming', and/or assumptions as to my charactor is unwarranted. i am always open to questions as well as further discussion of anything i may post and preferre that you concider that route as an alternative in the future.

"I like to look good, that makes me a tease. I like to get off, that makes me a slut. Trust me I have no problem being labeled a bitch."

--Superior? Well to some i am sure i may be. (There is always someone out there who is far more superior than the next. Alas, i don't judge myself via competition with others though, as i am geared towards self-competition, IE: self improvement. ) --Regardless ... *sings in an off pitch soprano chant* Sticks & stones may break my bones ...

Ease up and learn to play nicely with others, posie ... respect & honor go a long way within the lifestyle of BDSM.


*** Apologies to A/all for the rant. However, this one is submissive, .... not equal a doormat nor a willing target for unwarranted flaming posts from others. ***

P.S. Ahhhh ... see? i'm NOT superior! i even had to edit this post due to typos & a few mispellings. Imagine that! hehe

 

[dolf]

well said!...and now that all the bitching is out of the way.....

is it important to subs that the Dom/me is smarter than them?
or not?

xx

 

[h_i_s]

To me importance is not based on O/one or the O/ther being smarter or having HIGHER intelligence so much as it is based on a level of compatibility of such. Would i say that the O/one may have a higher level in comparison to A/another? No, as i wouldn't normally phrase it as such in that W/we A/all have different areas in which W/we may excel. Good example: The One known to me as Master loves to fish. i don't fish. i am very knowledgeable in regard to writing HTML from scratch and do very well at such. Does my lack of understanding in fishing make me out to be of a lesser level of intelligence? Does His lack of HTML make Him less superior intelligence wise in comparison to me? No & no.

i enjoy knowing that my Dom is intelligent. He would say likewise of myself, i am certain. i know that when W/we each were seeking to find each O/other intelligence was a concideration. i wouldn't say E/either of U/us thought of it as searching for O/one who was smarter so much as W/we were merely seeking O/one of a comparable level of intelligence as W/we both knew it would serve a relationship well if W/we B/both know that communication is important, therefore W/we wished for O/one that W/we could at least enjoy a good conversation with, and having common goals, and JUST the basic understanding of what MAKES for a good solid relationship to begin with.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I simply cannot relate, on a long-term basis, to anyone who is not "book smart" . It's one of those "shared values" that are so important to the success of a union.

 

[Pure]

Shy Slave said

//Pure was this questioned aimed at dolf being with someone she realised was stupid or at Kajira or Sir_Winston for mis-reading dolfs (who is a relatively new lit person and doesn't need jumped on) intention in the orginal post??//

It was directed at Dolf (or any others) who complain about mates' or friends' stupidity--it bounces back. Far from her example being the exception (the fellow who wouldn't argue about airplane pilots), I had the impression that was the rule. After all, her initial post said

"90% of the men I meet don't measure up for me" [in intelligence].

Please note I stated I agreed with Kajira on one key point. I don't know anything about "Sir_Winston", though the handle raises some interesting questions.

Since I don't know dolf, these are merely impressions from her postings. I'm sure she is a fine, if conflicted, person.

 

[dolf]

Since I don't know dolf, these are merely impressions from her postings. I'm sure she is a fine, if conflicted, person.

conflicted...lol, that's true!
I meant something very specific when I said that 90% don't measure up. I wasn't implying that I am better than 90% of people. I was complaining that only 10% of the men I meet have the ability to head fuck me. like I said before, I love a good head fuck (as long as it's not in an evil sadistic way) and the older & more experienced I become the sooner I spot the "game".
I'm kinda twisted in that I get a kick from mental wrestling and prefer to lose!

when it comes to other types of smarts I NEED the person to be better in some way because...well, just because I guess

my ex partner was less "book smart" than me, but as an engineer he had an amazing ability to understand mechanics. it fascinated me and in the 6 years we were together I never stopped learning!
I can't fix cars but it's satisfying for me to know how a gear box works anyway.
I've had partners who were very intelligent in music (it's not all talent but brains too, especially in jazz) and although I NEVER grasped it fully the challenge of trying was wonderful.

the only man to ever mind fuck me was dyslexic to the point of illiterate (too bad he was also an evil SOB) and when the mind fuck was done for fun rather than malice the feeling of being outfoxed was fantastic.

xx

 

[Pure]

dolf said,

I love a good head fuck (as long as it's not in an evil sadistic way)

Well, I shall keep my eyes peeled for altruistic and beneficent headfuckers. I seem to remember some on this forum.

 

[Betticus]

To me importance is not based on O/one or the O/ther being smarter or having HIGHER intelligence so much as it is based on a level of compatibility of such. Would i say that the O/one may have a higher level in comparison to A/another? No, as i wouldn't normally phrase it as such in that W/we A/all have different areas in which W/we may excel. Good example: The One known to me as Master loves to fish. i don't fish. i am very knowledgeable in regard to writing HTML from scratch and do very well at such. Does my lack of understanding in fishing make me out to be of a lesser level of intelligence? Does His lack of HTML make Him less superior intelligence wise in comparison to me? No & no.

i enjoy knowing that my Dom is intelligent. He would say likewise of myself, i am certain. i know that when W/we each were seeking to find each O/other intelligence was a concideration. i wouldn't say E/either of U/us thought of it as searching for O/one who was smarter so much as W/we were merely seeking O/one of a comparable level of intelligence as W/we both knew it would serve a relationship well if W/we B/both know that communication is important, therefore W/we wished for O/one that W/we could at least enjoy a good conversation with, and having common goals, and JUST the basic understanding of what MAKES for a good solid relationship to begin with.

I promise that no-one here will say anything negative to you if you were to drop the A/a W/w D/s capitalization thing. It really makes reading these posts a tedius chore. It could be just me though, I hate to be called sir but I love to be called daddy. Go figure.

 

[dolf]

ok, never say I'm inflexible, lol.

here I am making I complete u-turn on what I thought I wanted. I've been having an interesting conversation with someone about my needs and motives. their opinions were more reasoned and perceptive than my own and I've had one of those "oh yes, now I understand" moments. I guess sometimes you don't know what you really feel unless it's pointed out!

I'm far too scarred, bruised fragile to be playing games constantly (my pride doesn't like admitting this at all, but pride isn't always a good thing) and the thrill of getting twisted about doesn't compare to the relief of feeling safe and nurtured. that's not to say that brains become unimportant, i still need stimulation.

so.....calm stability and kindness {with a kinky side }
xx

 

[Kajira Callista]

 

[shy slave]

tiny hijack

KJ what does the Latin with your pic mean, I have never studied Latin and in that dept am as thick as a plank. Thanks in advance

Apologies to dolf, for the interuption. x

 

[Kajira Callista]

Re: tiny hijack

KJ what does the Latin with your pic mean, I have never studied Latin and in that dept am as thick as a plank. Thanks in advance

Apologies to dolf, for the interuption. x

what nourishes me destroys me

 

[RJMasters]

so.....calm stability and kindness {with a kinky side }
xx

That sounds sensible, healthy and fun

 

[shy slave]

Re: Re: tiny hijack

what nourishes me destroys me

Thank KJ
Thats a wonderful line ~ now i wish i had learnt Latin@@

 

[dolf]

That sounds sensible, healthy and fun

yes it does!
i love talking to really wise people.they are a rare thing in this world. it lifts my heart to know that people like that exist.
xx

 

[Netzach]

I simply cannot relate, on a long-term basis, to anyone who is not "book smart" . It's one of those "shared values" that are so important to the success of a union.

Amen.

But for someone else liking to hike in the outdoors could be a dealbreaker, I would be ruled out, and that's fine.

People who are book smart just tend to like to read a lot.

Hence I can't seem to tear myself away from Lit when I should be packing boxes.