Is anal sex gay? - if you're male?

[JMohegan]

I suspect you would consider bisexual as an option.

Your suspicion is correct, sir.

Other options include gay, bi-curious, heteroflexible, homoflexible, or Guy Who Wants to Please ITW. I'm sure there are more.

Hopefully no one will be offended if I admit to finding the terminology confusing and the definitions fluid.

The only thing I can say with any conviction on this subject is that a guy who likes actual dick up his ass is not straight.

I hear that this is your first thought.

Might I ask, how would a straight Top who enjoys having his ass played with every-now-and-then get pleasure?

How 'bout if he directed his bottom to do his ass?

Some guys enjoy the feel of something all slippery sliding in and out their 'ol bum massaging the prostate.

I appreciate that you hear my first thought.

I would appreciate it even more if you hear my second thought as well.

As stated: "I realize this may not be true in every case."

 

[Netzach]

I'd say, from the average personality of the person who was trying to get me to fuck him in the ass during a paid session after I told him, no, I don't DO that, it's not even very often the case.

 

[JMohegan]

I'd say, from the average personality of the person who was trying to get me to fuck him in the ass during a paid session after I told him, no, I don't DO that, it's not even very often the case.

Okay, not submissive. Bottom. Better?

 

[Netzach]

Okay, not submissive. Bottom. Better?

Bottomable. Bottom-capable.

Seriously, some of the pushiest insistent here's how I want everything people I've met wanted to be assfucked. Maybe they felt like it would balance them out or something, I don't know.

The majority of real live actual gay men I know answer "versatile" to the age old question. And their personalities shake out however.

 

[JMohegan]

Bottomable. Bottom-capable.

Seriously, some of the pushiest insistent here's how I want everything people I've met wanted to be assfucked. Maybe they felt like it would balance them out or something, I don't know.

The majority of real live actual gay men I know answer "versatile" to the age old question. And their personalities shake out however.

I like the term bottom-capable, in this context. That makes a lot of sense.

 

[ecstaticsub]

If a male slave is ass-fucked by a real live dick because his owner orders him to accept it but he is not attracted to men, does not desire anal sex, has never fantasized about it but in his M/s relationship agrees to no limits is he gay ?

I personally wouldn't think so, I would just say he is a very obedient slave.

 

[MisterSir]

If a male slave is ass-fucked by a real live dick because his owner orders him to accept it but he is not attracted to men, does not desire anal sex, has never fantasized about it but in his M/s relationship agrees to no limits is he gay ?

He's not attracted to men, there you go.

 

[JMohegan]

If a male slave is ass-fucked by a real live dick because his owner orders him to accept it but he is not attracted to men, does not desire anal sex, has never fantasized about it but in his M/s relationship agrees to no limits is he gay ?

I personally wouldn't think so, I would just say he is a very obedient slave.

That's a very different question from the one the OP is asking. He wants to know what it means if you like it.

If you're male -- Do you like to be fucked in the ass (e.g. by strap-ons, dildoes, male penis)?

If you answered "Yes", does this mean you're gay?

 

[Cattypuss]

The OP famously doesn't "do" "homo sapiens".

I wonder if he fantasises about homo erectus (schoolboyish snigger)

 

[satindesire]

The OP famously doesn't "do" "homo sapiens".

I wonder if he fantasises about homo erectus (schoolboyish snigger)

Booo! Boooooo! Get off the stage! Boo!

 

[slavetonanette]

I love my wife to play with my ass, but find the thought of contact with other males disgusting. Some of us just like the feeling, and are not attracted to guys.

 

[Shankara20]

I like the term bottom-capable, in this context. That makes a lot of sense.

cool term, mind if I use it at times?

 

[Shankara20]

or Guy Who Wants to Please ITW.

funny very very funny

 

[Shankara20]

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I would appreciate it even more if you hear my second thought as well.

As stated: "I realize this may not be true in every case."

That I did, I just failed to enumerate it

 

[intothewoods]

Your suspicion is correct, sir.

Other options include gay, bi-curious, heteroflexible, homoflexible, or Guy Who Wants to Please ITW. I'm sure there are more.

Hopefully no one will be offended if I admit to finding the terminology confusing and the definitions fluid.

The only thing I can say with any conviction on this subject is that a guy who likes actual dick up his ass is not straight.

I appreciate that you hear my first thought.

I would appreciate it even more if you hear my second thought as well.

As stated: "I realize this may not be true in every case."

What - there's only one?

funny very very funny

And what is so funny about that?

 

[JMohegan]

cool term, mind if I use it at times?

As far as I know, Netzach just made it up. Ask her! She might say yes, and hopefully it won't cost you too much.

What - there's only one?

I'm sure there are lots and lots.

No foolin' around, I've got a question. What do you call a female who likes girl/girl contact - NOT because she finds girls hot, but because she finds the reactions of some males watching girl/girl to be a turn on for her, when she does it?

And.... is there a comparable term for a male? I've never actually seen a guy do something like this, but surely it must happen somewhere.

 

[MisterSir]

No foolin' around, I've got a question. What do you call a female who likes girl/girl contact - NOT because she finds girls hot, but because she finds the reactions of some males watching girl/girl to be a turn on for her, when she does it?

An attention whore.

 

[JMohegan]

An attention whore.

Ha. I know guys who'd say: bitch tease. Guess it depends what she does next.

But I was actually striving for non-pejorative. Exhibitionist? That probably fits.

 

[MisterSir]

Ha. I know guys who'd say: bitch tease. Guess it depends what she does next.

But I was actually striving for non-pejorative. Exhibitionist? That probably fits.

Exhibitionist was my first thought, I'll admit, but attention whore fits so much better.

 

[nh23]

An attention whore.

HAHA Yup!

I think liking it in the ass doesn't make you gay at all if it's self stimulation, or a woman doing it. Men's G spot in in their ass. The A spot..the prostate. It produces great sensation if you're gay or not. Not to mention I was taught in nursing school to milk a prostate if someone was unwilling to give a semen sample. You can make any man cum from it.

If you like another man to fuck you in the ass..well then you're probably gay.

 

[intothewoods]

Ha. I know guys who'd say: bitch tease. Guess it depends what she does next.

But I was actually striving for non-pejorative. Exhibitionist? That probably fits.

Yeah, it depends on what she does next. I can see how a girl might do this to get a guy's attention because she wants to fuck him, not fuck with his head. In which case it would be called foreplay. It all depends.

 

[Adakgirl]

Exhibitionist was my first thought, I'll admit, but attention whore fits so much better.

Not in my opinion it doesn't. I happen to be this way. I am an exhibitionist. Being an exhibitionist and enjoying men watching me having sex...with either gender or both genders at the same time...does not make a me an automatic attention whore. Have you ever entertained the idea that a woman might be able to feel comfortable with her body and become sexually aroused by showing it off to others, regardless of what she is doing at the time..without the need to hear compliments or phrase or overt attention from the men who are watching her?

Some can and some certainly do. I do like attention, most exhibitionists do, but I don't need it and I am a far cry from being an attention whore.

 

[JMohegan]

Yeah, it depends on what she does next. I can see how a girl might do this to get a guy's attention because she wants to fuck him, not fuck with his head. In which case it would be called foreplay. It all depends.

Actually, bitch tease is a noun, applied to the female, so that doesn't make any sense.

Not in my opinion it doesn't. I happen to be this way. I am an exhibitionist. Being an exhibitionist and enjoying men watching me having sex...with either gender or both genders at the same time...does not make a me an automatic attention whore. Have you ever entertained the idea that a woman might be able to feel comfortable with her body and become sexually aroused by showing it off to others, regardless of what she is doing at the time..without the need to hear compliments or phrase or overt attention from the men who are watching her?

Some can and some certainly do. I do like attention, most exhibitionists do, but I don't need it and I am a far cry from being an attention whore.

Okay, but my question is: are you aroused by the idea (or actual practice) of fucking women, even if no males are watching?

If so, I assume you would refer to yourself as bisexual. Yes?

If not, is there a special word for 'only aroused when fucking women if there's a male around to watch'? That's what I'm asking.

 

[intothewoods]

Actually, bitch tease is a noun, applied to the female, so that doesn't make any sense.

 

[BiBunny]

Actually, bitch tease is a noun, applied to the female, so that doesn't make any sense.

Okay, but my question is: are you aroused by the idea (or actual practice) of fucking women, even if no males are watching?

If so, I assume you would refer to yourself as bisexual. Yes?

If not, is there a special word for 'only aroused when fucking women if there's a male around to watch'? That's what I'm asking.

Heteroflexible? I'm not sure.