Is anal sex gay? - if you're male?

[Adakgirl]

I know a man who likes to get his ass fucked with a strap-on (and various other items) by women and would have no problem if a man were to fuck his ass during a threesome M/M/F situation. He likes getting his ass fucked and gets aroused at the thought of getting fucked by a real cock. He most likely would also enjoy sucking man's cock or being sucked by a man. But not if those acts were done with he and another man alone.

He considers those to be a homosexual acts. If a woman is at least there during those acts and or she is involved in them, that makes his desires acceptable to him in his own mind. Women turn him on sexually and he is mainly heterosexual, but men's cocks do too, not men per say, just their cocks. So I consider him to be a heterosexual with bi-sexual desires. But not gay in any way.

I believe that gay people are born that way, it is in their DNA and for them being romantically and sexually attracted to the same gender is just like a heterosexual person being attracted sexually and romantically to their opposite gender. So if you are attracted to only men, not women, have emotional romantic feelings for men, not women, want to pursue romantic relationships with men, not women. Then being that way is what I consider being a gay man. If you just like to get fucked in the ass by a man then no I would not consider that gay.

A bi-sexual is a person who enjoys having sex with both genders, and enjoys it either with or without the opposite gender present. A lesbian does not enjoy sex and they do not have the desire to have sex with men. A gay man does not enjoy or have the desire to have sex with women. Nothing wrong in my eyes with either, I think it is highly detrimental and emotional damaging for a person to try and reject or fight against what is their natural self.

There is my explanation to the OP.

 

[inferiormale]

Still confused

A married male US Senator was caught soliciting sex in a mens room and the media immediately labeled his as "gay" or a "closeted gay." Were they jumping to conclusions?

Let's say a US Marine is caught by his Commanding Officer sucking another Marine's cock and the Corps begins proceedings to kick him out of the military. At the hearing could he say "I'm not gay, I just like sucking cocks and getting fucked in the ass!" How well will that argument go over? Might the officers decide to let him stay in?

im

 

[smooth-boy]

I know a man who likes to get his ass fucked with a strap-on (and various other items) by women and would have no problem if a man were to fuck his ass during a threesome M/M/F situation. He likes getting his ass fucked and gets aroused at the thought of getting fucked by a real cock. He most likely would also enjoy sucking man's cock or being sucked by a man. But not if those acts were done with he and another man alone.

I thought you were talking about me when I first read this. I recently had nearly the same conversation with my very dear friend. I think I would be ok with a one on one M/m encounter though.

 

[Adakgirl]

A married male US Senator was caught soliciting sex in a mens room and the media immediately labeled his as "gay" or a "closeted gay." Were they jumping to conclusions?

Let's say a US Marine is caught by his Commanding Officer sucking another Marine's cock and the Corps begins proceedings to kick him out of the military. At the hearing could he say "I'm not gay, I just like sucking cocks and getting fucked in the ass!" How well will that argument go over? Might the officers decide to let him stay in?

im

Yes they probably were jumping to conclusions either that or he is in fact a closeted gay.

Yes at the hearing he could say that but no-one would understand it and it wouldn't matter what he said anyway.. even if he were foolish enough to use such an idiotic argument for a defense...because regardless if he claimed he was not gay,
he would have to be able to back up that claim and do so in the face of opposing evidence consisting of a Commanding Officer's eyewitness testimony.

Plus they could still kick him out for misconducting a fellow Marine's cock or sucking conduct unbecoming of a Marine or.....conducting cock around the clock orrrrr ...........................HA! hell no they wouldn't let him stay in ! Unless perhaps he promised to suck each of the officers cocks at least once a day for the remainder of his service. Then they might think hard about letting him stay in...

 

[radepor]

Where does prison sex fit?

Where does sex in a single sex environment fit. I'm not familiar with today's rules about conjugal visits but I assume that assumes there's a mate out there somewhere for the inmate.

For those without mates, with the same needs we all have but are imprisoned for years (or life), does sex with the same sex make them gay?

A married male US Senator was caught soliciting sex in a mens room and the media immediately labeled his as "gay" or a "closeted gay." Were they jumping to conclusions?

Let's say a US Marine is caught by his Commanding Officer sucking another Marine's cock and the Corps begins proceedings to kick him out of the military. At the hearing could he say "I'm not gay, I just like sucking cocks and getting fucked in the ass!" How well will that argument go over? Might the officers decide to let him stay in?

im

 

[psiberzerker]

It's only gay if you're gay. I know lots of gay men who don't do anal, and lots of straight ones who do. What about women that get their asses blasted, or lesbians? Honestly, there's no correlation between receptive anal sex, and homosexuality. It's only "Gay" if you do it with someone of the same gender.

 

[caged_doll]

Liking anal anything doesn't mean you're gay. If you're a guy and want to get fucked in the ass by another guy, then you're gay. It isn't about what you're doing, it's about who is doing it to you and who you want to be with sexually/romantically/etc.

 

[radepor]

Maybe I wasn't quite clear in my question (re: prison sex)

Let's assume you have alpha-male types; albeit, unsocial.

They like women, they prefer women, they have no access to women. They may eventually find it impossible not to inquire about, suggest, request, implore, insist, impose their sexual needs on another male inmate.

Liking anal anything doesn't mean you're gay. If you're a guy and want to get fucked in the ass by another guy, then you're gay. It isn't about what you're doing, it's about who is doing it to you and who you want to be with sexually/romantically/etc.

 

[kato675]

heyy... gay means: man loves men
it is so simple, is not it?
it has noting to do with asshole sex I think

 

[Cattypuss]

heyy... gay means: man loves men
it is so simple, is not it?
it has noting to do with asshole sex I think

Sounds like something Yoda would say.

 

[Mr. Briggs]

I know a man who likes to get his ass fucked with a strap-on (and various other items) by women and would have no problem if a man were to fuck his ass during a threesome M/M/F situation. He likes getting his ass fucked and gets aroused at the thought of getting fucked by a real cock. He most likely would also enjoy sucking man's cock or being sucked by a man. But not if those acts were done with he and another man alone.

He considers those to be a homosexual acts. If a woman is at least there during those acts and or she is involved in them, that makes his desires acceptable to him in his own mind. Women turn him on sexually and he is mainly heterosexual, but men's cocks do too, not men per say, just their cocks. So I consider him to be a heterosexual with bi-sexual desires. But not gay in any way.

I believe that gay people are born that way, it is in their DNA and for them being romantically and sexually attracted to the same gender is just like a heterosexual person being attracted sexually and romantically to their opposite gender. So if you are attracted to only men, not women, have emotional romantic feelings for men, not women, want to pursue romantic relationships with men, not women. Then being that way is what I consider being a gay man. If you just like to get fucked in the ass by a man then no I would not consider that gay.

A bi-sexual is a person who enjoys having sex with both genders, and enjoys it either with or without the opposite gender present. A lesbian does not enjoy sex and they do not have the desire to have sex with men. A gay man does not enjoy or have the desire to have sex with women. Nothing wrong in my eyes with either, I think it is highly detrimental and emotional damaging for a person to try and reject or fight against what is their natural self.

There is my explanation to the OP.

Well said

 

[radepor]

I Agree; and agree to let this topic go

Sorry I was slow to warm up to this answer but I do accept it and I appreciate it.

Well said