Is getting a handjob cheating?

[Lucien_Al]

In the context of having a massage, is getting a happy ending considered cheating on your wife? In a (man's) technical sense, your cock is part of your body, just the twenty-first digit. So while you're getting all your other parts rubbed, why not your cock?

According to my wife it does not count as cheating

 

[Blade409]

In the context of having a massage, is getting a happy ending considered cheating on your wife? In a (man's) technical sense, your cock is part of your body, just the twenty-first digit. So while you're getting all your other parts rubbed, why not your cock?

Here is the answer.
It’s cheating.

You asked looking for an answer. The answer is yes. It’s cheating. If you want to find someone to agree with your rationalization look in the mirror, don’t ask strangers to validate you.

 

[Annelih]

In the context of having a massage, is getting a happy ending considered cheating on your wife? In a (man's) technical sense, your cock is part of your body, just the twenty-first digit. So while you're getting all your other parts rubbed, why not your cock?

If you have to justify, you've gone too far!

 

[MrMannson]

My wife is insanely jealous of other women, ESPECIALLY if it’s one giving me a massage. So, to make her happy, I booked one with a male masseuse.

It’s booked for next week so I don’t know what’s going to happen. I do have that burning question in my mind “Well, if it’s a male doing it, it should be okay because I didn’t have another woman do it….”

Yes yes I know it’s the same, just stating my opinion

 

[TomTeacher19]

So let me see if I have this right

Getting a handjob from a woman - cheating

Getting a handjob from yourself - not cheating

Getting a handjob from a man - possibly cheating

Getting a handjob from a woman with no arms so she uses her vagina instead - not cheating?

 

[OralAllOver]

Only if you say "I love you"

 

[Noor]

If you are hiding it from your primary relationship them yes, it’s cheating.

 

[ericalauren]

Yes! If you’re in a monogamous relationship, sex outside of that relationship is cheating. Digital/manual sex is sex (SorryNotSorry to all the Christians and Mormons out there).

 

[Britva415]

Every relationship is different, so, you gotta ask the person you're in the relationship with.

 

[YourSecretDesires]

HJ is sex so yeah unless the relationship is open.

Caveat, I think it's the least bad form of cheating, no chance of pregnancy or real "connection." A happy ending massage being the most meaningless. But that's just my viewpoint, not a fact or anything.

 

[LisaMayTurner]

Yes, it's cheating. But if you mean when you are playing poker, then it's simply inappropriate...maybe!

 

[CuriousJInLA]

Of course it’s cheating if you’re doing it in secret and your partner doesn’t approve.

That being said, I’ve had more than my fair share of partners, and a few were definitely “cheating,” but I’ve actually never had an outright handjob. I’m genuinely asking if they’re really that common

 

[Nellie60]

HJ is sex so yeah unless the relationship is open.

Caveat, I think it's the least bad form of cheating, no chance of pregnancy or real "connection." A happy ending massage being the most meaningless. But that's just my viewpoint, not a fact or anything.

Depends how its given or performed...in a parlour not much meaning but performed intimately in an affair very hot and definitely cheating

 

[BInowGay]

Yes, it's cheating. But if you mean when you are playing poker, then it's simply inappropriate...maybe!

So it's "I'll see your dollar and raise you a handjob"? Sounds like a fun game

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

In the context of having a massage, is getting a happy ending considered cheating on your wife? In a (man's) technical sense, your cock is part of your body, just the twenty-first digit. So while you're getting all your other parts rubbed, why not your cock?

Of course.

 

[TallOne]

Wife and I are swingers who regularly have others in our bed.

But even getting a solo professional massage without a happy ending feels wrong. Usually just give them to each other or on rare occasion a couples massage.

 

[metrifonate]

Only if you cum

 

[PersonalFavors]

It is not cheating or sex as far as I am concerned.
However, any of the women that are or have been in my life would not feel that way. A few have condoned it, but still would consider me receiving treatment outside her involvement a breech of unspoken contract.

 

[Stopokochac]

Of course. You're doing something sexual with another woman

 

[liqueur]

Every relationship is different, so, you gotta ask the person you're in the relationship with.

@InSearchofIncredible And if you're afraid to ask her (remind me why you're asking us?) then yes, it's cheating.

 

[jbird4]

Sadly the truth is that anything you do that you wouldn’t want to tell your wife (significant other) is probably cheating or wrong.

 

[LostHorizon]

In the context of having a massage, is getting a happy ending considered cheating on your wife? In a (man's) technical sense, your cock is part of your body, just the twenty-first digit. So while you're getting all your other parts rubbed, why not your cock?

I’m going to run this one by my wife and see what she says.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

HJ is sex so yeah unless the relationship is open.

Caveat, I think it's the least bad form of cheating, no chance of pregnancy or real "connection." A happy ending massage being the most meaningless. But that's just my viewpoint, not a fact or anything.

I think this is exactly correct.
It is cheating if you have to hide it.
It is cheating if, were your wife to find out, it would put the marriage at risk

At the same time, it is the "least bad." No risk of pregnancy. No risk of STDs that you could bring home. No emotional connection.

As someone who has lived with a powerful urge for variety that I don't get from sex with my wife, I have learned to live with this compromise. I accept that it is wrong and that if I were a better person, I would not have done it. But I have, and I will live with it because it is not likely to cause any pain.

Well, I've stopped doing it because I've reached an age where there is always a risk of a medical issue arising when I'm on the table. I can't imagine anything more devastating to my wife then if she had to visit me in the hospital after I had a heart attack while getting a hand job.

 

[Spurtulator]

No, neither is a blow job, nor are either one even sex. Only penetration is sex.

Didn't Bill Clinton testify to this?

 

[Spurtulator]

Most likely yes, but consult your wife to be sure

My ex wife said that cyber sex/chatting in AOL chat rooms was cheating back in the day.