Is it inevitable for a bottom to feel feminine?

[TryGuy35]

Sometimes I feel feminine when I bottom, sometimes not.

On occasion I fully let go and make what some would judge as feminine noises when I'm getting a good stuffing. I suppose at those times I'd say I can empathise with how a girl feels when she's taking a cock.

That said, there are times when I'm having sex with a man when it feels nothing but masculine. All that hard cock, cum and manly scent, it couldn't be any further from feminine! It's all about men taking care of each other.

Love this. Great visual in my head now….for both….ha!

 

[chrischrissybottoms]

What i know is that i have always been a bottom. Women have always topped me, so do Men. Ironically, it was dominant Women who began treating me as a submisive feminine man, even feminizing me. Men already had begun to see me the that way when i began submitting to them as well.

 

[TryGuy35]

I suppose it depends. I don't feel in control in any position, and I definitely wouldn't feel masculine riding a dick...
But, the kind of men I hook up with aren't ever looking for masculine dominate bottoms, so they would still make me feel feminine.
Yes, I know there's power bottoms and such, but I don't understand it. But I have a different mindset. I want to feel feminine.

Agreed do not understand the power bottom aspect.

 

[madlapper]

when im asked to put on my wifes panties or lingerie I definitely feel fem. especially if hes calling me his bitch or sissy!

 

[BillyWalrus]

Agreed do not understand the power bottom aspect.

I guess I can understand it but it doesn't work for us. Once I mounted my gf's cock cowgirl style while she lay on her back. It felt great for me but she told me, this just doesn't work for me. She needs to be on top actively doing the fucking and I need to take it like her bitch!

 

[TrailerHitch]

Feel however you want to feel. Honestly it doesn't matter how anyone else feels. Yes, it really is that simple.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

Agreed do not understand the power bottom aspect.

I don't either. I can't understand how a man could feel powerful when another man is fucking him in the ass.
I always feel submissive, feminine, vulnerable and controlled. And I love that.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

OH, no way. See that;s a huge stereotype from mostly the straight community. Im a gwm, masculine, clean cut and Im a total power bottom. So getting fucked, at least for me, is never about feeling feminine or masculine. It's just about pure pleasure for both of us.

I know there are plenty of masculine bottoms that aren't submissive or fem, but, It's definitely not just a stereotype from the straight community.
I know tons of out and proud gay tops who will not ever bottom because they think it is submissive and feminine. And they don't want to feel submissive and feminine.
When I go out to a club, I can spot the tops and bottoms lol.

 

[SexyInMy60s]

I don't either. I can't understand how a man could feel powerful when another man is fucking him in the ass.
I always feel submissive, feminine, vulnerable and controlled. And I love that.

Agree. For me, that’s the whole point.

 

[stargame]

I don't either. I can't understand how a man could feel powerful when another man is fucking him in the ass.
I always feel submissive, feminine, vulnerable and controlled. And I love that.

You were so right, it's admitting to a power that I could never have.

 

[saintcero]

You were so right, it's admitting to a power that I could never have.

I could never have that power and I wouldn’t want it if I could. I’m a forever bottom now.

 

[Fred2575]

I'm a power bottom. I'll try and explain, not to convert, just for understanding.

I'm bi. When I'm with a woman I'm a top. I never feel dominant with a woman. She's in control. I spend hours (and i mean hours) licking, sucking, fingering etc. To bring her tge most pleasure. Trying to secure my opportunity to do it again. My immediate reward is that once she's orgasamed muktiple times I'll enter her for a few minutes and get my orgasam. Ratio is like 1 to 30.

When I'm with a man, it's his job to spend hours pleasuring me. Stroking, sucking, fingering. Bringing me multiple orgasams. His reward is that he gets ti fuck me, have his orgasam and if he was good, he'll get to do it again.

to me, the bottom is the prize, the top is the servant, there to give pleasure.

 

[cdstefi]

Agreed do not understand the power bottom aspect.

It's not hard to understand. It's performing what would be considered as a traditionally sub act like taking a cock up your arse, but being the one in control and calling the shots. I do find it quite literally empowering, as it's me taking what I want from a partner, and hopefully them enjoying it too.

I'm also quite violently antagonistic towards anything that smacks of humiliation or coercion, so I'm physically incapable of regarding receiving anal as anything remotely feminising or submissive, and anybody using that kind of language in the act would be likely to get some sense smacked into them

 

[liqueur]

Do bottoms, no matter what their gender, always feel feminine to a small or large degree in their sexual role?

No, definitely not, from what I know. A lot of gay men in particular are very much opposed to this role-typing.

But me? Absolutely yes. All I need is to be in the presence of a masculine man for my femme aspect to come to the surface. So much so that I have to vigilantly guard against this when in non-sexual non-safe environments.

Once his cock gets anywhere near my ass, I melt.

 

[RobLivesInTexas]

It's not hard to understand. It's performing what would be considered as a traditionally sub act like taking a cock up your arse, but being the one in control and calling the shots. I do find it quite literally empowering, as it's me taking what I want from a partner, and hopefully them enjoying it too.

I'm also quite violently antagonistic towards anything that smacks of humiliation or coercion, so I'm physically incapable of regarding receiving anal as anything remotely feminising or submissive, and anybody using that kind of language in the act would be likely to get some sense smacked into them

I don't want to derail the conversation, but there is a parallel in cock sucking. I rarely bottom at all, so my perspective is not the same, but there are similarities. Some men feel submissive, even feminine, when sucking cock, and they proudly wear the label "cocksucker". However, when I suck cock, I'm the one in charge. I'm not there to be used for his pleasure, I'm there to give him pleasure as an expert cock sucker. Note that I spell that as two words. It's something I do, not something I am as an identity.

On the rare times I've bottomed, it has been amazing, but I'm very involved, and feel very masculine. It's two horny men doing what makes them feel good. For me, there's nothing feminine about it at all, and if he were to start using language that tried to make me feel submissive or used, that would be the end of it.

 

[Travler99921]

I have been a bottom so I can feel fem

 

[Fred2575]

I don't want to derail the conversation, but there is a parallel in cock sucking. I rarely bottom at all, so my perspective is not the same, but there are similarities. Some men feel submissive, even feminine, when sucking cock, and they proudly wear the label "cocksucker". However, when I suck cock, I'm the one in charge. I'm not there to be used for his pleasure, I'm there to give him pleasure as an expert cock sucker. Note that I spell that as two words. It's something I do, not something I am as an identity.

On the rare times I've bottomed, it has been amazing, but I'm very involved, and feel very masculine. It's two horny men doing what makes them feel good. For me, there's nothing feminine about it at all, and if he were to start using language that tried to make me feel submissive or used, that would be the end of it.

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