Is Literotica your secret?

I missed your post , it totally made me giggle, Mr Britwich apears to be a typical male lol! :rose:

He is indeed ;) ...bless!
Every day he finds a way of 'not-so-subtley' asking what stories I'm working on :D
 
A little nudge so that newer members might want to post..

Please keep it on topic. Thank you.:)
 
Not a soul in my r/l is aware that I even come here, let alone post stories.

One or two are aware of my poetry, but that is not erotic, it used to be, and on here, but I stopped.
 
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Nobody knows.

My wife is an ordained minister, so it could be detrimental to her career if my activities were publicized. (As has already been pointed out in this thread, many people just have a stick up their ass when it comes to anything having to do with sex.) But how exactly that would come about, unless I were actually signing my real name to each post isn't clear to me. Her career is far more likely to be affected by the fact that she and I both signed a publicly available open letter a few years back exhorting the denomination to welcome gays and lesbians. Conservative folks who wanted to make a stink wouldn't have to go digging for pseudonymous erotic stories on the Internet.

My wife knows I sometimes look at erotic stuff online, and have since before we met. (Since before the Internet, in fact. Anybody remember the adult sections of Delphi?) She doesn't disapprove of the content so much (unless it would be really demeaning stuff (which doesn't appeal to me anyway)) but doesn't want it to keep me from participating in the life of our family -- which is perfectly reasonable. OTOH, playing computer games, or FRP, or reading novels, or blowing hours on Facebook (I always want to call it Assbook, for some reason...) could easily do the same. She has her guilty pleasures as well.

But nobody knows that I have posted stories and SRP. Personally, I see it as a slightly higher form of wasting time, and vastly preferable to looking at conventional 'porn' because it is a creative endeavor, and needn't be bounded by commercialized, homogenized, lowest-common-denominator notions of what is 'sexy'. To write erotica is far better than being a mere consumer of anything.

I don't come here to get something lacking in my marriage -- I have no complaints at all, except occasional mismatches in the timing of desire, and the logistical difficulties involved with being parents. Welcome to planet Earth. If I want more of it, it's only because of how much I love what we do together, and there really isn't anything I want, sexually, that my wife isn't happy to do with me -- and I don't see how anyone else would be any better. To me, this is about fantasy and storytelling, that happens to have a sexual or erotic theme. In my own mind, I think I would feel that doing SRP in PM or IM would be crossing a line that would feel a bit like a betrayal, while doing the same thing in an open forum feels like a collaborative writing project. Just my own justification? Who knows.

I haven't written anything online that I wouldn't want my wife to read, content-wise. She's not one to be shocked by explicit descriptions of sex. She isn't the least bit squeamish about things like that. Growing up on a farm makes you earthy that way. I think she would enjoy some of it if she were in the right mood at the time. My only hesitation is the initial awkwardness of introducing it to her.

She has occasionally asked me if I'm addicted to porn. You can't say 'no,' because everyone knows that denial is the hallmark of the addict! One of her friends is a therapist who works with sexual offenders. My wife has said that she doesn't care what I look at, as long as the neighbors don't see me doing it! Are you addicted to food because you want to keep eating meal after meal, or addicted to sex because you want to do it again and again? Addicted to breathing? You're addicted when the activity prevents you from doing the other things you need and want to do in your life.

Would telling her that I write erotic stories online fuel her fear that my interest in erotica is addictive? Or would showing her the stories de-mystify it for her? Would the literary nature of Literotica, and the quality I try to write into my threads please the aesthetic sense of my English-major/M.Div. sweetheart?

As far as others go, I just don't share that kind of information with anybody else. With one batch of friends, we get together for a meal one evening a week to talk dirty and get out all the naughty innuendo we can't express in our daily lives. One of the girls even made it a point for a while to flood our (specially allocated) gmail accounts with naughty pictures, just to keep us entertained. They certainly know I've got a dirty mind, and a dirty mouth when I flip that switch. We always joke about how "The Internet is for Porn," etc. But our naughty banter never goes to the level of detailed information about our actual sex lives, or what we specifically do online.

For now, it's easiest to continue my default behavior of keeping it an unadvertised activity. I suppose that even adds a little element of thrill for me. I remember how exciting it was to download dirty .GIFs at 2400 baud, years ago in my darkened bedroom, illuminated only by the computer monitor, late at night when my parents were asleep. In that respect, I guess I've never grown up.
 
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