Is there such thing as a bad blow job?

[Arianthe]

I know for a fact I've given at least one bad blow job.

It was when I was first dating my ex-husband. I was young and still a little inexperienced. I remember going down on him quite enthusiastically and when he blew his load, just for a change, I swallowed the lot.

It must have been a terrible blow job because he jumped out of the bed, ran to the open window and hurled his ring up.

I've never quite worked out what I did wrong...

 

[Tappy_McWidestance]

I think the deeper meaning of this thread is you can give a bad blowjob so practice is necessary. Therefore find the nearest hard cock and work on your skills until everyone is satisfied.

 

[exhibitinlight]

When I was a teen, a girl I grew up with and I were talking about sex. I told her I didn't want to suck my boyfriend's dick because I was afraid he'd cum in my mouth. She looked at me, surprised, and said, "why would that scare you? It's fucking amazing to give head and blowing them until they cum in your mouth".

That was the first time I had heard anything positive about giving head. In our culture it's often joked that a good anniversary present or birthday present is a steak and a blowjob. I always understood this to imply that blowjobs are infrequent enough that they are reserved for holiday gifts--that they're something only enjoyable to men and something women should just tight lipped and reluctantly dole out a few times a year. Many women feel that it's demeaning to kneel in front of a man and worship his cock. Others may think it's gross to put genitals in her mouth (how many times growing up do kids hear that it's gross to touch themselves, or get "ew" messages about genitals?), or may think its gross to suck on something where pee comes out of.

I was raised in a sexually liberal home (sex talk was normal, nudity was normal), so I didn't hear a ton of negative sentiments regarding sex organs. But, I think I had internalized some of the ick factor we often hear and see.

Thank God I talked to my friend that day. She went on to describe how amazing dick skin is. I don't know if you've ever noticed, but the skin on a dick is absolutely amazing. It's got this natural sheen and is so soft--silky, smooth, soft. It's like heaven. She described taking it and just making love to her boyfriendls dick...as a stand alone entity. She said she can forget he's there and just take it and run her lips over it, rub it on her face, gently run her hands over it while rubbing the tip against her lips. She had this look of utter pleasure on her face and a far off look in her eyes as she demonstrated what she meant on her hands. Then she said after just really almost communing w the dick (she didn't say communing with the dick, lol, but that's the best way to sum up what she did describe) she would make it her goal to fuck him with her mouth and make it feel better than any pussy by taking him down her throat, moving her tongue while taking long, deep, fast, rhythmic strokes. She made sucking a cock sound like the most amazing, fun, awesome thing ever and totally turned me into someone who craves giving head.

I've actually only ever had 3 men cum in my mouth and have had over 20 partners and I've still been told that I give the best head they've ever had (I'm too freaked out by STI's to do the whole bodily fluids thing in a non-committed relationship). I think the reason I give head so well is because I love it so much. I am enthusiastic and very turned on by it and, as a result, my partner gets even more turned on. Who doesn't like to feel like the most sexy, amazing creature on earth? If my mouth is on your dick, you're going to feel like you are a God and, at that moment, you are...because the energy we are exchanging is intense and pure pleasure.

I wish more women had had a friend like mine because I truly think she helped shape my views on sex and helped me learn to treat sex as something fun to explore and to use ALL of the senses.

Bad oral sex, I think, would be oral sex from someone who treats your genitals as something disgusting that they can't wait to get their mouth away from.

I felt like I was going to faint after reading this! This sort of knowledge needs to be passed on, couldn't we built a university for you somewhere?

 

[exhibitinlight]

One thing that hasn't been discussed in this thread is that not all men have the same attitude to blowjobs. Some people definitely still harbour this idea that it's some sort of special treat that all men crave and women occasionally endure to please their man.

I'd say that I enjoy them, but I'd infinitely rather have sex or for her to use her hands. It obviously varies between partners and I've had some great ones - particularly back when the idea of having my cock in a female's mouth was still a massive novelty (plus my first proper girlfriend was rather petite, which meant she had a relatively small mouth).

I do find it quite hard to come with oral though, which might be why I'm not as enthusiastic as others.

 

[tritiusj]

One thing that hasn't been discussed in this thread is that not all men have the same attitude to blowjobs. Some people definitely still harbour this idea that it's some sort of special treat that all men crave and women occasionally endure to please their man.

I'd say that I enjoy them, but I'd infinitely rather have sex or for her to use her hands. It obviously varies between partners and I've had some great ones - particularly back when the idea of having my cock in a female's mouth was still a massive novelty (plus my first proper girlfriend was rather petite, which meant she had a relatively small mouth).

I do find it quite hard to come with oral though, which might be why I'm not as enthusiastic as others.

I agree with these sentiments wholeheartedly. Also for me, at the moment my orgasm peaks, the head of my cock becomes incredibly sensitive, almost to the point of pain. So if the woman is holding my cock just barely in her mouth to avoid choking on my cum (which I certainly can't blame her for doing), the hyper-stimulation just about kills any other positives of the act. As such, there are many other actions I enjoy more. Oral for me is great for foreplay, but not for a climax.

 

[heathenwolf]

bad blow job?

Teeth and the fear of those scraping teeth can make a bad blow job.

 

[IARainman]

my wife has attempted to blow me, maybe 4 times in our 24 year marriage, about 26 years together.

The first ones were pretty bad, couldn't see to get her teeth out of the way, did it like she didn't really want to do it (despite my re-assurances she didn't have to etc.)

The last one was really pretty good, she had the teeth under control and seemed to really want to do it, she sucked and licked a while then finished me with her hand all over myself. So, she wants to try tomorrow, we're taking the day off work, so it's a perfect opportunity. I've spent today edging so I'l have a good big load for her. I'm thinking of asking her to let me shoot into her mouth, but she doesn't have to swallow. She says she learned this from reading 30 shades...I'm not sure, don't really care, just glad to see her explore and have fun.

 

[stu_gats_2000]

good or bad I would be have to have one

 

[Desperado1775]

Certainly

When you get a great blowjob you can appreciate it and realize others did not meet the mark. i am one that gets off more on pleasing my partner rather than being pleased. I pay attention to the reaction a woman has to what I am doing and then stay with two or three excite her. Not all women are the same so what works for one doesnt necessarily work for another. So to sum it up, those performing the act should practice and adjust to what excites the guy.

 

[carol_will1]

Years ago I used to give bad BJ's all the time. I was quite willing, but unskilled. I got much better...

 

[MoleskineScribbler]

Years ago I used to give bad BJ's all the time. I was quite willing, but unskilled. I got much better...

Persistence and enthusiasm are always appreciated!

 

[johnnymindcrime]

yes

she could barely take half my dick. very disappointing

 

[GBPFan1975]

Yes

When the teeth are used and scrape you're dick (especially the head) and cause skin sraping (burn), that hurts. I was so gratefull I was getting a BJ at the time, I didn't have the heart to tell her that she wasn't very good at it. Needless to say, I had to cum from a different source that night.

 

[liz33nd]

yes bad ones are out there

I went out with a gal for a few years, and whenever she wanted to give me a bj, I would go down on her again, just to keep her from sucking my cock.. I would actually loose a erection from her sucking...

 

[Likes2Tease]

When given grudgingly...

Even a bj given by someone who doesn't have the best technique can be a real turn-on when it's being done with enthusiasm. However even if the giver is a 10/10 in terms of looks, if they make it obvious that it isn't something they want, or think they're obliged to do, then yeah, there is such a thing as a bad blowjob

 

[Funnbrandy]

Bad blowjob?......

The one you never get.....lol.....how's the saying go, "better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all". Translate that into blowjob terms and I would think it still applies, "better to have been sucked and not enjoyed it than to have never been sucked at all"

 

[blkjames]

The one you never get.....lol.....how's the saying go, "better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all". Translate that into blowjob terms and I would think it still applies, "better to have been sucked and not enjoyed it than to have never been sucked at all"

I have had lots of those lol

 

[tmmmbrrr]

Thank you K.

I think the deeper meaning of this thread is you can give a bad blowjob so practice is necessary. Therefore find the nearest hard cock and work on your skills until everyone is satisfied.

...because we all log onto Lit yearning for that deeper meaning . . . . .



...but seriously, I'd gladly have the "worst" blow job that I ever had in my life all over again right now and just as it was -- AND she was a biter -- so how bad can that be?

No such thing.

 

[tedsbeds]

So is that like any bad day of fishing is better than any good day at work? I in all my years 60+ only recently have had very good blow jobs. It's just that the others weren't bad, it's just my long time partner was inexperienced and I had to try to explain it to her, and she really disliked cock. But she would give it a go for a couple of minutes. Over the last year I have discovered two wonderful women who love giving blowjobs, Thank you lord! I thought that that type of woman was an urban myth. It was that my first blower was bad, just inexperienced,

 

[nowisthetime]

I try not to give bad blow jobs. I enjoy orally pleasing a man much more so than him pleasing me.

Using teeth, not being enthusiastic, not taking in as much of the cock as possible....those are all examplesof 'bad blow jobs'.

 

[blkjames]

The worst I ever got was wonderful

 

[CoastalWyldman]

Worst one I ever got was from a girl who was still wearing braces. Her parents got them for her as a graduation gift and she got a little too excited and ended up biting and cutting my dick up pretty bad.

When she tasted blood she freaked so much she actually ran away and wouldnt talk to me again.

 

[KinkyGAGuy]

I can't say that I ever had a "bad" blowjob. Some are mind blowing, some are not. However I have always appreciated getting them. I think technique and experience is key, and show a little enthusiam please!

Teeth can be erotic, especially if the woman is talented.

 

[heyitsthatguy77]

To answer the question, yes there are bad blowjobs. I was with a chick once and had no clue what she was doing and was lazy with it. It was more of open mouth put dick in mouth and she moved her head up and down. No thought or anything put into it at all.

 

[blkjames]

To answer the question, yes there are bad blowjobs. I was with a chick once and had no clue what she was doing and was lazy with it. It was more of open mouth put dick in mouth and she moved her head up and down. No thought or anything put into it at all.

dude, at least she put it in her mouth.