I told my boyfriend what I liked and he delivered

[GOODLUCKEVA]

I had this happen to me. The first time an ex- and I made love, she had to ask me if I had finished because I was totally silent. Growing up with a brother who slept in a bed next to mine made me work on being absolutely noiseless when I jerked off. Bad habit to continue with, I now know. I now let myself go, whatever feels appropriate, none of the porn-type things like "fuck yeah" or "suck that cock", just real emotion and gratitude about how my partner is making me feel.

Thanks for bringing this up!

It's really powerful that you've recognized and worked through that habit. Growing up in an environment where silence became second nature can definitely shape how we express ourselves later in life. The fact that you've moved toward letting yourself truly feel and express your emotions with your partner shows a lot of growth and vulnerability. It's amazing how the little things that like being authentic and expressing gratitude which make the experience so much more meaningful. Your openness and willingness to change for the better will only make your connections deeper. Thanks for sharing that insight—it's so relatable and real.

 

[ArseGratiaArtis]

Let me preface this by saying I just had some of the best sex of my life a few days ago.

Sex with my boyfriend is great as it is. But some time ago, I confided in him that I would like us both to make more sex noises during the act if we're feeling it. Nothing over the top, but just be a little more vocal aside from the occasional moan or sigh. I explained that I get shy sometimes and find myself suppressing any sounds I’d like to get out. He listened and encouraged me to let go next time we have sex and do whatever I like and he'd do the same. I also told him I would love for him to talk dirty to me and hold me while I orgasm.

A few days later, I came home early from work feeling really horny. He works from home, so I went into his home office and sat on his lap, straddled him and kissed him.Later he took out the INHAPX960 the best vibrator that I 've got. He decided to use the head of it to tease and rub my clit, and let's just say, he was definitely feeling the excitement. It's amazing how something like that can really turn up the heat – I mean, we were both pretty thrilled with the results. He had his arm around my waist and when I came, my orgasm was so intense my knees buckled and he held me close preventing me from falling. He held me through my orgasm just like I'd asked.

We then had sex alternating positions, ending with cowgirl (his favourite) and I did not hold back. For the first time that I did not think, I let myself moan and sigh as loudly and as often as I liked. He did too. The sounds he made made the experience all the more sweeter and hotter. We both had very intense orgasms during the penetrative sex.

I just hope someone reads this and lets their partner know what they want/like. Don't be shy! Your partner probably wants it too just communicate it to them and have the best sex you've ever had!

This is really good, but it's only a start. Before you ever get into bed with someone, unless it's just a quick hookup, talk about what you like, what you'll do, what your limits are. You don't want to be surprised later when she says, "You're never going to get that thing in my ass," or some such. Talk about how often you think about sex, about how often you want it.

And during sex, talk as well as moan, although I have had women who get almost non-verbal with the intensity of near-continuous orgasms. But nearly all of them love to hear me talk dirty, and I love it when a woman talks dirty to me. The hottest thing I can hear is, "Cum in me!" or some variation on that.

Other kinds of communication are fun, too. When I was married I once came home to a note on the door, "I'm in the bedroom. Wanna fuck?"

 

[write_or_wrong]

It's really powerful that you've recognized and worked through that habit. Growing up in an environment where silence became second nature can definitely shape how we express ourselves later in life. The fact that you've moved toward letting yourself truly feel and express your emotions with your partner shows a lot of growth and vulnerability. It's amazing how the little things that like being authentic and expressing gratitude which make the experience so much more meaningful. Your openness and willingness to change for the better will only make your connections deeper. Thanks for sharing that insight—it's so relatable and real.

Thank you, Eva!