Isolated BDSM Blurts: Facehugger Fetish

[seela]

Ugh, I’m sorry!
Now I feel bad for dragging you endlessly through the streets of our version of windy city.

Nah, it was great! And the fever and the snot didn’t come until Thursday anyway, so I doubt it was the windy city that caused it.

I’m feeling so much better already now that the fever is gone. I wasn’t sick for three years and now even a slight cold makes me want to die. I became such a wimp.

I’m mostly sad I’m missing the lovely warm and sunny days because of this nonsense.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Nah, it was great! And the fever and the snot didn’t come until Thursday anyway, so I doubt it was the windy city that caused it.

I’m feeling so much better already now that the fever is gone. I wasn’t sick for three years and now even a slight cold makes me want to die. I became such a wimp.

I’m mostly sad I’m missing the lovely warm and sunny days because of this nonsense.

Yes, I thought it was great too!

Hope you feel better soon, so you can sit out in the sun by a warm south wall at least.

 

[y=mx+b]

I had a crazy dream montage

Something about Chernobyl...
Moving?
Bike riding
Figuring out how to torture information out of someone with limited means

none of the dreams were related per say
the torture dream was probably the most lucid

In that one... there was some kind of medieval element to it. which... I'm not much of a fan of the genera in general and the fact that there was an element of it in my dream strikes me as stupid. But hey... I don't make up the dream rules.

Anyway... I had a copper rod I was trying to heat up hot enough to brand the information out of the person. But then I got to thinking if I could find enough aluminum to melt down I could drip (or threaten to drip) that on them. Particularly at the cuticle of their thumbnail.

I've no fucking idea what information I was trying to get out of them. Or why. At the moment of typing this I feel I might have been looking for directions out of the area I was in.

 

[Mrtenant]

 

[seela]

I’ve worked with someone for about a year now and I’ve always been a little afraid of them because of their sharp tongue and how they always seem to put me in the spot. I always have to really stand my ground with them and it’s generally absolutely exhausting. I usually feel like I’m slowly drowning when I have to work with them and I’ve tried to avoid them as much as I can because of that and I think they hate me and everything I do.

Then, today, I heard through the grapevine that they’ve said some really lovely things about me, working with me and how much they respect me because I’m able to keep calm, stand my ground, explain and argue my point.

It’s so weird. Do they do that on purpose, the putting me in the position where I have to stand my ground I mean? Do they not notice they do that? Do they not notice how uneasy the situation makes me? I’m so confused now.

 

[IrisAlthea]

It’s so weird. Do they do that on purpose, the putting me in the position where I have to stand my ground I mean? Do they not notice they do that? Do they not notice how uneasy the situation makes me? I’m so confused now.

It might be that they don’t realize that it makes you uncomfortable.
They may be bad at reading that kind of thing in general or just hyper focused on getting the job done the best way possible.

I say that as someone who sometimes notices belatedly that she can come across as a bit of an asshole.

 

[y=mx+b]

I’ve worked with someone for about a year now and I’ve always been a little afraid of them because of their sharp tongue and how they always seem to put me in the spot. I always have to really stand my ground with them and it’s generally absolutely exhausting. I usually feel like I’m slowly drowning when I have to work with them and I’ve tried to avoid them as much as I can because of that and I think they hate me and everything I do.

Then, today, I heard through the grapevine that they’ve said some really lovely things about me, working with me and how much they respect me because I’m able to keep calm, stand my ground, explain and argue my point.

It’s so weird. Do they do that on purpose, the putting me in the position where I have to stand my ground I mean? Do they not notice they do that? Do they not notice how uneasy the situation makes me? I’m so confused now.

If it helps, read up on "enneagram 8" personalities and see if it sounds like the person you are working with. I too have worked with such individuals. Then I checked out the personality type and found it rather enlightening. Granted... they just might be an all-out asshole. But if not, you might find it helpful to learn what makes the person tick. A lot of time they come to be great advocates and voices for those who fall by the way-side or treated unfairly.

 

[seela]

It might be that they don’t realize that it makes you uncomfortable.
They may be bad at reading that kind of thing in general or just hyper focused on getting the job done the best way possible.

I say that as someone who sometimes notices belatedly that she can come across as a bit of an asshole.

It could be that they just don’t realize.

They also have a really hard time admitting when they fuck up, so that’s where a lot of the problematic moments have stemmed from. In what we do, certain things are very black and white, either right or wrong, no middle ground. And they try to spin their wrong thing into a light shade of gray and make me accept it, which then down the road means I need to fix the issue anyway. So of course I don’t want that.

Very annoying. Very confusing.

If it helps, read up on "enneagram 8" personalities and see if it sounds like the person you are working with. I too have worked with such individuals. Then I checked out the personality type and found it rather enlightening. Granted... they just might be an all-out asshole. But if not, you might find it helpful to learn what makes the person tick. A lot of time they come to be great advocates and voices for those who fall by the way-side or treated unfairly.

Maybe they are a great advocate for those who are treated unfairly, but as long as it doesn’t have something to do with the job, I don't see it and thus it doesn’t really matter to me.

I just wish they would stop treating me in a way that I feel is unfair to me and sort of belittling of my professionalism and knowledge.

Maybe I’ll just have to be a grown up at some point and talk about the issue with them instead of just trying to avoid the person.

They’re luckily also close to retirement so the problem will solve itself in about 1.5 years. Really looking forward to it.

 

[y=mx+b]

It could be that they just don’t realize.

They also have a really hard time admitting when they fuck up, so that’s where a lot of the problematic moments have stemmed from. In what we do, certain things are very black and white, either right or wrong, no middle ground. And they try to spin their wrong thing into a light shade of gray and make me accept it, which then down the road means I need to fix the issue anyway. So of course I don’t want that.

Very annoying. Very confusing.

Maybe they are a great advocate for those who are treated unfairly, but as long as it doesn’t have something to do with the job, I don't see it and thus it doesn’t really matter to me.

I just wish they would stop treating me in a way that I feel is unfair to me and sort of belittling of my professionalism and knowledge.

Maybe I’ll just have to be a grown up at some point and talk about the issue with them instead of just trying to avoid the person.

They’re luckily also close to retirement so the problem will solve itself in about 1.5 years. Really looking forward to it.

if they are that close to retirement chances are good they are probably insufferable to everyone.

 

[IrisAlthea]

their sharp tongue and how they always seem to put me in the spot. I always have to really stand my ground with them and it’s generally absolutely exhausting.

I heard through the grapevine that they’ve said some really lovely things about me, working with me and how much they respect me because I’m able to keep calm, stand my ground, explain and argue my point.

I thought about this as I had a conversation today, that kind of borders on this.
We were talking about how challanging and questioning can be perceived as both doubt and a way to stimulate and develop.

When you talked about the above, I thought they might be the kind who wants to challenge and argue every point, to ensure the best possible outcome.
They can sometimes be a bit bulldozerlike but they do tend to appreciate getting good arguments back.

They also have a really hard time admitting when they fuck up, so that’s where a lot of the problematic moments have stemmed from. In what we do, certain things are very black and white, either right or wrong, no middle ground. And they try to spin their wrong thing into a light shade of gray and make me accept it, which then down the road means I need to fix the issue anyway. So of course I don’t want that.

This sounds different though.
Perhaps there is more insecurity on their part than you would expect - cose to retirement and feeling a bit on the way out, needing keep a front?

I just wish they would stop treating me in a way that I feel is unfair to me and sort of belittling of my professionalism and knowledge.

Does it feel differently now that you know that they praise you in other contexts?

In a better world, this would be something for management to deal with. The Scandinavian work culture has its pros and cons, as we have discussed before I think.

 

[seela]

This sounds different though.
Perhaps there is more insecurity on their part than you would expect - cose to retirement and feeling a bit on the way out, needing keep a front?

Entirely possible. There’s also a weird history to the organization where I work and plenty of the older people carry the history with them…

Does it feel differently now that you know that they praise you in other contexts?

I think it feels a lot more confusing now than it did before. I had written them off as someone who just doesn’t like me or how I function, but now I just don’t know. I’m also not that interested in why they are the way they are towards me. I just wish it would magically stop.

The switch from the previous job to this hasn’t been an easy one.

In a better world, this would be something for management to deal with. The Scandinavian work culture has its pros and cons, as we have discussed before I think.

Yeah, we’ve talked about this before, and this is true, too.

 

[IrisAlthea]

There’s also a weird history to the organization where I work and plenty of the older people carry the history with them…

Sometimes they really should write a monograph and history of the organization, so new people can understans some of the strange under currents.

I still remember my first meetings at my first ”real job” where two really old people (in ny eyes at the time…) took turns sniping at the relatively new boss, only pausing to insult each other at the top of their lungs across the room.
I hadn’t really imagined educated adults behaving like that in a professional setting, so it was a bit confusing.
Over time, people gave me the background and as I understood it they had both been top notch giants in their field but hadn’t handled the last stretch until retirement too well.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Turns out there is a reason why you should not go alone to IKEA.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Turns out there is a reason why you should not go alone to IKEA. View attachment 2245521

Got it on the cart, into the car, into the house.
It is now assembled, with a little help because I’m hobbit sized and only equipped with two arms and fits perfectly upstairs the way I hoped it would.

And the pan is seasoned.

Iris tired though!

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Getting back into bowling for since stepping away a couple decades ago. Bowled my best series ever last night and kicked the ass of a guy in the league who gives me a hard time.

 

[RoperTrace]

Getting back into bowling for since stepping away a couple decades ago. Bowled my best series ever last night and kicked the ass of a guy in the league who gives me a hard time.

This is so topical, on our morning dog walk, I saw a person had a bowling ball sitting at the curb for large item pick up day. along with a snow shovel? We're in Pa., surely they don't think climate change has erased winters?

 

[IrisAlthea]

This is so topical, on our morning dog walk, I saw a person had a bowling ball sitting at the curb for large item pick up day. along with a snow shovel? We're in Pa., surely they don't think climate change has erased winters?

Things that didn’t spark joy?

 

[BiBunny]

Dom/mes who capitalize pronouns referring to themselves have no idea how pretentious and how like mere affectation it looks.

Note: This has nothing to do with anyone on Lit. I'm mostly talking about people on Twitter.

 

[Tallcajun]

Got it on the cart, into the car, into the house.
It is now assembled, with a little help because I’m hobbit sized and only equipped with two arms and fits perfectly upstairs the way I hoped it would.

And the pan is seasoned.

Iris tired though!

What is it??!!
I may have missed a post or two…

 

[twister947]

What is it??!!
I may have missed a post or two…

We both must have missed it, then.

 

[BiBunny]

It hot, y'all.

 

[IrisAlthea]

What is it??!!
I may have missed a post or two…

Pictured in the post before that I quoted - IKEA box containing a side table.
Not that heavy, just 54 pounds but I’m not graced with a huge wing span as I’m not that much taller than the box and too wide for me to carry under my arm too.
The glass top meant that I had to be a bit careful too.
I won the fight though!

 

[IrisAlthea]

We both must have missed it, then.

See quote below.

Pictured in the post before that I quoted - IKEA box containing a side table.
Not that heavy, just 54 pounds but I’m not graced with a huge wing span as I’m not that much taller than the box and too wide for me to carry under my arm too.
The glass top meant that I had to be a bit careful too.
I won the fight though!

 

[y=mx+b]

I pumped my wife so full of cum last night where I actually got to thinking during the decline of my orgasm that there's no way a man my age should be ejaculating like this. It was absurd. Damn near medically concerning.

 

[RoperTrace]

I pumped my wife so full of cum last night where I actually got to thinking during the decline of my orgasm that there's no way a man my age should be ejaculating like this. It was absurd. Damn near medically concerning.

Be extra careful for a man your age, patting yourself on the back can dislocate a shoulder.