Kinky Self Love

[Bondagebunni]

Re: *Taps fingers impatiently waiting for post*

...which seems not to be forthcoming, therefore a suitable punishment must be imparted and the punishment is.... NO punishment, NO smackings on the botty, not even being bound constrained over a table powerless to resist, the anticipation of punishment, even, is too good for non-posters!

now that's just cruel!

I have always wanted to train a submissive to cum on command. Perhaps I will yet do so! Can anyone share what was effective in training to be able to do this?

One of the submissives I played with has involuntary orgasms every day for the space of about an hour in the afternoons. No joke! She says she has no control over them. It seems at this period of the day she's a little more relaxed, her thoughts wander, and wham... away she goes!

Of course, she tells me it's both wonderful and scary, especially when she is at work!

that's so amazingly cool! why can't i do that!!!!!!

 

[FungiUg]

Re: *Taps fingers impatiently waiting for post*

now that's just cruel!

that's so amazingly cool! why can't i do that!!!!!!

Hmmm... dunno. It wasn't an intentional effect, just happens.

 

[MissTaken]

Re: Cumming on command

I have always wanted to train a submissive to cum on command. Perhaps I will yet do so! Can anyone share what was effective in training to be able to do this?

It may take time. I believe it may have something to do with the submissive's ability to clear her mind and focus only on you.

Honestly, this skill was learned primarily by engaging in phone intimacy with a Dom who was special to me. The connection between two people is important, at least in the beginning.

If your voice and words can paint a picture in her mind, she will ultimately cum.

I would suggest that when you are with a submissive and getting the sense that she is aroused out of a scene, stop what you are talking about and in a low voice, suggest she "follow" teh feeling. Have her describe it to you. Add inflections and images of your actions.

It may take practice, but it has worked for me!



Oh, and if she slips easily into that aroused state, be wary. You don't want all of your conversations and time together to be dictated by her arousal and your desire to make her cum. Finding a tool to bring her focus back to teh conversation is a good idea i.e. asking her for the color of your eyes, hair, to describe a painting on the wall, etc.

Best wishes.

 

[RandomInk]

8 pages of this? There are some kinky lovers out there


Time to reveal my personal, private, fetish. I love to masturbate and keep myself from having an orgasm. Sometimes going to the edge, and then back. Sometimes never even getting close to the edge but enjoying the action. I think that helped me get control over my orgasms, I can't do it at will, but I can stop myself.

Then there's another thing I love, the first time I did masturbate I was 13. It took me two hours and three orgasms that night, and for the next few weeks I was SWOLLEN. So I have a penchant for pain now. I take some cotton string and tie a loop at one end, and then a series of knots with about an inch of string after the final notch and wrap about a half inch of the tip in tape.

Throughout the day, and often at night, I'll have the string secured around my penis and just snug enough not to move on it's own. When I get aroused though it's a different story. It's tight enough that blood can flow in but is restricted when getting out. So if I'm not careful I end up with an erection I can't get to go down for maybe 20 minutes. The thing I love most though is the look of all the veins bulging through the skin. Masturbating when it's like that is even more fun because I can feel the veins move around. It also makes everything bigger when it's tight, like maybe another eighth of an inch or quarter inch longer and thicker. So self control is a must, check out my sig and you'll probably understand.

 

[RandomInk]

one more thing

Oh yeah, I forgot something

I forget the name of the excercise. But it's supposed to help guys have more powerful orgasms. You acheive it through repetive action, flexing and clenching a muscle that's used when guy's orgasm.

I'm not sure if it's because of that excercise, or me sometimes taking days between orgasms while constantly pushing myself to the edge and back again, but when I do cum it is with quantity and force.

 

[RandomInk]

did I kill this thread or what?!

 

[MissTaken]

I am sure not.




Thinking.

I am thinking

 

[Bondagebunni]

did I kill this thread or what?!

no, you didn't...very interesting pattern you have there...damn...two orgasms the first time you masturbated...that's rather impressive. The first few years, i never came once. i started when i was three though...so that might explain it.

 

[inferiormale]

My Gay "Rape" Fantasies

Here is one of my favorite self-love activities:

I get naked and lie on the floor with my feet propped up on the edge of the bed so my knees are up over my chest. I have with me a dildo and a tube of KY. I put on a blindfold and shove a makeshift gag in my mouth. I lube up the tip of the dildo and start going to work on my tender hole. With one hand I slowly work the dildo in farther and farther and with the other hand I start to gently stroke my cock. Once the dildo is in as far as it's going to go I start to...well, fuck myself. Using both anal and penile stimulation I'll work myself up to near orgasm while fantasizing the whole time that I am being held down and raped by several muscular guys, perhaps in a locker room. As I get close to cumming I'll take my hand off my cock and continue working the dildo in and out. I'll go back to jacking off after awhile and go through several of these tease and denial scenerios. At some point the pleasure becomes unbearable and let myself cum and squirt all over my tummy and chest. I'll sometimes remove my gag and scrape up the cum with my finger and put it in my mouth and swallow.

A variation on this is to lube lie down on the bed and lube up and insert a butt plug to where it's gonna stay put. Then I roll over on my stomach with a pillow under my hips and I spread my legs wide. With the blindfold and gag in place I start to rub my cock against the pillow or bed until I work up an erection while imagining being spread wide, tied and raped in that position. I go through the arousal and denial scenerios until I can't hold back anymore and cum like crazy.

This is a wonderfully humiliating and exciting experience for me. I guess the rape dimension of the story relieves a little of the guilt for my truly enjoying the fantasy of being sodomized.

Feel free to PM or EM me if you'd like to discuss this or similiar fantasies.

Sincerely,
IM

 

[RandomInk]

Trust me, you may fantasise about being raped, but it isn't as fun as you want it to be. Keep it to fantasy and you'll be much better off.

 

[thedirtypoet]

My tricks

I've always liked watersports and golden showers and sometimes if I'm really horny and want a major orgasm I will put the rubber sheet on the bed, a cotton sheet on top of that. I'll drink as much as I can - preferably alcoholic and then lay on bed and wet myself.

It feels extremely delicously naughty and forbidden and within seconds of the last drops pouring out of my cock I had a massive erection and then masturbate to a wickedly strong orgasm.

Nearly as effective is to just wet myself in my clothes and then masturbate.

 

[NemoAlia]

I just love the images that this thread conjures up in my mind. Mmmm.

 

[Bondagebunni]

Re: My Gay "Rape" Fantasies

Here is one of my favorite self-love activities:

I get naked and lie on the floor with my feet propped up on the edge of the bed so my knees are up over my chest. I have with me a dildo and a tube of KY. I put on a blindfold and shove a makeshift gag in my mouth. I lube up the tip of the dildo and start going to work on my tender hole. With one hand I slowly work the dildo in farther and farther and with the other hand I start to gently stroke my cock. Once the dildo is in as far as it's going to go I start to...well, fuck myself. Using both anal and penile stimulation I'll work myself up to near orgasm while fantasizing the whole time that I am being held down and raped by several muscular guys, perhaps in a locker room. As I get close to cumming I'll take my hand off my cock and continue working the dildo in and out. I'll go back to jacking off after awhile and go through several of these tease and denial scenerios. At some point the pleasure becomes unbearable and let myself cum and squirt all over my tummy and chest. I'll sometimes remove my gag and scrape up the cum with my finger and put it in my mouth and swallow.

A variation on this is to lube lie down on the bed and lube up and insert a butt plug to where it's gonna stay put. Then I roll over on my stomach with a pillow under my hips and I spread my legs wide. With the blindfold and gag in place I start to rub my cock against the pillow or bed until I work up an erection while imagining being spread wide, tied and raped in that position. I go through the arousal and denial scenerios until I can't hold back anymore and cum like crazy.

This is a wonderfully humiliating and exciting experience for me. I guess the rape dimension of the story relieves a little of the guilt for my truly enjoying the fantasy of being sodomized.

Feel free to PM or EM me if you'd like to discuss this or similiar fantasies.

Sincerely,
IM

ooh! that sounds like fun! you do anything else like that? i wanna hear about it!

 

[majka]

Ok.. I could spend an hour (give or take) reading all the replies to this post, but I have some experiences I'd like to share right NOW.

It's been a while since I've done this, but...at one time,

I would schedule "dates" with myself...My boyfriend at the time (now husband) was not allowed to come over, and luckily, I didn't have roommates then.

These dates would sometimes entail drinking a glass or three of red wine (which was my preference at the time), not that I needed it to "get me there", but I like the way red wine makes me feel all warm and fuzzy on the inside!

I'd put on some sexy clothing...I have a way of putting my panties on that gets my juices flowing... let's see if I can describe this well enough...First, I'd put on some very thin silky or meshy panties and pull the front down just above my clitoris. I would spread just enough lip out so that JUST my clitoris would be between the tight grip of the panties...I'd take the REST of the material and pull IT up, back and between my crack and pull it WAY high up behind me...In order to keep it there, sometimes I'd grab a pair of pantyhose and tie them around my waist and through the hip/sides of my panties then attach them to my top...My top would be pulled down in front to expose my VERY ample breasts...

I would then put something sheer on over my top and just walk around the house, good music playing, catching a nice mild buzz, and the feeling of the panties gripping my clitoris and moving in between my asscheeks would definitely get me wet...

sometimes I'd partake in a little phone sex just to hear the different voices of horny people in this lovely Bay Area; but when not, I'd choose my implement/s and take it on full force....

I fucked my dining room chair on several occasions...The legs, and the decorative finials atop....If you have a couch w/ separations in the cushions on the part where your back goes, if it's not a terribly squishy couch, you can slip your vibrator/dildo in the crack, get on the couch, on your knees, facing the back and basically fuck your couch that way....Or your mattress...put your vibrator inbetween your mattresses and work your way into the position to fuck yourself that way...

If you just look around your house, the possibilities are endless...

Not that you necessarily need ideas...I've thoroughly enjoyed sharing just these few...

Majka.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

I am looking at my furniture in a whole new light Majka *grin*

-Anelize

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Ok.. I could spend an hour (give or take) reading all the replies to this post, but I have some experiences I'd like to share right NOW.

It's been a while since I've done this, but...at one time,

I would schedule "dates" with myself...My boyfriend at the time (now husband) was not allowed to come over, and luckily, I didn't have roommates then.

These dates would sometimes entail drinking a glass or three of red wine (which was my preference at the time), not that I needed it to "get me there", but I like the way red wine makes me feel all warm and fuzzy on the inside!

I'd put on some sexy clothing...I have a way of putting my panties on that gets my juices flowing... let's see if I can describe this well enough...First, I'd put on some very thin silky or meshy panties and pull the front down just above my clitoris. I would spread just enough lip out so that JUST my clitoris would be between the tight grip of the panties...I'd take the REST of the material and pull IT up, back and between my crack and pull it WAY high up behind me...In order to keep it there, sometimes I'd grab a pair of pantyhose and tie them around my waist and through the hip/sides of my panties then attach them to my top...My top would be pulled down in front to expose my VERY ample breasts...

I would then put something sheer on over my top and just walk around the house, good music playing, catching a nice mild buzz, and the feeling of the panties gripping my clitoris and moving in between my asscheeks would definitely get me wet...

sometimes I'd partake in a little phone sex just to hear the different voices of horny people in this lovely Bay Area; but when not, I'd choose my implement/s and take it on full force....

I fucked my dining room chair on several occasions...The legs, and the decorative finials atop....If you have a couch w/ separations in the cushions on the part where your back goes, if it's not a terribly squishy couch, you can slip your vibrator/dildo in the crack, get on the couch, on your knees, facing the back and basically fuck your couch that way....Or your mattress...put your vibrator inbetween your mattresses and work your way into the position to fuck yourself that way...

If you just look around your house, the possibilities are endless...

Not that you necessarily need ideas...I've thoroughly enjoyed sharing just these few...

Majka.

I'm taking up carpentry....

 

[RandomInk]

girls seem to have the most creative ways of fucking themselves

 

[Bondagebunni]

wow..i never thought of doing that...*looks at the bed* heeheehee...

 

[JeanMarc31M]

Ok.. I could spend an hour (give or take) reading all the replies to this post, but I have some experiences I'd like to share right NOW.

It's been a while since I've done this, but...at one time,

I would schedule "dates" with myself...

Majka.

A very sexy post.

 

[RandomInk]

It's an inspiring idea Majka has. Makes me want to take up carpentry and make some money selling "furniture". I build enough things in my spare time, this could be something I could enjoy.

I can see it now... the face of a young woman light up when she looks at her new purchase

 

[Bondagebunni]

heh.."sex furniture, the new wave in interior decorating fashion"

 

[RandomInk]

Its along the same lines as the couch and matching loveseats I'm making for my school dances (give it a club feel with some black vinyl)... I offered to build in some subwoofers beneath the seats and everyone just looked at me.

My reply... "They just vibrate, people can still talk with eachother"

 

[psiberzerker]

Most of my autoerotic kink is more in the fantasy realm than actually reproducable techniques. The actual action is pretty much meat piston shit, but what goes on behind my eyes is what makes it all worthwhile.
I'm a writer, so a lot of my fantasies involve characters of mine, and vice versa. The main one, Benedict is ex Naval police, and a body builder. I basicly created her as a woman that can throw me around the room. She is my nemesis, my lover, and my equal in my mind.
The other important thing is that I am extremely masochistic. I'm not bragging, it just happens to be the case. I have been known to "Spice things up" with a lit cigarette, hot knifetip, or soldering iron. Urethral penetration is another common one that others seem to find a bit severe.
I'm ashaimed to say that there is also a lot of rape in my fantasies. Part of why I began writing in the first place was that I could write about things instead of doing them. Don't get me wrong, I know better than the next guy what the reality of rape is, but in moments of extreme anger, I have been known to strangle people in my mind. Unfortunately, this has bled over into my sexual fantasy.
Don't judge me, I already do enough for all of us. You think I'm critical out here?

 

[RandomInk]

You can do whatever you want man. I've never liked cutting myself, but I knew a girl who loved it. A strong female image is good, I hope you find someone who can give you the real thing though. Sounds like it would be heaven for you.

Personally, I keep most sharp or scalding things away from my penis. Well... except for a razor... that's different I guess.

Hey man, you like it, then do it and enjoy it. As for rape in your fantasies, it probably comes from your want for a dominant figure. You want them to take you and sorta pound into your head that you're theirs. I've read enough of your posts to know you realize the psychological meaning behind it though. I was raped, it sucks, but it's something you deal with for the rest of your life. Its amazing the things it'll affect. Just be careful, if you're strangling people out of anger and it starts to bleed over into real life, it's hard to excercise control in those situations.

 

[psiberzerker]

I appreciate your concern, but I have it locked down pretty good. If I was going to strangle someone, I would've by now. Believe me, I've been close.
As for the rape fantasies, I'm not the victim. I already know what that's like, and it ain't all that much fun. I know what the other end's ike too, and it ain't fun either. Eventually, that'll sink into my subconcious.
Regardless, I'm a geezer. I couldn't do it if I wanted. I happen to be a tough old bastard, but I believe my fightin' days is over. At least I'd like to hope.