Lonely girl

[iCum4mom]

I am so new and awkward at this, but thought I’d dip my toes in and see what happens.

I suppose I’ll start with a little about me.
I’m 38, female. Straight. Married. In an intimate-less & sexless marriage. I haven’t been with anyone but him in a very very long time. I can count on one hand how many partners I’ve had in my life. I definitely lean toward several kinks but haven’t had much opportunity to explore those things. Have never used dating apps. Always been very much a good girl in life. I work with the public and have a naturally bubbly and silly disposition. I completely take care of myself in every aspect of life. I’ve had several tragedies happen within the last 5-10 years and I’m at a crossroads. I find myself happy in most things, but fuck if I’m not so lonely and miss physical and emotional contact. I’m sure my circumstances are not unique, and a lot of people probably find themselves in my situation facing their 40s and just not wanting to waste anymore time wondering if there might just be more to life. But onto the important stuff! I love reading, being outside. Growing things- walking in the woods- feeding my backyard critters. Anything creative and arty. I love sitting around a bonfire at night, watching the fireflies and maybe partaking in a bit of green and having ridiculous conversations with lots of laughs.

What I’m looking for is maybe someone to connect with. Someone kind but strong. Maybe someone who is or was in a similar place as I am. Or maybe not? I don’t need you to be my therapist- just someone to talk to. Maybe awake some feelings in me that are there but have no outlet. I’m not fussy about looks or high maintenance and needy. I don’t want that from you either. Although looks do matter and appearance is important- it’s not top priority. Just be real, be yourself- and you’re kosher.

I really have no idea how any of this sounds. I know I’m a bit clueless for my age about some things. But I’ve been here, in the background, for awhile and am taking a chance and being brave. Let’s waste some time together and see what happens

Hey message me

 

[bill4672a]

All of us were new at this once

 

[Paradox]

I am so new and awkward at this, but thought I’d dip my toes in and see what happens.

As others have mentioned, you are not alone here. Lots of us are in similar situations. I do hope you are able to find friends here.

 

[Buckonlyme]

I am so new and awkward at this, but thought I’d dip my toes in and see what happens.

I suppose I’ll start with a little about me.
I’m 38, female. Straight. Married. In an intimate-less & sexless marriage. I haven’t been with anyone but him in a very very long time. I can count on one hand how many partners I’ve had in my life. I definitely lean toward several kinks but haven’t had much opportunity to explore those things. Have never used dating apps. Always been very much a good girl in life. I work with the public and have a naturally bubbly and silly disposition. I completely take care of myself in every aspect of life. I’ve had several tragedies happen within the last 5-10 years and I’m at a crossroads. I find myself happy in most things, but fuck if I’m not so lonely and miss physical and emotional contact. I’m sure my circumstances are not unique, and a lot of people probably find themselves in my situation facing their 40s and just not wanting to waste anymore time wondering if there might just be more to life. But onto the important stuff! I love reading, being outside. Growing things- walking in the woods- feeding my backyard critters. Anything creative and arty. I love sitting around a bonfire at night, watching the fireflies and maybe partaking in a bit of green and having ridiculous conversations with lots of laughs.

What I’m looking for is maybe someone to connect with. Someone kind but strong. Maybe someone who is or was in a similar place as I am. Or maybe not? I don’t need you to be my therapist- just someone to talk to. Maybe awake some feelings in me that are there but have no outlet. I’m not fussy about looks or high maintenance and needy. I don’t want that from you either. Although looks do matter and appearance is important- it’s not top priority. Just be real, be yourself- and you’re kosher.

I really have no idea how any of this sounds. I know I’m a bit clueless for my age about some things. But I’ve been here, in the background, for awhile and am taking a chance and being brave. Let’s waste some time together and see what happens

How may I be of service? Your command is my wish

 

[Engineer0234]

I am so new and awkward at this, but thought I’d dip my toes in and see what happens.

I suppose I’ll start with a little about me.
I’m 38, female. Straight. Married. In an intimate-less & sexless marriage. I haven’t been with anyone but him in a very very long time. I can count on one hand how many partners I’ve had in my life. I definitely lean toward several kinks but haven’t had much opportunity to explore those things. Have never used dating apps. Always been very much a good girl in life. I work with the public and have a naturally bubbly and silly disposition. I completely take care of myself in every aspect of life. I’ve had several tragedies happen within the last 5-10 years and I’m at a crossroads. I find myself happy in most things, but fuck if I’m not so lonely and miss physical and emotional contact. I’m sure my circumstances are not unique, and a lot of people probably find themselves in my situation facing their 40s and just not wanting to waste anymore time wondering if there might just be more to life. But onto the important stuff! I love reading, being outside. Growing things- walking in the woods- feeding my backyard critters. Anything creative and arty. I love sitting around a bonfire at night, watching the fireflies and maybe partaking in a bit of green and having ridiculous conversations with lots of laughs.

What I’m looking for is maybe someone to connect with. Someone kind but strong. Maybe someone who is or was in a similar place as I am. Or maybe not? I don’t need you to be my therapist- just someone to talk to. Maybe awake some feelings in me that are there but have no outlet. I’m not fussy about looks or high maintenance and needy. I don’t want that from you either. Although looks do matter and appearance is important- it’s not top priority. Just be real, be yourself- and you’re kosher.

I really have no idea how any of this sounds. I know I’m a bit clueless for my age about some things. But I’ve been here, in the background, for awhile and am taking a chance and being brave. Let’s waste some time together and see what happens

Hi, my name is Alex and I am 62. I completely understand your situation as I am in such a marriage. Its not a loveless marriage just intimacy free.

I am a keen horse rider and love the outdoors. Like yourself I am not weighed down with self pity, but it would be wonderful to have an outlet to listen and be listened to.

I hope to hear from you.

Alex

 

[Anchor10]

Hi DuvessaNight, i find myself in the same situation. I like to walk in the woods and a long the beach. I am 64 and married so if want to chat please reach out. I hope to hear from you

 

[60andhundry]

I am so new and awkward at this, but thought I’d dip my toes in and see what happens.

I suppose I’ll start with a little about me.
I’m 38, female. Straight. Married. In an intimate-less & sexless marriage. I haven’t been with anyone but him in a very very long time. I can count on one hand how many partners I’ve had in my life. I definitely lean toward several kinks but haven’t had much opportunity to explore those things. Have never used dating apps. Always been very much a good girl in life. I work with the public and have a naturally bubbly and silly disposition. I completely take care of myself in every aspect of life. I’ve had several tragedies happen within the last 5-10 years and I’m at a crossroads. I find myself happy in most things, but fuck if I’m not so lonely and miss physical and emotional contact. I’m sure my circumstances are not unique, and a lot of people probably find themselves in my situation facing their 40s and just not wanting to waste anymore time wondering if there might just be more to life. But onto the important stuff! I love reading, being outside. Growing things- walking in the woods- feeding my backyard critters. Anything creative and arty. I love sitting around a bonfire at night, watching the fireflies and maybe partaking in a bit of green and having ridiculous conversations with lots of laughs.

What I’m looking for is maybe someone to connect with. Someone kind but strong. Maybe someone who is or was in a similar place as I am. Or maybe not? I don’t need you to be my therapist- just someone to talk to. Maybe awake some feelings in me that are there but have no outlet. I’m not fussy about looks or high maintenance and needy. I don’t want that from you either. Although looks do matter and appearance is important- it’s not top priority. Just be real, be yourself- and you’re kosher.

I really have no idea how any of this sounds. I know I’m a bit clueless for my age about some things. But I’ve been here, in the background, for awhile and am taking a chance and being brave. Let’s waste some time together and see what happens

hello Im available to chat

 

[VincentC58]

New here too and can empathize. I agree with the one post that your inbox will explode. Enjoy the attention, be cautious and you may enjoy yourself here. Cheers and good luck connecting

 

[GentlemanShrek]

Hi, I hope you find genuine people to talk to about what you’re feeling and will listen to you and not be creeps.

 

[Daddydamnit]

I am so new and awkward at this, but thought I’d dip my toes in and see what happens.

I suppose I’ll start with a little about me.
I’m 38, female. Straight. Married. In an intimate-less & sexless marriage. I haven’t been with anyone but him in a very very long time. I can count on one hand how many partners I’ve had in my life. I definitely lean toward several kinks but haven’t had much opportunity to explore those things. Have never used dating apps. Always been very much a good girl in life. I work with the public and have a naturally bubbly and silly disposition. I completely take care of myself in every aspect of life. I’ve had several tragedies happen within the last 5-10 years and I’m at a crossroads. I find myself happy in most things, but fuck if I’m not so lonely and miss physical and emotional contact. I’m sure my circumstances are not unique, and a lot of people probably find themselves in my situation facing their 40s and just not wanting to waste anymore time wondering if there might just be more to life. But onto the important stuff! I love reading, being outside. Growing things- walking in the woods- feeding my backyard critters. Anything creative and arty. I love sitting around a bonfire at night, watching the fireflies and maybe partaking in a bit of green and having ridiculous conversations with lots of laughs.

What I’m looking for is maybe someone to connect with. Someone kind but strong. Maybe someone who is or was in a similar place as I am. Or maybe not? I don’t need you to be my therapist- just someone to talk to. Maybe awake some feelings in me that are there but have no outlet. I’m not fussy about looks or high maintenance and needy. I don’t want that from you either. Although looks do matter and appearance is important- it’s not top priority. Just be real, be yourself- and you’re kosher.

I really have no idea how any of this sounds. I know I’m a bit clueless for my age about some things. But I’ve been here, in the background, for awhile and am taking a chance and being brave. Let’s waste some time together and see what happens

50 yo male in the same boat as you. Love to chat pm me.

 

[Yourcuck]

I am so new and awkward at this, but thought I’d dip my toes in and see what happens.

I suppose I’ll start with a little about me.
I’m 38, female. Straight. Married. In an intimate-less & sexless marriage. I haven’t been with anyone but him in a very very long time. I can count on one hand how many partners I’ve had in my life. I definitely lean toward several kinks but haven’t had much opportunity to explore those things. Have never used dating apps. Always been very much a good girl in life. I work with the public and have a naturally bubbly and silly disposition. I completely take care of myself in every aspect of life. I’ve had several tragedies happen within the last 5-10 years and I’m at a crossroads. I find myself happy in most things, but fuck if I’m not so lonely and miss physical and emotional contact. I’m sure my circumstances are not unique, and a lot of people probably find themselves in my situation facing their 40s and just not wanting to waste anymore time wondering if there might just be more to life. But onto the important stuff! I love reading, being outside. Growing things- walking in the woods- feeding my backyard critters. Anything creative and arty. I love sitting around a bonfire at night, watching the fireflies and maybe partaking in a bit of green and having ridiculous conversations with lots of laughs.

What I’m looking for is maybe someone to connect with. Someone kind but strong. Maybe someone who is or was in a similar place as I am. Or maybe not? I don’t need you to be my therapist- just someone to talk to. Maybe awake some feelings in me that are there but have no outlet. I’m not fussy about looks or high maintenance and needy. I don’t want that from you either. Although looks do matter and appearance is important- it’s not top priority. Just be real, be yourself- and you’re kosher.

I really have no idea how any of this sounds. I know I’m a bit clueless for my age about some things. But I’ve been here, in the background, for awhile and am taking a chance and being brave. Let’s waste some time together and see what happens

Damn if your words sounded just like my position in life right now. Let's ask each other question and listen to our answers ... would love to chat

 

[Rimmer82]

I am so new and awkward at this, but thought I’d dip my toes in and see what happens.

I suppose I’ll start with a little about me.
I’m 38, female. Straight. Married. In an intimate-less & sexless marriage. I haven’t been with anyone but him in a very very long time. I can count on one hand how many partners I’ve had in my life. I definitely lean toward several kinks but haven’t had much opportunity to explore those things. Have never used dating apps. Always been very much a good girl in life. I work with the public and have a naturally bubbly and silly disposition. I completely take care of myself in every aspect of life. I’ve had several tragedies happen within the last 5-10 years and I’m at a crossroads. I find myself happy in most things, but fuck if I’m not so lonely and miss physical and emotional contact. I’m sure my circumstances are not unique, and a lot of people probably find themselves in my situation facing their 40s and just not wanting to waste anymore time wondering if there might just be more to life. But onto the important stuff! I love reading, being outside. Growing things- walking in the woods- feeding my backyard critters. Anything creative and arty. I love sitting around a bonfire at night, watching the fireflies and maybe partaking in a bit of green and having ridiculous conversations with lots of laughs.

What I’m looking for is maybe someone to connect with. Someone kind but strong. Maybe someone who is or was in a similar place as I am. Or maybe not? I don’t need you to be my therapist- just someone to talk to. Maybe awake some feelings in me that are there but have no outlet. I’m not fussy about looks or high maintenance and needy. I don’t want that from you either. Although looks do matter and appearance is important- it’s not top priority. Just be real, be yourself- and you’re kosher.

I really have no idea how any of this sounds. I know I’m a bit clueless for my age about some things. But I’ve been here, in the background, for awhile and am taking a chance and being brave. Let’s waste some time together and see what happens

If you are still looking for something I would be interested, similar past but wasn’t married to her. Also new to this so if you’d like to chat and get to know PM me. I won’t PM you as I’m sure you’ve had loads of that so far

 

[Photog1rl]

I legit just saw the worst offender in the ‘members currently online’ list showing that he was reading this thread…. Probably crafting a message right now to tell you how lucky you are that he responsed.

I don’t want to add to your inbox implosion, but if you want to know a few to watch out for, please feel free to PM me.

Hi Duvessa and Katie! I think your interaction shows just how positive most of the women are on here. I love the idea of looking out for each other this way.
While the majority of folks they I have interacted with have been polite there are a few I’ve had to just shut down directly. Also, learning to not feel guilty if you can’t respond to everyone. I tried to do that and still kind of struggle with it but I am realizing that I can do my best and it’s ok if I don’t respond to all folks.
@DuvessaNight i hope you’ve been enjoying your time on Lit and are making the connections and finding the people you are intended too!

@KatieDoes I am no longer super new but if you want to share the names of folks you’d avoid, I’d love them. I still feel new and having this kinds of heads up can save folks time and energy.

 

[DuvessaNight]

Hi Duvessa and Katie! I think your interaction shows just how positive most of the women are on here. I love the idea of looking out for each other this way.
While the majority of folks they I have interacted with have been polite there are a few I’ve had to just shut down directly. Also, learning to not feel guilty if you can’t respond to everyone. I tried to do that and still kind of struggle with it but I am realizing that I can do my best and it’s ok if I don’t respond to all folks.
@DuvessaNight i hope you’ve been enjoying your time on Lit and are making the connections and finding the people you are intended too!

@KatieDoes I am no longer super new but if you want to share the names of folks you’d avoid, I’d love them. I still feel new and having this kinds of heads up can save folks time and energy.

Hey girl! Thanks for the sweet words This has for the most part been an amazing experience that I’ve enjoyed immensely. It’s so nice to know I’m definitely not alone in my struggles. And I super agree, women should empower and support each other, not be catty. Best of luck to you also

 

[NoUseForAnyName]

I am so new and awkward at this, but thought I’d dip my toes in and see what happens.

I suppose I’ll start with a little about me.
I’m 38, female. Straight. Married. In an intimate-less & sexless marriage. I haven’t been with anyone but him in a very very long time. I can count on one hand how many partners I’ve had in my life. I definitely lean toward several kinks but haven’t had much opportunity to explore those things. Have never used dating apps. Always been very much a good girl in life. I work with the public and have a naturally bubbly and silly disposition. I completely take care of myself in every aspect of life. I’ve had several tragedies happen within the last 5-10 years and I’m at a crossroads. I find myself happy in most things, but fuck if I’m not so lonely and miss physical and emotional contact. I’m sure my circumstances are not unique, and a lot of people probably find themselves in my situation facing their 40s and just not wanting to waste anymore time wondering if there might just be more to life. But onto the important stuff! I love reading, being outside. Growing things- walking in the woods- feeding my backyard critters. Anything creative and arty. I love sitting around a bonfire at night, watching the fireflies and maybe partaking in a bit of green and having ridiculous conversations with lots of laughs.

What I’m looking for is maybe someone to connect with. Someone kind but strong. Maybe someone who is or was in a similar place as I am. Or maybe not? I don’t need you to be my therapist- just someone to talk to. Maybe awake some feelings in me that are there but have no outlet. I’m not fussy about looks or high maintenance and needy. I don’t want that from you either. Although looks do matter and appearance is important- it’s not top priority. Just be real, be yourself- and you’re kosher.

I really have no idea how any of this sounds. I know I’m a bit clueless for my age about some things. But I’ve been here, in the background, for awhile and am taking a chance and being brave. Let’s waste some time together and see what happens

Sounds all too familiar. Makes me sad to see how often this kind of situation exists. If you ever feel like talking or sharing more, go for it. It helped me somewhat to share, even if it is only online.

 

[2bhard]

I am so new and awkward at this, but thought I’d dip my toes in and see what happens.

I suppose I’ll start with a little about me.
I’m 38, female. Straight. Married. In an intimate-less & sexless marriage. I haven’t been with anyone but him in a very very long time. I can count on one hand how many partners I’ve had in my life. I definitely lean toward several kinks but haven’t had much opportunity to explore those things. Have never used dating apps. Always been very much a good girl in life. I work with the public and have a naturally bubbly and silly disposition. I completely take care of myself in every aspect of life. I’ve had several tragedies happen within the last 5-10 years and I’m at a crossroads. I find myself happy in most things, but fuck if I’m not so lonely and miss physical and emotional contact. I’m sure my circumstances are not unique, and a lot of people probably find themselves in my situation facing their 40s and just not wanting to waste anymore time wondering if there might just be more to life. But onto the important stuff! I love reading, being outside. Growing things- walking in the woods- feeding my backyard critters. Anything creative and arty. I love sitting around a bonfire at night, watching the fireflies and maybe partaking in a bit of green and having ridiculous conversations with lots of laughs.

What I’m looking for is maybe someone to connect with. Someone kind but strong. Maybe someone who is or was in a similar place as I am. Or maybe not? I don’t need you to be my therapist- just someone to talk to. Maybe awake some feelings in me that are there but have no outlet. I’m not fussy about looks or high maintenance and needy. I don’t want that from you either. Although looks do matter and appearance is important- it’s not top priority. Just be real, be yourself- and you’re kosher.

I really have no idea how any of this sounds. I know I’m a bit clueless for my age about some things. But I’ve been here, in the background, for awhile and am taking a chance and being brave. Let’s waste some time together and see what happens

It sounds like you need a good orgasm or 2 . I would love to chat with you!

 

[Andyj7877]

I am so new and awkward at this, but thought I’d dip my toes in and see what happens.

I suppose I’ll start with a little about me.
I’m 38, female. Straight. Married. In an intimate-less & sexless marriage. I haven’t been with anyone but him in a very very long time. I can count on one hand how many partners I’ve had in my life. I definitely lean toward several kinks but haven’t had much opportunity to explore those things. Have never used dating apps. Always been very much a good girl in life. I work with the public and have a naturally bubbly and silly disposition. I completely take care of myself in every aspect of life. I’ve had several tragedies happen within the last 5-10 years and I’m at a crossroads. I find myself happy in most things, but fuck if I’m not so lonely and miss physical and emotional contact. I’m sure my circumstances are not unique, and a lot of people probably find themselves in my situation facing their 40s and just not wanting to waste anymore time wondering if there might just be more to life. But onto the important stuff! I love reading, being outside. Growing things- walking in the woods- feeding my backyard critters. Anything creative and arty. I love sitting around a bonfire at night, watching the fireflies and maybe partaking in a bit of green and having ridiculous conversations with lots of laughs.

What I’m looking for is maybe someone to connect with. Someone kind but strong. Maybe someone who is or was in a similar place as I am. Or maybe not? I don’t need you to be my therapist- just someone to talk to. Maybe awake some feelings in me that are there but have no outlet. I’m not fussy about looks or high maintenance and needy. I don’t want that from you either. Although looks do matter and appearance is important- it’s not top priority. Just be real, be yourself- and you’re kosher.

I really have no idea how any of this sounds. I know I’m a bit clueless for my age about some things. But I’ve been here, in the background, for awhile and am taking a chance and being brave. Let’s waste some time together and see what happens

Hey Duvessa, 40-something fella here, who has been in a similar situation. This post is one of the most honest, down to earth things I've read on this site. You definitely seem like someone who could have a fun, smart, and intimate conversation for hours. I'd love to chat, if you're interested. Take care

 

[YourSecretSanta]

I am so new and awkward at this, but thought I’d dip my toes in and see what happens.

I suppose I’ll start with a little about me.
I’m 38, female. Straight. Married. In an intimate-less & sexless marriage. I haven’t been with anyone but him in a very very long time. I can count on one hand how many partners I’ve had in my life. I definitely lean toward several kinks but haven’t had much opportunity to explore those things. Have never used dating apps. Always been very much a good girl in life. I work with the public and have a naturally bubbly and silly disposition. I completely take care of myself in every aspect of life. I’ve had several tragedies happen within the last 5-10 years and I’m at a crossroads. I find myself happy in most things, but fuck if I’m not so lonely and miss physical and emotional contact. I’m sure my circumstances are not unique, and a lot of people probably find themselves in my situation facing their 40s and just not wanting to waste anymore time wondering if there might just be more to life. But onto the important stuff! I love reading, being outside. Growing things- walking in the woods- feeding my backyard critters. Anything creative and arty. I love sitting around a bonfire at night, watching the fireflies and maybe partaking in a bit of green and having ridiculous conversations with lots of laughs.

What I’m looking for is maybe someone to connect with. Someone kind but strong. Maybe someone who is or was in a similar place as I am. Or maybe not? I don’t need you to be my therapist- just someone to talk to. Maybe awake some feelings in me that are there but have no outlet. I’m not fussy about looks or high maintenance and needy. I don’t want that from you either. Although looks do matter and appearance is important- it’s not top priority. Just be real, be yourself- and you’re kosher.

I really have no idea how any of this sounds. I know I’m a bit clueless for my age about some things. But I’ve been here, in the background, for awhile and am taking a chance and being brave. Let’s waste some time together and see what happens

Hey there DN,
I hope you find/found the support and connection that you are looking for. Thanks for sharing and reaching out to meet your needs.

 

[DuvessaNight]

Hey there DN,
I hope you find/found the support and connection that you are looking for. Thanks for sharing and reaching out to meet your needs.

Thank you!!!! I’ve found a very special connection I’m so grateful for, and getting to meet and talk with all different people from around the world is an absolute thrill for this small town girl.

Ps. I’ve been a very good girl this year. Wink wink

 

[bensdesperate1]

What an awesome response to your post. I'm sorry that life has been the way it is currently but it is amazing to see so many of us in the same situation. I'm glad you have found a special connection as it shows that lit does have some amazing people (as well as a number of nut jobs!). It would be great to chat but also understand your inbox must be overloaded daily! Lol. Enjoy the moment and enjoy the time x

 

[DuvessaNight]

What an awesome response to your post. I'm sorry that life has been the way it is currently but it is amazing to see so many of us in the same situation. I'm glad you have found a special connection as it shows that lit does have some amazing people (as well as a number of nut jobs!). It would be great to chat but also understand your inbox must be overloaded daily! Lol. Enjoy the moment and enjoy the time x

Thank you Ben I really try to respond to all my pms, so I just ask for a bit of patience. I’ve actually been blown away by the amount of good and decent people I’ve met, of course there are those crazy daisy’s, but all in all we’re just a bunch of people who crave connection and understanding. I thank every single person who has taken the time to read my post and especially those who’ve sent me pms, even just to say welcome.

Thank you all SO very much

 

[Pad_Foot]

It seems a connection has been made!! CONGRATS Duvessa !!

THAT A WAY LIT!!!

Now, about this list??? Can we just make that public?? No? Ok. Slowly getting taught lessons by Lit Women even after ? 20 years here. Old dogs can sometimes learn new tricks. It might be kinder to put them out of their misery though.

 

[Smarthomanid2]

Welcome to Lit.

Your inbox is about to blow up. You don’t owe everyone a response, and you don’t have to be polite to creepy perverts that don’t speak to you respectfully.

There are good men here. They’re worth finding. Don’t let the creepers run you off.

Creepy perverts no way….

 

[DuvessaNight]

It seems a connection has been made!! CONGRATS Duvessa !!

THAT A WAY LIT!!!

Now, about this list??? Can we just make that public?? No? Ok. Slowly getting taught lessons by Lit Women even after ? 20 years here. Old dogs can sometimes learn new tricks. It might be kinder to put them out of their misery though.

Just read through the boards, you’ll see the same names come up repeatedly. It’s not hard to figure out if you pay attention.

 

[DuvessaNight]

Hi there, I came across your post. I'm Ashley and new to Literotica as well. I've found it to be a fun and welcoming community. I hope you have mostly found it to be the same. Hopebyou are doing well today

Hi Ashley! Welcome to Lit!! It’s funny not but a couple months ago I was fresh meat here too and it’s become kinda a refuge for me. You’ll find your way too, and if you ever need a lady ear to vent to- I’m a PM away.