Marriage

[justashygirl]

I appreciate all the responses, and different views on marriage. Thanks for all the responses so far!

 

[AutumnBliss]

If you're married, do you regret getting married? Why?

If you're not married, do you want to be, and why? Are you afraid of the commitment at all?

I am not married. There was a good period of time when I had no interest in it. I come from a broken home, so that may have had an influence on my decision. Since then I have been open to it. It's not something that I need to have. I've watched friends who got married too young go through divorce. The rest of them have waited. Time will tell if those last. I've never been afraid of commitment. I just don't feel that piece of paper is always necessary. That piece of paper can also cause a boatload of trouble if things go sour. If the opportunity presented itself again I'd still consider it, and would do it the smart way. I'd also elope, sheesh! I cannot believe what some folks spend on weddings. It's not worth the expense, in my opinion.

 

[DarkrSide]

I was married. For about four months. To answer the question, yes I regret it. Unfortunately.

 

[Lovely2222]

I knew him for 10 years before we married. Not afraid of commitment so much as the "what if" if it did not work out. I was not sure I could live through a divorce.

He managed to get me to alter, we were married for 14 years.

I loved him and I loved being married. When he passed I knew I would never marry again. He was the love of my life. Also having loved him, I cannot go through the loss again. For me, marriage was wonderful. I don't think I let anyone get that close again to hurt like that. Not fear of commitment that keeps me from marrying again, it is fear of hurt.

 

[Icy1]

Lovely2222
So sad yet so beautiful at the same time.
Hugs to you.

 

[Lovely2222]

Lovely2222
So sad yet so beautiful at the same time.
Hugs to you.

Thank you Icy.. not really sad. I was fortunate enough to have 24 years with the love of my life. A wonderful man. Too many people go through life without every having experienced something so intense. I was the lucky the one. I had it.

Again, folks marriage with the right person is a beautiful thing.

 

[Icy1]

Thank you Icy.. not really sad. I was fortunate enough to have 24 years with the love of my life. A wonderful man. Too many people go through life without every having experienced something so intense. I was the lucky the one. I had it.

Again, folks marriage with the right person is a beautiful thing.

Yes I agree. Not everyone gets to experience a wonderful relationship with the love of their life.

I'm one of the lucky ones too. Almost 20 years married to my wonderful man.
And I've not regretted one moment.

 

[suckonsimon]

Met my wife when we were 21. Each of us had had only fleeting romances before then. We married 15 months after we first dated. That was 39 years ago. We feel our lives are a good balance of entanglement with each other and at the same time the freedom we each give the other to pursue our own interests and passions.

The sex was good from the start. Through all but two years of our marriage it has been frequent. During our several tough times in life it has been our consolation. Now, springing as it does out of our deep understanding of each other, our delight in our shared life-story, our very deep love and esteem for each other, - now, frankly, the sex is off the scale of excellence as we perceive it.

We are both deeply aware that in respect of our relationship we have been dealt a very special hand and we are immensely grateful.

So to answer the thread questions: I am married. I do not regret it.

 

[Beth87]

I'm not and I never wanted to before I met my partner. I still get scared of the concept but that's because marriage means forever to me and thinking of forever without marriage would be so. It's about my own vulnerabilities and being scared to trust another person.

It's a contradiction I trust him and he's the first man I'd want to have a wedding and babies for/with but still terrified that he would hurt me, leave me. It's my baggage tho so I try not to be needy and clingy

 

[Southern_Wifey]

Okay. My first post. Yay. Lol. I am married. Have been for fourteen years now. Initially I didn't regret it because hubby was all fresh and new. Gotta love that new husband smell. Lol. Having said that there have been some rocky times and I do regret a few decisions I have made a long the way. Hubs does his thing and I do mine and very rarely do we cross paths.

 

[phil_o]

who said

who said "marriage is a fine institution, who wants to live in an institution" ?

For me it worked out well, the best days work I ever did, and still paying returns. She is best mate, soul mate, lover, mother of our children and on plenty of occasions pain in the arse wife.

 

[coacheric]

Been married for 21 years. Do I regret it, no. Do I more so wish I had made different choices along the way, YES. I love being married and I love my wife and family. I would not trade any of them for anything.
We are in a rough patch now and have been for awhile. This is my doing for the most part and the things that got us to this point are my regrets.

BUT, I have said this many times, I would never get remarried. This is a one time trip.

 

[Elizabeth_Stark]

Do I regret getting married? Goodness no. I am very glad I did.

 

[suckonsimon]

Do I regret getting married? Goodness no. I am very glad I did.

Welcome to posting, Elizabeth!

 

[mvball69]

Been there done that. DO I have regrets no, I have two terrific boys from my marriage and my life would have had so many holes without them.
My ex and I are friends and always will be. In hindsight I think we would agree that we got married for the wrong reasons and eventually even though love is in the equation it is not always enough.
Would I do it again, yes if I met the right person. It is harder to find that person now because I have been signle for such a long time and have gotten set in my ways. Not to say I wouldn't compromise, but my experience has told me that I need to be careful on what I compromise on because it could comeback later and be a problem.

 

[MY2847]

Married for 15 years now... Never regret it. As we get older, she is opening up more, however I do wish sexually she was on the same level as me. Shes getting there

 

[QSco]

Some days (ok, lots of days) I wonder what it would be like to be single in my 30s. That said, I wouldn't be who I am without having been married. So do I regret it? No, absolutely not. It easy to think about what could have been, might have been, could be, whatever.

There's also that bond that's irreplaceable. It's a kind of relationship different from anything else I've had, or will have again. I kind of agree with CoachEric, one time thing and I'd likely not do it again if presented with the opportunity.

 

[draconus_infernus]

I'm married, and just celebrated eleven years on March fifteenth. No regrets about tying the knot at all! The fact that we had a pretty long courtship before we took the walk helped, as did the fact that we were friends before getting together.

We also have a pretty interesting dynamic going since we're polyamorous and have other partners and lovers, but that works for us.

 

[Flybigirlsea]

Have been married...divorced now...we make better friends than spouses. Love my ex to death and he loves me but we can't live together successfully.

 

[ILuvSmalBreasts]

Never married. Not afraid of commitment. Just bad luck at picking women. Doesn't help that I'm a bit shy. If only it was more common that women did the asking out.

 

[bogusguy]

Not married. Happened once..may happen again one day. If not, that's cool too

 

[Moon_Kyoung_ja]

Not married, and never have been. I am also not in any rush to get attached to anyone.

Which grieves my parents to no end.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I am happily married and am thrilled with my relationship and all aspects of it. My husband and I had an unconventional start, having met online way before actually meeting in person. For us, this was a wonderful time to put out agendas on the table and negotiate the terms of our relationship. I moved half way across the world knowing what I was getting in to. We'd only known each other 3 months in person when we wed, but that was enough for us.
Our sex life is fantastic. That has taken a lot of work, mainly on my side, to come together as a couple. We don't have kids yet, but they're around the corner.
I'd been in other relationships that lasted 5+ years, bit this one is so different. I guess you really do have to know what you're getting into before you sign the paper. We're lucky to have accidentally chartered those waters without being told to so early on.

 

[KissyTitties]

Married. I love him everything.

 

[DarkrSide]

I'm divorced. And I regret getting married. LOL