married but lonely..

[call_me_mina]

Can't unring that bell.

True. If there isn't an open relationship, and one partner cheats, there's no going back.

But is the fantasy of cheating harmful?

 

[jomar]

Are ya'll just fantasizing or doing?

 

[lil52hotrod]

i would say, no. If it is a fantasy, its not real, it's just that...a fantasy! You would like it to be real, but dont have the courage to go through with it.

 

[call_me_mina]

i would say, no. If it is a fantasy, its not real, it's just that...a fantasy! You would like it to be real, but dont have the courage to go through with it.

I agree. I doubt that there would be a Literotica if it weren't for the need to fantasize.

Why "courage"? If someone enjoys the fantasy of cheating but has no real compulsion to make it a reality, is that lacking courage? (not attacking, just curious)

 

[Marriedguy32]

I think it's just the fantasy. The taboo factor. I love my wife and would never cheat. But I love fantasizing about it and role playing cheating scenarios.

 

[klippert]

I have had, what I consider, several chances too Kat around. One lady, I think I would go for. We flirt via text.... Mrs K knows her, and knows we chat from time to time. not the extent. We never text directly about sex. That issue is up to the edge.

I have to say the last year and a half, has been nearly sexless. with no explanation. Whatever the issue, Mrs K is decidedly introverted about it.

My mistress has become the internet....

 

[bluubri]

.....

Like someone has already alluded too, this is the reason most of us are here, male or female. Flirtatious fun is harmless as long as it remains a fantasy and fantasy is in the mind of the most faithful man or woman.

 

[lil52hotrod]

I would like to amend my last post, maybe 'courage' was the wrong word to use? I love the cheating fantasy, but I wouldnt have the courage to go through with it.

 

[thechiv]

I'm not really in to the cheating fantasy, myself. For me, it's the slightly taboo aspect of talking to someone other than your SO about sex. It's exciting to flirt with someone, even when you both know it's never going to lead somewhere. My gf doesn't really like to flirt, or talk dirty when we're apart during the day, so it's doubly exciting for me when someone else does.

 

[Calliesdad2010]

when i think of sexual things ive done in the past

when im masturbating i usually think of the married women ive fucked.

Something about the sneaking away, the taboo aspect of it,

wondering where they told there hubby there going when there really sucking me off in a parking lot.....mmmm

 

[PhilGarlic]

So

when i think of sexual things ive done in the past

when im masturbating i usually think of the married women ive fucked.

Something about the sneaking away, the taboo aspect of it,

wondering where they told there hubby there going when there really sucking me off in a parking lot.....mmmm

So she is sucking and you're thinking of her husband

 

[jake34]

True. If there isn't an open relationship, and one partner cheats, there's no going back.

But is the fantasy of cheating harmful?

I think that the fantasy of cheating could/could not be harmful. I guess it just depends on the situation. If you are with the love of your life and have talked about how serious the commitment is, then perhaps thinking of someone is still cheating. But if you are in a troubled relationship and trying to make it work out, then maybe it is not cheating. Or at least it may not be as horrible as being with someone physically and in person. This is why communication is so important. Life is never black and white.

 

[Spenser41]

Interesting thread. I'm not the only one.

 

[TXcck]

I think I'm screwed up or something. I didn't get the jealous gene. If my wife were to cheat on me I think I'd be a little turned on by it. I'd probably be hurt too that she lied, but once I got past that I'd want her to tell me all the gory details while I fucked her. As it stands I'm always trying to get her to tell me about her past indescretions but she wont (because you're not "supposed" to) Not sure why it turns me on. I guess because it proves that she likes sex and isn't just doing what wives or supposed to do?

 

[skinnysinner]

I was wondering if others have fantasy about cheating..
It turns me on when I think about sleeping with other guys.. of course it's fun as long as I don't get caught..

I fantasise about cheating on my wife who hasn't shown interest in me for 8 years.... so its getting quite a fantasy... sometimes there's a close call with reality too, but never an all-the-way moment. Cheating with my best friend from school, a woman, now also unhappily married but too far away. Boy do we have some hot e-chats, we try to cum together as the fantasy builds up..... !! If she ever visits this area, I know I will be worn out!

 

[stu_gats_2000]

Interesting to find how many people have this similar issue... Many if not come here as an escape and fantasy to reality (I know I do) .... I understand the feeling or lack of when you partner seems to loose interest. I am glad I found this little corner of the internet.

 

[seamike]

I have never cheated, but I fantasizing about going out to a bar with my wife and going home with someone else's wife.

 

[JKayle]

I recently had the chance a few months ago, blatantly offered to me from a highly attractive, sensual woman. Sex, and indeed any intimacy with me, seem to be at the bottom of my wife's 'to do' list, and had been for a while. I was feeling horny, frustrated, and feeling pretty fed up with the whole marriage thing.

Turning her down was one of the hardest things that I ever did.

I do think that asking someone to 'forsake all others' caries with it an implicit responsibility to fulfil your partner's needs; I just wish more people thought the way that I do. if a spouse wants to dabble in celibacy, that's fine, but they should think about making other arrangements for their partner, instead of forcing celibacy on them.

 

[lovecurves]

once a guy i cheated with had me dress up in his wifes clothes and fucked me in them.

Damn, that's hot.

 

[talldad1]

I agree. I doubt that there would be a Literotica if it weren't for the need to fantasize.

Why "courage"? If someone enjoys the fantasy of cheating but has no real compulsion to make it a reality, is that lacking courage? (not attacking, just curious)

That's one way to look at it I suppose, but also you can enjoy the fantasy of a lot of things without doing them, so I don't think that it lacks courage in all cases. Some would call it prudence.

Do you have such fantasies?

 

[talldad1]

I think I'm screwed up or something. I didn't get the jealous gene. If my wife were to cheat on me I think I'd be a little turned on by it. I'd probably be hurt too that she lied, but once I got past that I'd want her to tell me all the gory details while I fucked her. As it stands I'm always trying to get her to tell me about her past indescretions but she wont (because you're not "supposed" to) Not sure why it turns me on. I guess because it proves that she likes sex and isn't just doing what wives or supposed to do?

I feel the same way. I think at some level having a wife fuck another man turns husbands on, even if they are insanely jealous. There are so many stories and postings about this. It's probably biological.

 

[paulstories]

I feel the same way. I think at some level having a wife fuck another man turns husbands on, even if they are insanely jealous. There are so many stories and postings about this. It's probably biological.

I had an affair with a married woman while married myself, and was very jealous about the two guys she'd had affairs with previously, and the two women she'd had one-night stands with

 

[talldad1]

I had an affair with a married woman while married myself, and was very jealous about the two guys she'd had affairs with previously, and the two women she'd had one-night stands with

I can understand that, it might be the jealous feelings are also biological to some extent. For me I would love it, I would love to hear the details of the others she was with.

 

[peachesmelba]

I do think that asking someone to 'forsake all others' caries with it an implicit responsibility to fulfil your partner's needs; I just wish more people thought the way that I do. if a spouse wants to dabble in celibacy, that's fine, but they should think about making other arrangements for their partner, instead of forcing celibacy on them.

I'm not sure that on some level becoming a celibate, while still in a marriage or committed relationship - and demanding that your sexual partner stay celibate with you (especially without explanation) doesn't void that 'marital contract'

 

[call_me_mina]

That's one way to look at it I suppose, but also you can enjoy the fantasy of a lot of things without doing them, so I don't think that it lacks courage in all cases. Some would call it prudence.

Do you have such fantasies?

I agree. Fantasy is harmless most of the time. I know that cheating on my husband would only lead to a world of drama and grief, and that's not a path I want to take. I like a relatively drama-free life.

So, of course, I have cheating fantasies. The thought of the look on his face if he found out I cheated is a big part of what keeps me from making any of those fantasies reality.