married but lonely..

[talldad1]

I agree. Fantasy is harmless most of the time. I know that cheating on my husband would only lead to a world of drama and grief, and that's not a path I want to take. I like a relatively drama-free life.

So, of course, I have cheating fantasies. The thought of the look on his face if he found out I cheated is a big part of what keeps me from making any of those fantasies reality.

I would love to discuss these fantasies with you... I have them as well.

 

[call_me_mina]

I'm not sure that on some level becoming a celibate, while still in a marriage or committed relationship - and demanding that your sexual partner stay celibate with you (especially without explanation) doesn't void that 'marital contract'

If that marital contract is voided, why hold on to the marriage? Why not dissolve it and go on?

 

[talldad1]

... removed my misunderstanding

 

[paulstories]

I can understand that, it might be the jealous feelings are also biological to some extent. For me I would love it, I would love to hear the details of the others she was with.

She told me all the details..and I swung from being turned on to being wildly jealous. Possibly partially cos I'd not done anything like that before meeting her

 

[Minalick]

This is definitely an amazing fantasy.

 

[peachesmelba]

If that marital contract is voided, why hold on to the marriage? Why not dissolve it and go on?

My point exactly

 

[galen107]

I think it is a hot thing, and wouldn't mind being a married woman's secret little play thing

 

[womaneater58]

I'm single but lonely and I wouldn't mind being there for her but don't want any drama.

 

[SexyAlison]

I'm single right now, but when I was in relationships, I'm not going to lie, it definitely crossed my mind and was a huge turn on. Possibly because it's a realistic possibility. Just meeting someone and have a fun night together then come home to my man, who has no idea what happened. Or going to a swingers club...

 

[DrGeniusWiener]

The forbidden always holds a certain allure but the truth is you're just horny, married and longing for some strange.

 

[pplwatching]

I'm not sure that on some level becoming a celibate, while still in a marriage or committed relationship - and demanding that your sexual partner stay celibate with you (especially without explanation) doesn't void that 'marital contract'

I suppose that depends on what a person believes the marital contract states. In my case, I believe that we each took a vow to dedicate ourselves to nurturing each other. We vowed to create and maintain a loving environment in which we both feel intimately loved, safe, free grow as both individuals and as a couple, and free to trust each other with our innermost fears and desires.

As long as we both work in good faith to fulfill that commitment, then sexual problems aren't enough (IMHO) to void the marriage. If unfortunate circumstances prohibit sex but still allow for an intimate and loving relationship then I don't think the marriage is invalid.

If, on the other hand, one of us decides that we have no interest in accepting the other's needs and doing our best to satisfy our obligation meet them, then perhaps the answer is yes. Marriage is a union, after all. When one person chooses to leave the union, does a union still exist? In my case when our marriage was sexless it wasn't because my wife had checked out of the marriage, only that we needed to look harder to find a solution that worked to bring intimacy back into the marriage.

 

[goodsonformom]

I'm not sure that on some level becoming a celibate, while still in a marriage or committed relationship - and demanding that your sexual partner stay celibate with you (especially without explanation) doesn't void that 'marital contract'

I hear ya Peaches........

 

[goodsonformom]

I was wondering if others have fantasy about cheating..
It turns me on when I think about sleeping with other guys.. of course it's fun as long as I don't get caught..

Not sure if it a fantasy........but a married person who is unhappy....... that finds intimacy and happiness with another........it's all good......

 

[Linith144]

Desired

Cheating is not the best, but then if you have a partner who enjoys you being touched and desired thats a different story. I'd never cheat because its well, unfaithful, but my partner enjoys when I'm desired.

 

[Davesmith42]

Cheating is not the best, but then if you have a partner who enjoys you being touched and desired thats a different story. I'd never cheat because its well, unfaithful, but my partner enjoys when I'm desired.

Very lucky girl
And I bet you have alot of men that desire you

 

[readinggp]

I'm single right now, but when I was in relationships, I'm not going to lie, it definitely crossed my mind and was a huge turn on. Possibly because it's a realistic possibility. Just meeting someone and have a fun night together then come home to my man, who has no idea what happened. Or going to a swingers club...

Hell, if my girl was like you I'd send you out to have your fun. Then tell me all the details when you got home. Have fun!

 

[goodsonformom]

Yes........all I can say is yes.........

 

[seraka]

I must admit i find thinking about cheating to be hot.
Even though it is against my morals and i know it is completely wrong, BUT.. if it was an exceptional woman who could blow my mind away, YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE!