Masturbation Survey: Pre-meditated vs. spontaneous

[CharlieGG]

@InterestedGirl

Hmm, I see what you're saying.

I would say it's spontaneous if suddenly, you're in the moment, thinking "OMG I have to get off now" without any previous plans to do so.

The fact that you knew at some point during the day you'd feel like that, doesn't make it not spontaneous.

Whereas I think "pre-meditated" is more like you wake up and say "I know I'm going to feel that way at some point so here's what I'm going to do, at 3:00pm I'm going to grab my toy and some lube and go to work!"

But yeah, I guess there is some gray area there.

I was mostly interested in how many women actually do plan time for masturbation, because the way my friend told it, she virtually never did.

 

[peterholmes]

Masturbation Survey: Pre-meditated vs. spontaneous

The most part of my mastubation sessions are "spontained"
Reading threads here, looking at pics or films drive me on.

 

[love_269_girl]

From what I'm hearing, this sounds super standard for women who are married/kids. The days of "Oooh, I'm going to run a bath, have a glass of wine and grab a toy" disappear in a hurry. That's too bad.

It is just the opposite for me. It is because I have three kids and a husband that I have to plan time for myself. Honestly, I schedule it Outlook and almost never let it get bumped. When it pops up on my weekly calendar get goose bumps

 

[thongman8]

I had a Vasectomy in Dec. My Dr. told me to ejaculate as much as possible over the next 8 wks. So, I have been planning on jerking at least once every couple of days if I could find the time. Some of the time, my wife and I have sex and I don't JO those days.

So, after 9 wks, I take in a specimen to have tested. They found sperm in my specimen. So, they said to wait another 3 wks and encouraged me to ejaculate as much as I could to clean out the passageway of the sperm. So, I am still planning on JO at least once every 2 days. Sometimes more if I can manage.

So, I'd have to say that for the past 3 mths at least, ALL has been premeditated.

usually, its about 75% spontaneous and 25% premeditated. I'll be at work or out in the yard and think to myself how good it would be to JO that night.

One side note, it was fun talking to the nurse when she called. She said "the Dr. encourages ejaculation in the next three wks!" It was just fun to hear her say that. Had I not been sitting in an inappropriate place, I would have talked a little more with her about what she meant. Although I knew what she was saying, it would hav been fun to tease her a little.

 

[weluvgirlass]

It is just the opposite for me. It is because I have three kids and a husband that I have to plan time for myself. Honestly, I schedule it Outlook and almost never let it get bumped. When it pops up on my weekly calendar get goose bumps

That is so hot and arousing that you schedule it in Outlook. Do you mind sharing what it is you actually have it scheduled as?

I myself say 50/50. Sometimes I just need to clean the pipes and then other times I may have a free few minutes and what better way to pass some time.

 

[love_269_girl]

Really?

Received the following PM to my previous post:
no offense?
but if you have a wonderful husband why do you need alone time to masterbate? im ***** btwjust wondering why he wouldnt want to either watch or participate?

I don't look at masturbation as a substitute for sex with my husband. I look at it as time to love myself. Sure sometimes it is about release of sexual tension, but for me it is more intimate than that. Perhaps this is the difference spontaneous vs planned.

 

[CharlieGG]

Received the following PM to my previous post:
no offense?
but if you have a wonderful husband why do you need alone time to masterbate? im ***** btwjust wondering why he wouldnt want to either watch or participate?

I don't look at masturbation as a substitute for sex with my husband. I look at it as time to love myself. Sure sometimes it is about release of sexual tension, but for me it is more intimate than that. Perhaps this is the difference spontaneous vs planned.

I must admit, I'm also curious. If you don't mind me asking, how often do you have sex vs. masturbate? Is your husband (to your knowledge) happy with the frequency of sex?

 

[love_269_girl]

I must admit, I'm also curious. If you don't mind me asking, how often do you have sex vs. masturbate? Is your husband (to your knowledge) happy with the frequency of sex?

I would say sex to masturbation ratio would be 8 to 1.

 

[love_269_girl]

That is so hot and arousing that you schedule it in Outlook. Do you mind sharing what it is you actually have it scheduled as?

I myself say 50/50. Sometimes I just need to clean the pipes and then other times I may have a free few minutes and what better way to pass some time.

I share my calendar so I hesitate to give you actual meeting title. for years it was either meeting with Woody or Leo.

 

[Aries50]

Interesting

I have 2 answers :

when I was married and had sex every day I didn't need to masturbate so that would be all 100% in favor of the spontaneous start at the times I didn't come the night before.

Now that I'm getting divorced and living alone I very rarely masturbate ( my hormones got messed up because of the stress and menopause ) and when I do, it's always spontaneous

 

[Josiyummi]

I would say only 25% of mine are premeditated.

 

[Cyalith]

I find that when I would like to "Spontaneously" masturbate I am rarely in a situation to do so. So then I postpone it until the evening, or whenever I can grab a minute (or 30) alone. I would say most of the time I would like to be masturbating I am commuting. Alas.

 

[dkovic77]

I find that when I would like to "Spontaneously" masturbate I am rarely in a situation to do so. So then I postpone it until the evening, or whenever I can grab a minute (or 30) alone. I would say most of the time I would like to be masturbating I am commuting. Alas.

That's when you need a driver

 

[oneguy4fun]

I don't look at masturbation as a substitute for sex with my husband. I look at it as time to love myself. Sure sometimes it is about release of sexual tension, but for me it is more intimate than that. Perhaps this is the difference spontaneous vs planned.

I'm with you on this one. Masturbation is fun and sometimes you just need some alone time. Also, when the wife is away for the night, I always have planned masturbation. I like to listen to erotic hypnosis.

 

[weluvgirlass]

I share my calendar so I hesitate to give you actual meeting title. for years it was either meeting with Woody or Leo.

In my head I'm imagining it's a sexy admin and she has a naughty idea what these meetings are and schedules "her own meeting" as well at these times. Ahhh... fantasies! Thanks for sharing!

 

[jake34]

I think that it is pretty much just like sex. Both do probably have their place. It just depends on the situation. Planning is usually a good thing. Just not always with sexual things. I happen to usually prefer when it is spontaneous. That just makes it natural and in the moment. Sometimes something happens and you just get to that point in which you just 'have to'. It is not like you wake up thinking/saying, 'I am going to get myself off today'. It sort of just ends up like that and you end up using your body like it is an amusement park. Personally, I tend to really like days like that.

 

[Cathyanne]

I know everyone has their own opinion, but to me its a lot more fun and meanigful when planned. Quickies tend to cheapen the whole thing.

Well, thats how I feel, anyway. Exercising self control and waiting until a better time beats a quick get-off session in my opinion.

 

[peachesmelba]

About 50-50

Sometimes reading a story, PM or RP or intense phone with the SO and can't hold back - wake up middle of the night and know that the only way I can get back to sleep is to be able to orgasm. Other times planned self-seduction - long steamy scented bath, wine, candles, great music, a little video....

 

[millieteases]

For me it's about 1/3rd planned and the rest spontaneous. If the spouse is going to be out of town or away, sometimes I'll plan a special time just for myself with my toys, and wine, and a long, relaxing bath. Other times, like sometimes when I'm here on Literotica, I just slip my hand in my panties, if I'm wearing any, and just let my fingers respond to my body's urges. And sometimes, if I know the spouse is around and we have something in mind for later, I just masturbate a little to get warmed up for later.

 

[VulnerableSubmissive]

About 50/50. It used to be scheduled 100% but I'm trying to not be such a controlaholic nowadays

 

[alwaysthinking1]

I would say mostly pre-meditated-if I know I have the house to myself I would plan a little me time.

 

[Davesmith42]

Wish I could do it when the moment hits but it's never a good time. So I end up planing it when I have time alone. Like Sunday mornings in bed

 

[Cathyanne]

sometimes, if I know the spouse is around and we have something in mind for later, I just masturbate a little to get warmed up for later.

I do that too!! I didn't even think that counted since I didnt finish. Is it still masturbation if I don't finish it?

lol if so then I masturbate more than I was thinking. Because I love getting warmed up as you put it and then stopping to save it for later.

 

[Fatwa_Morgana]

I don't think I've ever planned to masturbate! If the mood hits me, and I'm home alone, I'll do it. If the mood hits me but the time and place isn't appropriate, I don't do it, LOL! Morgana

 

[albertaboy]

50/50 for me.

Sometimes the mood just takes me, reading stories or watching porn clips, sometimes I have a free hour before having to leave the house for a meeting and I am alone I plan it.

Either way I am a big fan.