Thank you for sharing all this information. Now I have to figure out how to get my partner more submissive.. and me more dominant ( sp?) with out me loosing control. I always feel like I am just going to 'go wild' and i have to constantly remind myself S L O W D O WN!! Ultimately, I would love to get my partner where he is begging me to do this to him. Would crave pushing his ass on my face and I would have a bunch of 'fun objects ' and plans for him. I am taking it slow, It has taken me 13 years to have him allow me to toss his salad once in a while. I am patient.