Monogamous or polyamorous?

[Qyron]

"The rage lately"? "Needs to be divulged"? Have you been living under a rock? Women have known about their G-spot since there have been women. I think the thing that astounds me the most about your post is that you are actually trying to tell a woman what her pussy feels like.

I must have stumbled upon the King of All Dimwits....

Are you incapable of understanding irony? Do you lack the ability to understand humour?

I'm not trying to teach a woman how her body feels or not, you phenomenal idiot! I was commenting upon a comment over something that is stated in a book (several, actually, not only on the one mentioned) and I was making use of irony because lately you only need to open a damn 2 dime magazine to find an "article" about the G spot! English is not my mother language and still I'm able to grasp the usage of these concepts!

Make use of your common sense before writing anything down, please, you twit! And whatever expressions I may or may not use when writing is of no concern to you. If you are bothered by what I write, please do add me to your ignore list.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

please do add me to your ignore list.

LOL, oh no, I'm not going to add you to my ignore list. You are just too much fun.

 

[Very_Bad_Man]

I must have stumbled upon the King of All Dimwits....

Are you incapable of understanding irony? Do you lack the ability to understand humour?

I'm not trying to teach a woman how her body feels or not, you phenomenal idiot! I was commenting upon a comment over something that is stated in a book (several, actually, not only on the one mentioned) and I was making use of irony because lately you only need to open a damn 2 dime magazine to find an "article" about the G spot! English is not my mother language and still I'm able to grasp the usage of these concepts!

Make use of your common sense before writing anything down, please, you twit! And whatever expressions I may or may not use when writing is of no concern to you. If you are bothered by what I write, please do add me to your ignore list.

What will help you is liberal use of emotes so readers can see your meaning. I understood your comments as irony but it could easily be misinterpreted. The problem here is that there is no hidden cues of voice inflection, facial expression or body language that we pick up on in a face to face conversation so the emotes are very handy. I just wish they would add the middle finger emote.

 

[Qyron]

I just wish they would add the middle finger emote.

That would be a most useful emote.

 

[Stella_Omega]

case in point!

That would be a most useful emote.

(a wink, of course, signifies a wink)
or:

That would be a most useful emote.

(meaning you're angry about the lack)
or:

That would be a most useful emote.

(the "rolleyes" emoticon is the allpurpose disgust, sarcasm, irritation smiley around lit. You might mean that you don't think it would be helpful at all.)

That would be a most useful emote.

(The rose signifies unironic impressededness, approval, or congratulations, and you're intimating that you can't believe that the site owners never added one)

(the smile signifies friendly intentions. I admit it is sometimes used deceitfully, but that's always been true of smiles)

 

[fuckmeat]

In the “How To” forum, I read thread after thread about sexless marriages where one spouse or the other, for whatever reason, has lost interest in sex. All monogamy does is force one spouse to either forego any sexual pleasure at all, or break social taboos and seek sex outside of their marriage, or get a divorce and break up the family. It is easy to say that a person should remain monogamous no matter what, unless you are the one living in a sexless marriage.

By making polyamory legal and socially acceptable in marriage, all it would do is remove the shame and blame of having sex outside of a sexually unfulfilling marriage. The rest of the marriage would remain the same.

Polyamory isn't about getting sex outside of an unfulfilling monogamous marriage. It's about a long term relationship between more than two people. It's exclusive, within an agreed circle of partners, not a case of all parties being free to fuck whoever they like the look of. Legal marital polyamory would mean getting a whole other family, other in-laws, the whole bit. What you seem to be endorsing is open marriage, where people are free to take sexual itches to anyone prepared to scratch them. The whole point of that kind of open marriage is that there isn't an emotional attachment to any third parties.

So I'm getting confused now as to what exactly you're arguing so fervently for.

But also, making it legal to get sex elsewhere in a marriage where it's lacking would be tricky. An adulterous husband could cite that he was sexually unfulfilled and his wife could insist he got laid every day. Who do you believe? Also, giving people a legal right to go elsewhere the moment a spouse has a baby, gets depressed, requires meds that affect sex drive etc would be hugely detrimental to marriage. Why bother doing everything you can to work on your marriage when you have a handy loophole that allows you to spend your free time fucking someone else instead?

You might be reasonably high minded in your thinking here, eight out of ten dissatisfied spouses won't be.

And once again, marriage is about families. Most marriages have kids and most kids would be poorly served by legalised infidelity.

I know I'm playing devil's advocate here but I'm genuinely interested in this debate.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

So I'm getting confused now as to what exactly you're arguing so fervently for. I know I'm playing devil's advocate here but I'm genuinely interested in this debate.

I am not arguing for anything personally; just stimulating what I think is an interesting discussion.

As far as monogamous marriages, half the marriages end in divorce now, and many of these broken marriages have children who grow up without a stable father figure, (or in some cases, mother figure), so how is monogamy better than a socially acceptable open-marriage? And many spouses, (both male and female), sneak around now and have affairs outside of their marriages. How are marriages today different than open-marriages, other than spouses try to do it without getting caught. Wouldn't it be better to be honest about one's sexual needs?

 

[fuckmeat]

I am not arguing for anything personally; just stimulating what I think is an interesting discussion.

As far as monogamous marriages, half the marriages end in divorce now, and many of these broken marriages have children who grow up without a stable father figure, (or in some cases, mother figure), so how is monogamy better than a socially acceptable open-marriage? And many spouses, (both male and female), sneak around now and have affairs outside of their marriages. How are marriages today different than open-marriages, other than spouses try to do it without getting caught. Wouldn't it be better to be honest about one's sexual needs?

Yes but as has already been pointed out, a marriage that is consensually open requires no interference from the state. Making it a clause of marriage could easily make a spouse feel obligated to open the marriage if he/she wasn't making with the sex for whatever reason, which wouldn't be a good thing. Open marriages work if they're strong to start with. Opening a weak marriage will usually swing the scythe on it.

But when you talk about socially acceptable, you're suggesting that everybody involved in a marriage: older kids, in-laws, friends etc should be happy and accepting about a spouse going elsewhere for sex. However you paint that it's a sordid and selfish thing to do. Plenty of spouses hand out hall passes but do you really want it to become common knowledge? If you take on a legally sanctioned and socially acceptable mistress, what you're doing is making public the fact that your wife isn't satisfying you any more. Whether or not that's entirely Mrs Nasty_Deeds fault isn't going to change the fact that negative facts about your sexlife will automatically be evident... if that makes sense.

 

[NiggerSayWhat]

I must have stumbled upon the King of All Dimwits....

Are you incapable of understanding irony? Do you lack the ability to understand humour?

I'm not trying to teach a woman how her body feels or not, you phenomenal idiot! I was commenting upon a comment over something that is stated in a book (several, actually, not only on the one mentioned) and I was making use of irony because lately you only need to open a damn 2 dime magazine to find an "article" about the G spot! English is not my mother language and still I'm able to grasp the usage of these concepts!

Make use of your common sense before writing anything down, please, you twit! And whatever expressions I may or may not use when writing is of no concern to you. If you are bothered by what I write, please do add me to your ignore list.

yous got dat right man. Nasty_Deeds is the dumbest whiteboy on the planet and he be a racist to boot. Honky muthafucka

 

[Fmature2play]

yous got dat right man. Nasty_Deeds is the dumbest whiteboy on the planet and he be a racist to boot. Honky muthafucka

I just HAVE to say it.....That's the pot calling the kettle black.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

I just HAVE to say it.....That's the pot calling the kettle black.

LOL, Very good

You can't get too upset with him though, he's just a white kid trying to imitate his movie idols.

 

[NiggerSayWhat]

LOL, Very good

You can't get too upset with him though, he's just a white kid trying to imitate his movie idols.

Yo biyatch stop sending me PM's. I ain't giving a damn about what your cracker ass thinks. Hater.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

Yo biyatch stop sending me PM's. I ain't giving a damn about what your cracker ass thinks. Hater.

I noticed that you haven't denied being white, nor have you denied being a kid, so I guess we have you pretty well figured out. You might as well give it up lad, if I can see through your facade so easily, you are never going to make it as a rapper.

 

[Galactic_Perv]

I noticed that you haven't denied being white, nor have you denied being a kid, so I guess we have you pretty well figured out. You might as well give it up lad, if I can see through your facade so easily, you are never going to make it as a rapper.

You have never denied being stupid

Sorry man you walked right into that one.

Sometimes I cannot help myself

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

Sometimes I cannot help myself

It annoys me to see young white kids walking around pretending to be a half-literate black thug. It is insulting to me, and I would assume it is insulting to any intelligent black person. We have enough racism from both side without white kids promoting it. If I though for a minute that he was really black, I would not have said a word.

 

[Very_Bad_Man]

It annoys me to see young white kids walking around pretending to be a half-literate black thug. It is insulting to me, and I would assume it is insulting to any intelligent black person. We have enough racism from both side without white kids promoting it. If I though for a minute that he was really black, I would not have said a word.

He could be Chinese

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

He could be Chinese

LOL, yeah, he could be Chinese. But I don't think I have ever seen a Chinese kid pretending to be a black thug.

 

[KoPilot]

Fuckmeat is currently my hero.

 

[aniowachick]

My husband and I are swingers.

We have been with one couple in the past, but it was akward.. a friend came over and joined etc.
We have been with my best friend. It was awesome to see hubby with her. I enjoyed being with her myself. She is now dating and is no longer a sexual partner for us.
We have met another couple and started speaking. Met them for dinner and drinks and talked the night away. We all look forward to being sexual but i enjoy sex more, the more i know someone. So we have talked for a couple months now, next meeting is for sex.

My hubby is free to have sex with other women. I know in my heart I am the only woman he loves, and will ever love. He chooses not to see other women without me present for a few reasons:
1. A single woman is drama waiting to happen. While he will never love her, he is concerned about her falling for him.
2. He doesn't like the idea of me ever sleeping with another man without him. He will not do something he wouldn't want me to do.


We are very limited in our swinging lifestyle so far, but that is our choice. We are very picky with partners and actually will only be exclusive with another couple to prevent any disease being brought in. Basically, it will be great friends with benefits.

The feelings we had while being with my friend was like a great night of card games.. on steroids! we did not have any weirdness after, nor did it cause any problems with hubby and I... as a matter of fact, our sex life was in full steam after reliving what happened.

sex with others isnt for everyone, but with us, its just fun. As a stable couple, we have learned from life there is definitely a difference between love and sex

 

[Very_Bad_Man]

LOL, yeah, he could be Chinese. But I don't think I have ever seen a Chinese kid pretending to be a black thug.

You never been to Chinatown

 

[Very_Bad_Man]

Polyamory isn't about getting sex outside of an unfulfilling monogamous marriage. It's about a long term relationship between more than two people. It's exclusive, within an agreed circle of partners, not a case of all parties being free to fuck whoever they like the look of. Legal marital polyamory would mean getting a whole other family, other in-laws, the whole bit. What you seem to be endorsing is open marriage, where people are free to take sexual itches to anyone prepared to scratch them. The whole point of that kind of open marriage is that there isn't an emotional attachment to any third parties.

So I'm getting confused now as to what exactly you're arguing so fervently for.

But also, making it legal to get sex elsewhere in a marriage where it's lacking would be tricky. An adulterous husband could cite that he was sexually unfulfilled and his wife could insist he got laid every day. Who do you believe? Also, giving people a legal right to go elsewhere the moment a spouse has a baby, gets depressed, requires meds that affect sex drive etc would be hugely detrimental to marriage. Why bother doing everything you can to work on your marriage when you have a handy loophole that allows you to spend your free time fucking someone else instead?

You might be reasonably high minded in your thinking here, eight out of ten dissatisfied spouses won't be.

And once again, marriage is about families. Most marriages have kids and most kids would be poorly served by legalised infidelity.

I know I'm playing devil's advocate here but I'm genuinely interested in this debate.

To my knowledge adultery is not illegal anywhere in the US. It is grounds for divorce only.

I have never been unfaithful in a monogamous relationship. My word or vows taken are iron clad. I do not befriend men who cheat as I feel they are faithless and without honor. If they cannot be loyal to a woman they claim they love just how loyal can they be as a friend.

 

[Boundlife]

I'm not a medical person and it is all out of the realm of my expertise so I really can't argue this crap.

However, I will go on record to state I have a huge penis with a big fat mushroom tip that sends a lady into ecstasy hitherto unknown to most. I plunge my shit deep making their toes curls and I leave them so weak in the knees they can barely walk.

Yeah I'm braggin

I have circumvented all the above by giving her my credit card

You just contradicted yourself...or paid a very good actress
credit cards don't get me off, but then again I've never tried on

 

[fuckmeat]

To my knowledge adultery is not illegal anywhere in the US. It is grounds for divorce only.

Yeah, that's what I meant to say. My bad.

I have never been unfaithful in a monogamous relationship. My word or vows taken are iron clad. I do not befriend men who cheat as I feel they are faithless and without honor. If they cannot be loyal to a woman they claim they love just how loyal can they be as a friend.

Good for you I guess.

 

[Very_Bad_Man]

You just contradicted yourself...or paid a very good actress
credit cards don't get me off, but then again I've never tried on

One or both is meant as a joke. You choose.

 

[Stella_Omega]

You never been to Chinatown

This.

For what its worth, I see no reason not to assume the dude is black--and also in possession of a satirical and vicious sense of humor.