If you've read my posts, you may have noticed that I do not attack people for the beliefs and opinions that impact only themselves. "I believe I am a dog?" no problem!
On the matter of opinions and beliefs, not every opinion is equal. Educated opinions-- meaning, someone has actual knowledge that they base thier ideas on-- get my respect, even when I don't agree with them-- and, in fact, a really educated opinion can change my mind. I do it more than you'd think.
who cares about the norm, Ms Clitty, so long as I get to tickle your fancy with my dancy?
As you say, he is... controversial. It might be best to preface anything he says with "Desmond Morris says" because yanno, fair warning and like that
labia? No honey, the labia are no more sensible than, say, the knees.
Stella, I hope you don’t mind if I use your post as a point of entrance to give my opinion. I am just giving my opinion, and certainly would not challenge your knowledge of what is sexually stimulating for a woman.
I can speak only from my own experience, (which is obviously the male perspective), about what is sexually stimulating for a woman during intercourse. And yes, when I am in a long-term relationship, I do try to take notice as to what pleases a woman sexually and what does not.
Oddly enough, a good fit seems to be important. From my personal experience, when the depth of a woman’s vagina is the same as the length of a man’s penis, the woman seems to be more sexually satisfied overall. I do realize that a woman can become very excited sexually when taking an oversize cock at times; however, a woman does seem to be more satisfied with the overall relationship when the man’s cock fits her vagina. Not too big; not too small.
In my experience, if I take long strokes, the ridge around the head of my cock, (the coronal ridge), moves back and forth across her G-spot and excites her greatly. If my strokes are too short, there is nothing stimulating her G-spot, and sex is just ok. So, long strokes seem to be the best; however, you have to be careful not to pull out and hit the space between the vagina and anus, (I think it is called the perineum), on the way back in. That is painful and can suddenly be a real turn off for a woman.
How well the clitoris is stimulated during intercourse depends largely on body size and shape. If both the man and woman are slender, and the man can push his penis all the way in, the clit is stimulated by the pubic areas rubbing together; if the girth of the man’s cock is big enough to open her labia well enough to expose her clit, (which isn’t difficult, at least for me), and her clit is swollen and erect. Making sure her clit is swollen and erect is why foreplay is important. Particularly the man, but generally if one or both partners are heavy, the fat around the pubic area can nullify any stimulation of the clit.
Ejaculation does not seem to create any arousal; however, how a man ejaculates does seem to create a definite feeling of sexual satisfaction for a woman. If a woman still has her uterus, (and maybe it’s just me, but when I go to the bottom, I can tell whether or not the uterus is there), and I can ejaculate some semen through the cervix into her uterus/womb, it seems to give a woman a noticeable feeling of sexual satisfaction. I have no idea why, but a woman appears very different after sex when I am pushed up tight against her cervix when I ejaculate, than when I ejaculate in her vagina without being pushed against her cervix. It’s like she looks fulfilled.
Another thing I have noticed, (which has little to do with how well the cock fits in her vagina), if you can restrain a woman when she starts approaching an orgasm, it seems to intensify the orgasm. When I feel the woman becoming more aroused as she approaches orgasm, sometimes I will spread my legs outside of hers and pull her legs together, then lock her arms beside her body with my arms and thrust as hard as I can. Sometimes a woman just seems to go crazy when she orgasms this way. Not every woman, but more than a few.
One night when I restrained a woman this way, (it was the first time we had sex), her thrusting became so animated during orgasm, she bounced me off of the bed, and I landed on the hard floor beside the bed. Before I knew what happened, she was in my face screaming, angry as hell, because I got off during her orgasm. No calming her down that night. I was just glad I didn’t land face down; it could have ruined me for life. The point is, if you are with a woman whom you are not so familiar with how animated she may become during orgasm when restrained, slide you hands under her back so she can’t bounce you off.
My point is, I don’t read these pseudo scientific books and articles about how people are supposed to fuck, I just know how I like to fuck, and what works for me. Maybe some men use the ridge on their dick to scoop cum out of a pussy, but I use mine to stimulate the G-spot.
These are just my opinions
Nasty_Deeds, I think you just won yourself the Internet.
There are going to be some ladies fanning themselves after reading that!
Labia? No honey, the labia are no more sensible than, say, the knees.
And actually, Nature has provided, or might be in the process of providing us, with a lovely new interior enticement, the gspot. It's a mass of spongy tissue, analogous to the male prostate, and for many but not all woman can be very pleasurable when stimulated.
The cool think is that this spot is located well within a fingertip's depth for most women. A guy with three or four inches, if he knows where to poke it, can make a woman feel incredibly happy.
