My fiancé is boring! I dont know what to do! What do you men like?

maybe he needs to be exposed to some new stuff

Erotica, stories, videos, so he can see what is out there, and you and him can try to gauge what it is he likes, what he doesn't like, etc.

Here is a story below with some things that typical men (me) like.

I was driving through some back roads in northern New Hampshire (USA) on a cold winter's night. I stopped to help a woman I saw on the side of the
road in her car, and we had met earlier that day at an event at a client's
site, and so we recognized each other. She was older than I was and it turned
out she was a teacher at a woman's school nearby.

I was 25 and she was 42, or so. We stopped for dinner as she was hungry and had been stranded for 2 hours. After we had dinner at a very expensive restaurant and were walking back to the car, she confided to me that she had been thinking about this old boyfriend of hers and had been having naughty thoughts as we had eaten our dinner. I was somewhat surprised, but also a bit aroused. It was dark outside, and as we approached the car in one
of those concrete parking lots with multiple floors, I realized we were completely alone. I told her, "gee, ma'am, I think we're alone here". She looked up at me and then turned to face the car, sticking her bottom
out at me , as if she was presenting her bottom :rose:to me. I smacked it with my open hand, and it made a snapping noise against her skirt. I held her waist and spanked her again, this time, more forcefully.

She began to protest, but then looked at me and smiled and said "Oh, Oh Sir-(she purred), Oh, Oh, Sir, I hoped you would spank me, like that!!" . She pouted, and looked up at me. She said "I've needed and craved a Master who will dominate my every move and thought-Oh, Sir, your hand on my bottom belongs there!"

I was so hard at this point my thick long cock was pressing hard against my jeans, but I didn't let myself give in. I admonished her and told her that she had been a naughty, naughty, but very hot seductress. I
continued her spanking-thwack-thwack-thwack . I began to sense that she was becoming quite wet. When she was aroused, she grew more and more wet (wetter than most women I've been with). I could smell her tell-tale scent. She loved the fearful anticipation of my hard, firm, fair, hand on her bare buttocks. This woman teacher's scent of arousal was compelling to me. I grinded against her bottom a little bit, but then continued her spanking. Her rear was getting redder and redder. It almost matched her face and neck which had grown quite crimson colored at her thought of being spanked in a semi-public space. Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack.

Her bottom was on fire now. I slipped my fingers between her legs and felt her very damp shaved pussy and then lifted my fingers with her scent on them to my mouth and sucked them. She tasted so musky and ready-she was a delight. I told her to piss right there on the concrete while I watched her. She smiled nervously like I was a freak, but then squatted and oh, the golden stream that dribbled and then flowed mightily out of her pussy was a sight to behold! I'm about to cum again right now in my three piece suit, just writing you about it! She held her panties to one side and I watched her pee. Her golden stream excited and aroused me but she felt violated and roughly treated, I could tell by the look on her face and in her eyes.

We got into the car and drove back to the hotel I was staying at. We stopped for a martini in the hotel bar, but it was so crowded (it was now about 12:30 or 1 AM). She looked ravishing at the bar , sipping her martini-her nipples were protruding through her sheer black blouse. Men and women were noticing how hot-looking she was. Our secret was that we both knew how turned on we both had been (and still were). Her red lipstick glistened in the light, and several folks "accidentally" bumped into her, grazing her bountiful bosom , or knocking her ass a little bit as they moved down the side of the bar. As we walked to the elevator and began the ride up to our suite, I couldn't help but kiss her and fondle her bottom. Her breasts were warm and soft as they rubbed against my chest. As we tumbled into our room, I closed the door behind me, and then placed her over a large overly furnished chair (the kind you always see in large hotels but never sit in-they're just too large). I placed her in such a position that I could lift her skirt up above her waist exposing her bare bottom to me. She leaned into the chair and awaited my tender and/or sharp ministrations. She asked if she could suck me, but I explained that would come later; first she needed to be taught some firm lessons. I began spanking her again and she moaned in such a way I thought she might come right then. Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack-Thwack.

She then turned around to face me, face flush, and said "I need to have you in my mouth". She stood me against the far wall, so I could see outside
the waiting area into the hotel lobby from our room (we were 12 stories up). She took down my jeans a little and unleashed my cock and began moving
her head up and down sucking me perfectly. She always placed one hand against my waist as if to hold me in place. With her other hand she began to
play with herself. Her head bobbed up and down , up and down, up and down, up and down as she serviced my hard rod. The scent of my woman filled the room. Her head bobbed up and down milking my thick hard cylinder. She whimpered a little and cried a little, as she continued stroking my hardness and sucking me, sometimes rolling her tongue over the large mushroom shaped head, and sometimes sucking on one of my balls, then the other. She said she knew she needed to be punished. I exploded on
her face and down her throat, but she didn't stop. She kept on sucking till I was back at full strength and then she stood up and pointed to her rear
and said "put it in, at least just the mushroom shaped tip, penetrate me " and I obliged. She wet the tip with her mouth and then assumed the position
as I slid it inside of her. She was so very tight at first, and then opened up. She said "punish me" and she moved her ass back towards my cock which
was halfway inside of her ass. She moved back again and this time her ass took all of my 9 inches of cock. I began gently moving inside of her tight
bottom hole. It hugged my cock tightly inside and the friction as I moved was unvelievably hot. She groaned and breathed in and out expansively.
Her hot breath had been on my rod when she was blowing me, and I was now deep
inside her freshly spanked bottom.

She then said "I'm your cock-slut and
piss-whore-Oh, Sir, Oh, Sir, please use me, Master" and I exploded again inside of her. When we awoke the next morning, before we even got out
of bed, I ordered her to sit on my face, and face the hotel room wall. Her flannel nightgown was bunched up around her and i instructed her to take it off and toss it on the side of the bed. She placed her hands on the bed posts and i ordered her to look straight ahead, as I licked and sucked her clit, rolled it around between my teeth, gently and playfully biting
it , and rolling it, and licking it, lapping her pussy, eating her out, as she moaned and shimmied. I held her legs apart and buried my tongue between her legs, she could feel my hot breath against her hot pussy and on her thighs. She ground her
moist cunny up and down on my face, drenching me with her pre-cum juices. She was marking territory. My dried cum stains were still visible on her tits from the night before. Her skin was red hot, and was crimson in color as I ordered her to stare at the wall. My very erect member was standing at
full attention as I licked and twirled her clit till she clenched her thigh muscles abruptly , clenching my face and tongue between her legs, her
hips shook and bucked as she started a long drawn out orgasm, coming all over my tongue and my face, shooting and squirting a forcefull stream of white/cloudy womanly cunt juices, drenching me and the mattress in her puddle. She let out a screech and a long moaning, yelling, screeching sound as she came squirting her cunt juices in a long stream. her pussy shook up and down and she could have taken the long hard cocks of 20 men at this time, easily.

She reached behind and grasped at my animal cock , and stroked it feverishly, moving the shaft up and down, up and down, up and down, up and down, till I came uncontrollably, shooting hot cum. The first cumshot hit her eyebrows and chin, the second and third hit her nose and mouth , and the fourth and fifth hit her glasses and ear, then the sixth, seventh, and eighth sprayed warm white cum in her hair and on her tits again. She said "Oh, Sir, Oh, Sir, Oh, Sir-you are so large Sir-you have such Power over me, Sir-I worship your cock, Sir. I am your cock-worshipper-Oh, Sir! I am your piss-whore and your cock-slut.".


I hope this helps.

all the best to you and your fiance,
Pete
 
My guess is if you go through with it you'll have an online Dom within 6 months and be divorced in 2 years. Pretty negative I know, but how interested is he going to be in your pussy after having it for 90 days?
 
Seriously not everybody is wired for kink or raging sexual hormones. Some folks actually don't think about sex 24/7 and quite satisfied with the once a week "routine". He may not have any deep dark fantasies or issues. If his entire sexual history has been quite sedate and normal, why would he change it at all since he knows no different. His sexual appetite/needs may just be lower on the pecking order of what are priorities in his life.

Can you live with that possibility? There is no great answers on how to get him to spark - honestly if he doesn't have a clue, then you aren't going to find it. Good luck with whatever you decide to do! :)
 
I never used to be a kinky person.. regular vanilla sex was all I was interested in.. back in high school I was so vanilla that I didn't even like going down on a woman.. my girlfriend at the time asked if I wanted to try anal with her.. I wasn't really interested, but I figured 'what the hell'.. but once I tried it, I was hooked! it was almost all we ever did for a long time..

sex with her was great, but we went to different colleges and ended up breaking up.. I still wouldn't describe myself as kinky at the time, but I was at least interested in non-traditional sex at that point.. anyway, in college I discovered the fun you could have chatting with people on the computer.. I talked with a lot of kinky women and I think those conversations are what planted the kinky seeds in my mind.. after awhile I started having fantasies about things I would've never considered doing when I first started having sex..

that was about ten years ago, and it's been downhill since then.. my wife can't believe some of the weird stuff I want to do with her.. back when I was in high school, if you had told me that someday I'd enjoy licking a woman's asshole, I would've called you crazy.. I thought people who were into bondage and s/m were weirdos.. I never thought I'd become one of them.. at this point, I think there are very few things I would describe as "hard limits" for myself..

when I got married I was hoping my wife would get more kinky over time like I did, but so far she hasn't shown much interest in anything beyond vanilla sex.. I've been thinking about buying some porn or something to get her more interested, but I'd need to be very selective about which one I buy.. too much kink too quickly would just turn her off..

men are more visual than women however, so I'm thinking that porn might be a good way to get your man interested.. start with relatively tame stuff and see if anything peaks his interest..
 
About 6 months before we got married, we went to a counselor to try to communicate about some of our issues better. She told us to postpone the wedding indefinitely until we had worked everything out.

She was dead wrong, and we never went back. We're happier than ever 5 years later, and have managed to work a lot of things out, even if just making peace with them ourselves and realizing we love each other in spite of the annoyances.

HOWEVER, if many people had told us they saw problems, it would have been prudent for us to take notice and postpone the wedding until we found some resolution. And, the reality was/is that we knew the one therapist was wrong at the time because we had all of the important stuff in common and knew we could be happy even with our issues.

Netzach and those who said you have to be moving in the same direction couldn't be more right. If you know you can be happy with a guy who never shows excitement for the rest of your life, go ahead with the wedding in 20 days. If, however, you can see it being a problem, be smart and postpone it until you've figured it out.

Your guy might come out of his shell at some point, but you can't bank on that, or even expect it in the least, because he may very well not change at all. Usually people don't. I got lucky in this regard, but I see it as a bonus, not a necessity. We had a good idea we would change for the better and move in the same direction based on past experiences, but it wasn't assured.

Will you be truly happy if it takes him years of therapy to find excitement?

What about if he NEVER is willing or able to find it? How is that going to affect you long-term?
 
As someone else said already, maybe he feel selfconscious about sharing his most secret fantasies with you (I know both Hubby & I were and it took almost 10 years to open up completely).

Or maybe you are his ultimate fantasy and he is just very very happy to be with you that whatever you do or suggest is good for him.

But if it bothers you, that you cannot make him crazy & wild ... talk it out now. And depending on the answer, see if you can live with that for the rest of your life.
 
He just never starts things...


I am ranting...


Is there something I am missing?
My wife and I discussed this between ourselves and came to the same conclusion.

This is based on your one, single post.

Does this man get excited about anything outside the bedroom?

Perhaps he is simply a follower?

Are you trying to make him into someone (say, a leader, for instances) that you want him to be?
 
Ok then don't call off the wedding. My point was, you won't change him, you shouldn't try. If you are going to marry him. You must accept him just like he is now. Be happy with it and be prepared to live with it the rest of your life.
 
OK, I have read through the thread, and get the feeling that you just expressed your problem not as well as you could have in the OP....so taking it that the relationship is not really a problem and that you are just looking for some ideas about stuff that excites other men, here are a couple of things that ALWAYS raise my temp :)

1) Sex in a public place (I am not saying lie down and shag him in public) ....maybe in a restaurant, put your hand on his cock and try and rub an erection under the table....bring his hand to your crotch, especially if you are wet and hot yourself....
flash him that you are wearing see though panties or some such....
If that is too public, then maybe similar in a darkened cinema.

2) I noticed a comment in your sig line about you only wanting women to apply~{Sorry boys, I'm only in the market for a girl.}~
so are you bi? would another gal with you turn him on? It certainly turns me on for there to be 2 women both paying attention to me AND each other.

The only other possibilities I see are that he does have kinks, but they are generally considered to be gross and taboo, or that he is totally not bothered about ANY kind of sex and all your efforts are in vain.
If the latter, and in every other respect he is the one for you, then you just have to keep all the good and be thankful that mass murder isnt a kink he has :)

Whatever the outcome, wish you both lots of luck and happiness.
 
You are unhappy because he is happy and content. Isn't this weird?

Why do you insist on doing a special favor for him in an area where it is not desired or necessary? Just so you are praised for your sexual activities? Maybe he would enjoy it much more if you would wash his car?

If you have a stamp collector, you can't expect him to pick the best rope for the bungee jumping and if you insist that he does it, he will truthfully say that for him one rope is like the other - he is already bungee jumping for you, what else do you expect?

Maybe it's true that humans are just not made to be ever content.
 
Hearing about this type of shit makes me feel so fucking perverted.
 
I don't usually post in here, but this thread caught my eye.

If you have a kinky side, those feelings will not "subside". You will be frustrated and become even hornier.

Now think about him. If he has a low libido, this might get worse. Best case scenario as I see it, you might stay with the once a week deal for the rest of your married life

I think the biggest red light I see in your post is in the fact you are already wanting to change him. You won't be able to do it. It is not in him. The guys with the dominant streak know they have always had it. The guys who are crazy for sex have been that way for a while.

He is happy with things the way they are, and that is very unlikely to change. Whichever efforts he puts in to improve your sex life, will not be burning desire. They will have the bland taste of compromise. Eventually, if you libido becomes too much for him to handle, he might turn things around on you, and make you feel like you are the one who is the "freak".

And you are not even married yet!

I have to agree with WriterDom (online dom in six months). If you have already found lit and this forum, it is very likely you are heading for trouble.


Maharat
 
You ARE "so fucking perverted" Marquis...... Or did you forget?


I'm practically 'nilla compared to some people in this crowd. I did try to start a "never have I ever" type game but it didn't really get very far.
 
OMG! I JUST went through this.. I was supposed to get married last summer.. everything in our lives is practically perfect, but the sex! I am a little more sexually out going then he is.. if it were up to him sex would be the exact same everytime.. I couldn't take it! I tried dressing up in this sexy french maid outfit, made him dinner.. he came home from work grabbed his dinner.. took it into the living room.. (even thoug I had a nicely set table with candle.. grrrrr) and watched tv.. THEN laughed at me for wearing a french maid outfit! UGH! I couldn't take it.. his passiveness about sex was such a turn off, it got to a point I couldn't bring myself to sleep with him.. needless to say.. I called off the wedding..

Stories like this always crack me up.

Passive would be for him to see what you were trying to do, and do his best to go along with it to make you happy.

Guess what?!

Some guys think a bitch in a french maid outfit ISNT SEXY!! It's just kitschy and comical to some dudes and it doesn't make him passive that he feels that way.

Not making it more clear what he IS into does make him passive, this I agree.

What gets to me is that posts like this one and the OP who are criticizing their lovers always seem to be served with an extra helping of ignorance on the side. "What do guys like?"

Are you fucking kidding me? Get out your copy of "The Rules" if you're looking for a simple, goal-oriented solution to the monolithic group of entities known as human males. If you actually give a fuck about enjoying sex with this man, just enjoy it and stop laying blame while simultaneously regaling us with stories of what an amazing lover you are.

If he's the one you're fucking and he's not that into it, guess what, you suck.
 
So what have we learned here today? When the sex isn't satisfying, it's always the woman's fault! If the man's not getting enough sex, the woman's frigid. If the woman's not getting enough sex, then she's just not good enough in bed to get her man's attention.

Nice. :rolleyes:
 
I suspect the problems are more deep seated than just the sex is no good. The sex and issues revolving around it though are the manifestations of the underlying issues. Lack of transparency or something else?
 
Look, let's be frank about this. A woman's purpose is to please a man, sexually.

If she isn't doing this she is failing at life.

What more is there to it?
 
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