My wife won't let me...

[KatieDoes]

Ummm...I have swallowed it myself.

Congratulations?

That doesn’t entitle you to anything from any woman, though.

 

[Elite_Goblin]

Congratulations?

That doesn’t entitle you to anything from any woman, though.

Nope. But it puts a nice "STFU" when a woman says, "well if it is so good, then swallow it yourself".

 

[KatieDoes]

Nope. But it puts a nice "STFU" when a woman says, "well if it is so good, then swallow it yourself".

It really doesn’t. It just presents as entitled and misogynistic.

 

[Elite_Goblin]

Can always count on you to bring pessimism to a thread.
If you look at why I even stated it, was because another user said something along the lines of "If it is so good, then try it yourself."

Perhaps you need to read a little better. Perhaps figure out what it is that really bothers you inside or what has caused you hurt, as to why you always jump on the defensive bandwagon and throw fire on others.

Really not too nice.

 

[sbcd]

My wife has never given me a BJ and never will. That does not bother me at all. I enjoy giving oral sex.

 

[NightL]

Perhaps you need to read a little better.

Have you ever had someone try to coerce you into something you don't want with a "STFU"?

Your "Ummm...I have swallowed it myself" unto itself could be a "Congratulations, good for you" but in response to the post from Diosax it presents as "I am entitled" and also not just a failure to understand the post from Diosax but as an expressed statement to dismiss it.

Also take note that KatieDoes responded with "It just presents as" directed at your follow up comment, not as a personal attack. You are the one who then introduced an attempt of a directed personal attack.

Why do you feel so threatened? Perhaps you need to read a little better.

 

[stxjimmy]

How do I convince my wife to let me come in her mouth? It just isn't the same using a cloth at the end of an amazing blow job.

Stop being so entitled. It appears your wife has made her preferences clear.
Best to find something you  both enjoy.

 

[Elite_Goblin]

@NightL

You are at least correct, in that I had misunderstood the post that I had commented on. This is due to I have heard on many occasions about women complaing about the taste of mens juice, and ask them to sample it for themselves.

If you or others have connected some dots to imply "entitlement" or something else is beyond me and/or my meanings. I know very well by 20+ years experience that you are only entitled to pay taxes and die.

 

[aka2002b]

Have a real conversation with your wife, in private, not at home. Don't ask for anything or expect anything, and don't immediately move to sex after you talk. Tell her why you want to cum in her mouth and what it means to you and LISTEN to why she does not want you to. Each of you take a turn talking, no judgement or interruption, about desires and fantasy. It may never be a thing she is ok with but understanding why can make it easier to work around or compromise on, and sometimes when one door closes another opens. You may learn something she does want or like that is just as satisfying, or you may find her open to other options that you never considered. Just talk to her in a safe neutral environment with no pressure or expectations.

 

[RockHardKP]

Only been successful with this a few times.... Try getting her on the edge of cumming and don't let her finish. When she is desperate, then negotiate with her....."How bad do you want to cum? Are you willing to swallow my cum??" On a few occasions, my wife has reluctantly agreed and then sucked cock like a pro before her much needed orgasm.

 

[hbcacouple]

Kiss her after you eat her and get her used to her taste. Eat her after you cum and then kiss her. You swallow most of your rewards, kiss her with a cummy mouth. Don't allow her to evade what you have mostly cleaned. Move on to passing her your load. She can't refuse what you are willing to take.

 

[bscurious1]

How do I convince my wife to let me come in her mouth? It just isn't the same using a cloth at the end of an amazing blow job.

I had a GF like that. I started by cumming on her belly and or chest, then I'd scoop a little up and feed it to her. Sometimes I'd lick it off her and then kiss her. Overtime she started craving my cum after sex, then eventually she started letting me cum in her mouth, swallowing every drop.

 

[lovecraft68]

If she doesn't want to then it doesn't happen. Stop being a grabby little boy and just accept it.

 

[IrisAlthea]

For the "accept whatever she wants or doesn't want" crowd, that logic can go both ways. Maybe she should accept that he doesn't want a poor blowjob and improve her skills and expand her limits. Maybe instead of her ditching him - he should ditch her?

Yes, maybe he should.
This is a point I think a lot of people miss.
It’s not just:

If she doesn't want to then it doesn't happen

Both people in the relationship get to decide what they don’t want.
They also get to decide what things they need and want in a relationship for it to be sustainable in the long run.

So yes, oral sex with cumming in the mouth is quite ok to put on the must have list. Just as ok as putting ”no cum in mouth” on that list.
Coming to that conclusion(pun intended) after getting married, about something as basic as this, seems like very bad strategy to me.
New needs, wants and limits do get added over time though, so being clear about what and why they are and working together to find what works for both, is still something that will have to happen in any long relationship.

To me, the mindset of getting your partner to do something or making them do things though, is quite different from being clear about what is a need or a requirement for you to be in a relationship.

When she is desperate, then negotiate with her....."How bad do you want to cum? Are you willing to swallow my cum??" On a few occasions, my wife has reluctantly agreed and then sucked cock like a pro before her much needed orgasm.

Going about it like this for example, outside of an established dynamic, can backfire pretty badly. Rightfully so, in my opinion.

If someone would spring something like that on me out of the blue, there would be a time out for some serious discussion for sure.

A model where, "We never say no to each other's desires" seems more workable in the long run. "No means no - including no revisiting the issue" seems like a guaranteed way to build resentment and push a partner away.

I think both can build just as much resentment actually. Feeling deprived and feeling pressured are not aphrodisiacs to the general population.

I do think that you are right in that a generous disposition and truly wanting to find ways to meet each others needs and wants, goes a very long way to building a strong and happy relationship.

 

[Goldenfinger]

So would you want to make your loved one do something they don’t want to do.

 

[nycjacksparrow]

How do I convince my wife to let me come in her mouth? It just isn't the same using a cloth at the end of an amazing blow job.

let me come over and shoot a load in her mouth so you can watch and learn how?

 

[Britva415]

let me come over and shoot a load in her mouth so you can watch and learn how?

You're horrible but this made me laugh.

 

[Dapperguy]

Flipping Heck! Aw! The boy wants a fuckin blow job but his fuckin wife is a fuckin prude. Aw! Your so sensitive of her needs. That's nice. Aw! He's a modern man, does the dishes and the ironing, makes the fuckin hot chocolate at bedtime. That's nice. Is it fuck! Get your head together. Who's the boss? You? Fuckin her? I think it's her. What she is fuckin wanting is an assertive man like fuckin me! She wanting you to say something along the lines of this: “Enough is fuckin enough! My cock will not poison you. My cum will not melt your dentures. Get your fuck mouth ready to gratify me. No more of this crap. I am the man. I set the rules in bed. So here it is, get to fuckin work!” Your wife will melt at your manly assertiveness. Psychology is a load of fuckin crap in this situation. Get yer kacks off and her knickers off and get on with it. It works for me.

 

[MadeleineSinha]

Flipping Heck! Aw! The boy wants a fuckin blow job but his fuckin wife is a fuckin prude. Aw! Your so sensitive of her needs. That's nice. Aw! He's a modern man, does the dishes and the ironing, makes the fuckin hot chocolate at bedtime. That's nice. Is it fuck! Get your head together. Who's the boss? You? Fuckin her? I think it's her. What she is fuckin wanting is an assertive man like fuckin me! She wanting you to say something along the lines of this: “Enough is fuckin enough! My cock will not poison you. My cum will not melt your dentures. Get your fuck mouth ready to gratify me. No more of this crap. I am the man. I set the rules in bed. So here it is, get to fuckin work!” Your wife will melt at your manly assertiveness. Psychology is a load of fuckin crap in this situation. Get yer kacks off and her knickers off and get on with it. It works for me.

Yes, you should totally try this.
Then you can move in to share Dapperguy’s mom’s basement.

 

[mrdiscreetshh]

lol! incredibly amusing post to read.
My conclusion on swallowing is this: Your anatomy is either made for it or it's not!
I've been with someone who was made for swallowing, and they're just a different breed.
Find a swallower! There are LOTS!

 

[emme8]

If you try to force a woman who doesn't want to swallow into swallowing, some of us will vomit. Then you get a ruined orgasm and to clean up a mess.

I recently posted on another thread in a 20 years I have swallowed max of 10 times.
I have tried for him. When I am extremely aroused and near sub space I might be able to. More often I get sick. Not very sexy.

Focus on what you both like.

 

[Wordsworth]

How do I convince my wife to let me come in her mouth? It just isn't the same using a cloth at the end of an amazing blow job.

Perhaps it's your diet? Your wife not only "lets" me, she encourages me to cum in her mouth.

-I kid, I kid.

Pineapple, citrus, strawberries, kiwis and lots of water.

 

[SallyIsHere]

Like many young girls, I was reluctant to let guys come in my mouth. Along came a new boy and I decided give it a try. The taste was not bad but I didn't realize how exciting it would be to feel him swell and and pulse and fill my mouth. I liked that experience much more than taking him out of my mouth and finishing with my hand or just backing away. It seemed more intimate to take it all the way and experience his arousal and orgasm. Then we were having a sexy chat in bed and he said, "You are so naughty letting boys squirt in your mouth. You are so sexy." I felt like a super hero. I have never looked back, but it takes patience and understanding for most women to try swallowing. It's not about the flavor. Ben and Jerry are not going to make semen flavored ice cream. For me it's about the erotic charge I get.

 

[drobert44]

Like many young girls, I was reluctant to let guys come in my mouth. Along came a new boy and I decided give it a try. The taste was not bad but I didn't realize how exciting it would be to feel him swell and and pulse and fill my mouth. I liked that experience much more than taking him out of my mouth and finishing with my hand or just backing away. It seemed more intimate to take it all the way and experience his arousal and orgasm. Then we were having a sexy chat in bed and he said, "You are so naughty letting boys squirt in your mouth. You are so sexy." I felt like a super hero. I have never looked back, but it takes patience and understanding for most women to try swallowing. It's not about the flavor. Ben and Jerry are not going to make semen flavored ice cream. For me it's about the erotic charge I get.

Exactly, the pulsing and throbbing, and knowing you are taking him to Paradise.

 

[magic_rat]

Don't allow her to evade what you have mostly cleaned.

You mean force her? That's going to work.

She can't refuse what you are willing to take.

Yes she can.