Non-sexual intimacy

[Corbie]

I like a light touch back scratch as much as I like bjs.

I'd kill for back tickles.

 

[Taylor_Knight]

As I see it, intimacy is in the mind. Physical connection and intimacy are cousins, in a way, but touching someone physically lacks intimacy unless you've connected with them emotionally.

 

[KidSexy]

Well said, Taylor....and great thread, corbie

 

[BackwoodsMama]

I’m not an overly touchy person, but I try hard to initiate physical contact with people to reinforce connection or attention. I really want to engage more in both non sexual and sexual intimacy. Particularly with my partner.

 

[Corbie]

As I see it, intimacy is in the mind. Physical connection and intimacy are cousins, in a way, but touching someone physically lacks intimacy unless you've connected with them emotionally.

Very well said.

 

[dreamysub]

There are times that all I want is have my lover's head on my shoulder as we fall asleep.

I love to fall asleep like that! Shame my bf doesn't feel the same way. It's always too hot, too cold or not the right time for him.

 

[Corbie]

There are times that all I want is have my lover's head on my shoulder as we fall asleep.

That is intimate and so beautiful.

 

[KidSexy]

I love threads like this when people really get real.....my heart is overflowing

 

[dreamysub]

Hugs are my life blood. Still get a lot, mainly from my kids. A few from close friends. Occasional ones from my wife. Definitely a need that goes more and more unfulfilled every year

Same here. Most hugs I get are from my youngest daughter or my mum. These days from my dominant as well. But pretty much NEVER from my bf. I could steal few hugs from him, but hug and being huged are two very diferent things in my eyes and guess I get to the point where I simply cannot be the giver anymore. Theres time for the lover to be loved and for the hugger to be huged. It sadness me I have to get all that outside my curent relationship, but at the same time I am sooooo thankful for it! I needed THAT more than I can tell...

 

[KidSexy]

Time for a group hug

 

[ericalauren]

I had a friend who is a fellow asexual. He loved to cuddle. He asked me if I wanted to cuddle but I’m not into cuddling.

 

[KidSexy]

dreamysub, i feel your pain....you are not alone

 

[Oshkosh60]

There wasn't going to be any communication....

Sounds just like my story. We lasted 6 years with her not initiating anything. We are now not together. Communication...communication...communication !!!!! Woulda probably solved it...on both sides.

Sorry that you had a difficult time as well. Mine never knew the word sorry and nothing was ever her fault. One time she crushed me with something she said and her response was, instead on an apology, "You just made me so angry." I fought on for ten more years..... and then it ended. In a better place now....

 

[Orangekayak]

I appreciate and love a briefhand on my back or a squeeze on my rear when I’m doing the dishes. Just something small in passing.

 

[Kittenheels54]

I’m a very affectionate person but my husband isn’t. It’s difficult at times to convey how important it is to someone who doesn’t have that need. It doesn’t help matters that he leaves the country for work for 4 months at a time.

 

[penshockey1983]

My ex was definitely not the touch type. I enjoyed the cuddling, laying in bed rubbing each other's back and things like that. It doesn't even have to turn sexual.

There are times I could go for a night of touching and teasing over sex. It just touches a different part of the mind. It's so hot when a certain spot causes them to shiver or get goosebumps. Even if that doesn't happen, just having the physical skin to skin contact with a person is such a relaxing feeling.

 

[Corbie]

Bump

 

[xhxhxh]

It was a tough time in my former marriage. I had gone into the kitchen and went to give my spouse a hug. She recoiled and said something like. "You are always wanting to touch me...." I stepped back and just nodded. She didn't mean what she said in a good sense. I wasn't nodding in agreement, it was more of a so that how things stand. I decided right then I would not initiate an contact. No hugs, no holding hands, no pats on the back or butt. Definitely no sex and I would sleep on the far side of the bed just to see how long it would be until she initiated any and I mean ANY type of contact.

I caved on day 27.

I knew things were going to work out ....but we had kids and stayed married another five years.

I have let most of the hurt and hurtful memories go.....but there are three or four that I will probably take to my grave and that is one of them.

Been there brother. It’s a not a nice feeling. Just be glad we’re out

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I know this is a porn site and all, but I know a lot of us come here because of loneliness.

As much as I post wild comments on a lot of pictures, the thing I could use most right now is just some hugging and touching. No fucking or anything.

I hear you.

 

[penshockey1983]

I’m a very affectionate person but my husband isn’t. It’s difficult at times to convey how important it is to someone who doesn’t have that need. It doesn’t help matters that he leaves the country for work for 4 months at a time.

There are times that just a hug or even holding hands can change the outlook on a day.

 

[Dirtyoldhornyman]

I love having a ladies head in my lap and I’m running my fingers thru her hair. Light rubs on her neck, face caress once in awhile. Hair twiddle is the best…

 

[Massacre_]

I get in moods where I love cuddling and physical touch; hugs, sitting super close on the couch with my body angled towards them, my arms wrapped around one of theirs and their hand on my thigh or just laying with my head in their lap, or theirs in mine. And then I have days where I don't like being touched much, I'll maybe want a hug. I'm not a fan of kissing, I never have been, so I'll tolerate that on rare occasion.
At the moment, I'm mainly getting hugs from coworkers.. and I find myself missing all the extra stuff a little.

 

[Corbie]

So alone and lonely now. I see no hope.

 

[riksteele]

I know this is a porn site and all, but I know a lot of us come here because of loneliness.

As much as I post wild comments on a lot of pictures, the thing I could use most right now is just some hugging and touching. No fucking or anything.

I hear you. I finally left an unhappy relationship of 17 years about 4 years ago. No kids, thank goodness. The sex was very vanilla and boring; eventually it turned into a sexless relationship. Now, what I crave is cuddling and romantic closeness more than the sex itself. As I’m getting older, my libido has lessened. What’s more important for me now is closeness. Can anybody else relate?

 

[Corbie]

I hear you. I finally left an unhappy relationship of 17 years about 4 years ago. No kids, thank goodness. The sex was very vanilla and boring; eventually it turned into a sexless relationship. Now, what I crave is cuddling and romantic closeness more than the sex itself. As I’m getting older, my libido has lessened. What’s more important for me now is closeness. Can anybody else relate?

I could do with cuddling right now and the sex isn't necessary.