AchtungNight
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This sounds good, in theory. It's very much how many men would approach to the situation. However, what it does is retraumatizes the person repeatedly. Some people may find this a valid and empowering strategy. Many would find that it keeps the rape in their thoughts constantly.
Life is not a revenge movie. Learning self-defense is good, but one of the things that is driven home is that the first and best response is to run and get away as soon as you can. Fighting back is a last resort.
This isn't about being tougher than your attacker, by the time you are raped, the damage is done. Your psyche is scarred and it is pernicious in ways that you can't even imagine until it happens to you.
I'd argue that having support systems and coping strategies for when you have a (for lack of a better term) flare up is better than pursuing a revenge fantasy for most people.
If that’s what works for you, fine. Long as you endure and survive. I’m not saying my strategy is for everyone. Just that it’s a very good strategy. I let each person decide if they agree.
Oh, one more thing. Fighting back is not a last resort for me. It’s a possible strategy. And a necessity if another person is threatened or I can’t get away. And I would endure any amount of further trauma to keep it that way.