Oops, I dropped my hanky and I'm hoping you will pick it up.

[lark sparrow]

Tearoom

The slang term "tearoom" (that is, "t-room," which was short for "toilet-room") enabled men to discuss their public sexual encounters with each other in a coded way. Heterosexuals understood tearooms very differently, as genteel cafes where people enjoyed afternoon tea and pastries.

Tearoom Queer History

 

[shy slave]

Anyone for more tea?

A woman after your own heart? Thanks ADR
Glad I am not alone onthe left/right thing or the masturbating

Oh and I love the toes, very sexy.

Lark Sparrow thanks for the explanation. It makes a little more sense now but thank God I am not a man, who wants to remember all those codes!!
So much easier to say what you want!!

Still it makes wonder even more about Richard 49's AV, perhaps He is using the wrong code ~ Tea and cakes instead of hankies? And hes seems like such a gentleman too.

Yep I am back to being confused

To vanilla people this lifestyle looks so very simple...weird maybe but simple...., if only they knew

 

[kitty4ever]

Re: Anyone for more tea?

To vanilla people this lifestyle looks so very simple...weird maybe but simple...., if only they knew

Nothing is ever simple, and I'm sure they are aware of that.

 

[DVS]

http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/hanky.htmlHell, I'm from the school of "ask-me-I'll-tell-ya." I'm sure if you met me, it wouldn't take long to determine which side of the fence I lounge on.

Well anyway, I certainly do learn something new every day.

Well, I knew about the hanky on one side (or actually anything in particular on one side) meant you were one type or another. That is pretty much a standard. But, I agree with those who say it would be a rather strange looking person who wanted to advertise every kink he/she had, in a way such as this.

I did notice that scat and gloden showers play was in the "common" catagory and anal sex play was in the "less common" catagory.

I'm going to go out on a limb and say the kinks in the common catagory are the most necessary to use such a label to advertise, so that gives them the common denominator. Or, possibly the most used labels, perhaps?

Other than bright red, I do like dark blue... it's my second favorite color. And, I'm left handed, too. I think anal and I were destined to be together from day one.

Edited to add

Teal is darker than robin's egg blue. Teal has some green in it, where robin's egg is much lighter.

My problem would be...how do you tell Mosquito Netting from a doily? And, is Teddy Bear a color, or do you carry your kid's teddy around with you? Outside of the scene, you could be considered a very strange individual, in most vanilla circles. You could be beat up, going to or from the bar.

 

[Phoenix Stone]

If you had all those colours plus the teddy bear, chamios, doily, handwipes and toothbrush how on earth would you manage to make a move on anyone??

And I was just picturing shy slave with her teddy and her hanky and her toothbrush and all. She'd look adorable, all decked out in her babydoll jammies, ready for a sleepover, or is it a teddy bear's picnic?

Couldn't you just see someone, having read up on the Internet, showing up at their first munch in all that? Never been, but I have a funny feeling you might stand out a little....

 

[shy slave]

You mean you don't go to a munch complete with Teddy Bear, baby doll jammies and toothbrush!!!!

Gosh thanks PS what would I do without you


DVS
Good point about being the potenial of being beat up going from the bar..
As long as they didn't hurt Teddy as well

 

[shy slave]

Bump

Had to do that to make 100 posts

YIPPEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Xelebes]

And I was just picturing shy slave with her teddy and her hanky and her toothbrush and all. She'd look adorable, all decked out in her babydoll jammies, ready for a sleepover, or is it a teddy bear's picnic?

I've seen some girls dress like that going to raves and stuff.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Re: Re: Oops, I dropped my hanky and I'm hoping you will pick it up.

Well, I knew about the hanky on one side (or actually anything in particular on one side) meant you were one type or another. That is pretty much a standard. But, I agree with those who say it would be a rather strange looking person who wanted to advertise every kink he/she had, in a way such as this.

I did notice that scat and gloden showers play was in the "common" catagory and anal sex play was in the "less common" catagory.

I'm going to go out on a limb and say the kinks in the common catagory are the most necessary to use such a label to advertise, so that gives them the common denominator. Or, possibly the most used labels, perhaps?

Other than bright red, I do like dark blue... it's my second favorite color. And, I'm left handed, too. I think anal and I were destined to be together from day one.

Edited to add

Teal is darker than robin's egg blue. Teal has some green in it, where robin's egg is much lighter.

My problem would be...how do you tell Mosquito Netting from a doily? And, is Teddy Bear a color, or do you carry your kid's teddy around with you? Outside of the scene, you could be considered a very strange individual, in most vanilla circles. You could be beat up, going to or from the bar.

You knew about some of this because you are older than I. ;-)

I had no idea you are left handed. That explains a lot of stuff about you. LMAO.. not really.

Yes... teal is darker and has green in it. You are another rare fella, indeed. But everyone already knows that.

 

[DVS]

I never told you what I thought this thread was about, when I saw the title. I first thought I would pick up the hanky, being gallant and all. But, because this is a BDSM forum, I'd actually rather watch you pick it up, and while you're bent over, have my way with you. Just thinking of you bending over gets my mind working.

 

[Netzach]

The codes started in early gay culture, things like red pocket squares and ties were used as a tip-off for being gay, the hankies were probably part of really early biker culture sexuality codes, when anonymous sex was common and gay sex was more actively condemned as illegal.

A safe way to say who you were that also could be passed off as innocent.

The list here is probably a late 70's or 80's document being tongue in cheek about the system which got way out of prorportion in the 70's as more and more people poured out of closets and leather was a casual weekend interest for a whole generation of guys into a lot of different stuff.

Just my hunch gathered from my limited understanding of this tradition. I've seen club hankies, handmade, from the 70's in the basic colors (black , navy, hunter, red, yellow) but some of the more out there permutations probably were added much later.

 

[A Desert Rose]

The codes started in early gay culture, things like red pocket squares and ties were used as a tip-off for being gay, the hankies were probably part of really early biker culture sexuality codes, when anonymous sex was common and gay sex was more actively condemned as illegal.

A safe way to say who you were that also could be passed off as innocent.

The list here is probably a late 70's or 80's document being tongue in cheek about the system which got way out of prorportion in the 70's as more and more people poured out of closets and leather was a casual weekend interest for a whole generation of guys into a lot of different stuff.

Just my hunch gathered from my limited understanding of this tradition. I've seen club hankies, handmade, from the 70's in the basic colors (black , navy, hunter, red, yellow) but some of the more out there permutations probably were added much later.

You and Lark always have interesting things to add.
Thanks to you both.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I never told you what I thought this thread was about, when I saw the title. I first thought I would pick up the hanky, being gallant and all. But, because this is a BDSM forum, I'd actually rather watch you pick it up, and while you're bent over, have my way with you. Just thinking of you bending over gets my mind working.

Just thinking of ANY woman bending over gets your mind working, dolly.

 

[DVS]

Just thinking of ANY woman bending over gets your mind working, dolly.

well, not ANY woman. She must have an inviting ass...

 

[A Desert Rose]

well, not ANY woman. She must have an inviting ass...

Okay... that takes me right out of the running, then.

 

[DVS]

Okay... that takes me right out of the running, then.

actually, I had your ass in mind.