Orgasm Denial

[TeachMeSir]

I believe that teasing and orgasm denial is a great way to make her the center of attention. I love having a very satisfied girl snuggling up to me that appreciates me not cumming so that I can give her all she wants. Giving a girl dozens of orgasms while I am begging for one is very passionate and intense fun. It is all about her pleasure. I have said to girls that I have hooked up with; make me cum after you have had all of the caressing, back rubs, and orgasms you can ever want, then I know I have done well. It is a lifestyle for a devious and greedy lady and the guy that wants her to be pleased.

Bone251. - My phone numbre is (XXX) XXX-XXXX. I know men like you exist. I have met them. Butthere should be more of you.

Perfect example, my first dominant tied to me his bed in 4-point restraints and inserted a dildo inside and placed a vibrator on low against my clit, got me all worked up and then went into the other room to work and I wasnt allowed to cum until he came back.

I moaned ... at first

It felt really good... for a while

Then I fell asleep. I know I know.. bad submissive. If I were a good submissive I would have stayed aroused and wet and throbbing and begging to be fucked. But within 5 minutes, I was bored as hell.

Did you snore? That would have been really funny.

** flees from expected slap on the ass for SAMmy behaviour **

 

[EmpressFi]

Did you snore? That would have been really funny.

** flees from expected slap on the ass for SAMmy behaviour **

I do snore..and I was on my back..so I probably did snore..

 

[kinkyknickers]

First time!

Well this is my first post and which also happens to coencide with the first time my master denied me. It was last night and he'd already had his way with me, but I was concentrating so much on the proceedings I didn't even think about coming myself.... until I started playing with myself afterwards. Once he'd figured out what I was doing, he proceeded to pin me down and play with me until I was just at the brink. It went on for so long I swear I nearly passed out. No toys or anything, He wanted to be completely in control (of course) and he's far to attentive for that.
I have no idea of the actual time frame because I felt like I was in another dimension (it was that good). I kept trying to ask him to let me come but couldn't get the bloody words out. Just kept saying p-p-pl-pl (couldn't string together please let me come for quite some time).
Eventually he had mercy and let me come after I concentrated intently and got the words out. WOW!
Sorry to hear alot of you had negative or even neutral experiences with denial, for me it's better than most highs I've ever experienced.
Can't wait to try it again..... When I'm allowed.
KK

 

[IsabellaKing]

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[TeachMeSir]

Well this is my first post and which also happens to coencide with the first time my master denied me. It was last night and he'd already had his way with me, but I was concentrating so much on the proceedings I didn't even think about coming myself.... until I started playing with myself afterwards. Once he'd figured out what I was doing, he proceeded to pin me down and play with me until I was just at the brink. It went on for so long I swear I nearly passed out. No toys or anything, He wanted to be completely in control (of course) and he's far to attentive for that.
I have no idea of the actual time frame because I felt like I was in another dimension (it was that good). I kept trying to ask him to let me come but couldn't get the bloody words out. Just kept saying p-p-pl-pl (couldn't string together please let me come for quite some time).
Eventually he had mercy and let me come after I concentrated intently and got the words out. WOW!
Sorry to hear alot of you had negative or even neutral experiences with denial, for me it's better than most highs I've ever experienced.
Can't wait to try it again..... When I'm allowed.
KK

That kind of orgasm delay is wickedly ambrosial. I do like the dealy, the building of the senses, shutting offthe outside world. But it has to be managed well enough that I don't get too over sensitive. This is different from straight out denial. ** snores with Empress Fi **

 

[CyberChas]

..But it has to be managed well enough that I don't get too over sensitive...

I think this is ABSOLUTELY the key, especially when this is integrated BEYOND a single scene into a multi-day activity where the participants might be away from each other. As always, COMMUNICATION will be key.

Also, it seems that (in some cases) women respond differently to the build-up of sexual tension without release than men do. It might just be my personal experience, and not something that can be generalized, but it seems that women subbies can become more "irritated" and authentically "frustrated" by the sexual tension while male subbies simply bask in the sexual frustration.

Again, this presumes sexual frustration WITH potential for release and with stimulation, not just 100% chastity with no attention, which I think would, over time, totally mute the sexual response, drive, desire, and interest.

 

[UpinJersey]

Has anyone else here practiced orgasm denial? It seems like it could be a step in getting a person to come on command.

Is it harmful in any way?

It all depends on what you mean by "harmful". I would take it to mean "long term damage" and I would respond, "no".

A lot of people will tell you that a male who doesn't ejaculate needs to have his prostate milked. That simply isn't true. Just as with any other part of the body, if excess ejaculate is produced and not expelled by the prostate, it is broken down and reabsorbed. Consider that a sperm cell that is not ejaculated will be dead and broken down within about twenty-four hours or so.

The idea of milking a prostate is to push fluid out so that the fifty or so ducts inside it remain open. But they don't get blocked from the fluid excreted by the prostate. They get blocked from puss when an infection becomes active. A MAN WILL KNOW WHEN THIS HAPPENS. It HURTS LIKE ALL HELL.

The best course of action at that time is to milk the prostate daily for a period of time and get some antibiotics. Once the infection is cleared up, there is no reason why the milking should continue.

This myth most likely got started by men who had not ejaculated and shortly thereafter felt intense pain caused by blocked ducts. But it was not the unexpelled ejaculate causing the problem. The problem was the existing infection, which may have actually moved from a single duct to a single duct for any length of time without blocking enough ducts for a long enough period to cause problems. But when ejaculation is denied and the glands are flooded with fluid, it is easy for bacteria to reproduce like crazy and settle into ALL of the ducts. Hence, people think it is bad for them not to shoot a wad when it reality it is simply bad to have an infection. This is further complicated by the fact that puss is often the same milky white color that semen is (or at least similar). So the evidence of infection goes unnoticed.

There is some research that would indicate that much of the enlarged prostate in this country that is treated with various medications is actually caused by recurring prostate infections. I haven't seen percentages, though. If a guy has on-again, off-again erectile and/or urinary problems, though, it might very well be an infection of the prostate.

Since there is no equivalent in the female anatomy for a prostate, then I'd say the health risks are probably much lower than breathing deeply while taking a long walk through most American cities. Even for men, it isn't much of a risk.

There is some indication that having more than 21 ejaculations per month may have a long term anti-prostate cancer effect for some men. It isn't really known why this would be true, but one theory leads back to the infection thing - if you stop draining a recurring infection, it damages the area around it.

As far as mental health goes, I'd say it depends largely on how it is experienced. If it is pleasing for the person being denied, then it is unlikely to cause any psychic harm. If it is distressing to them, then - as several people pointed out - it becomes a total turn-off. If continued beyond that point, perhaps it might develop other stress-related reactions.

As for myself, if I don't cum regularly (every day unless someone stops me), I find myself to be short-tempered. That, however, can be dealt with as any sort of frustration. There is probably a link to the levels of hormones released during orgasm that plummet when denied, but I can't find any evidence that has been studied. The brain is wonderfully self-correcting, though, and if it doesn't get the proper amount of happy-drugs from blowing a wad, it will adjust the other neuro-receptors - over a period of days. So if someone is used to cumming several times a day and then has to stop for a period of time, I'd expect them to experience negative emotional states. After a few days, however, that should pass and the experience may even come to be positive.

Hope that isn't too geeky of an answer.

My personal experience is very limited. Unfortunately. I'd much rather have someone in my life who was comfortable controlling how often I orgasm. It would save a lot of wear and tear on my right elbow.

 

[eroticspank]

Did it once!

I just thought about another technique for orgasm denial.

A friend of mine said he had it done once and thought it was great.

His girlfriend had him get on the bed naked face up. She got on top and gave him a slow handjob or blowjob to orgasm. Just as he started to cum she would stop and mount him.(This is important she has to stop at the right point or he will have a full orgasm.)

His orgasm stopped but he was very hard so she could fuck him like that for a long time having several orgasms before he was ready to cum again. Then she would let him cum or take him out of her basically doing the same thing and begin fucking him again.

When she eventually let him cum, he told me he came harder then ever before and his girlfriend came again.

He only did it once, sounds like lots of fun.

ES

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Yep, my husband now has total control of my orgasms.

When he realised that denying me only made me hotter, and more willing to please him, he got really serious about it and went from allowing me an orgasm only after he was satisfied to witholding my pleasure for weeks on end. Then his sadistic nature really matured and he decided that my orgasms should be separated from any form of sex act, and sex is now only about his pleasure.

I get summoned to his office -where he keeps my vibrator locked in a draw. It's become a ritual. I have to take off all my clothes and stand naked with my legs spread wide -I'm only allowed to cum once and standing with my legs spread wide makes it more difficult to hide when I cum.

Once he's seen me cum he takes the vibrator back and sends me away. One orgasm, especially when it's achieved in this way, is never quite enough to satisfy me - and that's just the way he likes me - on a constant simmer.

If I weren't such a masochist I'd hate him

That's really rather hot. And I'm hiding this thread away before someone gets ideas...

 

[Hisscarlett]

Orgasm control/denial is a big part of my Master's ownership of me.

I am not allowed to orgasm without permission. It can be weeks between each orgasm, or at times, minutes. It is entirely at Master's discretion.

He also trained me to come on command. He has a trigger word which, no matter where we are or what i am doing, makes me orgasm immediately. At times he slips it into conversation just for his own entertainment. He also has other phrases which make me orgasm in slightly different ways.

I love that he has taken over control of me to this extent. We both get pleasure from it; albeit in different ways. It adds to the S/m aspect of our relationship as at times he knows i am in agonies over it.

I have never found any negative outcome, just lots of fun and pleasure.

 

[Lady_Guenivere]

Orgasm control/denial is a big part of my Master's ownership of me.

I am not allowed to orgasm without permission. It can be weeks between each orgasm, or at times, minutes. It is entirely at Master's discretion.

He also trained me to come on command. He has a trigger word which, no matter where we are or what i am doing, makes me orgasm immediately. At times he slips it into conversation just for his own entertainment. He also has other phrases which make me orgasm in slightly different ways.

I love that he has taken over control of me to this extent. We both get pleasure from it; albeit in different ways. It adds to the S/m aspect of our relationship as at times he knows i am in agonies over it.

I have never found any negative outcome, just lots of fun and pleasure.

Very cool. I met a woman once that was also trained to cum on command. For her it was the snap of fingers...had the pleasure of witnessing it once.

One of the hottest things I ever saw.

 

[Hisscarlett]

It is something that amazed me, that he could control me to the extent that just a word caused me to orgasm. But it is something he trained me to over time and now every time he says the word I come hard. It has been slightly awkward at times, when he has "forgotten" and used it when we are out.

I also hear the word over every other if someone else says it, but it is only when Master says it that I orgasm.

I love it. Both for the orgasm and for the reminder of his control.

 

[canemaster]

Male orgasm denial

I have a female email friend & we practice orgasm denial.She & i send each other kinky porn and we go as long as we can without getting off.I love it,i'm hard now,i'm dying to get off.But the feeling of not cumming is felling better than cumming.Johnny.....

 

[hisgypsy]

It is something that amazed me, that he could control me to the extent that just a word caused me to orgasm. But it is something he trained me to over time and now every time he says the word I come hard. It has been slightly awkward at times, when he has "forgotten" and used it when we are out.

I also hear the word over every other if someone else says it, but it is only when Master says it that I orgasm.

I love it. Both for the orgasm and for the reminder of his control.

Okay...I have to ask, what's the word? I'm never allowed to have an orgasm without his permission, but he doesn't withhold it very often. In fact, he's gotten me to the point where he can also make me orgasm on command and I end up having multiple, multiple orgasms at a time. Definitely strokes his ego!

 

[Hisscarlett]

Intense.

It works even when he says intensity as he emphasises the intense part.

I love it!

 

[Zoots_owner]

It is something that amazed me, that he could control me to the extent that just a word caused me to orgasm. But it is something he trained me to over time and now every time he says the word I come hard. It has been slightly awkward at times, when he has "forgotten" and used it when we are out.

I also hear the word over every other if someone else says it, but it is only when Master says it that I orgasm.

I love it. Both for the orgasm and for the reminder of his control.

Heh, we never did that with a single word, now I'll have to think about the fun that could be had by doing it that way!

 

[Hisscarlett]

It is a lot of fun, especially for Master I think! He also has a couple of phrases that work in slightly different ways. Strangely though I honestly don't know the phrases, I just know that they work. I can never remember them afterwards. I have asked and he just smiles saying I don't need to know.

 

[sexyskibunnysub]

Orgasm control/denial is a big part of my Master's ownership of me.

I am not allowed to orgasm without permission. It can be weeks between each orgasm, or at times, minutes. It is entirely at Master's discretion.

He also trained me to come on command. He has a trigger word which, no matter where we are or what i am doing, makes me orgasm immediately. At times he slips it into conversation just for his own entertainment. He also has other phrases which make me orgasm in slightly different ways.

I love that he has taken over control of me to this extent. We both get pleasure from it; albeit in different ways. It adds to the S/m aspect of our relationship as at times he knows i am in agonies over it.

I have never found any negative outcome, just lots of fun and pleasure.

I don't think I read this correctly. Are you claiming that you could be at dinner, he could say the word and you would instantly orgasm?

If that is the case, I call complete bullshit.


Maybe you are a troll, maybe I read it wrong or maybe you are just another female that fakes orgasms.

 

[sexyskibunnysub]

It is something that amazed me, that he could control me to the extent that just a word caused me to orgasm. But it is something he trained me to over time and now every time he says the word I come hard. It has been slightly awkward at times, when he has "forgotten" and used it when we are out.

I also hear the word over every other if someone else says it, but it is only when Master says it that I orgasm.

I love it. Both for the orgasm and for the reminder of his control.

You are such a liar.


My best guess is that you are a guy pretending to be a girl.

/Cant believe that people are falling for this

 

[Francisromantic]

I am like that too!

A woman should be adored, spoiled, pampered, and glowing happily in the aftershocks of intense orgasmic pleasure before she even needs to think about getting me off!l

 

[Hisscarlett]

Hello sexyskibunnysub

I read your replies to two of my posts.

Firstly:

I don't think I read this correctly. Are you claiming that you could be at dinner, he could say the word and you would instantly orgasm?

If that is the case, I call complete bullshit.


Maybe you are a troll, maybe I read it wrong or maybe you are just another female that fakes orgasms.


Secondly:

You are such a liar.


My best guess is that you are a guy pretending to be a girl.

/Cant believe that people are falling for this



I am sorry that you think I am not speaking the truth, I actually am telling the truth.

I have only been part of this forum for a short while and was leery about participating because I was worried that there would be negativity. I actually never dreamt that someone, who has not taken time to get to know me in any way, would call me a liar.

I hope that you understand that your words have caused hurt. I didn't expect to have this happen.

I am not a liar. I am a woman and my Master has trained me to that extent. I have several slave friends who are also trained to triggers. It took Master a long time to train me to it. Also I have never faked an orgasm. I have no need to do so.

I wish you well and hope that whatever caused you to feel such rancour and hatred towards someone who has done you no harm and who you have not troubled yourself to know is resolved.

I do not wish to fight with anyone. It is the last thing I was hoping for here.

I apologise for whatever it is that you feel I have done to you. I want to reiterate though that I am neither a liar nor a man.

Take care and I hope that you find whatever it is that you seek.

 

[BiBunny]

Hello

I am sorry that you think I am not speaking the truth, I actually am telling the truth.

I have only been part of this forum for a short while and was leery about participating because I was worried that there would be negativity. I actually never dreamt that someone, who has not taken time to get to know me in any way, would call me a liar.

I hope that you understand that your words have caused hurt. I don't expect to have this happen.

I am not a liar. I am a woman and my Master has trained me to that extent. I have several slave friends who are also trained to triggers.

I wish you well and hope that whatever caused you to feel such rancour and hatred towards someone who has done you no harm and who you have not troubled yourself to know is resolved.

I do not wish to fight with anyone. It is the last thing I was hoping for here.

I apologise for whatever it is that you feel I have done to you. I want to reiterate though that I am neither a liar nor a man.

Take care

Don't worry about it, honey. It's got its panties in a wad in several places, apparently. Clicky. Methinks it just wants to cause trouble.

 

[Hisscarlett]

BiBunny

Thank you! I have been so upset since reading the posts. I am amazed how the typed words of someone who I don't know and who has made some wildly incorrect accusations based on their own assumptions could make me feel this way.

I really appreciate you taking time to tell me not to let it get to me. I really appreciate your kindness.

I just don't get why people want to cause hurt to others or insult people they don't know. But then that is the people pleaser in me.

Thank you once again
scarlett

 

[niceguyct]

Orgasm Denial Thread

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[BiBunny]

BiBunny

Thank you! I have been so upset since reading the posts. I am amazed how the typed words of someone who I don't know and who has made some wildly incorrect accusations based on their own assumptions could make me feel this way.

I really appreciate you taking time to tell me not to let it get to me. I really appreciate your kindness.

I just don't get why people want to cause hurt to others or insult people they don't know. But then that is the people pleaser in me.

Thank you once again
scarlett

No problem.

Some people are just ijits.