Orgasm Denial

[hisdirtycumbag]

My Master uses it on me and i love the feeling of his total control and when he allows me to come its soo intense, so far no ill effects lol

 

[IsabellaKing]

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[EmpressFi]

Yep, my husband now has total control of my orgasms.

When he realised that denying me only made me hotter, and more willing to please him, he got really serious about it and went from allowing me an orgasm only after he was satisfied to witholding my pleasure for weeks on end. Then his sadistic nature really matured and he decided that my orgasms should be separated from any form of sex act, and sex is now only about his pleasure.

I get summoned to his office -where he keeps my vibrator locked in a draw. It's become a ritual. I have to take off all my clothes and stand naked with my legs spread wide -I'm only allowed to cum once and standing with my legs spread wide makes it more difficult to hide when I cum.

Once he's seen me cum he takes the vibrator back and sends me away. One orgasm, especially when it's achieved in this way, is never quite enough to satisfy me - and that's just the way he likes me - on a constant simmer.

If I weren't such a masochist I'd hate him

That would.. well ... while I think it's great that it keeps you on a constant simmer, SKL and I were talking about this the other day. I'm this way with all bodily needs, hunger, thirst, sex. I'll want it and want it and then... I dont want it anymore and no amount of temptation or prodding will make me want it.

It's why orgasm denial in that sense wouldnt work for me. Because eventually I'd just shrug my shoulder and say, "Eh.. ok.. nevermind..."

 

[BiBunny]

That would.. well ... while I think it's great that it keeps you on a constant simmer, SKL and I were talking about this the other day. I'm this way with all bodily needs, hunger, thirst, sex. I'll want it and want it and then... I dont want it anymore and no amount of temptation or prodding will make me want it.

It's why orgasm denial in that sense wouldnt work for me. Because eventually I'd just shrug my shoulder and say, "Eh.. ok.. nevermind..."

Yeah, that's me, totally. If I don't get my instant gratification, it doesn't take long for me to be like, "Ah, fuck it." I can turn it on and off at will, probably because I go through periods in my life where I'm not having sex at all, where thinking about it and dwelling on it will just make me crazy. So I've just learned to ignore it after a certain point.

 

[FungiUg]

I've found that with some submissives, denial works. For others, an orgasm quota is better. There are never any hard and fast rules about what works best -- every person is different.

 

[00Syd]

I've found that with some submissives, denial works. For others, an orgasm quota is better. There are never any hard and fast rules about what works best -- every person is different.

Every once in a while my bf will give me a quota for the week, that I must meet (a hard task when living in a dorm!) and that I can't go over (a hard task when at home!).

 

[bone251]

I believe that teasing and orgasm denial is a great way to make her the center of attention. I love having a very satisfied girl snuggling up to me that appreciates me not cumming so that I can give her all she wants. Giving a girl dozens of orgasms while I am begging for one is very passionate and intense fun. It is all about her pleasure. I have said to girls that I have hooked up with; make me cum after you have had all of the caressing, back rubs, and orgasms you can ever want, then I know I have done well. It is a lifestyle for a devious and greedy lady and the guy that wants her to be pleased.

 

[Adakgirl]

I first experienced orgasm denial while in an on-line M/s relationship. My Master at the time was training me to be his slave. He would direct me to masturbate, as much as I possibly could, every chance I had, day and night. He told me to bring myself to the very edge of orgasm, then keep myself there as long as I could stand it without going over. He said a few mistakes were bound to happen and as long as they weren't on purpose, that was acceptable.

He wanted me in a constant state of high arousal. I was not allowed release until he was on-line with me and even then, he may or may not decide to give me permission to cum.
He kept me in that state of excitement for weeks at a time. I am an older woman, almost 50 and believe you me, I have never in my life been so aware of my pussy, my clit and my sexual emotions as I was during those times.
This training opened up a whole new world for me. All my senses were greatly heightened. I never knew such a state of arousal could exist. I was hyper sensitive to any form of touch, my clit throbbed all the time, my pussy was always hot and wet. All those changes after only one week of self edging and denial.
When he did allow me to orgasm, the orgasms were incredible. Very long lasting and so much more intense than I had ever had before.
At the beginning of my training I had a hard time reaching orgasm when masturbating for him. He would watch me on cam and direct me by voice during a two hour session.
I think he was actually timing me to see how long it took me to cum after I finally heard him command it, and it took me awhile even after that intense play. Once he realized that and had a good idea of my reactions, he then began my edging-denial training.
This Master saw a problem and knew exactly how to go about correcting it. He did it by using orgasm denial.My whole mindset changed, it like let go of something deep inside me. This change is still with me today, he gave me a priceless gift that will last me the rest of my life. I will never forget him.

 

[EmpressFi]

I first experienced orgasm denial while in an on-line M/s relationship. My Master at the time was training me to be his slave. He would direct me to masturbate, as much as I possibly could, every chance I had, day and night. He told me to bring myself to the very edge of orgasm, then keep myself there as long as I could stand it without going over. He said a few mistakes were bound to happen and as long as they weren't on purpose, that was acceptable.

He wanted me in a constant state of high arousal. I was not allowed release until he was on-line with me and even then, he may or may not decide to give me permission to cum.
He kept me in that state of excitement for weeks at a time. I am an older woman, almost 50 and believe you me, I have never in my life been so aware of my pussy, my clit and my sexual emotions as I was during those times.
This training opened up a whole new world for me. All my senses were greatly heightened. I never knew such a state of arousal could exist. I was hyper sensitive to any form of touch, my clit throbbed all the time, my pussy was always hot and wet. All those changes after only one week of self edging and denial.
When he did allow me to orgasm, the orgasms were incredible. Very long lasting and so much more intense than I had ever had before.
At the beginning of my training I had a hard time reaching orgasm when masturbating for him. He would watch me on cam and direct me by voice during a two hour session.
I think he was actually timing me to see how long it took me to cum after I finally heard him command it, and it took me awhile even after that intense play. Once he realized that and had a good idea of my reactions, he then began my edging-denial training.
This Master saw a problem and knew exactly how to go about correcting it. He did it by using orgasm denial.My whole mindset changed, it like let go of something deep inside me. This change is still with me today, he gave me a priceless gift that will last me the rest of my life. I will never forget him.

part of me almost wishes I were wired that way, because well 1 - it's really hot and 2- my own personal reason for wishing I could be that way.

But I'm not wired that way.

Orgasms are great and the ones I have with Malin and when I'm with Master are earth-moving, but even as great as they are, they're still a .. "eh" with me. I could take 'em or leave em. Even when aroused beyond belief, I want to be fucked or touched, but they're just not that important. If you tease me with one, as I said before, eventually, I'll stop being aroused at all.

Perfect example, my first dominant tied to me his bed in 4-point restraints and inserted a dildo inside and placed a vibrator on low against my clit, got me all worked up and then went into the other room to work and I wasnt allowed to cum until he came back.

I moaned ... at first

It felt really good... for a while

Then I fell asleep. I know I know.. bad submissive. If I were a good submissive I would have stayed aroused and wet and throbbing and begging to be fucked. But within 5 minutes, I was bored as hell.

 

[missy_me]

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[StreetSpirit]

Orgasm denial

As a male with lots of submissive curiousities, I have experimented with orgasm denial by myself. I find its a wonderful torment, it focuses my mind on my sexuality and helps create new fantasies. I find I can go three days without touching myself before I feel things building inside me. There is an intensity, a need for release, an aching. I feel it deep within, and would do anything for the right person who tapped that mental state. My record is 12 days and i would admit I was a mess at that point. I would get turned on at the slightest touch and feel the ache from my erection all the way down to my anal region and deep within me. The release after such a period is slightly painful, and the need for several more releases the same day extremely strong. One day I hope to explore this feeling with the right guiding domme...

 

[SubKekiLee]

Orgasm denial? I will share my most recent experience with Orgasm Denial.. Most recently Sir came to visit.. The second day he was here I had been begging him ALL morning to let his pet cum... and he kept telling me no, After he worked through the morning on some stuff and watched a movie I asked him again * lesson to other subbies dont keep asking* finally after about 1130am I asked him again and he told me no I am tired pet come lay down with me and we can take a nap before we go sightseeing.. So I laid down next to him and "inspired" him to let me take care of him , which I truly love to do.. and as I was doing this I asked him Sir can your pet touch your "kitty" he said no pet you are here to please me... So I noticed his eyes were closed and he was enjoying what I was doing... When I slowly slipped my hand down in between my thighs and started to touch his "kitty" when suddenly out of no where Smaaaaaaaack a loud crack came across my ass he said I said NO pet.. Now finish but do not touch MY kitty... so I politely finished and he told me pet when are you gonna learn ?!?! I said please take care of me.. and he anwsered very quietly no I wont now lay down and or go play on the computer Sir is tired and wants to nap, I tried to snuggle with him and hope he would change his mind... but alas no such luck I remember drifting off but that was the worse thing , cause then as always I was dreaming of him and dreaming of him letting me cum... I was woken up by my cell phone while he stayed asleep and I logged on and played online which only made it worse cause I was checking out lit and collar me, etc.. when he woke up he wanted to go so he said for us to get ready I laid my head in his lap and asked him as I looked up at him how did you know Sir? He said I did and you dont need to know .. ( aww shucks) so he told me no cumming for you until I decide... So we got ready to go out and went out for the day all day he wouldnt give into me at all I kept begging him and he kept saying No... It was pure torture knowing he wouldnt give into me no matter what I did... later in the day we had plans to meet potential playmates and when we went to meet them we decided to have a drink... While we were there in the middle of this bar in the middle of a casino.. He leaned over to me and whispered into my ear ... the words I need to cum on command and I proceeded in front of everyone to have an orgasm right there .. as I did he told me as he always does what a good pet you are... mmmmmm did that feel good Pet.. I nodded and it was great ... Im sure the potential play partners were amazed ( we didnt end up playing with them though) and we got up to leave I am sure the other dom asked mine how the hell did you do that to her.. I dont know if he shared but I am sure if he did there is another Sub in this world who is happier than ANYTHING... So we proceeded to go out and go gambling and have an really enjoyable night together... When it was all over... he still had only let me cum one time and he is normally very generous.. before we fell asleep I begged him one more time.. he told me yes pet I know you need my help.. and he started rubbing my back as he always does to get me there ... and then proceeded to tell me to suck his c*c* and then told me to crawl on top where I proceeded to have 3 of the most mind blowing orgasms.. while he praised me... for being such a good pet .. Normally Id say I hate orgasm denial.. but I think that I have a new found admiration for it... cause Of the fact of the intensity I enjoyed at the end of the night... .... More to come I am sure..

 

[bone251]

Orgasm denial? I will share my most recent experience with Orgasm Denial.. Most recently Sir came to visit.. The second day he was here I had been begging him ALL morning to let his pet cum... and he kept telling me no, After he worked through the morning on some stuff and watched a movie I asked him again * lesson to other subbies dont keep asking* finally after about 1130am I asked him again and he told me no I am tired pet come lay down with me and we can take a nap before we go sightseeing.. So I laid down next to him and "inspired" him to let me take care of him , which I truly love to do.. and as I was doing this I asked him Sir can your pet touch your "kitty" he said no pet you are here to please me... So I noticed his eyes were closed and he was enjoying what I was doing... When I slowly slipped my hand down in between my thighs and started to touch his "kitty" when suddenly out of no where Smaaaaaaaack a loud crack came across my ass he said I said NO pet.. Now finish but do not touch MY kitty... so I politely finished and he told me pet when are you gonna learn ?!?! I said please take care of me.. and he anwsered very quietly no I wont now lay down and or go play on the computer Sir is tired and wants to nap, I tried to snuggle with him and hope he would change his mind... but alas no such luck I remember drifting off but that was the worse thing , cause then as always I was dreaming of him and dreaming of him letting me cum... I was woken up by my cell phone while he stayed asleep and I logged on and played online which only made it worse cause I was checking out lit and collar me, etc.. when he woke up he wanted to go so he said for us to get ready I laid my head in his lap and asked him as I looked up at him how did you know Sir he said I did and you dont need to know .. ( aww shucks) so he told me no cumming for you until I decide... So we got ready to go out and went out for the day all day he wouldnt give into me at all I kept begging him and he kept saying No... It was pure torture knowing he wouldnt give into me no matter what I did... later in the day we had plans to meet potential playmates and when we went to meet them we decided to have a drink... While we were there in the middle of this bar in the middle of a casino.. He leaned over to me and whispered into my ear ... the words I need to cum on command and I proceeded in front of everyone to have an orgasm right there .. as I did he told me as he always does what a good pet you are... mmmmmm did that feel good Pet.. I nodded and it was great ... Im sure the potential play partners were amazed ( we didnt end up playing with them though) and we got up to leave I am sure the other dom asked mine how the hell did you do that to her.. I dont know if he shared but I am sure if he did there is another Sub in this world who is happier than ANYTHING... So we proceeded to go out and go gambling and have an really enjoyable night together... When it was all over... he still had only let me cum one time and he is normally very generous.. before we fell asleep I begged him one more time.. he told me yes pet I know you need my help.. and he started rubbing my back as he always does to get me there ... and then proceeded to tell me to suck his c*c* and then told me to crawl on top where I proceeded to have 3 of the most mind blowing orgasms.. while he praised me... for being such a good pet .. Normally Id say I hate orgasm denial.. but I think that I have a new found admiration for it... cause Of the fact of the intensity I enjoyed at the end of the night... .... More to come I am sure..

Wow SubKekiLee, That its hot!!!
The truly best part of Orgasm Denial is pleasing your partner while your own need is overwhelming.
I just seen a wonderful lady recently that kept me on the edge for just about hours. For that six hours I licked her clit and rubbed her Gspot. The bed was soaked to the floor. When her clit was tired she would give the most incredible bjs then stop my orgasm with my balls. She really likes to spank and squeeze balls. I can usually take quite a bit. but on that day seeing her get turned on squeezing and hit the boys like that inspired me to accept much more. I was so horny that it did not hurt....much. I was so close that I was dripping and that turned her on even more. She did 69 a lot, but only held my boys so that I could feel her ride each orgasm. I liked knowing how well I did her by her grip.
For me, the orgasm at the end of the visit was like an oatmeal factory. And since she insists on a snowball kiss after, I really found out how much was there.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Oh bone.. let me tell you, look at my signature line .. I am very pleased when he is smiling and pleased and proud of his pet..

 

[TeachMeSir]

That would.. well ... while I think it's great that it keeps you on a constant simmer, SKL and I were talking about this the other day. I'm this way with all bodily needs, hunger, thirst, sex. I'll want it and want it and then... I dont want it anymore and no amount of temptation or prodding will make me want it.

It's why orgasm denial in that sense wouldnt work for me. Because eventually I'd just shrug my shoulder and say, "Eh.. ok.. nevermind..."

Orgasm control I love, but denial, a quick no. I'm like a greyhound. Every now & them you just have to let them catch the rabbit otherwise they lose the will to run. Deny me and I'll loose the desire to orgasm or please him with my reponse. Never leave me hanging. I'll just resent it.

 

[twysted73]

Good topic

Good activity.

I'll make this one short and not so long winded.

O-denial. Very invasive, controlling aspect of D/s I think. You "own" someones ability to climax, you own an important part of who they are. Especially in relation to this lifestyle.

A very personal part of who they are. And weilded correctly with trust and great care (adding in a healthy dose of sadism) you're on the right road.


*regarde mon peu un*

 

[voyrjo]

Orgasm Denial, is similarly Tease and Denial. The act of teasing the senses in various ways is very exciting, resulting in the euphoric 'sub space' feeling associated with S/M play and Tantric sex... if done for long periods of time. I tend to practice this whenever I masturbate. Depending on the amount of time I have to devote to it, it can build to ethereal orgasm for certain. There have been times where I have had a 'Masturbat-a-thon' lasting several hours... all with building up to the point of orgasm... and stopping, over and over. Most will find it difficult to believe (but is very true), but I have been able to do this for 8-10 hours before... longest was about 14 hours... and the built up energy had me at such insatiable states, when I finally did orgasm ... well, it was tremendous! Have also had the experience with a partner, a Domme who used it very effectively during play, incorporating Milking in as well.... which to say the least... is a beautiful experience when manipulated that way, along with the loss of control literally at the hands of another.
Always looking for a lover who is into this Tantric style of orgasm control.

 

[EmpressFi]

Orgasm control I love, but denial, a quick no. I'm like a greyhound. Every now & them you just have to let them catch the rabbit otherwise they lose the will to run. Deny me and I'll loose the desire to orgasm or please him with my reponse. Never leave me hanging. I'll just resent it.

yep yep

 

[maybenicegirl]

Yep, my husband now has total control of my orgasms.

When he realised that denying me only made me hotter, and more willing to please him, he got really serious about it and went from allowing me an orgasm only after he was satisfied to witholding my pleasure for weeks on end. Then his sadistic nature really matured and he decided that my orgasms should be separated from any form of sex act, and sex is now only about his pleasure.

I get summoned to his office -where he keeps my vibrator locked in a draw. It's become a ritual. I have to take off all my clothes and stand naked with my legs spread wide -I'm only allowed to cum once and standing with my legs spread wide makes it more difficult to hide when I cum.

Once he's seen me cum he takes the vibrator back and sends me away. One orgasm, especially when it's achieved in this way, is never quite enough to satisfy me - and that's just the way he likes me - on a constant simmer.

If I weren't such a masochist I'd hate him

Mmm... that sounds great. I would love to have a partner in total control of my orgasms. I think that is just so intimate. As for orgasm denial, I have gone a few weeks before, but probably wouldn't want to go much more than that, but who knows? I haven't tried it, so I won't knock it.

 

[TeachMeSir]

Good activity.

I'll make this one short and not so long winded.

O-denial. Very invasive, controlling aspect of D/s I think. You "own" someones ability to climax, you own an important part of who they are. Especially in relation to this lifestyle.

A very personal part of who they are. And weilded correctly with trust and great care (adding in a healthy dose of sadism) you're on the right road.


*regarde mon peu un*

Oui, je vois. Mais vous savez que j'aime des sensations. Je vous déteste

 

[twysted73]

Oui, je vois. Mais vous savez que j'aime des sensations. Je vous déteste

Je vous déteste aussi. Avec une si grande partie de mon coeur. Mon Dieu je vous déteste.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Good activity.

I'll make this one short and not so long winded.

O-denial. Very invasive, controlling aspect of D/s I think. You "own" someones ability to climax, you own an important part of who they are. Especially in relation to this lifestyle.

A very personal part of who they are. And weilded correctly with trust and great care (adding in a healthy dose of sadism) you're on the right road.


*regarde mon peu un*

I love this quote Twysted.... I belive this to be very true... He does own my ability to orgasm and when he does deny me for periods of time it does cause me to have more fufilling orgasms when I am allowed...

 

[IsabellaKing]

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[MistressIndigo]

Well, I was wondering more about whether it was biologically harmful, since I have always believed masturbation to fruition was a healthy thing.

I love it actually, and it seems like it's not unhealthy and I haven't seen any information saying it's not healthy to do that, but I do wonder. Maybe because it's just not normal for me to deny myself.

I would also love feedback from others who are into orgasm control using orgasm denial.

This is also how I use this practice. Although, if done right it can be a pleasure more than a punishment too. For instance none of my pets are allow to cum until they have permission. If they do, they are punished. Most of my boys are at the point where they can cum on command. I also know them well and know their limits. I pushed them just close enough while holding out to make them cum harder each time. I've been told the way I teach that is almost Zen. And I've never heard of or experienced any physical side effects. Mental......yes. lol

 

[CyberChas]

Living on the edge

Using sexual stimulation/teasing coupled with orgasm denial is a great way to play at the edge, whether it is a component of a D/s relationship or not.

As a male, I find it hightens my sexual awareness (beyond just the part about being horny) and puts me into a "sexual sphere" where I notice sexual and sensual things more and can react on that level better.

And, of course, the eventual release is usually that much more exciting.

If it's just denial without the frustration (chastity) then I think it's easier to "turn off" the sexual responses, rather than fine tune them.