Orgasms, the submissive perspective

[catalina_francisco]

I said Part. Everyone is wired differently. My cock rarely goes down at all after the first orgasm and will a little stimulation I can keep going and going. Some guys get a standing ovation if they come back for seconds.

LOL, I got a gem who can also multiple orgasm, and rarely goes down night or day, stimulated or not. Sheesh, and he wonders what would happen if he took viagra...I shudder to think!!

Catalina

 

[WriterDom]

I tried it just for fun. Made me feel hot and flushed. Not a lot of difference. But I get so hard without it the cat can't scratch it. Nice to know there is help out there when we do need it.

 

[m wisdom]

hmm, anyone that knows how common it is to be able to stay hard after cumming. I can stay hard all night long with only some mild stimulation, even after I can't cum anymore (3-4 times, used to be more, I must be getting old ).

All you hear about is how men need a few hours to a day to recharge and in here we got (including me) three people that don't have any problems with it, so anyone got any statistics?

 

[graceanne]

Ok, I did not read all the posts, but I just don't see how submissiveness has anything to do with orgasming. Orgasms are so much more than the pysical response - a lot of things can get in the way of you doing that. I know several people who were molested and therefor have a lot of trouble getting off. I know others who were molested and don't. If you're tired it's going to be harder to orgasm, etc.

Beyond that, though - I don't have any issues with cumming. It's one of the things that K loves about me, my responsiveness.

 

[catalina_francisco]

hmm, anyone that knows how common it is to be able to stay hard after cumming. I can stay hard all night long with only some mild stimulation, even after I can't cum anymore (3-4 times, used to be more, I must be getting old ).

All you hear about is how men need a few hours to a day to recharge and in here we got (including me) three people that don't have any problems with it, so anyone got any statistics?

IME, it is not very common, especially in men post 30. Multiple orgasm in men seems to be even rarer and yet I have had 3 men who have managed it without effort and been surprised as it was something they never experienced before. Me thinks perhaps I was born under a lucky star.

Catalina

 

[graceanne]

IME, it is not very common, especially in men post 30. Multiple orgasm in men seems to be even rarer and yet I have had 3 men who have managed it without effort and been surprised as it was something they never experienced before. Me thinks perhaps I was born under a lucky star.

Catalina

K can do that. He stays hard until their's no stimulation anymore. It's very nice.

 

[catalina_francisco]

K can do that. He stays hard until their's no stimulation anymore. It's very nice.

Multiple orgasm or staying up? I just don't know where it became gospel that men could not have multiple orgasms within a short period of time. It also seems to be great for men who can have an orgasm without ejaculation...we haven't worked out what makes it happen, but it does seem to have it's appeal.

Catalina

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Well I was born a submissive but it takes me a very long time to orgasm. I get more than a little wet quickly when aroused which is most of the time when in surrender mode but no multiples for me. I'm lucky to get one in a 2 hour session.

Recently I've had many offers to help with research but time will not allow such a project. LOL

...but I haven't given up and never will!

Viva la orgasm!

But Dom/mes can relate experiences as well.

I was chatting with someone and I said something like "most women or perhaps a lot, and I'm talking mainly submissives can cum in 30 seconds" and I think she spewed her Mt. Dew. Now I know not all can cum fast all the time, but I've know a few that can be working on #3 in a minute. Some that could keep going for an hour in and out of orgasm and mostly in.

So my question in general terms is do you think submissives are quicker on the trigger? And most of the ones I knew seemed to be born that way and not as a result of training. Any thoughts?

 

[NemoAlia]

Speaking of Meg Ryan in "When Harry Met Sally," I have a confession to make:

I fake orgasms. Fairly regularly when I'm with casual play partners, as a matter of fact.

You may ask, "Isn't this just shooting yourself in the foot?" But I say thee nay. It drives me nuts when some guy I barely know is insisting that I "cum for [him]" in a way that suggests that he's not gonna be able to get off until I do. Good lord. I'd much rather fake an orgasm and get on with things than have to wait for him either to trek my long learning curve and figure out how to make me cum or to give up and just fuck me the way he feels like it.

I'm perfectly happy to masturbate in the shower afterwards. Much happier, in fact, than if I twiddled my, er, thumbs through the 45 minutes of cunnilingus that I would otherwise require.

 

[graceanne]

Multiple orgasm or staying up? I just don't know where it became gospel that men could not have multiple orgasms within a short period of time. It also seems to be great for men who can have an orgasm without ejaculation...we haven't worked out what makes it happen, but it does seem to have it's appeal.

Catalina

Both, actually. Normally it takes about an hour or so before he can cum again. He can't cum with out ejaculating, but I did read on how you do that, and he says that while it doesn't stop the cum it does make the orgasm WAY more intense.

 

[serijules]

Speaking of Meg Ryan in "When Harry Met Sally," I have a confession to make:

I fake orgasms. Fairly regularly when I'm with casual play partners, as a matter of fact.

You may ask, "Isn't this just shooting yourself in the foot?" But I say thee nay. It drives me nuts when some guy I barely know is insisting that I "cum for [him]" in a way that suggests that he's not gonna be able to get off until I do. Good lord. I'd much rather fake an orgasm and get on with things than have to wait for him either to trek my long learning curve and figure out how to make me cum or to give up and just fuck me the way he feels like it.

I'm perfectly happy to masturbate in the shower afterwards. Much happier, in fact, than if I twiddled my, er, thumbs through the 45 minutes of cunnilingus that I would otherwise require.

Haha, I used to do that all the time too, with every partner I've had prior to D. She doesn't allow it, and it's STILL hard for me to not want to fake it just because it's so tough for me sometimes to orgasm from any one else's touch. I'm so spoiled to my own touch that it's just really hard for anything else to compare to that and get me off. In the past, I was much happier taking care of my own needs later on in my own way. There are times now when I wish I was allowed to do it that way, and sometimes D WILL let me but for the most part she requires I try for her and it's really tough sometimes.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Oh...lucky girl. I know someone like that. He can pull out cum where ever he chooses and slide back in for more. I do mean more...lots more. Mmmmmmmmm...

Multiple orgasm or staying up? I just don't know where it became gospel that men could not have multiple orgasms within a short period of time. It also seems to be great for men who can have an orgasm without ejaculation...we haven't worked out what makes it happen, but it does seem to have it's appeal.

Catalina

 

[graceanne]

I have a friend who has a lot of trouble orgasming. Partly due to abuse issues, and partly cause she's got some condition where she's got scar tissue on her utuerus. I forget what it's called. She told me once, that she hates being with guys who INSIST she's cums. She says that nothing kills her chances of cumming quicker than them worrying about it.

 

[FurryFury]

I have a friend who has a lot of trouble orgasming. Partly due to abuse issues, and partly cause she's got some condition where she's got scar tissue on her utuerus. I forget what it's called. She told me once, that she hates being with guys who INSIST she's cums. She says that nothing kills her chances of cumming quicker than them worrying about it.

I can understand that totally.

Fury

 

[catalina_francisco]

Both, actually. Normally it takes about an hour or so before he can cum again. He can't cum with out ejaculating, but I did read on how you do that, and he says that while it doesn't stop the cum it does make the orgasm WAY more intense.

Definately seems to...Domly One manages his multiples much like mine, one after the other within a minute or 2 of each other.

Catalina

 

[m wisdom]

Both, actually. Normally it takes about an hour or so before he can cum again. He can't cum with out ejaculating, but I did read on how you do that, and he says that while it doesn't stop the cum it does make the orgasm WAY more intense.

The official definition of multiple orgasm in men is that you have to come again within 15min. I used to be able to do that when i was younger. I haven't tried it in a long time.

In an hour it's no problem comming more then ones. I did 6 times in a few hours when I was 20, before I got too tired to continue . I don't think I would be able to that again now.

 

[graceanne]

The official definition of multiple orgasm in men is that you have to come again within 15min. I used to be able to do that when i was younger. I haven't tried it in a long time.

In an hour it's no problem comming more then ones. I did 6 times in a few hours when I was 20, before I got too tired to continue . I don't think I would be able to that again now.

Well he's done that. But it's rare.

 

[Hisbabydoll26]

The official definition of multiple orgasm in men is that you have to come again within 15min. I used to be able to do that when i was younger. I haven't tried it in a long time.

In an hour it's no problem comming more then ones. I did 6 times in a few hours when I was 20, before I got too tired to continue . I don't think I would be able to that again now.

So I read this to hubby and he said.....he thinks his dick would fall off. *giggling to self* sooooooo amused. *sigh* He is a one a day kind of guy. I would be interested to see what the range on this would be since most of the women were adding their two cents. I know it doesn't really touch on the sub angle but still would find it interesting.

 

[Temptress_lee]

It varies with me

I agree that everyone is wired diffrently. But I also don't think it has anything to do with being submissive or dominant. I'm not hardcore into the S&M world but I have experimented with some of it. Playing both the dominant role and the submissive role and still it has nothing to do with my level of arousal. I can get myself off being in control, or completly out of it.


I can go through periods were I don't need to get off at all, and I don't get turned on because my mind gets clouded thinking about other every-day things. But then i'll have times were i'm extremly horny and I can get off in under five minutes. It really depends on the female on how her body works. Some cum really quickly, others take forever and some are lucky to come just by getting themselves off. But others can go through diffrent levels of arousal and it really depends on their mood, what their thinking about, and how their feeling.

 

[WriterDom]

I did 5 in a row without getting out of bed at 42. I have no plans of trying to break that record now. I quit smoking at 19. They say smoking kills your dick. Something to think about if you are male and puffing now.