Pregnancy Hormones Running Amok - ICDT

[Gaia_Lorraine]

I have book marked this page with the intention of reading every inch of it later. What a wonderful idea, thank you girl

 

[DaddyJohn]

(icdt_043012)

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He's strong, deliberate, self assured and can be very domineering (if I let him be ), but I think for the both of us, one of the most enjoyable things about making love is the bond that we share afterwards. Now that we have the baby on the way this side of him is blossoming more and more . . . I can see it in his eyes when he looks at me and I can feel it in my heart when he touches my belly or holds me so tightly after we've made love. I know I don't say it to him enough, but I love him very much

(icdt_043012)
I may have spoken too soon when I wrote the above, you know about bonding, and love and all that stuff. He got home and has decided to be upset with me . . . this afternoon I went shopping and spur of the moment decided to have my hair cut. I think the cut is adorable, but very (very) short. The last time I cut my hair was a couple of years ago and so of course it had grown back. I know he likes it long, (I can remember a few times when he's brushed and braided it for me) . . . but at the time I had it cut, I was thinking it would be great to have a cut that was easy to take care of, especially now.

I was a little surprised at his reaction and I didn't expect the silent treatment . . . it's just hair and plus, it was my hair, I certainly wouldn't act like this if he had changed his hair style.

He can be so unreasonable sometimes. I refuse to let him spoil my evening!

(icdt_050112)

(***tears***) We went to bed last night, he on his side of the bed and me on mine. I didn't sleep very well, tossing and turning most of the night . . . but even in his anger (too strong of a word?) I felt his hand reach out for me once or twice during the night.

He didn't really talk much this morning, he's already left for work. I feel terrible, on the one hand I feel as if he's made this into a bigger deal than it is . . .but I also know that he liked my hair, touching it, running his fingers through it, feeling it brush over his thighs and groin when I loved him there. I know . . . he probably feels I should have talked to him first . . . his feelings are hurt . . .

Well, there's nothing I can do about it now . . . it's amazing, out of all of the things that could cause trouble between us, our's turns out to be my hair cut!
This is so silly . . . we'll work it out.

Seeing these posts really concerned me when I read them, I was glad to see that some of the other readers here were able to help you see what may have gone through his head when he saw your new cut. I won't try to tell you what he was thinking since you are going to talk or have talked by now. I do applaud you for allowing him to be upset, his "hissy fit" time as you said, he has been very good to you based on your own words, and as you yourself stated he has been very understanding of your mood swings. I hope you let us know how things went.

 

[icandothis]

ICDT, you will work it out. Could be some other things that were going on before during the day that this may have been just a straw that broke the camel's back, so to speak. Nothing related to you at all but he was having a long day. I would agree that to me it seems he's making a bigger deal out of it than it is but who knows, maybe the hair was doing something for him...part of the fantasy of the pics he's been taking or something like that.

Just remember, the make-up sex is usually quite good...

FSU,
Thank you for your earlier post. We talked for a while this evening and then went out to dinner at his favorite little pub here in the neighborhood and talked some more. I truly had no idea about him and this hair thing . . . In fact he said when I cut it a couple of years ago he didn't like it then but didn't say anything about it because it seemed so trivial . . . but he was upset. He likes my hair long and said after it grows back in he would prefer that I not cut it again, and if the urge comes
over me again to talk to him about it first.

It's funny in a way, but talking with him tonight I had the feeling that in his mind it was "our" hair that I had cut, that had gotten him so pissed off. It's sort of like sometimes I find myself thinking of his penis as our penis, as a part of him that also belongs to me, and is just for me. . . I know that line of thinking is not very sexually correct, but that's how I feel and I can't imagine how devastated I would feel if he ever shared that part of himself with someone else. Ok, I'm getting weird and rambling now so I had better stop talking . . . anyway . . .

No hidden agendas or suppressed hostilities, just a man who likes long hair and thinks his woman should let him know before cutting it or when she thinks she might want to cut it. . . I can live with that

 

[Locastor]

No hidden agendas or suppressed hostilities, just a man who likes long hair and thinks his woman should let him know before cutting it or when she thinks she might want to cut it. . . I can live with that

Rules for women:

1) Never cut your hair
2) Wear clothes as infrequently as possible

 

[icandothis]

Hi,
We talked and talked and laughed so much last evening that I was actually very tired by the time we got home. It's amazing how quickly the small things can add up and become big. I guess all of us have pet peeves that over time really start grating on our partner's nerves and as I've learned over the last day or so he/she may have a personal preference or two that you are unaware of and that he/she for whatever reason has never shared.

I forget that despite his obvious strengths, he is human and has "weaknesses", and I'm glad he loves and trust me enough to drop his guard occasionally and allow me see that petulant, little boy side of him.

We got home last night and went straight to bed and promptly fell asleep, no hot sex, no desperate groping, just me in his arms.

 

[Gaia_Lorraine]

(icdt_043012)

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lyf54z2Ogx1qf0gljo1_500.jpg
He's strong, deliberate, self assured and can be very domineering (if I let him be ), but I think for the both of us, one of the most enjoyable things about making love is the bond that we share afterwards. Now that we have the baby on the way this side of him is blossoming more and more . . . I can see it in his eyes when he looks at me and I can feel it in my heart when he touches my belly or holds me so tightly after we've made love. I know I don't say it to him enough, but I love him very much

(icdt_043012)
I may have spoken too soon when I wrote the above, you know about bonding, and love and all that stuff. He got home and has decided to be upset with me . . . this afternoon I went shopping and spur of the moment decided to have my hair cut. I think the cut is adorable, but very (very) short. The last time I cut my hair was a couple of years ago and so of course it had grown back. I know he likes it long, (I can remember a few times when he's brushed and braided it for me) . . . but at the time I had it cut, I was thinking it would be great to have a cut that was easy to take care of, especially now.

I was a little surprised at his reaction and I didn't expect the silent treatment . . . it's just hair and plus, it was my hair, I certainly wouldn't act like this if he had changed his hair style.

He can be so unreasonable sometimes. I refuse to let him spoil my evening!

That is the fundamental beauty of us girls... we can totally change our looks cosmetically at a stroke and (as long is it wasn't surgical) we can always change back.
I would have stood before him and suggested he cut off his penis and see if it grew back, then pointed to my hair and shrugged. Reminding him that I'm still the same person

 

[icandothis]

Hah! He's terrible, he just IM'd me with a very simple message that was full of meaning. No hi, how are you doing honey, no how's your day going, just:

"If you want to look like a young boy, I'm going to treat you like a young boy".

I have a pretty good idea what that means

 

[Bbb13]

Hi,
We talked and talked and laughed so much last evening that I was actually very tired by the time we got home. It's amazing how quickly the small things can add up and become big. I guess all of us have pet peeves that over time really start grating on our partner's nerves and as I've learned over the last day or so he/she may have a personal preference or two that you are unaware of and that he/she for whatever reason has never shared.

I forget that despite his obvious strengths, he is human and has "weaknesses", and I'm glad he loves and trust me enough to drop his guard occasionally and allow me see that petulant, little boy side of him.

We got home last night and went straight to bed and promptly fell asleep, no hot sex, no desperate groping, just me in his arms.

I could only hope

 

[Gaia_Lorraine]

Hah! He's terrible, he just IM'd me with a very simply message that was full of meaning. No hi, how are you doing honey, no how's your day going, just:

"If you want to look like a young boy, I'm going to treat you like a young boy".

I have a pretty good idea what that means

Being comfortable with yourself, that's what we all seek is it not?

Please continue this thread post-birth, everything will change

 

[Surreal469]

Its weird that women have no idea how much their hair is a factor in how we see them. Women with shirt hair tends to non verbally say "I'm mad at men." Or "I'm a lesbian..and mad at men." So as much as he loves you its like if he came home with a henna tattoo on his face. It'll wear off....but until it does, you're gonna be turned off.

P.S. to women in general, stop listening to other women and your gay hairdresser about what your man likes. Ask your man.

 

[icandothis]

Been lurking here from early on and missed it. Still can't find it. Oh well, it's still fun. Thanks.

I also searched and couldn't find it, but here's pretty much what happened.

This happened a couple of months ago and I found it unexpectedly very sexually arousing for me. We had gone to a party given by his best friend Doug (whom I've never really liked). We were about ready to leave and my Lover had gone upstairs for our coats. After about ten minutes when he hadn't returned I went upstairs and found him in the bedroom where the coats were, watching a porn clip. He was so intent that all I could do was laugh and shake my head. Hearing my laughter he jumped up and immediately started apologizing but stop and came towards me. If the erection he sported was any indication the video he was watching had obviously gotten him hot and hard. "Suck me" he said softly into my ear and as I started to pull away he held my arm and whispered again, "Suck me . . . just a little, baby". After a brief hesitation, I of course got on my knees between his legs and took him into my mouth.

Actually, I was enjoying him, and looking up at him, I could see he had his eyes closed and was totally lost in his pleasure. With little concern or thought of anyone walking in on us I set to the task of giving my Lover a memorable orgasm. As he began to moan in earnest and his legs began to tremble, I let him stroke into my mouth and vaguely heard the stealthy opening of the bedroom door. Glancing up into the large wall mirror, I saw Doug standing in the arch way jerking himself as he watched us, watched me blow my Lover. I should have stop . . . but I didn’t, and instead continued until my Lover ejaculated into my mouth. I heard Doug’s muffled groan as he also came and then the sound of the door opening and closing.

 

[Gaia_Lorraine]

Its weird that women have no idea how much their hair is a factor in how we see them. Women with shirt hair tends to non verbally say "I'm mad at men." Or "I'm a lesbian..and mad at men." So as much as he loves you its like if he came home with a henna tattoo on his face. It'll wear off....but until it does, you're gonna be turned off.

P.S. to women in general, stop listening to other women and your gay hairdresser about what your man likes. Ask your man.

You asshole! get a life! The woman is the brain behind not the hair in front!

 

[icandothis]

You asshole! get a life! The woman is the brain behind not the hair in front!

Ok kids, play nice!

 

[Surreal469]

You asshole! get a life! The woman is the brain behind not the hair in front!

Yes yes. Men are assholes because we're turned off by what we're turned off by. Women have the luxury of being more turned on by the emotional or social attributes than the physical. We're wired the opposite way though. And I didn't say he didn't still love or care for her. Just the TEMPORARY look that she has. That's all. It'll pass.

 

[icandothis]

Yes yes. Men are assholes because we're turned off by what we're turned off by. Women have the luxury of being more turned on by the emotional or social attributes than the physical. We're wired the opposite way though. And I didn't say he didn't still love or care for her. Just the TEMPORARY look that she has. That's all. It'll pass.

Thank you for your comment, men and women are so similar in so many ways and yet so deliciously different. . . that's what makes trying to figure it all out so interesting

BTW - It did pass and we're doing fine

 

[Gaia_Lorraine]

Yes yes. Men are assholes because we're turned off by what we're turned off by. Women have the luxury of being more turned on by the emotional or social attributes than the physical. We're wired the opposite way though. And I didn't say he didn't still love or care for her. Just the TEMPORARY look that she has. That's all. It'll pass.

I apologise for my abruptness, I got a touch annoyed by what I saw as male chauvinism. It was pre-judgemental of me.
I'm not usually like that, offers you a as a token of friendship...

 

[jmarx20102012]

I kinda dig gals with short hair. Especially if they have a pretty face.

 

[webbo1]

Thank you for your comment, men and women are so similar in so many ways and yet so deliciously different. . . that's what makes trying to figure it all out so interesting

BTW - It did pass and we're doing fine

Glad to hear everything is all smooth again mate - have you got the food cravings yet, my wife craved ice cream with chocolate sauce for our first boy and Oreo's dipped in milk with our second

Probably explains why the first one love choc ice cream and the second one digs Oreo's so much

hope you both have a great weekend

 

[icandothis]

Glad to hear everything is all smooth again mate - have you got the food cravings yet, my wife craved ice cream with chocolate sauce for our first boy and Oreo's dipped in milk with our second

Probably explains why the first one love choc ice cream and the second one digs Oreo's so much

hope you both have a great weekend

Cravings? Heavens, my cravings have already come and gone and changed once or twice. The last one which is still holding strong for mangoes and potato chips.

 

[iansearchof]

I also searched and couldn't find it, but here's pretty much what happened.

This happened a couple of months ago and I found it unexpectedly very sexually arousing for me...

Thanks a lot. It was really arousing for me, too, and I'll bet contributes to a great many of your being watched fantasies (as it will mine).

How long till you got relief...? Interesting ride home...?

 

[icandothis]

I also searched and couldn't find it, but here's pretty much what happened.

This happened a couple of months ago and I found it unexpectedly very sexually arousing for me...

Thanks a lot. It was really arousing for me, too, and I'll bet contributes to a great many of your being watched fantasies (as it will mine).

How long till you got relief...? Interesting ride home...?

In the car on the way home I freed him and teased and stroked him so that he was primed and ready for me by the time we got home.

I still remember this evening like it was yesterday, mainly because of a couple of things that happened. As we were at the front door preparing to leave he hugged me good bye and cupped my breast . . . not inadvertently or accidentally brushing across my nipple, but actually cupping my right breast and then quickly walking away. I was dumbfounded! I debated about telling my Lover, and decided not to say anything for fear of possibly ruining their friendship, this was his best friend and they had known each other since middle school. Right or wrong decision . . . I don't know. I just made up my mind to stay away from him.

I though I had pretty much put the incident out of my mind until a day or so later I was masturbating and as I orgasmed realized that I had been masturbating and thinking about that night and him watching me perform oral on my Lover. Now that upset me a little, because the last person I would ever think of in a sexual context would have been his friend Doug.

 

[iansearchof]

Ah but the intensity from being watched...knowing how aroused you made both men...A friend once told me of sucking off her SO in a secluded area of a park and realizing that a man in the nearby trees was watching and jacking off. She intensified her efforts and exaggerated her actions; then she told the SO who was excited still further. By the time he came in her mouth she was near to coming herself and collapsed to rub herself quickly to orgasm.

 

[icandothis]

(icdt_050512)

I posted this under a different thread and wanted to post it here also.

Well, I think it is safe to say that issues related to my new short haircut have satisfactorily been "laid" to rest. He may not have liked it at first, but I think he may be in the process of developing a new kink, freak, fantasy around my having this short hair. It could be me, but after he sent me the IM alluding to sex and my looking like a young boy, that's all I was able to think about and the resulting session that evening was hot.

After some pretty heavy touching, kissing, sucking we went upstairs to the bedroom, and rolling me onto my side, he lay behind me, and almost ruthlessly started to thrust into my wet pussy. I wanted to cum again very badly and I was almost there . . . just a little more, just a little deeper and harder. He likes when I squirm and beg for it and at that point I would have done whatever he wanted if it meant he was going to give me my orgasm . . . but he didn’t! and all I could do was lay there under his weight quietly whimpering in frustration. Then he pulled out of me, and when I reached back trying to prevent him from leaving me he pushed my hand away and continued to withdraw admonishing me to be quiet. I saw him opening the tube of lubricant and tensed as he liberally applied it to my ass. While he kissed and massaged my ass he let his fingers also caress my swollen clit and I experienced a wonderful orgasm that washed over my butt and pussy and down the inside of my thighs.

I could actually hear him chuckling as he positioned himself and slowly started easing his cock into my asshole. He bent forward and kissed me as he continued to press for entry and when he heard me start to moan, he held my hips steady and pulled my ass to him reminding me of what he had previously told me . . . “If you want to look like a young boy, then I’m going to treat (eg fuck) you like a young boy". When he felt my hips start to hump against him, he reached under me and started rubbing my clit again, giving me yet another small orgasm. With my ass softened and relaxed, he was eventually able to guide his now hard, demanding cock into me. Slowly he started a shallow stroking, which became deeper and quicker. Yes . . . as he ran his fingers through my short, curly boyish haircut, he slowly fucked my ass, the ass that probably unwittingly resembled a young boy’s ass. I wonder if he’s ever fantasized about screwing a young, slender boy because he went at it with a vengeance spewing thick, warm cum inside me, on my back and between my thighs as he seemed to cum and cum and cum until his balls were drained.

( Laughing) My imagination is working overtime lately! I'm fantasizing myself about my Lover having sex with a short haired, big breasted pregnant boy.

 

[icandothis]

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ls2kafTOAu1qb4qj0o1_500.jpg

I saw this pic and our recent squabble about long/short hair came to mind. . . same color, little longer than mine was . . . he told me the other night that he liked the way it cascaded across his cock, his balls, his stomach when I gave him oral . . . for a minute I felt a twinge of regret . . .

 

[FSUBasketball]

Been missing the updates... Hope things have worked through. Looking forward to more as things progress in the pregnancy.