Question? Bi vs curious guys

[scott6251]

If you have sex with both men and women, then you are bisexual.

Agree

 

[warl0ck1]

If you have sex with both men and women, then you are bisexual.

Agree

I have sex with women. I had a thing when I was really young with another boy but nothing sence. I do fantasize often and loveanal and oral but have not followed though am I still bi?

 

[coati]

I have sex with women. I had a thing when I was really young with another boy but nothing sence. I do fantasize often and loveanal and oral but have not followed though am I still bi?

If you know you enjoy or would enjoy having sex with other men, then you are bisexual.

And, if you are repeatedly seeking sex with other men, you are bisexual, whether or not you admit it.

 

[larrycando]

All you guys: Just go suck a dick.

On the other side of it..... It is just one experience.

 

[CJontherocks]

Yes, Misshotndeep, it is a deep and can be a complicated topic. But I like to keep it simple. I look at the word "curious," and assume it means an interest in something one has not yet experienced. "Bi-curious," then, would end as soon as one experiences same-gender sex, I think. It becomes more complicated when one satisfies that curiosity, because one then has to decide where to go from there. Like it? Accept it? Hate it? Ignore it? Define it in some complicated way that makes them more comfortable?

Bisexuality, to me, is simple as well. It's about the sex. This is where my opinion differs from a great many. I think it's more about the desire. A person might accept sex with another of the same gender because, let's face it, sex feels good. There's no such thing as a bad blow job. I disagree with those who believe they are not bisexual simply because they don't want to kiss a guy or fall in love with him. I think the line is drawn when one desires sex with someone of the same gender while still enjoying the opposite gender. We've all had sex with people we weren't planning to be romantic with, so I don't think the romance or love thing has anything to do with the sex thing. Apples and oranges to me, really. But people define bisexuality in a great many ways, and that's okay.

Ultimately, your friend has to define his own sexuality. I don't believe curiosity make one bisexual, even with a strong desire. What if they try it and don't like it? Then it's just someone who was open-minded enough to try it and decided it wasn't for them. It sounds to me like you're doing everything you can for your friend. You're exploring and learning, you're offering to share the experience both emotionally and sexually, and you're there to listen and allow him to discuss his desires and thoughts. I wish I had someone like you when I was going through my seven stages of acceptance of my sexuality. lol

So from one guy who used to be not bisexual, I applaud you for being an accepting and helpful (a true) friend. And for what it's worth, I hope you get to be involved when he satisfies his curiosity... and then realizes that you're awesome and that you two should fuck for life, experiencing the great many pleasures of bisexuality together.

 

[warl0ck1]

If you know you enjoy or would enjoy having sex with other men, then you are bisexual.

And, if you are repeatedly seeking sex with other men, you are bisexual, whether or not you admit it.

I am Avery sexual being I know I would enjoy the sex but sometimes I think that isn't really the question. This is where all the questions come in because for the most part even a "hetero" male would get off fucking a guys ass or getting a blowjob. So enjoying it while important is not a driving factor. I would love to feel a real cock but will more than likely never do so because of my relationship with my wife. She knows how I feel but is concerned how bringing someone else into the relationship will effect it. I am bisexual because i know I would love it. I am curious because I more than likely never act on it. And I have my 1 in a trillion soul to spends my life with so I am blessed.

 

[Hitchiker69]

There is no rule. It's up to each individual to self identify. Each person finds the role, label or identity that they are comfortable with, regardless what they desire, what they have done, or are willing to do.

For myself, I privately identify as Bi, since I've done it all with guys. No longer curious; been there, done that. But it's been so many years since I had sex with a man that I now publicly identify as straight.

 

[coati]

I am Avery sexual being I know I would enjoy the sex but sometimes I think that isn't really the question. This is where all the questions come in because for the most part even a "hetero" male would get off fucking a guys ass or getting a blowjob. So enjoying it while important is not a driving factor. I would love to feel a real cock but will more than likely never do so because of my relationship with my wife. She knows how I feel but is concerned how bringing someone else into the relationship will effect it. I am bisexual because i know I would love it. I am curious because I more than likely never act on it. And I have my 1 in a trillion soul to spends my life with so I am blessed.

As far as I am concerned, the less fantasy-rich men who "self identify" as being straight, the better, especially given our culture's past tendency to force men and women into such a binary view about sexuality and gender roles.

 

[Misshotndeep]

So from one guy who used to be not bisexual, I applaud you for being an accepting and helpful (a true) friend. And for what it's worth, I hope you get to be involved when he satisfies his curiosity... and then realizes that you're awesome and that you two should fuck for life, experiencing the great many pleasures of bisexuality together.

Awe. That is so sweet! I may or may not be there for the event. I will support him either way.
As time goes by, I am starting to see that we may be better off just being friends. He really can be very unappreciative of me. I deserve better than that. I can deal with him as a friend and support him. I am getting to where sex is less and less of a want with him. I am still very interested in this topic. I really find it fascinating. Not to mention I love watching Bi and gay guy vids, gifs and pics. (yep I am a perv and proud of it )
Thank you again for sharing your thoughts, experiences and advice. Keep it coming!

 

[1960curious]

was curious now bi

I am 55 MWM was curious.

I had been very curious what it would be like to suck another mans cock and if I would like it.
Well I finally had the chance to do it a couple weeks ago. I loved every second of it!
I could not get enough cock. I just wish I hadn't waited so long.

I consider myself BI now and not curious only. Yes I am still curious about what his cock is going to feel in my ass, but I will find out soon!!!

I still love having sex with my wife, but I will still have and enjoy having sex with my BI friend!!

 

[blowit]

I am 55 MWM was curious.

I had been very curious what it would be like to suck another mans cock and if I would like it.
Well I finally had the chance to do it a couple weeks ago. I loved every second of it!
I could not get enough cock. I just wish I hadn't waited so long.

I consider myself BI now and not curious only. Yes I am still curious about what his cock is going to feel in my ass, but I will find out soon!!!

I still love having sex with my wife, but I will still have and enjoy having sex with my BI friend!!

Good man. Still hoping and curious here.

 

[LeeFL]

Awe. That is so sweet! I may or may not be there for the event. I will support him either way.
As time goes by, I am starting to see that we may be better off just being friends. He really can be very unappreciative of me. I deserve better than that. I can deal with him as a friend and support him. I am getting to where sex is less and less of a want with him. I am still very interested in this topic. I really find it fascinating. Not to mention I love watching Bi and gay guy vids, gifs and pics. (yep I am a perv and proud of it )
Thank you again for sharing your thoughts, experiences and advice. Keep it coming!

It is a little disappointing that he is unappreciative of you, especially after taking and interest in his desires. Maybe there are other issues, but it good that you are guarding yourself. It is both erotic and reassuring that a woman such as you was willing to participate in sexual fantasies to help him, regardless if it was straight, bisexual, curious or gay. The feelings to explore and yet be supportive is very rare and I hope you find a resolution that makes you happy, if you think the situation with him has gone.

 

[Misshotndeep]

It is a little disappointing that he is unappreciative of you, especially after taking and interest in his desires. Maybe there are other issues, but it good that you are guarding yourself. It is both erotic and reassuring that a woman such as you was willing to participate in sexual fantasies to help him, regardless if it was straight, bisexual, curious or gay. The feelings to explore and yet be supportive is very rare and I hope you find a resolution that makes you happy, if you think the situation with him has gone.

Thank you for the thread bump and comments. Sadly for the guy n question he really did not appreciate me. To the point that one day he just stopped calling, writing or taking my calls. Thankfully I am not a push over. So life goes on. I am still really interested in this subject matter. It was never just his sexual interest. It was something we shared. I just didn't understand it from his perspective and wanted to. So, while the reason I created this thread is gone. I still want to understand, get opinions and discuss it.

 

[Nudenative]

Question? Bi vs. Curious Guys

I am a woman. I have a dear and very sexy friend who states he is not gay but would love to suck cock and have his ass fucked by a guy. SO my question is when does a guy go from curious to bi? Is there some rule? Is it about the emotional aspect of it? I am confused and he is not explaining it well to me.

- Hi there.
If your friend has thought about sucking a cock and having anal, he is definitely bi-curious. I have always been aroused by the prospect of being with the girls and boys, since the day I became sexually active and I have embraced being bisexual. I am still closeted but intimately and my private life, it's just as arousing to me when I reminisce during the first time I laid my eyes on my significant other naked and cumming inside of her, and me sucking a cock and bottoming bareback for my top.

 

[stargame]

Thank you for the thread bump and comments. Sadly for the guy n question he really did not appreciate me. To the point that one day he just stopped calling, writing or taking my calls. Thankfully I am not a push over. So life goes on. I am still really interested in this subject matter. It was never just his sexual interest. It was something we shared. I just didn't understand it from his perspective and wanted to. So, while the reason I created this thread is gone. I still want to understand, get opinions and discuss it.

Yes let's see where this goes

 

[rickdickerson]

I am curious! Why? Because I have not gone all the way. I am a very sexual being and I do not see my desire for cock with how I feel about someone. For the most part I am not physical attracted to men although I am able to to see the beauty in the male physique. But show me a nice cock and I start cooking and my ass starts twitching imagining how it would feel deep in my ass.

I tend to agree with you here. I was Bi-curious until I experienced physical sexual contact and intimacy with a Man. Even though I loved the experience, afterwards I was in denial and fearful of being gay and terrified of the stigma attached to homosexuality at the time (many years ago). Many years later I have come to terms with my bisexuality, and have come to a confident conclusion that I am Bisexual, actually leaning more toward the Gay side. This has come as a recent development due to realizing that I am truly attracted to the Male physique and masculine traits of Men.

 

[CaffeinatedHub45]

I tend to agree with you here. I was Bi-curious until I experienced physical sexual contact and intimacy with a Man. Even though I loved the experience, afterwards I was in denial and fearful of being gay and terrified of the stigma attached to homosexuality at the time (many years ago). Many years later I have come to terms with my bisexuality, and have come to a confident conclusion that I am Bisexual, actually leaning more toward the Gay side. This has come as a recent development due to realizing that I am truly attracted to the Male physique and masculine traits of Men.

I understand this! After many years of marriage, I confided to my wife that I had some of these feelings. She is accepting of it. In fact, she encouraged it.

 

[rickdickerson]

I understand this! After many years of marriage, I confided to my wife that I had some of these feelings. She is accepting of it. In fact, she encouraged it.

You are very fortunate that she is so understanding. My wife wouldn't be. However, considering the fact that we don't have sex anyway, I still explore my sexuality online watching exclusively bi & gay porn.

 

[nostuff]

I love this thread and really relate. Wish I had discovered the discussion before now.

I identified as totally straight for most my life. The idea of sex with a man was simply abhorrent. Whether that was biological or cultural, I suppose I’ll never figure it out.

Then one day, something clicked, though it was a rather slow click. I was reading some porn and accidentally found myself reading about one man giving a blowjob to another. The thought repulsed me, but somehow, I couldn’t get it out of my head. I found myself going back to that story time after time. At that point, I would describe myself as merely curious.

Why only curious? Because it was just a thought, like an earworm that I couldn’t purge. But only a thought. I had no intention of acting, and there was nothing to suggest I would actually want gay sex. Just an idea. So yes, I would say I became curious.

The curiosity grew, and I started to develop my own fantasies. The first fantasies involved coercion by my wife and other women, probably because I didn’t want to accept my desires, but I eventually began to imagine more direct encounters. I was still unable to convince myself these were anything more than fantasies, and I couldn’t see myself enjoying actual gay sex. I was still just curious.

But then one day, something changed again. I don’t quite know when or what triggered it, but I finally accepted that I wanted more than the fantasies. I didn’t think I would ever act on my desires, because the consequences seemed too terrifying. But there was no more denying who I was. I knew I wanted sex with a man. The only question was how and if it would ever occur.

The last step in my evolution came last fall. I was out of town on business, and my schedule had me staying over one extra night with nothing scheduled. Knowing there was a bathhouse just a short ride from my hotel, I had spent the whole week trying to talk myself into going. Quite literally at the last moment, I convinced myself to quit waffling. I called a Lyft.

In the course of the evening, I sucked two cocks, fucked two men and got my own cock sucked once. And the evening taught me that I’m a bottom, because I enjoyed sucking cock and didn’t much care for fucking another man’s ass.

Given that experience, there’s no way to pretend that I’m just curious. So am I gay or bi?

At least for now, I consider myself bi. Yes, I want more cock, but I could never ignore a beautiful woman. Given a choice between the two, I would probably go with the woman. But I so very much want to suck another cock, then finally get my ass fucked.

So what is the difference between being curious and being bi or gay?

It’s the uncertainty. If you’re thinking about gay sex but don’t know that you actually want it, you are merely curious. But the moment you cross that threshold, you become either bi or gay.

I crossed that threshold some time ago, and I confirmed it at the bathhouse. I’m definitely bi.

 

[LoftyCraig]

I thought That was true for me, however my first encounter with a man changed my mind. I learned both that I was submissive and that I enjoyed kissing a man. Been years and I haven't tried it again, but given the right circumstances....

so if you and he enjoy kissing, sucking each other plus anal when does bi end and gay come in.

 

[none2_none2]

so if you and he enjoy kissing, sucking each other plus anal when does bi end and gay come in.

Does it really matter? The problem with labels is that they give a false sense of uniformity in definitions and that everybody can easily fit into some category. Labels are simply shortcuts from spending time to get to know someone and how they are put together.

In theory, I love to kiss, but in practice I don't kiss my partner during sex nearly as much as he deserves to get kissed. I always kiss him when he goes off to work, but it is just lip to lip.

I also don't crave cock. I love my partner's cock because it is part of him. If I can give HIM pleasure via his cock, all power to him. Strictly from a physical perspective, if I only could only see another man's cock once in a blue moon, it wouldn't be a negative impact on me at all.

On the other hand, I couldn't imagine not seeing (and touching) my partner's hairy body, his stocky body, his muscular body. I couldn't imagine not cupping his balls -- not from a sexual fetish, but from a respect for its life giving properties, and its source of testosterone that gives him his beautiful shape. Of course I love playing with his ass quite a bit, but I don't do it as often as I want to because I'm ashamed that with my ED, I cannot penetrate him with my cock. I'd do anything to be able to penetrate him, even if I couldn't get an orgasm, as to me the ultimate physical act is being inside another man's body.

One might think I have some craving for F->M transmen, but most of them just don't do it for me. If I was the creator, I would have created a creature all male (broad shoulders, muscular, hairy), but with a vagina, asshole, and nice balls in between. I would love to be able to actually breed another male and create new life with him.

One might want to take a short cut and simply stamp the label of gay on me, but by doing so they still wouldn't know me very well. I'm not grossed out by the female form at all. It just isn't as intense romantically or physically as it is to mount and love a man. Then again, there are plenty of men who do nothing for me. It always gets me that some guys think that if they flash their cock, someone one might label gay or bi would jump on the case to play with their cock. Cock is one of the LAST things I pay attention to when looking to see if I find a man attractive or desirable. I would add that such doesn't mean I have a fetish for small or micro-penises. That isn't true either. Sometimes such men are the most obsessed with cock -- which is a turn OFF. I once wrongly judged hung men as being that way too, but they too are not all the same. Once while chatting in a bar to a kind bottom/versatile guy, he admitted that he was hung. I told him, I wouldn't be his type as I'm just average. He told me if he himself was hung up on finding a partner with a bigger cock, he would pretty much still be a virgin.

So anyway, I tried to avoid labeling people. Now if I were single and on the prowl, if I guy hitting on me freely told me he was str8 or bi, I might ask him to give me his definition of that term. If it turns out he was one of those love-cock-not-men kind of guys, I wouldn't waste another minute with him. Regardless of how horney I might be, I'm not a cock. I'm a man who comes/cums with a cock. I'm a total package.

So in summary, I just don't wear labels well. As for others, I'd rather take the time to get to know them so that I don't make wrong assumptions about them based on some label. I think if most people really thought about it, they probably don't fit labels that well either.

 

[Hitchiker69]

For me becoming bi has been a progression. I didn't feel I was bi when I was playing the assertive, masculine role; getting sucked or fucking him. But I was curious enough to try sucking, kissing, 69'ing and getting fucked. Fortunately, I liked it, and was horny enough to continue. Once I decided to go to gay bars or gay cruise sites I knew I was at least bi, and past the curious stage.
Keep in mind, in most cases conventional m/f sex is preferable, but m/m sex is easier to find and less complicated.
But I'm still a horny, curious bisexual. There are so many things I'd like to do with men that I haven't tried yet

 

[PFWilly]

I was curious until I was 17. Then I sucked my best friend’s cock, while he was sucking mine.

I was no longer curious, but that confirmed that I’m bisexual.

Married for over 50 years, but still crave a hot hard one shooting down my throat.

 

[Xyhorn]

As a young man i enjoyed men and women. The question of being bi or gay or straight never entered my mind. It was simply I enjoyed sex. Women caught my eye and it would be them I would chase, however if I was horny and with man I was happy to have sex with them.

Then I married and have since been in a monogamous relationship with my wife. It may not suprise you, dear reader, that I now watch porn on a regular basis and have a growing attraction to cocks. This has got to the point that if I were to cheat it would be with a man. So, bi, curious or just someone who has always enjoyed sensuallity, being touched and cumming.

 

[Jennygurlluvs2play]

In the strictest definition of the word, I think that if you are just thinking about it or just experimenting a time or two to see if you like it, then it can be called "curious". However, once a man enjoys the experience of being sexual with another man, those who have intellectual honesty will overcome their homophobia and at least admit to themselves and to their male sex partners that they are bisexual.

Men who do not admit this are the ones who repeatedly get off on mm sex, but then quickly pull up their pants, run off, and go into denial that they enjoyed the act. What a fearful way to live your life! A lot of bi men are in this situation of being deeply conflicted about their needs and desires. Admitting that you are bi need not involve long conversations with the whole world. Just admit it to yourself and those you can trust, avoid the inner conflict created by denial, and show some much-deserved respect for all those who have trail-blazed the way for men's expression of sexuality.

This 100%! If this guy falls through hit me up ! From what I've read you and I'd keep things real interesting. Chat me up if you feel like it as I enjoy literate conversations of a sexual nature. Kisses, Jenny