Question? Bi vs curious guys
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Based upon my own desires and what I learned from talking to and reading posts from other guys I think there are a lot of guys like me who are just into cock. The idea of kissing, cuddling or anal is a turn off. The desire to receive anal is more gay to me but that just my opinion and I make no judgments on those who desire hard cock in the ass.
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I like kissing, cuddling and giving anal. I have to be in some special mood to want to receive but it's happened. Oh, you forgot stroking cock and rubbing cocks together
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Agreed, I think most bi men, or curious men, will fall into the " I love the sight of a hard cock/ great bj, but never will I kiss a guy." category.
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I am very curious 55 MWM. I have not done anything with another man yet. I think about sucking cock and having a man fuck my ass all the time. I am attracted to the cock and sexual part of it, not the man. When I am finally able to be with a man and curb my curiosity, if I like it (I am sure I will) and want more then I would consider myself BI.
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I can't remember a time when I didn't masturbate. I was masturbating long before I ever ejaculated. I think in my case my desire to suck hard cock came from wanting to suck my own.
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Same here
The first time I ejaculated, I was scared to death. Thought I'd done it too much and caused a leak! When I discovered the truth, I did it even more. I tried sucking myself, but I was never bendy enough.
The first time I ejaculated, I was scared to death. Thought I'd done it too much and caused a leak! When I discovered the truth, I did it even more. I tried sucking myself, but I was never bendy enough.
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I thought That was true for me, however my first encounter with a man changed my mind. I learned both that I was submissive and that I enjoyed kissing a man. Been years and I haven't tried it again, but given the right circumstances....
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Hope you get to do it again. I'm not sure I would enjoy it though. To me, kissing or anything affectionate like that would be borderline cheating. Kissing, is something only my wife and I should share.
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I am curious why you are waitign to say you re BI. You seems so convinced that you will like it why bother waiting?
As a born woman, I can not understand the draw to them or sissys? Do you have any incite? My friend has expressed interest in being with a transgender. Now that one is a total cricket moment for me.
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I have many homoerotic fantasies. Mostly Frottage, handjobs and sucking cock. I'm not much interested in being fucked, but I don't rule it out. If I found a trusted partner who wanted to be fucked, I would oblige him.
These are purely physical, tactile desires. There is no emotional component (other than trust) involved.
For me to call myself Bisexual would be a lie. Not because I haven't engaged in sex with a man, but because I have no desire or intention to be in a romantic/emotional relationship with a man.
The tactile sensations we desire don't determine our sexuality. They determine our sensuality.
I hope to one day deep throat a cock. The thought of it drives me crazy with desire. But there is no face or lifestyle or career attached to that cock. Its just a big, long, hard cock.
I'm not afraid of being labeled as Bi. I don't give a shit what people label me. But there are ACTUAL Bisexual people in the world. People who are equally capable of falling in love with either gender.
The fact that I'm a guy who wants to suck cock doesn't really compare.
I think I can relate to your friend, and he's lucky to have you.
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I think the draw stems from being attracted to the feminine form combined with the desire to engage in homo-erotic acts.
Men are incurably horny. Unable to ever get enough sex, the alternative then is to be able to give sex which turns into homo-erotic fantasies or acts. Dominant / submissive behavior may also play into the fantasy/act. No need to put a lot of thought into the situation which can be summed into, "Me horny, fuck or be fucked. It all feels good"
Changing to Transgender? Can't help you with that one.
I think you described it very well.
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Someone needs to tell his ungrateful ass that.
Anywho, you guys are all so insightful and teaching me a lot. I never realized the topic ran so deep. I certainly am glad I asked on here. I am always willing to learn about things outside of my experience. This seems like a rabbit hole and I am a bird!
Then again, after sucking cock and having a hard one pumping your ass, you might not be sure. You might say, "Well. I just don't know. I'll need to try a couple more before I know if I'm BI."
I think what you and at least one other recent poster are talking about is being bi-amorous, not bi-sexual. Sexuality is determined by behavior, not by emotional motives or intent.
The reason why I keep bringing this up in various threads is that so many bi men (and some closeted gay men) these days prefer to split hairs about accurately identifying their sexual behaviors. Often they don't realize that this is an insult to people who have sacrificed so much to foster acceptance of a broader range of human sexuality.
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I am reposting the original post that started this board. You guys keep confusing me with a man.
Theard starter:
I am a woman. I have a dear and very sexy friend who states he is not gay but would love to suck cock and have his ass fucked by a guy. SO my question is when does a guy go from curious to bi? Is there some rule? Is it about the emotional aspect of it? I am confused and he is not explaining it well to me.
Theard starter:
I am a woman. I have a dear and very sexy friend who states he is not gay but would love to suck cock and have his ass fucked by a guy. SO my question is when does a guy go from curious to bi? Is there some rule? Is it about the emotional aspect of it? I am confused and he is not explaining it well to me.
Misshotndeep, I understand your gender and I think I understand your question. The short answer is that a man is bi-sexual when he either admits to himself that he is or when he goes from being curious to actually engaging in sexual behavior with another man, whichever comes first.
If the emotional aspect starts becoming involved, in addition to bi-sexual behaviors, then a man is also bi-affectionate or bi-amorous.
These definitions are more in line with observationally-based definitions, and eliminate wiggle room for all the homophobic men who are compelled to suck cock or get fucked, but still cling to the more socially acceptable identification of being "straight".
If the emotional aspect starts becoming involved, in addition to bi-sexual behaviors, then a man is also bi-affectionate or bi-amorous.
These definitions are more in line with observationally-based definitions, and eliminate wiggle room for all the homophobic men who are compelled to suck cock or get fucked, but still cling to the more socially acceptable identification of being "straight".
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Coati has given you a good clinical definition of the issue. Your friend can't explain it well because he is confused about how he feels and not sure about what he will or might do given certain opportunities. A not unusual situation for lots of guys.I am reposting the original post that started this board. You guys keep confusing me with a man.
Theard starter:
I am a woman. I have a dear and very sexy friend who states he is not gay but would love to suck cock and have his ass fucked by a guy. SO my question is when does a guy go from curious to bi? Is there some rule? Is it about the emotional aspect of it? I am confused and he is not explaining it well to me.
In my opinion a guy would go from curious to bi when he, not just goes from fantasizing about having sex with another guy to actually having sex with another guy. But, if he still has the desire and would do it again.
I fail to see where emotions have anything to do with being bisexual. If you have sex with both men and women, then you are bisexual.
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