Real men shouldn't fear Strapons !!!

[Samuelx]

The big problem is a societal one, I think.

No matter the relationship, or how loving it is (or is portrayed in a movie), if a man wants to be the one penetrated, no matter if it's by a man or a woman, that's considered gay by the great majority of the populace. Let's face it, in our sexually repressed society, *real* men don't want anything remotely shaped like a cock getting anywhere near them, and especially not near their asses.

This whole attitude of "only gay men want cock" isn't relegated only to men. Through so many uber-macho, hysterically homophobic channels, even many of the women in our midst have bought into this myth.

I haven't had a strap-on used on me, but I have a couple dildos (yes, they are *my* dildos) and I've had my wife penetrate me with them (not at the same time). Does she get excited at the thought, or even at the actual act of fucking my ass with them? No. She does it because I ask her to. At least she'll do it if I ask. She doesn't think I'm gay, she knows I'm highly open-minded where sex is concerned, but I think there's at least a small part of her who thinks it's a bit unusual.

Do I have her fuck my ass with a dildo often? No, primarily because she *doesn't* appear to get anything out of it. Do I think I'm gay because I like having my ass fucked with a dildo? Not at all. I love pussy way too much for that.

Now as far as the video thing goes...

I think the primary purpose of femdom videos where the sub is male, *is* male humiliation. Not that I've seen a lot of femdom vids, but of those I *have* seen, there's been little loving shown. And is it me, or do a lot of the dommes seem to be even more evil than their male counterparts?

I know that in a lot of D/s relationships, most in fact, there's far more love than in any video. It seems to me that the video makers feel that if the domme isn't a total, unrelenting, seemingly misandrist bitch, that no one's going to like the video. It gives the unrealistic impression that every man who wishes to submit to a woman wants to be treated like complete shit. There's a fine line between being a top and being abusive, and many of the dommes in the videos walk the line just short of abusive.

This isn't to say there aren't men who crave the abuse, any more than some female subs want to be treated that way, but the overwhelming majority aren't that diamond-hard core.

So, would it help if there was a little more consideration shown in the videos - if the people in question watched them - maybe, if they could get past the gay stigma that's also been mentioned.

This is probably far, far more than any of you wanted to hear, and it's only my meager two cents... of course, by now it's probably at least up to $1.26...

A lot of men have reluctance to admit they like strap-on fetish stuff. It's an image thing. It's even worse in the Black community. The Black man is expected to be dominant by lovers who are black or white, male or female.

 

[PredatorSmile]

I agree 100%. In fact I think anything a couple does together shouldn't be considered gay or bi. If it feels good go with it and enjoy it.

You can tell your buddies your wife/gf gave you a killer blowjob. You can't really say she plowed your ass and it felt great.

I also think there is a large percentage of women that if asked to use a strapon on their bf/wife they'll start to worry and think their guy is gay.

Society's phobias affect men's and women's view of themselves and their sexuality.

 

[meflash]

I bought my wife a lifelike dildoe & i would put it in her as i eat her out, i wish it was a real cock but she would never go for that. i did get her to put it me a few times & it was enjoyable. I have one for me now that iam single, I use it once in awhile having someone put it in you is much better. I did have the real thing in me twice & liked it but mainly like oral but its good when it happpens

 

[Samuelx]

I bought my wife a lifelike dildoe & i would put it in her as i eat her out, i wish it was a real cock but she would never go for that. i did get her to put it me a few times & it was enjoyable. I have one for me now that iam single, I use it once in awhile having someone put it in you is much better. I did have the real thing in me twice & liked it but mainly like oral but its good when it happpens

My wife loves using the strap-on on me, she enjoys the role reversal. I wonder if other black couples play such games.

 

[satinmarabana]

Love the question and the thread. My sub-segment of experience, i.e. having sissy lovers, definitely combines gender-reversal for my partner (wearing lingerie, acting feminine) and stereotypical slut behavior. They enjoy sucking and taking my strapon as part of their fantasy of being a sexy woman. Almost all have also wanted to try real cock while they are dolled-up and it has been pretty intense.

I try to avoid labels but just help them discover and embrace the things that give them the most pleasure. There is some 'power' play with it, but since we're starting with men eager to feminize themselves, this is not an issue.

I've never enjoyed the abusive take on being with a sissy, although some verbal 'humiliation' can ramp up their enjoyment quite a bit.

 

[mannishboy]

It's good to see some discussion for this. For the record, I only had one girlfriend willing to try anything like that , it was a dildo and it didn't go in at all! lol

Oddly enough, my 2 times with transexuals worked relatively ok - but they more than likely had a much better idea than a straight woman as to how to best deal with the task at hand.

 

[nitoc88]

it is one of my biggest fantasies to have a woman with a strap on use me. I find it so erotic. But I would never do it with my wife for fear of what she would think of me. I also would like to suck a real cock with a woman watching or directing.

 

[Samuelx]

it is one of my biggest fantasies to have a woman with a strap on use me. I find it so erotic. But I would never do it with my wife for fear of what she would think of me. I also would like to suck a real cock with a woman watching or directing.

It seems to be a very common male fantasy.

 

[satinmarabana]

I never even imagined it until my first sissy boyfriend introduced me to it. The fact that I've been with four boyfriends now who were sissies and worshipped my strapon is a testament to how easy it has been to find men who crave what I enjoy giving.

 

[Josef_K]

I love it when my girlfriend fucks me with a strap-on, but then again, I also like dicks, so maybe I'm the wrong guy to ask about this.

 

[robbie_boy1]

It seems to be a very common male fantasy.

i've done all the above. i really like my wife fucking me but really really enjoy the real thing a lot more.

 

[Samuelx]

i've done all the above. i really like my wife fucking me but really really enjoy the real thing a lot more.

That's wickedly cool.

 

[PredatorSmile]

That's wickedly cool.

I
can
do
better.

 

[cf23430]

I
can
do
better.

love the last pic.

 

[PredatorSmile]

I never even imagined it until my first sissy boyfriend introduced me to it. The fact that I've been with four boyfriends now who were sissies and worshipped my strapon is a testament to how easy it has been to find men who crave what I enjoy giving.

My hubby and I tried it a year ago. It was a lot of fun.

 

[nitoc88]

I want a woman to do me with a strap on so badly. It seems so hard to find.

 

[Shywong]

I don't know how common it is for men to have a strap-on/peg fetish. I for one certainly don't care for it. It has nothing to do with being intimidated I just don't like synthetic sex. However if she has a real cock [being a shemale] then I'm down for the skin-on-skin contact.

 

[LoneEagle]

You can tell your buddies your wife/gf gave you a killer blowjob. You can't really say she plowed your ass and it felt great.

I also think there is a large percentage of women that if asked to use a strapon on their bf/wife they'll start to worry and think their guy is gay.

Actually, I don't tell my buddies anything about what my wife and I do sexually, but I agree with the intent of the first sentence -- even during those long ago years when I might let a few things about my exploits
"slip," I can't imagine telling how good it felt to have her fuck my ass.

The last statement seems right on the money, too. I've never broached the topic with my wife, for fear that she would totally freak out. Mind you, I'm not even sure I would like it, but I've been wanting to try it for awhile....

Perhaps, as has been said, if there was less of an identification of strap-ons necessarily with gay and bi sex that might encourage more straight men and their partners to try it.

 

[Samuelx]

Actually, I don't tell my buddies anything about what my wife and I do sexually, but I agree with the intent of the first sentence -- even during those long ago years when I might let a few things about my exploits
"slip," I can't imagine telling how good it felt to have her fuck my ass.

The last statement seems right on the money, too. I've never broached the topic with my wife, for fear that she would totally freak out. Mind you, I'm not even sure I would like it, but I've been wanting to try it for awhile....

Perhaps, as has been said, if there was less of an identification of strap-ons necessarily with gay and bi sex that might encourage more straight men and their partners to try it.

Probably better this way. The less potentially intolerant people know about one's private life, the better.

 

[SissyJane]

Don't fear the strapon, you OBEY the strapon.

I love it because a sexy woman is having her way with me in a way that makes me feel EXTREMELY femme, which matches me favorite lingerie outfits.

 

[Curious_Red]

I can't remember how I brought it up with her, but the first time she did it she loved it. I quite enjoy the feeling, though now we just use a glass dildo as opposed to a strapon...and God does it feel good. Especially when it rubs the prostate just right, you can feel the sensation in your cock head. I've never had the real thing, but I'd be up for that too cause I imagine it has to feel even better.

It seems to get brought up in our BDSM/kinky circle of friends and nobody, male or female is bothered by it.

It would never get mentioned to our other circle of friends, just not too open-minded.

I hate labels anyway, so I guess I've never had that stigma. People do what they want to do and that's the way it should be!

 

[PredatorSmile]

I can't remember how I brought it up with her, but the first time she did it she loved it. I quite enjoy the feeling, though now we just use a glass dildo as opposed to a strapon...and God does it feel good. Especially when it rubs the prostate just right, you can feel the sensation in your cock head. I've never had the real thing, but I'd be up for that too cause I imagine it has to feel even better.

It seems to get brought up in our BDSM/kinky circle of friends and nobody, male or female is bothered by it.

It would never get mentioned to our other circle of friends, just not too open-minded.

I hate labels anyway, so I guess I've never had that stigma. People do what they want to do and that's the way it should be!

My husband was the same way....now he's a strap-on addict...who doesn't wanna recover.

 

[robbie_boy1]

My husband was the same way....now he's a strap-on addict...who doesn't wanna recover.

what a great line, I am going to steal that one. it is so true in many certain sexual situations/

 

[unkut_pleasurez]

hi everybody!

I never had the chance to have a strap-on used on me before, but I wouldn't mind at all . It's one of my most recurring sexual fantasy anyway...

for me strap-ons have nothing to do with being bi or gay... it would just be a way to explore new and possibly enjoyable sensations. Other than that I love dominant women ;-)

cheers

 

[Sparrow2z]

I understand the fear, but then i also understand the desires it evokes. For most men, this will never be more then an unspoken fantasy, and even if the offer is given most would retreat...

...like all things i guess there needs to be a large element of trust.

I've nothing more to add that hasnt already been said by individuals who have thought far more about this then i!