Receiving cunnilingus - yay or nay?

[TheLM]

Bored now.

Lol, what does that have to do with this topic?

Is that your way of "allowing" the floodgates of desperate men to PM you and entertain like the sexually-crazed marionettes that we are?

 

[redbombr0]

Lol, what does that have to do with this topic?

Is that your way of "allowing" the floodgates of desperate men to PM you and entertain like the sexually-crazed marionettes that we are?

haha totally spot on!

LucyH, if you want us to cyber sex with you about eating you out, all you have to do is ask, or post a thread....

if not, if you don't like receiving cunnilingus, why is that?

That question is one which we are trying to uncover on this thread.

Well, there's evidence of it in this very thread. lol

Dani is correct, and I want to know if efforts like the Vagina Monologues are actually having an impact - are more and more women comfortable with their bodies, specifical their vulvas/external parta of their vaginas now, as a result of this semi-taboo subject becoming more open to talk about?

Do any women discuss this kinda stuff with their ladyfriends?

 

[LucyH]

Lol, what does that have to do with this topic?

It's why I don't like it.

Bored now.

[Buffy The Vampire Slayer]

Spoken by both Alternate Universe Vampire Willow (Season 3) and Evil Willow (Season 6) immediately before initiating mayhem.

I prefer mayhem, on the whole.

 

[sunandshadow]

It has to do with gender stratification....but I think chalking it up just to different expectations of men and women is too simple, yes there is a lot of cultural stuff but there is also the fact that some women just honestly do not like how their vaginas look (i guess technically it's the vulva), an opinion expressed by some who have posted on this thread.


New Question: How would you like to best combat the "ugly vagina" idea?

There may be a biological component, you know. I've several times heard straight men say they do not like the way their groin smells, which is not something there is much cultural discussion of or prejudice against. I _love_ that smell, but I didn't even know male groins had a unique scent until the first time a guy got naked for me. I like it because those pheromones are like a drug to my brain, and other people don't like it because their brains aren't affected the same way, which is a result of their genetics and biology. There's definitely a biological component in the general tendency of males to be mesmerized by a pair of bouncy rounded shapes; whether that is a pair of breasts or a pair of buttocks or even a type of fruit like a peach or plum which naturally has a cleft, it triggers some hardwired pattern recognition which is activated in the brains of most people who are attracted to women. Even if you had a group of straight men who had never seen women in their lives, if they made art you would see these kinds of shapes show up a lot because they are instinctively appealing.

If you look at the species most closely related to humans, chimpanzees or bonobos, females have a vulva quite similar to human females except for the notable fact that it puffs up and is bright pink when the female is fertile. It is easily predictable that humans carry a similar pattern recognition instinct for this kind of shape (again whether we are actually talking about a vulva, an armpit, or a cowrie shell). And again this kind of instinct is chemically activated in the brains of most people attracted to women, and not chemically activated in the brains of most people not attracted to women.

So I don't think it's that surprising or unnatural that a lot of women don't have the instincts to find the shape of a pussy appealing. Evolutionarily women who find male shapes and scents, etc., appealing have had the most offspring, so they are the ones whose genes have been passed down to modern women.

 

[BongoGal]

It bothers me that the culture of kids is that blowjobs are expected: at parties, on dates, as thank yous, but far far fewer girls and women receive reciprocation. The stereotype is girls serving boys but what about the other way around? I think it stems from blowjobs being seen as just something we do or have to do but cunnilingus is actually sex and intimate.

I think that the skewed ratio is at least partly due to the relative easiness of going down on a guy compared to going down on a gal. With a guy, you can do it in a car or on a couch or in a broom closet or standing behind a tree at a picnic, and all you need to do is lower his pants a bit. Going down on a woman pretty much requires room to spread out, and her pants, undies, and shoes have to come off. (Shoes? Yeah, unless you can take your pants off over them!) You can't just spontaneously decide to eat a chick as she's driving down the highway. Also adding to this is the fact (?) that oral sex that results in orgasm typically takes significantly longer when a female is on the receiving end.

I heartily encourage guys to go down on gals and to learn to be good at it and to be willing to do it more often. That said, while there have been a handful of guys I've been with who didn't want go down on me, but who have eagerly accepted fellatio, I never particularly cared. I wouldn't want someone to do anything he or she didn't feel comfortable doing. I'm less likely to consider those guys to be 'good in bed', of course.

 

[LindsayRae]

Lol, what does that have to do with this topic?

Is that your way of "allowing" the floodgates of desperate men to PM you and entertain like the sexually-crazed marionettes that we are?

Of course it is. lol (And you know they did PM her too!)

 

[vibes]

I heartily encourage guys to go down on gals and to learn to be good at it and to be willing to do it more often.

You mean as some sort of ... educator ... or what? *confused

 

[BongoGal]

You mean as some sort of ... educator ... or what? *confused

As a public service. I encourage guys to learn how to cook, too, but that's a different subject.

 

[vibes]

As a public service. I encourage guys to learn how to cook, too, but that's a different subject.

As a public service? ... you encourage boys (of what age) to indulge in going down to girls?

Let me make it clear that I totally back your ... er ... policy, but has it never given you any problems?

 

[MrsCCfromRC]

Another interesting thread...

I absolutely love it, I love the sensation and the absolute intimacy of it. Mind you, I'm so lucky, JD (hub) is not only amazingly talented at it but he loves to do it and will continue until I beg him to stop or hit him with anything available! The girlfriend he had before me (about 300 yrs ago) found it difficult to reach orgasm and was very help in helping JD find his way to the right spots. If there was a cunnilingus Hall of Fame, his picture would be there.

And yes, I enjoy doing it too, it's wonderful to do.

For those women who lack confidence in how attractive theirs is reminded me of something JD said to me back in the beginning when I was unsure I wanted him done there for the same reason. He looked at me and said, "It's so beautiful... I love looking at you. Remember, most guys don't make a critical decision on it's beauty... they are just so damn glad to be there!".

 

[Ex Princess]

I can live with or without it but every now and then I get intense pussy cravings where I must give it, even without receiving.

 

[KimiAnn]

I can live with or without it but every now and then I get intense pussy cravings where I must give it, even without receiving.

That is exactly how it is for me. Sometimes I got to have it. Mostly, I love to give and give.

 

[BestBi]

That is exactly how it is for me. Sometimes I got to have it. Mostly, I love to give and give.

Maybe both of you can move next door?

 

[TheLM]

Of course it is. lol (And you know they did PM her too!)

No doubt someone did... But somehow I used the last reserves of my willpower and resisted the insatiable urge.

 

[Ex Princess]

Maybe both of you can move next door?

That's probably why the man upstairs keeps women like me away from each other. We would never accomplish anything!

 

[amofiga]

Women's cunts are like snowflakes...no two are alike. I think you could use pussy prints (or pictures?) like finger prints for identification purposes. I don't think the same variation exists with cocks, but then I haven't studied cocks with as much interest and fascination as I have pussies. It is so sad that some women don't think that the part of them that most defines them as female isn't beautiful. My favorite women are those who enjoy displaying their crotches openly with pride, without inhibitioin, and enjoy the fact that most men love being right up close and personal. They should recognize it as the complement we guys (ok some women too) are paying you.

 

[redbombr0]

That's probably why the man upstairs keeps women like me away from each other. We would never accomplish anything!

jajajaja

 

[LucyH]

(And you know they did PM her too!)

Not a single one.

 

[PurringKitten]

I'm a lesbian. I enjoy when a woman wants to go down on me. In my travels I have met women who love it, and some who tolerate it, and some who won't let you go there --- it's all about socialization. Many women are taught from a young age that their pussy is a dirty place and it took me awhile to relax and give in to receiving licks myself. While when it came to giving them I never had a hard time.

 

[infinity706]

I've never met a woman that hated the idea in general (although I've heard there are some out there). Infact, most of them I know expect to get it in exchange for vaginal sex. The only problem I've ever had is whether it's ok to go down on a woman even if she's too tired to reciprocate in some way.

 

[infinity706]

Oh, and as for the cunt lapping in porn thing, it's not that they couldn't find people that know what they're doing. (seriously there's quite a lot of awesome blowjobs) The problem is, giving good head to a woman is next to impossible to capture on camera without sawing her leg off. Pornstars just have to do what they can to simulate cunt lapping while keeping their faces from getting in the way of the shot. It's not like a cock that conveniently sticks out serveral inches from the guy's crotch. Honestly, I think that's the main reason there's very little head for the woman in porn.

 

[Ramrod325]

Love everything about it.

Giving a woman oral is my favorite foreplay. I love the site, the smell, the taste, the feeling of soft pubic hair rubbing against my face. I love eating creampies and receiving golden showers. If a woman enjoys me eating her, it makes it all the better. Just hearing her moan and having her grab your head as you perform feels wonderful.

 

[sapphicus68]

no cunnilingus, what?!!

i am clueless, there is never enough tongue play or kissing for my pearl and minet.

 

[30bandits]

i am clueless, there is never enough tongue play or kissing for my pearl and minet.

this fellow buckeye agrees....