Romanticism and BDSM

[jdmct]

BDSM and Romance

One accelerates the other if done properly.
Always to keep in mind different people find different things romantic.

James

 

[jasonlf]

Always to keep in mind different people find different things romantic.

Well put. I never thought about it from that perspective.

(Aside: I sure have a tendency to create popular threads )

 

[Kajira Callista]

Well put. I never thought about it from that perspective.

(Aside: I sure have a tendency to create popular threads )

*watches jason fall over 'cause he patted himself on the back too hard*

 

[madetobeme]

make me scream, mmm

You dont have to go to the horror genre to find that either. Rhett Butler was not exactly a gentleman's gentleman (and nor was Scarlet). Oh, and dont forget Kate and Petruchio.

No, you don't always have to go into the horror genre to find relationships with wonderful power dynamics, but there is just something about scary *men* that it is so sexy. That wonderful balance of a frightening exterior and a warm, loving interior is simply mind-blowing.

madetobeme

 

[arctic-stranger]

No, you don't always have to go into the horror genre to find relationships with wonderful power dynamics, but there is just something about scary *men* that it is so sexy. That wonderful balance of a frightening exterior and a warm, loving interior is simply mind-blowing.

madetobeme

Scary men i knew or know:
Lou Reed, circa 1974
Jack Nicholson (especially in Terms of Endearment; "Wanna have LUNCH sometime?"
John Malkovich
Ray Liotta (anytime he is the bad guy)
Humphrey Bogart (Even as the good guy, he is scary)
Laurence Olivier in Marathon Man ("is it safe?")
David Byrne (ok, not evil but still kind of scary in that big suit)
Richard Nixon (definitely NOT sexy)
Hunter Thompson
Malcolm McDowell (in a Clockwork Orange)

The French Girl liked Ralph Fiennes as Amon Goeth in Schindlers List. And Darth Vadar.

hmmm

i would probably be better at doing a sexy female list...i dont find any of the aforementioned guys sexy at all. but that is me.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Scary men i knew or know:
Lou Reed, circa 1974
Jack Nicholson (especially in Terms of Endearment; "Wanna have LUNCH sometime?"
John Malkovich
Ray Liotta (anytime he is the bad guy)
Humphrey Bogart (Even as the good guy, he is scary)
Laurence Olivier in Marathon Man ("is it safe?")
David Byrne (ok, not evil but still kind of scary in that big suit)
Richard Nixon (definitely NOT sexy)
Hunter Thompson
Malcolm McDowell (in a Clockwork Orange)

The French Girl liked Ralph Fiennes as Amon Goeth in Schindlers List. And Darth Vadar.

hmmm

i would probably be better at doing a sexy female list...i dont find any of the aforementioned guys sexy at all. but that is me.

LOL, what about Robert de Niro; Al Pacino; Errol Flynn; Russell Crowe; Paul Newman; Sylvester Stallone; Clint Walker; Marlon Brando; Alec Baldwin; Anthony Hopkins; Nicolas Cage....to name but a few men who can deliver.

Catalina

 

[TaintedB]

LOL, what about Robert de Niro; Al Pacino; Errol Flynn; Russell Crowe; Paul Newman; Sylvester Stallone; Clint Walker; Marlon Brando; Alec Baldwin; Anthony Hopkins; Nicolas Cage....to name but a few men who can deliver.

Catalina

Excellent list! You have great taste in male actors. I'd add Clint Eastwood, Yul Brynner, and my everlasting dark-horse hearthrob Alan Rickman but other than that, you covered the big bases.

 

[madetobeme]

sexalicious

A truly excellent list and don't forget Gerard Butler !

 

[catalina_francisco]

Excellent list! You have great taste in male actors. I'd add Clint Eastwood, Yul Brynner, and my everlasting dark-horse hearthrob Alan Rickman but other than that, you covered the big bases.

LOL, I meant to add Yul but got distracted.

Catalina

 

[jdmct]

BDSM and Romance

Anything that brings your two souls closer is romantic.

 

[madetobeme]

I'll take Yul any day

Anything that brings your two souls closer is romantic.

Well I don't think there is anything that I can add to that!

Some part of me would like to make a distinction between pleasure and romance though- pleasure is food for the body whereas romance is food for the soul.

 

[jdmct]

pleasure v. romance

Thought you said there was nothing you could add
Well said.

 

[YinandYang]

Well I don't think there is anything that I can add to that!

Some part of me would like to make a distinction between pleasure and romance though- pleasure is food for the body whereas romance is food for the soul.

Spot on...a person's Aura can be wildly romantic to another...but not to someone else. Chemistry

 

[madetobeme]

powerful stuff

Chemistry...messes with our minds and our lives.

If only they could bottle the stuff...

 

[Marquis]

Chemistry...messes with our minds and our lives.

If only they could bottle the stuff...

Ever smelled Dreamer by Versace?

 

[arctic-stranger]

LOL, what about Robert de Niro; Al Pacino; Errol Flynn; Russell Crowe; Paul Newman; Sylvester Stallone; Clint Walker; Marlon Brando; Alec Baldwin; Anthony Hopkins; Nicolas Cage....to name but a few men who can deliver.

Catalina

De Niro--a lack on my part
Pacino? I dont think so. He can barely get up to creepy on my meter
Errol Flynn; maybe i need to see more older movies, but Errol Flynn feels more like a comic book character to me
Syvester Stallone? Please dont make me laugh. Rememeber we are talking about BAD GUYS, not dumb guys.
Russell Crowe; if only for A Beautiful MInd, but i have a hard time with his accent.
Paul Newman; maybe an ommission, but with the exception of Cool Hand Luke, he is usually the cute guy, not the bad guy. Even his Butch Cassidy was a charmer.
Clint Walker? Only for his work in Cheynne.
Marlon Brando; the last thing i saw him in was Don Juan Di Marco, and that kind of spoiled it for me. But Kurtz...."The horror...the horror.."
Alec Baldwin: i relent on this one too.
Anthony Hopkins--how could i have forgotten Hannibal Lector? And Nixon.
Nicholas Cage...Maaaaybe, but you have to twist my arm.

 

[Netzach]

Paul Newman : you are forgetting Hud.

David Byrne never really scares me except when singing the line "say something once my lips are sealed" in Psycho Killer. The suit was just goofy.

Lou Reed remains scary and gets scarier. But that doesn't mean I want to do him.

Alec Baldwin gets creepier as he ages and gets jowlier and channels Brando (or tries to) more.

 

[catalina_francisco]

De Niro--a lack on my part
Pacino? I dont think so. He can barely get up to creepy on my meter
Errol Flynn; maybe i need to see more older movies, but Errol Flynn feels more like a comic book character to me
Syvester Stallone? Please dont make me laugh. Rememeber we are talking about BAD GUYS, not dumb guys.
Russell Crowe; if only for A Beautiful MInd, but i have a hard time with his accent.
Paul Newman; maybe an ommission, but with the exception of Cool Hand Luke, he is usually the cute guy, not the bad guy. Even his Butch Cassidy was a charmer.
Clint Walker? Only for his work in Cheynne.
Marlon Brando; the last thing i saw him in was Don Juan Di Marco, and that kind of spoiled it for me. But Kurtz...."The horror...the horror.."
Alec Baldwin: i relent on this one too.
Anthony Hopkins--how could i have forgotten Hannibal Lector? And Nixon.
Nicholas Cage...Maaaaybe, but you have to twist my arm.

LOL, you need to get out more ....Sly Stallone has quite a brilliant and cultured mind and knows how to use it....don't let the brawn confuse you like many stereotyped thinkers who believe beautiful or sexy women can't have brains and intelligence. As to Russell's accent....well being an Aussie myself, that only makes him more appealing and understandable, an he also has a great mind and is highly talented and intelligent. Errol Flynn a comic book character?....hmmmm, me thinks not in movies or real life (and another Aussie male ); Paul Newman....dunno, didn't seem very cute in movies like Cat On A Hot Tin Roof, Hud, Fort Apache The Bronx, to name a few. Al Pacino....guess you missed The Godfather movies, Scarface, Tha Devil's Advocate? Clint...well Cheyenne was only the beginning of a long career of strong male roles....Marlon Brando....don't think anyone can dispute his long career and performances in movies such as The Godfather movies and A Streetcar Named Desire - Don Juan was one of his last movies and when he was in his 60's and ill so don't think just one movie can discredit a lifetime. And Nicholas Cage? What can one say but that is one cool dude with the most intriguing and interesting eyes and gaze which can either chill or melt as the mood fits.

Catalina

 

[TaintedB]

LOL, I meant to add Yul but got distracted.

Catalina

God, that Yul! Was he a dom or what?

 

[catalina_francisco]

God, that Yul! Was he a dom or what?

Delicious is what comes to mind.

Catalina

 

[TaintedB]

Delicious is what comes to mind.

Catalina

That too. A genuinely _beautiful_ man.

 

[arctic-stranger]

LOL, you need to get out more ....Sly Stallone has quite a brilliant and cultured mind and knows how to use it....don't let the brawn confuse you like many stereotyped thinkers who believe beautiful or sexy women can't have brains and intelligence.

He may be as brilliant as a 100 watt bulb, but he sure makes some dumb choices in movies...Tango and Cash? Cliffhanger?

As to Russell's accent....well being an Aussie myself, that only makes him more appealing and understandable, an he also has a great mind and is highly talented and intelligent.

He plays a mean guitar, and it was his faux southern accent in A Beautiful Mind that set me off, not his natural aussie one. and if i had to choose between them, i would go with heath ledger over Crowe.

Errol Flynn a comic book character?....hmmmm, me thinks not in movies or real life (and another Aussie male );

Like I said, i have not seen a lot of his work.

Paul Newman....dunno, didn't seem very cute in movies like Cat On A Hot Tin Roof, Hud, Fort Apache The Bronx, to name a few.

Cat and Hud, yes, but Fort Apache? pluleeze.

Al Pacino....guess you missed The Godfather movies, Scarface, Tha Devil's Advocate?

Nope. kind of wish i did miss the devils advocate. The godfather flicks were great, but pacino just annoys me in them. Brando rules there.

Clint...well Cheyenne was only the beginning of a long career of strong male roles....Marlon Brando....don't think anyone can dispute his long career and performances in movies such as The Godfather movies and A Streetcar Named Desire - Don Juan was one of his last movies and when he was in his 60's and ill so don't think just one movie can discredit a lifetime.

I agree, but try as i may, when i see him yelling "Stella!!!" i then see him flipping marshmellows in his mouth. ugh!

And Nicholas Cage? What can one say but that is one cool dude with the most intriguing and interesting eyes and gaze which can either chill or melt as the mood fits.

I can see why people see that in him, but i think he is best in Raising Arizona, that clueless look he has works best when he is clueless.

 

[TaintedB]

Well, come on AC. Don't hold out on us! How about Yul?

 

[madetobeme]

speak to me

He plays a mean guitar, and it was his faux southern accent in A Beautiful Mind that set me off, not his natural aussie one. and if i had to choose between them, i would go with heath ledger over Crowe.

Accents? Yes, please!! Big strong hands and a sexy accent just do so much for me.

BTW I think we've forgotten to add John Travolta to the list-not Pulp or any of his early stuff but in Face Off and..what was that movie with Halle Berry??

 

[arctic-stranger]

Well, come on AC. Don't hold out on us! How about Yul?

Most Bald guys seem to have that dangerous sexy look.

to that add: Patrick Stewart

Joe Pantoliano (cypher in the matrix)

and speaking of the matrix; Lambert Wilson, the Merovingian