Romanticism and BDSM

[Netzach]

Romantic big R - definitely explains the Gothic overlap, the allure of Victoriana to many pervs...

 

[myinnerslut]

i am a hopeless romantic. always have been. even in the pre-BDSM relationships i have had in my young teens. flowers, chocolate, teddy bears, pretty much every cliche you could think of. you were almost gurenteed to get an "awwwww" out of me.

just becuase im a slave doesnt mean my sense of romance has dissapered. i am continually making small romantic gestures for Master, like sending him cards, taking pictures in certain situations he likes such as just awake with my hair still messy, or staying on the lookout for a pretty bookmark that bears his favorite saying.

 

[Guest]

I assumed the entire thing was romantic.

I mean, at the heart of it all is love, at least for me.

Everything he does shows it.

From the restraints (wrists or ankles carefully knotted separately so as not to dig into my wrists), the crop (those little nips here and there, always at my most sensitive places that he knows so well), the toys (my favorites, ruthlessly yet tenderly applied or inserted) the flogger (well, what can I say here? Pushed always to my limits and beyond, just as I long for).

But always there is tenderness in his eyes, even when my hair is tugged back, even when there is rough play, even when he is demanding something from me - my mouth, my ass, my orgasm -

There is always love.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

I LOVE being romantic with my little girl. I've always been romantic and I've always been a Dom. My little girl has no complaints.

I think sometimes people think a BDSM relationship is COMPLETELY different from a vanilla one.

When in my opinion, a BDSM relationship just adds more layers, more depth, and stronger bonds on top off a vanilla relationship base.

 

[kittenartist]

When in my opinion, a BDSM relationship just adds more layers, more depth, and stronger bonds on top off a vanilla relationship base.

Beautifully said -- I am going to have to quote you to others when I try and explain the concept of the depth of my D/s relationship with my wonderful boy.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Beautifully said -- I am going to have to quote you to others when I try and explain the concept of the depth of my D/s relationship with my wonderful boy.

Thanks.

It is something me and my little girl realized when going through the trials and tribulations of our relationship. We've had to put up with a lot of crap cause of my little girl's parents disapproving of our relationship and I truly believe if we were just boyfriend and girlfriend we might not have survived it.

But because we are not only bf/gf but also D/s it makes us that much stronger as a couple. The love and care for her goes way beyond that of just a boyfriend. And the same from her to me.

It's like when I say, "she's Mine" it means SO much more than just sweet talk between boyfriend and girlfriend.

 

[kittenartist]

Thanks.

It is something me and my little girl realized when going through the trials and tribulations of our relationship. We've had to put up with a lot of crap cause of my little girl's parents disapproving of our relationship and I truly believe if we were just boyfriend and girlfriend we might not have survived it.

But because we are not only bf/gf but also D/s it makes us that much stronger as a couple. The love and care for her goes way beyond that of just a boyfriend. And the same from her to me.

It's like when I say, "she's Mine" it means SO much more than just sweet talk between boyfriend and girlfriend.

Welcome

Yep. Me and my boy have also realized this while going through various issues in our relationship. It has been a mix of D/s and bf/gf from the beginning -- sometimes one more than the other as situations demand. Now we are engaged to be married but that extra bond from knowing he is mine already makes our relationship stronger. And we need that strength since circumstances has forced us into a long distance relationship for awhile >.< I think there is an extra sense of confidence, for me, in adding the D/s to the vanilla side of our relationship. I believe we both feel more secure.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Welcome

Yep. Me and my boy have also realized this while going through various issues in our relationship. It has been a mix of D/s and bf/gf from the beginning -- sometimes one more than the other as situations demand. Now we are engaged to be married but that extra bond from knowing he is mine already makes our relationship stronger. And we need that strength since circumstances has forced us into a long distance relationship for awhile >.< I think there is an extra sense of confidence, for me, in adding the D/s to the vanilla side of our relationship. I believe we both feel more secure.

I understand. Me and my little girl are in a long distance relationship as well.

If you haven't already, you should check out the LDR thread. It's definitely helpful and full of other people in LDRs.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=474229&page=193

 

[kittenartist]

I understand. Me and my little girl are in a long distance relationship as well.

If you haven't already, you should check out the LDR thread. It's definitely helpful and full of other people in LDRs.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=474229&page=193

Thanks for the link. I've considered stopping in there but I am still in denial about it being a long distance relationship. Like, if I do not think about it maybe I will forget and he will come home again. Wow, made myself cry there... I'll look into popping in on that thread. Thanks again.

 

[YourCaptor]

I am highly romantic, just not in a traditional sense.

You know, kidnapping instead of serenading, surprise rape in bed instead of surprise breakfast in bed. Thats sort of thing.

 

[BiBunny]

Mine's Romantic. Note the big "R," as in Romantic, the literary movement.

Dark, defiant, and twisted with a good bit of obsession thrown in. My life is what happens if Poe or Hawthorne had written porn.

 

[CurlyKat]

Mine's Romantic. Note the big "R," as in Romantic, the literary movement.

Dark, defiant, and twisted with a good bit of obsession thrown in. My life is what happens if Poe or Hawthorne had written porn.

This may be the single greatest thing I've read all day. Seriously.

And yeah, there absolutely HAS to be a good mixture of romance in everything. Romance me, court me, then dominate me.

 

[unfoundiamond]

then you're not doing it right.

Is the first thing I though.

It is incredibly romantic to be taught if you stop and consider it. I see his time in disciplining and his being sexually sadistic as showing deep interest in perfection in her. By building and molding with both kinds of pain the Dom/me shows investment of time and interest.

To me being devoted to me by force when necesarry and have a strong masterful hand with me IS romantic.

It isn't modern I tell you that

 

[ultramarineblue]

Mine's Romantic. Note the big "R," as in Romantic, the literary movement.

Dark, defiant, and twisted with a good bit of obsession thrown in. My life is what happens if Poe or Hawthorne had written porn.

I second this as being awesomely stated.