RP Partners: Do you prefer to approach or be approached?

[Vail_Indigo]

I'm just a little upset I was never approached for LCR...

 

[Cheska]

I'm just a little upset I was never approached for LCR...

What is LCR?

 

[Vail_Indigo]

What is LCR?

THAT story

 

[Cheska]

THAT story

.......I am almost tempted to put on my cheerleader uniform an wiggle my butt at you.. but! we then must address the age old question...

"How do you XXXX the willing?"

 

[Vail_Indigo]

.......I am almost tempted to put on my cheerleader uniform an wiggle my butt at you.. but! we then must address the age old question...

"How do you XXXX the willing?"

Whoa...WHOA!
NOTHING comes before you putting your cheerleader uniform on for me!

 

[Cheska]

Whoa...WHOA!
NOTHING comes before you putting your cheerleader uniform on for me!

Fine, fine.. traditional or latex?

 

[Vail_Indigo]

Fine, fine.. traditional or latex?

hm
lets start with traditional

 

[Cheska]

hm
lets start with traditional

*floofles pom-poms at you*

 

[Fish_Tales]

I'm just a little upset I was never approached for LCR...

What is LCR?

THAT story

.......I am almost tempted to put on my cheerleader uniform an wiggle my butt at you.. but! we then must address the age old question...

"How do you XXXX the willing?"

You guys.....

I was coming on here to post something serious, but it has totally been wiped from my mind...

*sighs*

 

[chronicle_tenko]

*floofles pom-poms at you*

You guys.....

I was coming on here to post something serious, but it has totally been wiped from my mind...

*sighs*

Me too. How do you floofle?

 

[emipet]

I am very new to RPing on LIT, I look in the seeking RPers thread and if I see something interesting I would PM that person.

I am very selfconcious about my skills to begin with and I am sort of shy, but eager if I am accepted as a RP partner.

A lot of what I'd like to do I don't think I could. For instance, writing from a male's perspective or trying a character who is 180 degrees my opposite. I know that's the chicken way, but I want to work my way up.

 

[chronicle_tenko]

I am very new to RPing on LIT, I look in the seeking RPers thread and if I see something interesting I would PM that person.

I am very selfconcious about my skills to begin with and I am sort of shy, but eager if I am accepted as a RP partner.

A lot of what I'd like to do I don't think I could. For instance, writing from a male's perspective or trying a character who is 180 degrees my opposite. I know that's the chicken way, but I want to work my way up.

Don't feel bad to write what you know. Not everyone challenges themselves with every piece. One of the best writers on lit. Never steps outside his comfort zone. Not once. It is part of what makes him good at it.

I try to write a ton that's OOC for me and it's really hard. I do not always succeed.

But I didn't even bother for the first. I think three years here.

Don't worry at all. It'll come to you. Good luck and enjoy the writing.

 

[The_Spectre]

I generally like being approached, which I'm surprised that it happen as much as it does. I don't recall ever approaching anyone to do a story with anyone, at least not one that wasn't already made. In truth I don't read other people's stuff all that much.

 

[Fish_Tales]

Well, when I first came to Lit, I had to approach more often. It was about a half and half mix, but I only had about 4 stories going on. Once my posts started showing up, I've mostly been approached by others...in fact, way more often than the number of stories I could take on. The list grew to 8 at one time at one point, and that was just too many for me to keep up with. I began to feel burnt out.

Now I'm still trying to find that perfect number. I'm involved in four right now, two on Lit and two by email with the same person. But lately I've been thinking of taking on another. I've had to turn down so many writers who approached me back when I was so busy that now the pendulum has swung the other way, and I'll probably have to approach them if I find an idea that catches my interest.

So I would say that for me, it hasn't been a matter of shyness or an unwillingness to approach others, just a matter of how many stories I carry and whether I can take on more.

I've also noticed that if I play a scene in the lounge somewhere, the offers increase right after, along with those other kinds of PMs.

So, how do you prefer to find your writing partners?

I have a very definite preference, that works for the most part, - better on some sites than on others. I've never approached a male writer, no matter how talented a writer he might be, or how much I'd like to write with him. For me, while I write on erotic sites yes, I won't approach men on them privately via pm. It's not within my comfort levels.

I've always just used my OOc threads,- putting a lot of work into them on my ideas, and then waited hoping the story offered would attract the right male partner that was looking for a female partner who wants nothing only a good story to be a part of.

So, do you prefer to approach a prospective partner and invite them to look at an idea with you or do you prefer to wait and be approached?

It depends. If I know the male writer, but I haven't written with him and would like to, I try to get to know him a bit on the boards. If I get an idea for a story that I think he would fit the part for, I have no qualms about approaching him. What's the worst that can happen? He's going to turn me down? Okay, so like I haven't been turned down for something in the RW before. How's he going to know I'd love a shot at writing with him if I don't tell him I am? As a general rule though, I don't ask or seek. I get an idea and put it in my idea thread. I get so busy I forget about them and most of the time the guys just pop up in PM.

Contemplates approaching Vailness just so she can check out those psychic mind control rays....

Bit of both, although more of one than the other

Ok, time to stop talking in riddles...

On the whole, I tend to post ideas in the 'seeking' thread and see who PMs me. That way I never know who I might write with...yes, this has meant the possibly inevitable death of many a promising thread because my chosen partner found we didn't gel, or just didn't understand one another's wishes in the thread... sigh

It's always flattering to be approached but it doesn't happen very often...very rarely indeed to be honest...not that I expect to be approached either
Several times writers I've written with before will approach me with a new idea which is always nice!

I have asked a few people over the years if they'd like to write something with me, including a few very recently, and that's usually worked out quite well too

So yes, definitely a mixture of both!

looks back up the post

And after that rambling mess I doubt anyone will be approaching me to write with them any time soon!

You guys are ALL awesome - I have either written with you all or am about to. If life didn't keep me so busy then I would write more....

I don't care who approaches who - if I end up with you, then it's all good.

It's an equal opportunity thing.

There are certain people here who know that if they even think about asking I will say yes.

Others know that I want to write with them, we are just waiting for a story line to present itself.

Still others I stalk and pout at them until they give in and write SOMETHING with me.

*shrugs*

It's about 50/50 when it comes to me either asking or being asked...and that is cool.

I like it that way.

You're just bloody good and everyone knows it - but I don't think I fit you (in the nicest sense of the term). Nothing wrong with that. But if I did fit you, I'd come knocking at a 100mph

Most people are smart enough to not approach me because I'm a complete snob and excessively bitchy about it.
So there.
Nyah.

Um - as above. But you're such a smart ass, I think.... anyway - still time is the issue. But I've made it clear you're one of my favourite writers here - a new Garotte is basically crack open a beer time and read slowly (unless it's the morning of course....)

I like to be approached. Of course, when someone comes at me with an idea that's so off the wall and has nothing to do with what I'm interested in, it's a little disappointing. But I love it when someone knows what they want.

It's a little disheartening to send someone your ideas, and then be shot down. Or worse, they have no idea what they want to do, and have no opinion either way. That bothers the hell out of me.

Send 'em my way - if only to have a read or what I'm missing out on due to my lack of time. But I spoke to you a long time ago when I was reading a thread of yours - and you were good. Very good!

For all of you - I JUST WISH I HAD MORE TIME!!!

 

[The_PG]

I prefer 2 different methods:

1. Being approached with an idea as opposed to an already completed thread. Mostly because that puts the burden on the person approaching me to open the thread, sometimes I can't stand opening a thread, also it allows me to brainstorm without worrying about how it all works together until I see what the other writer does.

2. Approaching already posted threads. I tend to approach "newbies" quite often to help them get their posts up, plus they generally don't mind if it's quick and dirty posting. Like a paragraph or two will suffice. Not to mention, when I find that one nugget n00b who is exceptional then I can keep her all to myself. Muaha!

I very rarely will post a story, and then ask someone to join it. Mostly because it seems like you're asking for a favor, and they had no hand in planning it with you.

But i can see just about everyone's point of view on the subject, some good thoughts here.

 

[ShyMystica]

I guess like most here, I prefer to be approached.

I admire many writers here on this site, so it is a little daunting finding some courage to simply write to them and offer some interest. I suppose it is a confidence thing, for me.

But also, from my experience, the male writers here seem to be few and far between. So I feel like a bother to be yet another female writer expressing interest. So I don't. Not for lack of wanting to...just lack of confidence.

So, what do I do? I formulate 'ideas' and post them in the appropriate thread. My ideas are always loose as I hate coming up with a strict story that my partner may not like to write. Creating an SRP or an RP is for the enjoyment for all involved. Team work... But if someone is interested, they will PM. And from that point forward...it's all fun

 

[monique_minx]

I found this and I just have to...

I prefer 2 different methods:

1. Being approached with an idea as opposed to an already completed thread. Mostly because that puts the burden on the person approaching me to open the thread, sometimes I can't stand opening a thread, also it allows me to brainstorm without worrying about how it all works together until I see what the other writer does.

2. Approaching already posted threads. I tend to approach "newbies" quite often to help them get their posts up, plus they generally don't mind if it's quick and dirty posting. Like a paragraph or two will suffice. Not to mention, when I find that one nugget n00b who is exceptional then I can keep her all to myself. Muaha!

I very rarely will post a story, and then ask someone to join it. Mostly because it seems like you're asking for a favor, and they had no hand in planning it with you.

But i can see just about everyone's point of view on the subject, some good thoughts here.

*Cough-bullshit-cough*

As if you wouldn't ask me to write with you...ever!

Also, I don't prefer either way. I'm happy to whittle down a list of my top ten favourite writers and approach each one to possibly compete for the chance to write with me (yeah, I've done that ) When you're awesome, it's not hard.

*Giggles and runs off*

 

[SiaKlynn]

It seems that I'm like many and like to be approached, but I'm willing to approach someone too. I'm pretty outgoing and social in the RW, but online I tend to be a little more reserved and shy. I've always been self conscious about my writing, but I enjoy telling stories and I love creating with others who share my passions.

I tend keep an eye on the "seeking" thread and if an idea is posted that interests me I'll considering contacting that writer. I've had some good luck and some bad luck traveling that path. I've learned to look at their threads to see if we might be compatible even before PMing these days.

Since my RW is pretty busy I don't always have the time to carrying a hefty number of threads and I'm also a slow writer, but when I have an idea bouncing around in my head I've tossed it out there to see if anyone interesting bites.

 

[Se7en_]

Well, as someone who is new here, waiting to be approached seemed like it wasn't getting me anywhere especially since I don't chat around the lounge and stuff. I only write replies to threads or create new threads. So as an unknown quantity, I had to approach people or I would never have written anything. When/if I become a well-known writer here, maybe that would change.......

So if you don't post a lot, how would people notice you??? Well basically, they don't notice you...... So what I do is look around SRP profiles, and the idea threads (If available) for the ones that have interesting profiles. I also read some of their posts in their stories to see if my style matches theirs and to see whether they are one-liners or crazy typers like myself, then I would approach them with interest in one of their ideas or with an idea of my own.

So basically most of my threads were as a result of me sending PM's left and right. In fact I ended up sending way too many PM's and most got a response so I ended up with more threads than I can handle. Damned greed

I guess like most here, I prefer to be approached.

I admire many writers here on this site, so it is a little daunting finding some courage to simply write to them and offer some interest. I suppose it is a confidence thing, for me.

But also, from my experience, the male writers here seem to be few and far between. So I feel like a bother to be yet another female writer expressing interest. So I don't. Not for lack of wanting to...just lack of confidence.

So, what do I do? I formulate 'ideas' and post them in the appropriate thread. My ideas are always loose as I hate coming up with a strict story that my partner may not like to write. Creating an SRP or an RP is for the enjoyment for all involved. Team work... But if someone is interested, they will PM. And from that point forward...it's all fun

Really, female writers outnumber male writers here???

Also, if you admire someone and want to write with them, then the best way to actually write with them is to contact them. After all they are here to write. So unless you know for a fact they can read minds and have sensors that go off when someone is thinking of them, then you're better off popping up in their PM and hoping for the best. Just my two cents, I hope its not rude or improper

 

[ShyMystica]

Well, as someone who is new here, waiting to be approached seemed like it wasn't getting me anywhere especially since I don't chat around the lounge and stuff. I only write replies to threads or create new threads. So as an unknown quantity, I had to approach people or I would never have written anything. When/if I become a well-known writer here, maybe that would change.......

So if you don't post a lot, how would people notice you??? Well basically, they don't notice you...... So what I do is look around SRP profiles, and the idea threads (If available) for the ones that have interesting profiles. I also read some of their posts in their stories to see if my style matches theirs and to see whether they are one-liners or crazy typers like myself, then I would approach them with interest in one of their ideas or with an idea of my own.

So basically most of my threads were as a result of me sending PM's left and right. In fact I ended up sending way too many PM's and most got a response so I ended up with more threads than I can handle. Damned greed



Really, female writers outnumber male writers here???

Also, if you admire someone and want to write with them, then the best way to actually write with them is to contact them. After all they are here to write. So unless you know for a fact they can read minds and have sensors that go off when someone is thinking of them, then you're better off popping up in their PM and hoping for the best. Just my two cents, I hope its not rude or improper

That is what I have found, anyway.

And you are not rude or improper. I have been told the same advice many times. That is where low self-esteem in your own writing and shyness play a huge barrier to take that brave step and write to them.

One day...

 

[PieTaster]

I don't think that I've ever been approached out of the blue. Probably because I don't really have a high profile. Although I'd certainly be flattered if someone messaged me out of the blue for a great role.

I quite often will get an idea and then go look for the right partner myself rather than post OOC (just did it a few minutes ago in fact). Depends how detailed the idea is. If I feel that it requires a strong writer I will go find someone that I feel is worthy and PM her. It's better than getting a bunch of messages from otherwise lovely ladies who just don't really fit the role.

 

[Se7en_]

That is what I have found, anyway.

And you are not rude or improper. I have been told the same advice many times. That is where low self-esteem in your own writing and shyness play a huge barrier to take that brave step and write to them.

One day...

Interesting, back on mIRC servers males outnumbered females by 2 to 1 or more. Most seemed no good though, so it goes back to 'quality over quantity'.

Thanks, I was trying not to sound like a complete jerk, sounds like that worked well

And yeah valid advice surely. Its up to you to take it or not. Now that you say you have low self-esteem in your writing, then I am curious to check. Not that I am an authority or anything, I just put a lot of effort when writing and hope no one notices English isn't my native language.

And 'brave step'? you make it sound like you're attempting the impossible... The worst that could happen is them being not interested or busy, so no harm done, at least you'd have no regrets

Cheers

 

[PieTaster]

And 'brave step'? you make it sound like you're attempting the impossible... The worst that could happen is them being not interested or busy, so no harm done, at least you'd have no regrets

Indeed.

I quite often will get an idea and then go look for the right partner myself rather than post OOC (just did it a few minutes ago in fact).

And I just got politely turned down. no harm done. Perhaps I'll try another.

 

[Se7en_]

Indeed.


And I just got politely turned down. no harm done. Perhaps I'll try another.

oh poor you....... nothing ventured nothing gained. Yell loud enough and someone is bound to come see what the fuss is all about

Edit: Not sure yelling has that much to do with the subject, but I wanted to use that quote somewhere

 

[chronicle_tenko]

Writer ratio

Good ones.

The ratio of good female writers to good male writers is somewhere closer to even.

But the ratio of decent female writers to good male writers is closer to four to one.

Most of us men aren't great with a keyboard it seems. And the ones who like text are much fewer and farther between. Especially when we can put less work in and watch Porn. Compared to writing stories about it.



Back to the original.

I actually suppose that I ask a lot more people about things that aren't threads and threads come out of that. Or I offer a point of interest and threads come out of that. But looking at it. I respond to people a lot more so I guess I approach more often.